Oompala

She/Her - Fun facts about me: -trust that I am in whatever time zone would make the time I am posting Reasonable -I can be trusted to leave the care of health professionals when missing a pint of blood -I tag things super consistently all the time especially when I don’t -I cannot and will not be held responsible for the Transgender Pigeon Friend Writing Dilemma of 2025

[prokopetz]

Look, I get what you're saying, but sometimes you've gotta reach for the low-hanging fruit. Let's get you a proper meal, refill your meds, and unfuck your living space as best we're able; if after that you still want cute girls to kill you with axes, you'll be in a much better physical and mental place to pursue that goal.

[pwhl-mybeloved]

it’s pride in my city today, here’s a sign done by no name that we got a few years ago and lives in our house

[kushblazer666]

[oompala]

BANNING EMOTIONS FOR ONE HOURS ‼️‼️‼️ EVERYBODY MHST STOP FEELING ‼️‼️‼️ sorry I don’t make the rules

[tpwrtrmnky]

Me rather consistently around the first week of every month: Wow. Everything is absolutely ass. I do not enjoy anything. There is something Wrong with me.

Me around the 10th-12th of every month: Huh, wonder what that was all about

A friendly informative post from the transfem circles of the internet: Trans women can end up with a hormonal cycle that induces many of the symptoms typically associated with periods. Because that's part of what the hormones do.

Me: Sure but that doesn't apply to me.

[oompala]

Sorry im out of jokes it would appear. Got hungry. Ate them all :/ my bad. I’ll be sure to pick some up again sometime next week

[oompala]

hey so I was thinking I'm going to be sick from the feeling of it all later btw. Would you like to join

[oompala]

hey so I was thinking I'm going to be sick from the feeling of it all later btw. Would you like to join

[oompala]

hey so I was thinking I'm going to be sick from the feeling of it all later btw. Would you like to join

[memorycycle]

i hope a ceiling fan falls on the empty spot in the bed next to you and it starts understanding your needs

[rosetower]

this post always makes me so emo... here's me next to my ceiling fan that i turned off for the first time in months to draw

[memorycycle]

stop reblogging this post without the art this is the only version that exists now

[newyorksirens]

seeing 1500 comments on the insta post announcing Britta Curl to Detroit and it's so much "oh I guess I won't be going to games" "oh I guess I'm cancelling my season ticket deposit" oh okay and then donating that money to a nonprofit/mutual aid fund that supports trans people, right? and advocating for the league to create a gender inclusion policy, right?

the way pwhl fans have made Britta Curl the scapegoat for the league will never not piss me off, not because I agree with her beliefs, but because by scapegoating one player and directing all your attention to loudly hating her you don't actually do anything real.

Also, aside from the fact that Britta Curl is not the only player with her beliefs in the league, I actually don't think yelling at the league to fire her is productive! I actually don't think a business should be allowed to discriminate against employees based on their political beliefs! I think that's a dangerous precedent to set, personally!

Like you don't have to spend your money in support of a franchise with players who are loud about politics you don't agree with. But saying they don't deserve to pay their bills and feed themselves is not exactly the most progressive take either.

I am once again coming #onhere to remind people that if you don't love trans people more than you hate transphobes your outrage is performative at best and I'm tired of seeing it constantly in pwhl fan spaces

[etheltempest]

my hate for the minnesota frost has officially been reduced by 40% 🗣️🗣️🗣️

[druidshollow]

HAVE THAT CHARACTER GAIN WEIGHT AS A SIGN OF HEALING: NOW

[etheltempest]

the lioness does not concern herself with how the “pwhl expansion process” works

[homunculus-argument]

If you're trying to tell someone that something they did inadvertedly hurt your feelings, and they treat this conversation like a debate where their goal is to successfully argue that they did nothing wrong, and that you have no right to feel upset, that's your cue that you should give up trying to have any kind of a real, genuine relationship with them. Everyone will sometimes end up doing something that you hadn't realised would upset someone you care about, you can't be constantly aware of every single thing at all times. But turning the following conversation into an argument of uncompromisingly justifying and defending their actions is a sign you shouldn't ignore.

They don't think that upsetting you is the problem. What they have a problem with is you thinking you deserve better than how they want to treat you.

[theonewhopoops]

While I ultimately agree so I'm reblogging, just adding an additional perspective of my own:

It might not be so malicious a motivation. Instead of having a problem with "you thinking you deserve better than how they want to treat you," it could be zero percent about you and 100% about them in their mind (even ifthey can'tconsciously express this). It could be that the problem they have with this situation is the idea that they're doing harm, ESPECIALLY the idea that they're doing harm when they think they aren't.

I've met plenty of people that fall into this alternative category, where they ONLY see how hard they're trying, how stressed they are, how "good" of a person they're striving to be (from their worldview), and then they're told that - no - in fact they are hurting someone. Which can sound like "you are wrong, you are bad, you do bad things, and this has always been true and will always be true" so they get defensive and reactive.

All that is to say, the end result is the same: they may debate and defend instead of purposefully listen to your needs. YOU don't have to be the one to try to walk them through "how to calmly listen to someone without becoming defensive" or "how to reasonably accept criticism and talk through interpersonal issues" either way.

[homunculus-argument]

It might seem callous, but I don't think it matters why someone is defensive about being allowed to do everything exactly their own way and will not consider doing anything different as an option. If someone starts telling you that doing things the way that upsets you is the only option they have, it's really irrelevant to you, personally, whether they do it because they have a traumatic childhood and too much on their plate and were never raised right, or whether they're just choosing to be a jerk.

If someone keeps shitting on your car windshield year round, and you're sick of scraping frozen shit off your windshield every single morning through the whole winter, it doesn't really matter how good of a reason they have to keep doing that. If you can't make them stop shitting on cars, the only thing you can do is make it clear they're gonna have to find someone else's car. If they don't want to do better, you can't change their behaviour. And if they truly cannot do better, you can't change their behaviour.

[filmphotofranz]

[filmphotofranz]

[lakemojave]

People are unfazed if you hate women but if you dislike dogs they assume you're a bad person

[lakemojave]

Tumblr users will read a post complaining about normalized misogyny and hyperfocus on your claim that it's ok to dislike dogs