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gentle reminder that if u feel hungry soon after eating, it might be bc you’re eating mostly carbs without adding enough protein. try eating a handful of nuts or smthing alongside your next meal.
and you don’t have to change the recipe or anything! you can eat what you were going to, just add some cheese cubes or a handful of nuts or salami slices on the side. u don’t have to change your meals, just add a little extra protein
thats nice but what do I need to do If I wake up around 3 am every other night with an unquenchable hunger for flesh even tho I ate normal balanced meals trough the day?
spoonful of peanut butter
another way to manage the undying hunger for flesh is to eat 15-20 live crickets. their souls are weaker than most other animals that size but they are easy to get a hold of and have the best flavor
this checks out!
a few people have commented that sometimes heartburn gets mistaken for hunger. I’d never heard that before. If you regularly feel hungry after eating certain types of foods (and adding protein/fat doesn’t help) maybe try chewing an antacid. the digestive tract is dark sorcery basically. an ancient worm coiled in your body whose impish mischief u must appease
was in a shop that sells fiction books for £1 and I had my money counted out already when I went to the checkout and she charged me double what i was expecting so I was like "oh I thought fiction was £1!" not even trying to haggle just as a conversational comment while i got the rest of my money out and she looked at my doctor who how to be a timelord book and went "this is not fiction it's a guide." in the angriest tone ever like I thought she was about to shoot me I'm so sorry I didn't realise I could actually become a timelord from this book 💔
Is it socially acceptable to use opaque watercolors, or is that considered gouache?
ok then why didnt you
In honor of this post getting way too many notes i made this
Shes dedicated to all the people who missed the point
some people really aren't getting it so i need to clear something up, let me hold your hand through this
^^^THE SAME COMIC. THESE ARE ALL THE SAME.
Kinbloom
A friendship-first identity in which attraction, intimacy, romance, and/or sexuality bloom from a deep friendship without replacing that friendship.
People who identify as Kinbloom may:
Only develop attraction after becoming close friends.
Want friendship to remain the foundation of the relationship.
Experience romance and/or sexuality alongside friendship rather than replacing of it.
Value independence, personal space, and autonomy while still desiring deep intimacy.
Prefer relationships defined by mutual understanding rather than traditional expectations.
Kinbloom is not necessarily a romantic, sexual, or queerplatonic identity by itself. It can overlap with identities such as demiromantic, demisexual, aroace, queerplatonic, alterous, or relationship anarchist experiences.
Coined by ME!! @urhostethan
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genuinely I cannot fathom trying to use Tumblr like any other social media. I just thought to myself “why does Tumblr even have a ‘Best Posts First’ feature? why would I want to see good posts?” and then I had to stop and consider that for a second
So many people hate their own body so much and are so casually fatphobia toward themself and the thing is, when you're not, when you've healed yourself enough that you can look at yourself and say "my body is just a body that does body things" it becomes nearly impossible to be around people who openly hate their bodies. It feels like they're flinging their muck all over you, and you gotta shake yourself out so it doesn't stick. And misery really does love company. They'll talk about how fat they are and how they can't eat this or that or wear certain clothes or cut their hair short, and they want you to lament with them. And you gotta not, okay? You gotta not. You gotta walk away from that shit.
And you HAVE to pay attention to the things you say about your own body in front of other people, lest you become the person flinging your muck onto others.
sometimes i’m like booooo i hate the dsmp then i remember stuff like. ctommy waking up at sea every day in exile. clara the astronaut. cniki and cwilbur still having the diamonds they gave each other at the beginning of their friendship, even after everything. cjack mourning ctommys death even when he felt such resentment for him in life. a lily of the valley. some pink tulips. an allium. cslime addressing ctommy as tommyinnit from… a bunch of places. tommyinnit from nowhere in particular. cjack moving away, and wishing the whole time cniki would appear out of the blue to bring him back home. ctubbo and the deadman switch. ./hug. the snow that fell when cquackity and cslime first met, and the snow that fell when cslime asked cquackity if revenge was ever worth it when the world is so full of violence that doesn’t end. how ceret has never stopped trying to atone for betraying his friends. henry dying when ctommy and cranboo were trying to be so gentle with him. michael. ctommys house constantly changing but always being repaired, and always remaining. the bench always remaining. finding sam nook on the roof of the hotel. cwilbur crying because cranboo was kind to him. ctommy listening to music in the rain after cwilbur and cquackity fought over him. paradise. logstedshire. how ctubbo followed ctommy around silently when he was revived. ctommy singing to the crops to help them grow. how cniki started baking again. ctubbo playing the ukulele as he sat by the crater of lmanberg, and crying when cwilbur tried to apologise to him. how in exile ctommy just wanted to see the big christmas tree in the main land. cgeorge’s dreams where everything is okay, until it isnt. ctommy taking the blame for cranboo. cranboo writing to ctommy in exile. ctechno giving himself up to save his horse. cwilbur lying to cphil in his letters. ctommys birthday party. solitaire. 13 years in a train station. two compasses. history repeating itself. how lonely it is to move on. and how quiet it is. and i’m like nvm yeah i get it now
cw wounds i guess
whenever i look into a historical monarch who doesn’t get talked about much and is just kind of a blank spot in my understanding of the historical narrative, 95% of the time what i find is pure white hot blistering capability. a pencil pusher for the ages. a 39 year reign with no more than three hours of sleep a night. there aren’t any good stories from his reign because he systematically caught and stopped all catastrophic good stories before they could start. you shrimply must respect it
The best governments tend to be the ones under which everyone kinda forgets they're there because things just work right.
The problem is that when everyone forgets the government is there, bastardry occurs, and then we all become Very Aware of the government.
My wife pointed out to me the other day that apparently most people were literally only taught how to say Sorry and not how to Apologize or even that they are different things so here.
If all you ever do is step 1, not only did you not apologize, but people will rightfully stop believing you and start getting pissed or hurt.
Whenever I think about the value of something being done by a person who really understands the job from a lifetime of experience, I think of my first restaurant job. My goal was to work every position, and I started with a year and a half in the dish pit at 16yo.
When i started as a dishwasher, i was trained by an old career dish pit man named Claudio. He'd spent his whole life washing dishes. It allowed him to move to just about any city in the world that he wanted to and get a job without having to deal with complex hiring processes or strict resumé requirements. Which was the main thing he wanted out of a career. I still think about him.
He'd seen a lot of people come through that station who either didn't consider it a real job or thought it was beneath them, on their way to "better" or "more important" things. And, in retrospect, those first two days he was sort of doing the minimum with me that he could do and still respect himself when he told the manager he'd trained me.
But, maybe it was because i was really interested in learning all the positions there were in a restaurant because i knew they were ALL important, or because i was a hard worker, or maybe it was because i tried to have real conversations with him in my broken spanish and did my best to not make him speak any english unless he wanted to, but after a couple days there was a big shift in the way he and i worked together, and he started to really teach me.
That place ran the dish pit with one dishwasher, so when he was done training me I was going to be doing the job on my own.
The thing that stuck with me the most, for the rest of my restaurant career, was this... and it wasn't just the actual things he was saying, but a completely new way of looking at what i was doing within the context of how the restaurant ran. I came in for my 3rd day and he said
"When you work alone, you want to go home by midnight?"
we clocked on at 3:30 and took a half hour lunch break and usually skipped our tens, so, yeah i absolutely did want to get off work by midnight
Then, even tho i already knew where most of everything was by that time, he took me around and showed me all the dishes, cups, pots and pans, spatulas, silverware, had me look at all of it. Then he told me to remember that almost every one of the dishes I was looking at would be used more than once by the end of our shift- we were clocking on to wash the entire building full of dishes multiple times.
Then he led me back over to the industrial dishwasher most restaurants have, which looks like this:
and then this 60 year old career dishwasher from Mexico City said the thing that changed how I looked at restaurant jobs forever
"This machine takes two full minutes to run a cycle. We are on the clock for 8 hours. That means we have a maximum of 240 times we can run this machine. If you want to wash all those dishes, clean your station, mop, and clock off by midnight? This machine has to be on and running every second of the shift.
If you don't have a full load of dishes collected, scraped, rinsed, stacked, and ready to go into the dishwasher the second it's done every single time? You can't do it. If, over the course of 8 hours, you let this machine lay idle for just one minute in between finishing each load and being turned on again? Instead of 240 loads, you'll do 160 loads.
[like, literally, he had done this math, he had these exact figures]
160 loads instead of 240 loads means you are doing 20 loads in an hour instead of 30 loads. That means the dishes are going to pile up. The cooks will run out of pots and pans and will have to stop and wait for you, the servers will run out of plates and cups and have to stop and wait for you, and your night is going to SUCK. Every part of how this restaurant works can grind to a halt because of that idle minute between dish loads, and if it does you'll have an entire building of people in a hurry and all waiting on you.
And it means you're going to be here until 2 am doing the 200+ loads of dishes this restaurant goes through every night.
For this to work, you MUST have this dishwasher on and running every minute of the shift. As soon as you turn it on you have two minutes to have the next load ready. See these large items i put to the side down here? One or two of them takes up all the space in the machine. I keep them here so that if the machine finishes and shuts off before i'm ready for it i can stick one of these in there and turn it on again immediately. You have to think like that to do this job without stress."
The way he was looking at how the whole restaurant ran, the way he was looking at how he'd spend each minute of the entire shift, the way he broke down what the physical limits were and how to max them out so he could do his job and go home on time without stressing out... The way this 60 year old guy, who had never had professional ambitions beyond being a dishwasher, was still such a competent and brilliant expert in his field.
It was all such an important lesson, and one that stayed with me through every position i went on to work in restaurants, dish pit, busser, server, cook, all the way up through manager before I finally got out of my restaurant career
Claudio never wanted to be anything but a dishwasher who didn't stay any later than he had to.
But he knew how that restaurant ran better than most of the other people in it. I never had a chance to truly thank him for the specific lesson he taught me, because while it had an immediate impact, I didn't really understand how valuable a lesson it was until much later.
But I've thought about Claudio and what i learned from him many MANY times in my life.
All of this. Disaster befalls any company that holds no regard for the expertise of the lowest level staff.
In my younger years I worked at a medical office that managed both mental health and addiction recovery. The company had purchased an empty lot down the road from the building we rented to build a better facility with larger capacity. The CEO worked for months with the architect, and just as they were finalizing everything they happened to let me - who was the receptionist at that time - take a gander at the blueprints. It took all of three seconds for two major issues to jump out at me.
“The receptionist can’t see the waiting room from her desk with this layout.” I said. “It’s around the corner and blocked by a wall.”
“Is that important?” They asked.
“Do you want me to be able to keep track of the patients who are waiting?” I asked.
“Isn’t that what the sign-in sheet is for?” They asked me.
“Not everyone who comes here is signing in for an appointment, some are coming to check in, some people are here for the group therapy and need to be directed to the other side of the building, some people are painfully shy and if I don’t appear warm and inviting they won’t approach.” I explain.
“How often does that even happen?” They asked.
“Every day.” I explain.
“Bullshit.” They said.
“I’m not joking at all. Also, where is the chart room?” I asked.
“Oh, over here.” They said, pointing to a tiny closet on the far side of the building from the receptionist and check out desks. It was tucked neatly beside the CEO’s office. To get there the secretaries would have to go through two sets of security doors and it would be a five minute walk each way.
“Why isn’t it next to the front office, since that’s where the people who use it are?” I asked.
“We had concerns about people just going into the chart room to goof off and not do their work. It takes them away from their desks too much. You should only go in the chart room twice a day - once in the morning to pull the charts for the day, and once in the evening to put way the charts. It would remain locked and the CEO would have the key and let you in to supervise.” They said.
“We pull charts the day before so everything is ready to go and we can alert staff if a patient with additional needs is coming in. We have to go in the chart room every time a patient calls in that’s having a problem with their meds or is in crisis or otherwise has a question for the nurse. We have to go in there every time someone cancels and we are able to fit a waitlisted patient in. We go in there 20 - 30 times a day for legitimate reasons. The only reason any of us has ever gone in there to take a minute was when we got news that a patient had died and we were crying. And even then, we filed charts as we sobbed because no one in this office has free time.”
They stared at me.
“Sit with me for an hour and see what happens up here.” I said.
They took the blueprints away from me before I could keep looking at them, but they took me up on sitting with me. They didn’t last an hour. They changed the blueprints to fix both things I’d pointed out.
Unfortunately, they didn’t let me keep looking at it and they never asked the janitor what he thought, so no one caught the final fatal flaw in the design.
There were no closets in the entire building. Nowhere to put our supplies. And I’m not talking just a place for stationary and pens. I mean no janitorial closet. Nowhere to put paper towels and toilet paper or cleaning products. Nowhere to put holiday decorations or anything at all. They completely forgot about storage of any kind and immediately started eyeballing my hard-won chart room for it.
They wound up putting all the supplies in the cabinets under the sinks in the public bathrooms. And, surprising to no one, all of it got stolen after our first week in the new building. All our spare keyboards and monitors and phones and even our paper towels just walked out of the building. Because the CEO who had never worked a lower level job in his life wasn’t convinced closets were worth it.
I think a fundamental issue that much of this highlights is that businesses tend to be run by career managers. People who haven't worked in the lower levels for years, if ever at all. Who either get promoted internally or move to a higher paying job somewhere else (where they definitely haven't done the basic work).
Which shapes a bunch of corporate ideas about how jobs are supposed to work. The career manager is focused on promotion, of going up the ladder. That's their whole deal really. And they tend to think of that drive, that want, as a fundamental aspect of "what makes a good worker", because look at how successful they and all their little manager friends have been! They only want to hire people who have that same aspiration because, to them, that's the mark of Someone Worth Hiring.
Which is kinda fucking stupid. Because of how numbers work. I.e. there will always be way more employees than managers. You can't have everyone wanting to be promoted, because where the fuck are they going to go? It's the Infinite Growth fallacy in microcosm.
You don't want everyone to want to be promoted! To move up that ladder! You need a solid base of people who are perfectly fine washing pots or pouring drinks or whatever and being fucking excellent at it forever!
You need to be hiring people with no aspirations greater than "I want to do this job", because that's how you get experienced, talented staff who don't fuck off after a year meaning you need to hire and train someone new.
Because these people are worth 10 go-getters who aspire to managerhood. Because they're the ones who keep your business running.
people with tits not being able to show them as opposed to men
pisses me off
boobs have always been a part of my artworks for years, ive never drawn nsfw. sometimes i draw characters who are supposed to have flat chests with boobs cuz it helps me draw anatomy and perspective, then erase them
This is purity culture.
Whats the difference between true youthlib and rebranded child predation?
true youth liberation acknowledges that the treatment of children in our current society is oppressive and discriminatory, and believes that you can and should treat children with the same amount of respect and dignity that you give adults, and that as children people should have access to their rights and have autonomy in a way that isn't just the huge raffle of "Will I have Good parents or Bad parents?"
true youth liberation understands that you don't have to be "mature" or "fully developed" (you are always developing) to require respect and autonomy. true liberation acknowledges that children are still children who are still learning about the world, hold ignorance, and cannot make informed consent decisions (this is especially true of younger, prepubescent children). they can't choose to be a part of a family channel, they can't choose whether they need education (this is referring to skills that would lead to them having informed consent in the future, such as reading, basic maths, and the development of critical thinking skills. this doesn't refer to the education system), and most importantly, they can't choose to have sex with an adult. true youth liberationists are very against the idea of biological children "consenting" to sex with adults, because they cannot. anything close to that is sexual assault, and any child "consenting" to sex with an adult was likely groomed and coerced to say that. The same goes for large age gaps between children because of their physical and mental development over time, such as between a nine year old and a 15 year old. true youth liberation believes in sex education for children as young as they can begin to comprehend it, consisting of knowing genitalia, how to keep it clean, who should be touching it and why (no one without your consent, and the only people who should be touching are doctors and your guardians for medical purposes only, with you able to revoke it), etc. There's nothing wrong with children knowing about the basics of sex as an action/activity at that age in my opinion, they just don't need to developmentally until they are pubescent
child predation under the guise of youth liberation uses the fact that children are people to say that children are as mature as adults and can consent to sex. they believe that saying a child can't is adultist and underrating their mental capacity, when we have studies to show that children are not mentally developed for large age gap relationships at that age. child predation takes advantage of the fact that children are naturally curious about their bodies, including in a sexual nature, and uses that to justify adults using their bodies for sexual purposes. it is the same form of manipulation you see non-youthlib predators using for children, the "you're so mature" "you can handle it" "this is just what people do when they love each other" and the fact that as a grooming tactic, they will make the child feel autonomous and respected in ways that our adultist society will not allow for.
basically: children may be people and sex may be natural for people, but that doesn't mean that all people are ready to have sex the moment they can say "yes." a lot more goes into that.
Let me go into this a bit more.
Because a thing about the narrative surrounding child and youth molestation that really fucking irks me is that in this discussion two assumptions are being made from the beginning:
Up till a specific age people absolutely are incapable of a very vaguely defined idea of "consent" (not just sex), usually building on the assumption that until that age people are incapable of understanding consequences.
Sex is something inherently harmful and negative.
I will say here again: yes, currently it is indeed not possible for children and youngsters to consent to anything with an adult. And that is because someone who legally is being treated as a non-person can never consent, because due to their non-personhood their consent is meaningless. Specifically because people who are legally treated as non-people lack the ability to meaningfully deny someone who is legally treated as a person. This holds true for other scenarios as well where a group has no legal rights.
Researchers who do research on this topic - be it from the perspective of anthropology, pediatric psychology, pediatric sexology, or sociology - do all agree that a lot children technically have an interest in sex, with this interest usually starting somewhere between the ages of 7 and 11, so before puberty. Even before there are interests in the body, though usually that is more curiosity driven rather than sexual. But it is fairly normal, for example, for primary school children to masturbate (or at least try to do that). And depending on opportunity and cultural context some might engage in sexual behavior with one another.
And I think technically speaking I do not need to talk about what happens once puberty starts.
If you go through anthropology and history, obviously the current way we deal with sex, and especially sex among younger people, is almost entirely rooted in Victorian ideals. It was usually a Victorian ideal that the rich, white child was an example of purity, with sex in Victorian times obviously being seen as impure (and this is a thought that has been around ever since). There is some studies out there suggesting - though given it is an understudied topic and the replicability crisis is real I do not want to emphasize them too much - that in fact this construct: of children as pure and therefore non-sexual is a big driver of more recent issues in regards to pedophilia. With some evidence suggesting that a lot of pedophiles (as in people who are actually attracted to children) being more rooted in severe OCD, that is specifically brought on by the fact that sexuality of young people being such a taboo.
Though it should again be noted: at least half, if not way more of all cases of child molestation are crimes of opportunity, committed by people who target children because of their legal status as non-people, allowing the molester, who very likely is a person of authority in the social life of the child, to assert more power over a child victim than they could over an adult victim.
And that is the core of the issue here. Anon asking about this implies that treating children like people would create a scenario where adults would without legal consequences sexually molest children. Even though sexual abuse would very much still be illegal - like it is for adults as well.
What youth liberation would create though would be a scenario where a child is no longer constantly in situation under the control and authority of their abusers (including sexual abusers, because again: more than 90% of sexual abuse cases involving minors have the perpetrating adult be a person of authority), and also allow children more easily to access legal protection. Because I need to note this again: due to legally not being people, a child cannot go to the police or even fucking youth protection services and say "I want to get [adult] charged, because they raped me". In most countries this can only be done by an adult. So if the most likely sexual abuser of a child (a parent) is committing the sexual abuse, the current system is in fact set up to make it highly unlikely for the child to escape this sexual abuse, unless there is another adult around who protects them. And even in those cases where another adult is around, there is a bunch of cases where it still ends with that other adult being charged for defamation.
Everyone who is against youth liberation, is actually saying that abuse of minors (including sexual abuse) is totally cool and should be supported actually. Because a world without youth liberation makes this sexual abuse more likely to happen - while also preventing minors to have any sort of healthy sexual interactions even among peers.
