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lostinthelegs

Happy pride everyone! 2 cocks, 1 corn!!!

official-corn-posts

Official Corn Post

seabeck

Sitka

sluttyquarantinetheory

The concept that married people live longer is interesting. I'm sure there is some merit to the idea that if you're married there is someone there to nag you about going to the doctor, but I think much larger factors are having the finances of dual incomes and access to an immediate support person.

Surgeries require having a designated person to look after you. Many injuries require driving to somewhere like an emergency room which can be hard to do if you are the one injured. If you're home with the flu, it's hard to tell when it's bad enough to go to the hospital without another person checking on you. And if you pass out it requires another person to find you like that to get medical aid.

You can prop it up as the benefits of marriage, but I think there's a much deeper discussion to be had about how we've built society around marriage as an inevitable conclusion and neglected to build support systems that function outside of romantic pairings.

peach-pot

being anti-amatonormativity in a romance centered world is like watching half the people you know put all their eggs in one basket and then drop the basket and all their eggs break and they’re crying and swearing they’re never gonna do that again and then a month later they have all new eggs in a new basket and they tell you the problem was they didn’t have a strong enough basket or fresh enough eggs and then they drop the fucking basket again.

peach-pot

(this post is about putting all your time, energy, and care into one relationship, about staking all your happiness on a romantic relationship, effectively making the entirety of your joy and stability dependent on one person who could exit your life for any number of reasons no matter how great the relationship seems. it’s about the societal expectation to build your entire social life around one long term relationship, putting all your eggs in that basket, so to speak, instead of tending to larger social network and maintaining a variety of strong connections so that even if one very important relationship comes to an end, you won’t be losing your whole social life in one fell swoop.)

#the more I think about the ways in which this is enforced the more despair I feel tbh.#what legal protections do you have if you want to buy a house with someone. banks don't even want to approve that kind of mortgage.#what if you want to raise a child it-takes-a-village style? can you even pick them up from daycare or take them to the doctor?#what happens if I get sick. what happens when I get old. who will be my POA if I need one.#like you can try to spread out the eggs but society is just structurally not built for it and the older I get i just.#think more and more about amatonormativity in a legal and structural context and it does feel hopeless.#what do you mean auto insurance is cheaper if you're married.

if my opinions are dogshit I'm always open to changing them but I've been stewing on some thoughts lately,

#will post in the am

devogamer

internet creature! for now bony is the name

yellowladybug

Man Of The Year

Lorde

so hyped for this album, and the song is so good omg

#music #lorde

dollcoil

can you do this thing for me pleeeaassse i cant do it (sees you doing it slower and less effectively than me) i can do it actually could you maybe move out of the way