[postdysphoric]

[cgl-is-unsafe]

Imagine yourself.

You are 14. You want to try dating. You wouldn’t want to date an 11 year old though, right? No, no way. You want someone your age!

At 15, an 11 year old is out of the question! That’s just silly. Even 12 is too little– you might even have a younger sibling that age. Gross!

At 16, would you date someone who is 13? (a middle schooler). You wouldn’t, right? As a high schooler, 13 is just a baby.

This phenomenon is NOT lost on adults. Take it from someone who IS one.  As an adult, anyone who is a teenager is a child to us. This is not meant to be condescending; adults see teenagers as people who have growing to do. People who are so much younger, immature even. Small like a younger sibling who needs protecting. If you are underage, and an adult tells you that they see you as an adult and are attracted to you because of it, THIS IS A LIE. They see you as a child. If an adult tells you that they see you, who is underage, as an adult, stay away. That person is attracted to children. That person is a pedophile.

[hustlerose]

i did not engage in platonic datemate activities with that woman

[hustlerose]

political compass

[exxiidae]

ultra cursed energy

[myfootyrthroat]

Hmm, the queer alignments one seems to be indistinguishable from regular ol’ homophobia. Weird.

[hustlerose]

political compass

[exxiidae]

ultra cursed energy

[peachdiscourse]

the queer alignments thing is so gross

[anacephobiaproject]

[Handwritten in yellow and purple: “cranky cuz ur cishet arent u”]

This is an example of hate.

[smashbike]

this is the funniest thing i have ever read

[peachdiscourse]

oh this is what the aces meant by “oppression” lmao

[anacephobiaproject]

[Handwritten in orange and purple: “op im outside your house.”]

This is an example of hate. 

[thatgalpal]

this is an example of a joke you absolute walnut

[peachdiscourse]

lmaoo

[just-shower-thoughts]

Many of us are willing to go several pages into a porn website, but are not willing to go past the first page of Google.

[sarcastic-shower-responses]

As an asexual who dives deep into their searches, I can’t relate.

[kompanie-mutter-deactivated2021]

tumblr is cool because a post can start out awful and yet someone’s always there to make it worse even when you wouldn’t think that was possible

[epic-and-kitty]

So, today is National Coming Out Day...

And when I tried to come out during Pride, I got alot of exclusionists essentially telling me I don’t exist, I’m not valid and a bunch of shit that caused a massive mental breakdown on my part.

But today I say

SCREW IT!

I’M A DEMISEXUAL HETEROMANTIC AND IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT YOU CAN SUCK IT!

Obviously, ace exclusionists and TERFS don’t interact, don’t need none of yo shit

[fractured-clockface]

YES KITTY IM SO PROUD OF YOU ❤️❤️❤️ WELCOME TO THE QUEERS MY DEAR YOU ARE WELCOME 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 AND YOU BELONG!!!

I’d say anyone who doesn’t agree can fight me, but honestly if y'all gonna be Like That I don’t have time for you

[dykefleming]

[kenny-chesney-official]

love the implication that a TERF would give you shit for being a cis, straight woman, OP

exactly WHICH facet of your identity would a Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist have a problem with?

[bi-against-bullshit]

This is what being inclusive to straighties has led up to

[vision--girl]

“welcome to the queers”

i dearly hope this was sarcastic

[bi-against-bullshit]

Op is what happens when a straightie is proud of not fucking on the first date

[heterophobiclesbean]

“Exclusionists are telling me I dont exist” unfortunately exclusionists are Very, Very aware of the existence of cishet women

[peachdiscourse]

I hate this sm

[bullyfemme]

asexuals out there confusing societal pressure with societal oppression

[wlwrobots]

since it is asexual awareness week i want you all to know that..

i am VERY aware that they are not appart of the lgbt community!! happy asexual awareness week! :)

[anacephobiaproject]

[handwritten in yellow and purple: “Don’t call nonaces allos”]

This is an example of hate.

[dellcattie-deactivated20190326]

“Boo hoo, it’s literal aphobia when people don’t want to be called by a label that defines them by their sexual attraction”

[heterophobiclesbean]

Okay so I've seen you talk about how young kids telling people theyre ace is not appropriate because they are talking about their sexuality, but do you realize that's the case for other sexualities too, i.e. teenagers identifing openly as lesbian. There's other components to lesbianism, yes, but sexuality is definitely a part, so why would you think one is appropriate and the other is not? Not starting a fight, just saying that your logic doesn't make sense and maybe you need to examine that.

“Not starting a fight” asexuality is explicitly about sexual feelings (specifically lack thereof), lesbianism isnt. When I tell people I am a lesbian, I am making no statements about my personal sexual feelings or preferences, just as other orientations like bi and straight give no indication of sexual feelings. A 13 year old who identifies as straight is not telling you anything about their sexual feelings and isnt weird.

Sexuality is a part of lesbianism, yes, but there are no sexual feelings or behaviors that are directly stated when someone says they are a lesbian. When someone tells you they are straight, do you automatically assume any sexual behaviors they partake in? You probably do with LGBT people because you sound like a homophobe, but the fact is that the definition “does not experience sexual attraction” of asexuality makes it inherently different to other sexual orientation labels because it is the only one that specifically and only relies on experiences of sexual feelings. That’s undeniable.

[philosophiums]

I’m not the anon but Oh Boy I could not disagree more with what you’re saying.

Any and all sexualities are statements of “sexual feelings and preferences” (to use your odd choice of words) in an equal amount. Just because asexuality is the only sexuality that experiences a subtraction of sexual feelings instead of the more “typical” addition of sexual feelings doesn’t mean that the inherent and overall value of that sexuality is any different. 

Sexual identities are blanket statements that describe categories of people we’re attracted to. If you’re gay you’re sexually attracted to men. If you’re a lesbian you’re sexually attracted to women. If you’re bi you’re sexually attracted to both (or more than the binary depending on personal definition). If you’re ace you’re not sexually attracted to any gender. And that’s it.

Of course, obviously, identifying as asexual comes with the knowledge that everyone you tell will know that sex will not be part of any future relationship that you’re going to be involved in. (Or maybe it will! Life and identities aren’t finite - they’re fluid. But that’s not the point right now.) But just as identifying as ace comes with its own section of assumptions, so does identifying as any other sexuality. If you identify as lesbian, the people you tell are going to know, then, that sex will be part of any future relationship you’re going to be involved in.

The problem here, I think, is that you seem to be viewing asexuality as a sort of…. sexual kink, if you will, or at least along those same lines, because you’re saying it’s “inherently” sexual. Because what SHOULD be happening when a teen/preteen tells you that they identify as asexual is that you should go “okay cool thanks for telling me.” But what you’re ACTUALLY doing is saying “GROSS I don’t want to know what you do/don’t do in the bedroom.” Do you see how that’s similar to how people view kinks? Because you’re saying that asexuality is explicitly about sexual feelings in a way that lesbianism isn’t, but if they’re both just terms we use to let other people know who we’re DTF, then what you’re really saying is that asexuality is more similar to someone saying they’re into BDSM than a woman saying she wants to have sex with her girlfriend. Which is ridiculous, right? Like that’s so mind-bogglingly stupid to say that a sexuality is anything like a kink. Like that’s So Fucking Dumb. But here you are saying it.

“Does not experience sexual attraction” is literally just the binary opposite of “experiences sexual attraction.” Stop treating a lack of sexual attraction as a kink and a window into some child’s bedroom. Stop thinking about the sexualities of 13 year olds in the first place except as a step towards them being more comfortable with themselves. Stop thinking that a fucking child saying that they’re not attracted to anyone is in any way different from a child saying that they’re only attracted to girls. 

tl;dr - Asexuality is not a fucking kink in the same way lesbianism and bisexuality are not kinks. Please leave children alone and let their journey in identity be their own. Please stop thinking other people are inferior just because they’re not sexually attracted to other people and that makes you feel weird.

[newterjuice]

i can’t believe you spent three paragraphs no one will ever read spouting off about something no one has ever said. asexuality isn’t an inherently sexual topic because it’s “like a kink”, it’s because it’s specifically discussing how you feel sexual attraction. saying “i’m gay” isn’t sexual and you’re a stupid homophobe for saying it is. 

[queenofstrrap]

Not to take away from the point of this post, but a thought: I think also the issue is that 12 & 13 year olds shouldn’t be engaging. In sexual behaviour anyway?? And a lot of young kids are thinking “well if I don’t have an explicit sexual attraction at this point, then I suppose I just don’t have any at all?” Whereas I knew that I wanted to marry a woman and have a cat and babies with her when I was 9, but didn’t have inherent sexual attraction to women until I was idk 15??? 14?? Something like that.

[heterophobiclesbean]

Not taking away from the point at all! Its super relevant to the conversation imo. I liked women in a way that I knew was different (but not gay I was a good Christian girl) when I was like 5 or 6. I had my first crush on a girl then! And it certainly wasnt sexual. If I had know that being lesbian or bi was a thing and hadn’t been told to associate those identities with sin, then I would have assumed I was some sort of wlw then and that would have been it. There was no sexual aspect to my puppy crushes when I was literally 5 lol

[peachdiscourse]

homophobic aces always have to grasp for straws that weren’t there in the first place in order to make a bullshit argument that doesn’t have to relate to anything lmao

[chivalfairy]

like the difference between kids identifying as gay/bi and kids identifying as asexual is that being gay/bi isnt… entirely centered about sex. its an identity with deep and rich history and while sex is part of it, that isnt its entire meaning. its about love and community while asexuality just…. isnt. its entirely about sex. you never see ace people talking about Ace Things outside of cake jokes and constantly talking about their relaitonships with the concept of sex. its not a community thats safe for minors and that shouldnt really be a discoursey opinion. no kids should be in that kind of community at all, ever

[hearthome-deactivated20210601]

yall “yanderecore” weirdos better stop putting that abusive shit in the lovecore tag

[the-vampire-yandere]

It’s an online coping mechanism, we don’t abuse people by writing vent posts. Now get your head out of your arse, you narcissistic little bitch.

[hearthome-deactivated20210601]

“it’s an online coping mechanism and therefore it’s harmless uwu” shut the fuck up and get a therapist.

[harlivy]

[harlivy]

[gahdamnpunk]

No Taika slander will be tolerated on my dash.

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

To quote Taika himself: “What better way to insult Hitler than having him portrayed by a Polynesian Jew?”