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I find it amusing (not really) that TRFs will tell trans men and mascs that their experiences aren't special so they don't really need their own word for their oppression, but then also get mad when trans men try to relate to things trans women go through, saying that it doesn't really happen to trans men and it's a trans woman exclusive thing actually

Like... you can't have both. At least pick a hill to die on, you look stupid running between these hills

I for one welcome any trans guys to relate to my experiences as a transfem

senhor-do-escuro

TRFs get upset everytime a trans man relates to their experiences.

But also get get upset whenever trans men talk about their own experiences.

I guess they want trans men to simply not talk at all.

transfemme-shelterdog

"Shut up and sit down" but progressive this time

charlottan

i just feel strongly that work shouldnt be the Main Activity of five days out of the week

mangled-by-disuse

in happier pride news i actually found this deeply heartwarming

that's solidarity baybeeee

lgbtlaughs

Further context: Durham city council (Reform UK) cut funding and support for Pride. The Durham Miner's Association and other trade unions raised enough money for Durham Pride 2026 to go ahead - a direct call back to when Lesbian and Gays Support the Miners (LGSM) raised money for mining communities when Margaret Thatcher seized union funding during the miner strikes of 1984-85.

At the 1985 Labour party meet, the motion to support LGBT rights as a party was passed due to a block vote from mining unions.

Stephen Guy, the chair of the Durham Miners’ Association, said that when it became apparent Durham Pride was under threat, he took it upon himself to “encourage the trade union movement to step up and do the right thing, and stand shoulder to shoulder with the LGBT+ community […] They not only raised funds for us, but came to our communities, uplifted our spirits when they were down, and showed their solidarity.”

genderkoolaid

if you've never seen the film Pride (2014), which tells the story of LGSM, you really really need to. Set aside time to watch it this month. Extremely important part of leftist and queer history, and a lesson on what "solidarity forever" means in practice that everyone desperately needs to learn right now.

Here's the r/piracy megathread if you need it. & you can pair that viewing with this article on the real-life history of Lesbians & Gays Support the Miners; they don't make it explicit in the film, but every founding member was a socialist / communist, and that article goes more in depth about the movement.

Notably: LGSM did not wait for the mining communities to be openly supportive of queers and anti-homophobia before showing solidarity. They saw the connection between oppression of Welsh miners and the oppression of queers, and chose solidarity first. It was this choice to materially support other oppressed people, and see the queer community and mining communities are inherently connected through their experiences of oppression and resistance, that allowed the relationship seen above to exist at all.

None of this could have happened if LGSM's solidarity was dependent on the mining communities being queer allies at the time of Thatcher's attacks on them. This solidarity was born out of queer communists seeing things from a broader perspective than just "getting gay rights." They saw how the labor struggle and the queer struggle are connected, and organized to provide material assistance through food and funding. We should all internalize this and seek to apply these lessons to our own communities.

ivycryptid

hope you don't mind me adding an extra little resource onto things- this video goes over some of the history in the movie directly! (and the couple inaccuracies too). Also: I just like it.

riv3rboychaos

"punching 'across' at trans men is actually punching up" fuck off. actually fuck right off. "punching at an oppressed minority who are oppressed in a lot of the same ways as me is punching up" do you realise how stupid you sound?

thornendless2498

Yo, person I'm reblogging from.. I'ma steal your tags because you can't just leave this there

real-language-facts

lifetime ban from the boba shop for ordering a kiki tea

drethelin

It was worth it though

#hopital

sullina

genuinely insane that diet culture poisoned people will insists that, if they don't diet, they'll just "eat cake all day" or some other type of sweet candy

because... that's not how it works

like, if you completely give up any sort of dieting and go for intuitive eating (meaning: listening to your own body and giving it what it craves), you're probably gonna be eating "unhealthy" at first, because you've been denying your body something it desperately needs.

For one person, that can be sweets.

For another, that can be fast food.

Just imagine literally anything that could potentially deemed "unhealthy" by diet culture, and someone is gonna crave just that once they start intuitive eating.

But back to my point No one is gonna be eating "only cake" if they don't make a conscious effort to monitor every little thing about their diet, because that's not how the human body (or any living body) works. It's your body's job to keep you alive and well. This includes your diet. Your body knows you can't live entirely off of cake. It's gonna crave salty things, too, not just sweet stuff. And by "salty", i mean, like, an actual meal.

And believe it or not, but vegetables? Can be fucking amazing. On the condition that you focus on making a meal that tastes good instead of being "healthy". Believe it or not, but you're gonna benefit more from a vegetable medley that tastes fucking amazing, than you're gonna get from the same vegetables but raw and unseasoned. I'm not kidding, how much you enjoy your food has a real and measurable effect on how many nutrients of said meal you end up absorbing.

Another benefit of intuitive eating I've personally found is that I'm much more willing to try new things, especially new vegetables. Like, I'm seirous, just listening to your body and trusting yourself to know what you need, like how every single living being, including humans, have been surviving for literal millions of years, is actually really good for you. Cutting out entire food groups, because some """health official""" being paid billions of dollars to say that it's unhealthy and what you REALLY need is their company's product, is NOT good for you. At all.

trytogethappy

the humanity of the AIDS crisis: the ward by gideon mendel

colorized by me

imjunebitch

if you assume a trans woman is going to top because of her genitalia start running. I am coming to get you.

imjunebitch

if you assume a trans man is going to bottom because of his genitalia start running. I am coming to get you.

imjunebitch

if you assume a nonbinary person is going to fill some sexual role because of their genitalia start running. I am coming to get you.

nonbinary-wrath-month

The reason why so many of y'all's feminism sucks is because you still believe deep down in your hearts that there are only two kinds of people in the world: precious, ethereal, fragile dollthings called "women", and violent, lustful, rage-fueled apes called "men". Until you throw that idea away, 3rd-grade-tier "girls rule boys drool, girls are princesses and boys are stinky :(" is as feminist as we'll ever get-- and I hope it's obvious that that's lightyears away from the bare minimum of where we need to be.

nonbinary-wrath-month

I don't know how I'm supposed to explain to ostensibly trans-friendly feminists that "women are beautiful soft things made of glass, men are obsessed with violence and sex" is exactly what the patriarchy wants you to believe. Patriarchy wants you to believe that being a woman and/or having a vagina (patriarchy generally believes those two things are synonymous) makes one shatter on impact with reality. It makes you easier to control if you are scared shitless of the other half of the population, and it makes you more compliant with your lot in life if you believe it is in the nature of the other half of the population to rape and kill rather than realise those were choices those individual rapists and murderers made. There is no way to make gender essentialism progressive and feminist, because it is one of patriarchy's tools of subjugation. Stop trying to make it progressive.

And I can scream all of that from the rooftops over and over again, and what I hear in reply is "Trans men really are men because no woman would ever decide to become an inherently evil repugnant rapist ape", and "You're so right. Trans women are women because they too are pretty delicate little objects I can fuck", and "You're non-binary? So are you fucktoy non-binary or sexpest non-binary?", and my patience runs ever thinner.

fullcravings

Vegan Banana Pancakes

midnightssea

Excluding the crucial fact that office jobs pay you an income….if staying home to raise children and do chores and bake bread was really so much easier and more joyful than working in an office on some objective level, why aren’t men doing it? Why aren’t they chomping at the bit to be ~leisurely house husbands~ to a working wife? Why aren’t they stepping up to depend solely on someone else’s income in exchange for round-the-clock domestic labor, if it’s really as blissful and their propaganda suggests? Curious.

midnightssea

Thank you! This is such an important reminder.

penrosesun

Also, while office work can absolutely be soul-crushing and exploitive, please never forget that long before women could have their own bank accounts and could sue for employment discrimination, women were also fighting against this:

The notion that women didn't meaningfully work outside of the home before the 60s is weird and sexist, but it is also classist as fuck.

Women have always been in the workplace. Women often worked jobs that were extremely dangerous, where they were horrifically taken advantage of – not only because they were women, but also because an awful lot of them were factory workers. The image that people have of women in the early 1900s happily staying home to nurture children is a fiction that only makes sense if you completely forget about the existence of poor people.

Like, I'm sorry, but "Why on earth would women fight for the right to work at this depressing white collar job?" is a completely deranged question to ask when you consider that women also had to actively fight to not be locked into sweatshops and literally burned alive.

genderkoolaid

"The Tom-Boy Who Was Changed Into A Real Boy," a children's poem written between 1859 and 1862 and published by McLoughlin Brothers Publishing in New York.

The poem is part of the "Aunt Oddamadood series," which appeared to primarily create entertaining yet moralistic poems for children, in which a naughty child (other examples include "Little Miss Consequence," "The Conceited Boy," "The Mischievous Fingers") is presented and shown the error of their ways, to teach children what will happen if they do not behave. With that context, the purpose of this poem appears to warning children raised as girls that, should they act like a tomboy, they will eventually be quietly sent off to sea. It is made clear both at the beginning and the end of the poem that the child's tomboyish nature is a "fault" and something the audience must be "cautioned" about.

I learned about this poem from this small collection of transgender antebellum (pre-Civil War) USAmerican children's literature, collected by historian Jen Manion. Another relevant example from that collection is "Lucy Nelson; or, the Boy-Girl," the story of a child assigned female who dislikes femininity and prefers playing with her brothers and acting like a boy. Lucy and their brothers get in trouble, but Lucy is singled out for punishment. They are forced to wear boys clothes for a month; this doesn't initially seem that bad, but it becomes clear that the real punishment is subjecting Lucy to gendered humiliation. Lucy's brother laugh at them, declare that if they dress as a boy then they will "be treated as one," leading to them being physically and verbally cruel to them. At a dinner party, the stress of the gendered humiliation they are facing for their transmasculinity reaches a breaking point. A guest's fixation and confusion on their gender leads them to shout, in tears, "I am not a boy!" to end the inquisition.

Lucy's story ends not with them simply realizing they are a girl; it is explicitly detailed that it is very difficult for them to resist their "boyish" nature and they were "in danger of lapsing," but that eventually they became an "obedient little girl," having been successfully humiliated back into appropriate (and, notably, white) daughterhood. These examples show clearly how the narrative around the "acceptance" of tomboys hides the very real disdain and cruelty directed at transmasculinized youth that has existed in Western culture for centuries. Rather than their masculinity being praised, or the masculinization of a young girl being seen as positive, these tomboys are depicted as out-of-control, insufficiently white, and further masculinization is depicted as a punishment done to tomboys, something meant to be humiliating and scary, thus coercing them back to the role of daughterwifemother.

genderkoolaid

Also wanna add that this is a good example of malgendering in history, and why that term is so important when talking about anti-transmasculinity.

For both Lucy and the tomboy-turned-sailor, further masculinization is a punishment. The story of Lucy literally uses the phrase "if she dresses like a boy, we'll treat her like a boy" as a justification for verbal and physical harassment and humiliation.

& while the poem is lighthearted and meant to be fun, it is very clear that becoming a sailor is not something the tomboy is doing for fun or of his own volition. The poem explicitly describes the transition as happening "quite quietly" and "without noise," and being orchestrated by an unclear "them" which we can assume is likely the tomboy's family. Being a sailor was a job which involved hard manual labor, dangerous circumstances, and associated with lower-class (thus sexually dangerous) men. Again, this poem is from a series of moralistic poems which very clearly lay out for children what happens when you act "bad." The message here is: if you, little girl, try to act like a boy, you will become coarse and unloveable and be sent away to sea to live amongst dirty, dangerous cis men.

This is why malgendering is such an important term and concept, for all trans people, but here particularly with anti-transmasculinity. And I also hope that y'all keep these examples in your back pocket to use the next time you hear someone run their mouth about how the patriarchy just isn't that concerned about policing masculinity in people perceived as girls, because ummmm patriarchy LIKE boy stuff duh!!!!!!!!

archaeocoyote

This is really interesting to me because its so seldom that something lines up so well with my particular experience of having grown up intersex and as a transmasculine person. An experience that has led me to believe that the reason the policing of transmasculinity in kids is seen as "invisible" or even non-existent is because it often functions not on a level of open hostility, but on a subtle level of coy, "concerned for your future" social isolation, ostracism, and humiliation that feels orchestrated like a dance throughout your childhood and impossible to explain to anyone not on the transmasc or butch spectrum. I started getting "helpful" comments, snide remarks, and even doctors office visits about "fixing" how masculine my body and presentation were literally even before I realized I was trans or started to consciously play with my gender presentation.

Little girls and kids who were AFAB are only "allowed" to be tomboys insofar as their eventual assimilation into gender conforming feminine womanhood can be assured. If that assimilation is at all in question, the gloves come off really quick and they start considering forcing you onto supplemental estrogen.

genderkoolaid

#it makes me feel a lot of things to see this written out#especially the second case - that was… a lot of my childhood#‘if you act like a boy we’ll treat you like a boy’ and crucially ‘let other children treat you like a boy’ as a withdrawal of protection#or - more accurately- a throwing the wolves#the boys knew I wasn’t ‘a real boy’ - it was just a license to do violence without repurcussions

^ this is exactly it.

this is what makes anti-transmasculinity so fucking infuriating to talk about. because people say shit like "well little girls are rewarded for acting masculine!" with no sense of irony.

but really so much anti-transmasculinity swirls around this notion that being made a boy is a punishment for people intended to be girls. on two levels:

because being a girl, and succeeding in the role of daughterwifemother, is your personhood. that is why the above poem is titled "the tomboy who was turned into a real boy," while depicting the tomboy dressed as a sailor with his head in his hands as if he is crying. it is not a whimsical adventure, it is meant to be read as obviously negative as a poem about a child who steals or is rude and gets punished for it.

the ever-present specter of cis male violence (physical and sexual) is not any less present for transmasculine people, and those who wield anti-transmasculinity (especially against children) know this. its implicit in the poem, its explicit in the story of Lucy, its the background radiation of every 19th century story of a FTM crossdresser which obsesses over whether or not they kept their virginity while living around cis men.

i never ever ever ever ever want to hear anyone claim that "masculine girls" are less hated than "feminine boys"* again. everyone get radicalized and educated on anti-transmasculinity RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

*ironically, the collection i got this from also includes a letter written by a person talking about why feminine boys are actually good (as long as they aren't too girly) because they are polite and helpful and studious, while masculine girls are problematic because they are rude and dirty. this was not a pro-transfem statement by any means, but its literally the exact opposite of what people like to claim about how this works. gosh, its almost like maybe we should stop trying to figure out which binary gender is more policed, because its an exercise in futility that only encourages us vs them binary thinking!

lastoneout

I do actually wonder if part of the reason people start believing ancient aliens type conspiracy bullshit is because they're so divorced from labor they don't understand that a bunch of guys could absolutely quarry a large rock, move it somewhere, and build something with it because that's not actually all that hard or complicated. I've seen people use a simple chisel and hammer to crack boulders the size of houses clean in half, this stuff is a skill that needs to be learned ofc, but the idea that it was impossible for humans to build large, complex, sturdy structures with relatively "primative" tools is so silly I struggle to understand how someone could believe that unless they legit have no idea how labor works.

It's the same beef I have with Fallout. I know they excuse humans being so slow to redevelop society with all "knowledge being lost in the war" but that's just...not how things work. Humans figured out construction and farming very early. There's no way for humans to truly forget how to do this stuff, especially since people survived and could preserve and share what they know. But I just cannot fathom how in 300 years no one's figured out construction or fiber arts or soap making or anything humans have historically figured out super early in the process of being human.

And the only way I can see someone write a world like that is if they either didn't care (fine, it's not real and I get digging the apocalypse vibe) or were so divorced from the process of labor and creation that they actually think those things are way too hard for someone to figure out on their own.

If you think humans couldn't do these things without being taught or helped you have a very warped idea of technological progress and human ingenuity. No one taught humans how to build and create, we figured it out on our own, and it was not just smacking rocks together until something clicked either, ancient humans were just as intelligent as modern ones, they could use logic and reasoning to figure out how to do something new based on what they already know.

Idk it's a theory anyway, but I really do think it's interesting how as a kid I def could believe doing these things is impossible for ancient humans to being an adult who knows things and literally cannot even comprehend believing any of the incredible things ancient humans can do were "impossible" in any way. It wasn't. Humans are incredible, stop underestimating us. And crack open some wiki pages or even youtube tutorials so you get a grasp of how the world works, it's good for you.

towerologia-sideblog

Archeology educator Milo Rossi in his Ancient Aliens debunked video (link under the cut)

lastoneout

You'll never guess what video inspired this post lmao

lastoneout

Guys maybe this is on me but I kinda figured "it was mostly racism" was a given and not something I had to say, especially with the whole "part of the problem" thing above? But yes, it's mostly racism and—given that people don't tend to say this about east asian cultures—anti-blackness and a fair bit of eugenics, it's just that no issue has a single source, and the fact that people are alienated from labor to the degree they think basic shit all humans figured out is so impossible you'd need aliens to teach you is part of it. Most people don't think "they weren't white and so they're stupid" even if that's the unconcious core of it, some genuinely do just have no idea how construction works, and we cannot correct a problem if we refuse to recognize it in all it's forms. Especially when I have seen plenty of people saying this same stuff about fucking Stonehenge.

The rest is racism. I know.

molartplusotherstuff

there's a brand of post going around now that annoys me so much, it's always like "the queer infighting is what they want!" etc etc basically reducing the transandrophobia denial/discussion going on to a petty squabble. yes of course I agree there is probably astroturfing happening, now more than ever, and it's probably good for their bottom line that we remain disorganized, but still, two things can be true at once.

trans men demanding respect and equal treatment for themselves IS NOT a petty squabble. Trans men talking back at the increasingly anti-transmasculine sentiments going around the community IS NOT just queer infighting and giving the conservatives what they want, it's actually an important part of our intersectional fight right now, and we need to be paying attention and listening to these men, not fucking sweeping them into a category of "terminally online bullshit discourse"

imjunebitch

a big part of my whole quote unquote thing toward the beginning of this blog and throughout it was trying to provide some level of kindness I guess and understanding and attempts at educating people who had falling into the trf pipeline and people who believed in the tme/ tma bullshit and I just want to say I really don't think I have it in myself to continue that angle of things.

The main reason I did that was because very early into my transition I almost fell down a similar pipeline. Here's the thing. Emphasis on almost, you know.

I didn't because it took all of I think less than a week genuinely of thinking about how badly this hurts people and how that could not outweigh anything that I believed to begin with and actually seeking out other viewpoints and trying to listen to people.

And honestly I can't find it in myself to have anything but hatred and disgust and contempt for people who still believe all of this nonsense and people who hurt people in this way especially in the climate we're in currently with the amount of people who are constantly being hurt by this I just can't feel anything but sheer hatred for you. Like I still think it's an important service and I think there are some people who are great at the education angle of things but I just genuinely do not have it in myself it makes me feel worse about Humanity as a whole to even have to deal with people like this for the brief period of time I do before they generally block me like I am not equipped to do this any part of that.

So like from now on if I see that you've called anyone a transandrobro or that you have TME or TMA in your bio like. I hate you. I'm just going to block you. I don't care

tboy-cock

binder companies need to post ads for fat big busted trans guys and not just skinny androgynous twinks with body fat percentages in the single digits and yes im serious

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