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The tribe is very offended. [The militants’] theme, of course, was that we’re going to give it back to the original owners, which were the ranchers. Of course, that rubbed me the wrong way because that’s our aboriginal territory.

Charlotte Rodrique, the chairperson of the Burns Paiute Tribal Council, on the Malheur Wildlife Refuge occupation in Oregon. (via npr)

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kaiserghidorah

Throw Back to when Poe Dameron and Kylo Ren went through a Country Western phase and made a song with Justin Timberlake about not wanting to go to space.

cyborgslayer

WHAT?!?!

thembocoles

Press play

boyfriendpoe

this is what rey saw when she looked back into kylo’s mind

wincherella

So adorable.

tastefullyoffensive

(via tank.sinatra)

Dyker heights, ie the best place to get into the Christmas spirit in the world

#Christmas #lights!#I love it #this is our fourth year going

projectqueer

New York City has warned landlords, employers and businesses they could be running afoul of the law by purposely calling a transgender woman "him" or "Mr." when she prefers a female title and pronoun, or by barring her from using a women's restroom.

New guidelines detail the legal protections of transgender and gender-nonconforming New Yorkers and what constitutes discrimination under the city’s Human Rights Law, the New York City Commission on Human Rights said on Monday. Some 25,000 transgender and gender non-conforming people live in New York City, where discrimination based on gender identity and expression has been illegal since 2002.

“Today’s new guidelines strengthen those laws by ensuring that every transgender and gender non-conforming person in New York receives the dignity and respect they deserve,” Mayor Bill de Blasio said in a statement.

The guidelines said dress codes requiring men to wear ties or women to wear skirts are discriminatory.

Failing to provide employee health benefits for gender-affirming care or failing to accommodate people undergoing gender transition, such as medical appointments, could violate the law as well, they said.

“It’s a huge step forward and really catapults New York City to the forefront of the struggle for transgender rights,” said Michael Silverman, executive director of the Transgender Legal Defense and Education Fund, a non-profit law office based in New York. “This is an extremely positive development for transgender New Yorkers who face enormous rates of discrimination, unemployment and difficulty accessing things like health care that people take for granted.”

Three-quarters of transgender New Yorkers have reported harassment and mistreatment in the workplace, and more than half said they had been verbally harassed or disrespected in public, according to a survey cited by the Commission on Human Rights. One in five said they had been refused a home because of their gender identity, the 2011 survey said. New York City provides stronger protections than most local laws in the United States and goes beyond federal law as well, said Silverman and other advocates.

“By issuing some of the strongest and most comprehensive legal guidance in the country, New York City has taken a major step toward ensuring that transgender and gender non-conforming New Yorkers can enjoy dignity, respect and access to opportunity in our city,” said Donna Lieberman, executive director of the New York Civil Liberties Union.

gallicinvasion

Another woman utterly failed by our society’s devaluation of women’s reproductive health. We can’t wait around for male doctors to decide what we need to know. This is why we need to take control and educate ourselves about our own bodies.

gallicinvasion

and here’s some comments i saw under the post. why is this a pattern?? why is this a recurring theme?? why is this information not common knowledge? what the fuck are doctors doing??

sora2522

This is news to me so let’s share it so people will know!

halfhardtorock

Gross tmi: but i passed a pretty big clot after having my daughter. It was about the size of a baseball. It actually hurt worse because while 15 hours of labor opened my cervix, i passed the clot in 30 minutes. I knew it was a possibility because of my midwife and reading, but everyone Ive told after this (mostly other pregnant women) were shocked that this could happen.

In our culture, it’s much more common to do deep research about what family cars we want to buy than we do about childbirth when we ’re pregnant.

skeleton-warrior-deactivated201

Tmi: I passed a huge clot after birth in the bathroom of my hospital room and called the nurse sobbing because I didn’t know it was normal. She treated me like an idiot, but NO ONE told me it was a possibility. And the pain associated with healing for the first couple of weeks after birth was worse than the labor imo. Again, I had no idea. They didn’t tell me a thing besides “sitz bath regularly and change your pads.” Before discharging me from the hospital.

evashandor

I was most definitely told about this in school. Fucking hell, 4-6 weeks of bleeding? My periods were/are bad enough, why the hell don’t we get told this?

love-pro-choice

I didn’t know it could last so long, wtf? Is the bleeding inevitable after birth?

rosietwiggs

Bleeding is inevitable after birth - your uterine wall is shedding a fuck ton of lining. It can last from three to six weeks (possible longer) and it tapers off.

More TMI - I passed a MASSIVE clot after my fourth birth. At this point I already knew this could happen - it’s normal. What I DIDN’T know, was that I had caused it.

My post birth contractions were so bad after the birth that it felt like full transition labor. And they don’t give you anything for the pain. So I used a hot water bottle, without the nurses knowing, and it caused me to bleed even more. I lost so much blood that by the first time they sat me up to go to the bathroom, I fainted. It took three more tries until I could sit up.

Anyway, that’s not the point. The point is, the next morning I passed a clot the SIZE OF ANOTHER PLACENTA I KID YOU NOT, and I know what is and is not normal. So I called for the nurse and through the door told her I had passed a huge clot, and her response was - “It’s not big. I know what big is.” She hadn’t even looked. So I rolled my eyes and said, “Yeah, no. It’s big, I’m telling you.”

So, sounding extremely put upon, she asked me to open the door. I did, and after a long pause she goes, “Okay, yeah, that’s a little big.”

YOU DON’T SAY.

The point I’m trying to get across is that this shit is so common - women not knowing this stuff is so expected, and it keeps getting reinforced. People don’t expect you to know anything, don’t teach you anything, and then make you feel like you’re totally ignorant and a burden for your lack of knowledge when THEY WON’T SHARE.

Fucking learn EVERYTHING you can when it comes to childbirth, girls. It is the single most empowering thing you can do for yourself. And if you missed something, that’s okay. But the more knowledge you arm yourself with, the more in control of your situation you’ll be.

A few post partum tips:

DON’T use a hot water bottle - lol.

ONLY pads - NO tampons. Tampons can cause severe infection, not to mention, you probably don’t want to be shoving anything up there any time soon.

If you’ve had stitches, sitz baths DO help relieve the pain. Another great pain reliever? Dampen some pads and freeze them. Let one thaw slightly and use it on top of another pad. This will help with the pain as well as reduce swelling. Change the pad out as soon as it’s thawed completely. This REALLY helps on the first couple days after giving birth.

If you pass a clot, don’t sweat it. Even the one I passed, which was fucking massive, just required that we keep an eye out to make sure it didn’t happen again. If it does, talk to your doctor.

Take a pain killer half an hour before nursing. Because YES - your uterus is contracting after you give birth, to get back to its original size, and nursing causes much stronger contractions. Taking nursing-safe painkillers won’t prevent the pain, but it will reduce it.

Buy disposable underwear for the first few days after birth. They will get VERY dirty. Or use your ratty old pairs that you’re ready to get rid of. Double up on pads - line them all the way up your ass-crack. I am so serious. And wear dark pants.

Pee in the shower. You do NOT want to wipe down there right after birth because ow. Peeing in the shower lets you just rinse afterwards. Especially if you’ve had stitches, peeing in the shower, with the shower-head rinsing AS you go, keeps stinging to a minimum. And fuck everyone else - keep on peeing in the shower until you feel ready to move back to toilet paper. Middle of the night and need to pee? Get your pants off - get in the shower and just go.

This is just a few things, but PLEASE feel free to send me an ask if you have any questions about ANYTHING childbirth/pregnancy/nursing related. I have four incredible kids. I’ve done it all - c-section, vacuume birth, episiotimy, stitches, with an epidural, without an epidural. I’m here.

discourseboyish-blog

More tips: GET A PERI-BOTTLE. If you have a hospital birth, they’ll probably give you one. If not, you can pick up any kind of small squeeze-y bottle (or even an empty, CLEAN CLEAN CLEAN spray bottle if it comes to it). It’s like a little portable bidet. Use it after you go to the bathroom, then pat dry. This way you don’t have to climb into a shower every time if you don’t want.

IME bags of frozen peas in your underwear with proper covering (you don’t want to get frostbite) are the best sort of cold compress.

Those contractions during nursing? They are v v important. They shrink your uterus, helping your body get back to normal faster (and helping you pass blood quicker). They hurt. Keep drinking red raspberry leaf tea (which hopefully you drank during your third trimester). It should help not only with the contractions, but with your milk supply as well. Take a nursing-safe NSAID if you can.

REST. I know this is especially hard for people who are already parents, for poor folk, for people with a ton of responsibilities in general. This is when you call in the cavalry, if you’re lucky enough to have support. FRIENDS AND FAM of birthing persons, leave the parent alone with their baby. Do a load of dishes. Pick up. Check to make sure the parent has their baby supplies handy (as in, within reach). Bring them food. The more they rest, the faster their body heals, and the shorter the bleeding period will be. If it tapers off and then ramps back up, YOU’RE DOING TOO MUCH. Slow down. This is the perfect time to learn that, as a parent, you can’t do it all. Always prioritise your kid. If there’s one time you’re allowed to just let shit go, it’s during your babymoon. (Google is telling me babymoon now means a trip you take with your partner before you have your baby. What. No. “Babymoon” means the first week after your birth. When the hell did that switch happen?) REST. REST. HOLD YOUR BABY. SLEEP. NURSE. EAT. This bonding time is imperative. You and your baby deserve this time.

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thehangryslush

….I know I keep reblogging this but people keep adding super important information.

typingsdrawings

I feel like no one tells women this stuff because if a woman was even a little on the fence about having a baby before this would kinda make them run for the damn hills.

kaxen

…..you are correct, typing.

300% EXTRA SURE I’M NOT HAVING BABIES.

petitedeath

peri bottles, witch hazel or anti-pain anticeptic spray are your friends. Also passing large clots after birth is a WARNING SIGN. Bigger than a half dollar is a sign that you have not passed your entire placenta (this is most common in hospital vaginal births where the mother is not allowed to naturally birth the placenta and instead has it ripped out by the doctor) if there is any placenta left in your uterus you can get extremely ill. This happened to both myself and my mother in law

un-ptit-spleen

WOW I didn’t know any of this and I’m terrified of what more I’m unaware of about my own body :( Honestly when will we fucking abolish this taboo about the female body…

artsortment

I had pretty great sex ed in school (lots of contraceptive information, and totally acknowledged that teenagers might have sex) and all of this is news to me.

And, as a 28-year-old person with a uterus, I’m extremely appalled I’m just learning this.

deanplease

Long, but very important information, even for those who don’t plan to have children, because you will almost certainly know someone who will, and you might be able to to help them. Or at least increase your level of empathy for them.

parentinginplaid

The shit they don’t tell us.

paddy-and-me-blog

i need more of this on my dash.

ob-nurse--at-your-cervix

This is just second nature to me because of my job, but I don’t remember where I learned it all. I’ve had moms that have no clue that you bleed after birth. They thought they were dying.

adenosinetriesphosphate

Even as a nurse I didn’t know how long the heavy bleeding was supposed to last. I almost died because I was having a late postpartum hemorrhage and didn’t know it wasn’t normal to be bleeding that heavy for so long. I also thought I was supposed to be in that much pain–negatron something was very very wrong.

1. We need better sex education.

2. We need nurses to perform postpartum follow-up calls. Home health and well baby home check ups should be the standard of care for all new first time moms.

3. Don’t assume people who work in healthcare know things from nursing school/med school. I’m a telemetry nurse I don’t know shit about OB. Additionally we all know that when you are sick you forget everything.

4. Not sure if your patient knows the discharge teaching? TEACH BACK. Nursing teaching 101 make the patient teach you to ensure they know what to expect.

5. PADSICLES. I had my mom make these for me and they saved me. http://www.tallmomtinybaby.com/2014/07/padsicles-carefree-way-to-survive-birth.html?showComment=1406039146764&m=1#c4443844392759899903

aspiringdoctors-blog

Whoa. I’m a freaking fourth year med student having my first kid and I didn’t know some of this stuff!

freckledog

Sorry to reblog this monster but YUP even as a med student I didn’t realize a LOT of what was happening. Amen @adenosinetriesphosphate - “when you are sick you forget everything.”

If I wasn’t so depleted and exhausted from labor and from trying to start breastfeeding, I would have figured out sooner that it wasn’t normal to have intermittent shaking chills, fevers, night sweats, nausea/vomiting, and contraction-level cramps. When I finally dragged myself back to the OB at 3 weeks postpartum (after lying in the fetal position unable to move during a weight check at the pediatrician’s office) turns out I had endometritis from retained placenta. Oops! Once I was on antibiotics I felt SLIGHTLY more human and was able to realize how truly sick I had been. Even my med school friends who had come by to see the baby remembered me ashen gray, lying under a blanket on the couch, not wanting to eat anything, and just thought I was tired.

Also: I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Miralax. Colace. Prune Juice. Repeat PRN. There’s nothing scarier than when you start to poop again after tearing a giant rip through your vaginal wall.

aheartofiron

(Apologies to anyone who didn’t want to read about this kind of thing but I thought this was helpful) Your first period after your pp bleeding has stopped (possibly not until you finish breastfeeding) you will have the mother of all periods. Like, EPIC. I didn’t know about this until I was literally bleeding through maternity pads again - I actually thought the Warfarin I was on for pp complications was making me bleed to death. Apparently this can continue for the first few cycles, fyi, until your hormones get back to normal. Again, no one told me about that, I googled it.

End PSA.

perpetuavix

My partner and I have been talking about having a baby (in like 2 or 3 years) and I am going to make him read this whole fucking thing.

micdotcom

NYU admissions advisor reveals everything wrong with college in the U.S.

Black cartoonist Joshua Jackson posted a missive to Twitter on Friday appearing to show an administrator at NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts dismissing their request for an application fee waiver by telling them they were likely too poor to attend the school anyhow. The school responded to Jackson Saturday with a tweet and email.