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[easternhognose]

Too many people on Tumblr never moved past their edgy highschool reverse misogyny phase and now are on here saying the same things there dad says about women but about trans men, intersex men, black and brown men, and disabled men, but thinking there being cool and progressive not just like... an asshole

[easternhognose]

A lot of people have interpreted this post as being about trans fems who use incel terms to describe trans mascs and while that is unfortunately a problem with some (very few) trans fems.

I was originally talking about cis queer women who use the language misogynists use but think swapping the genders makes it woke. Example: a cis woman who grew up being told that women are stupid, weak, useless, ect and when she was like 16 decided to flip the gender but repeat the same bio/gender essentialism ideas that all people of one gender or sex are monolithically one bad thing. But then because we live in the world we live in her words and actions never actually hurt the pericis white men with the most power in society instead only ever causing harm to marginalized people who are men, especially people who's masculinity is connected to why they are marginalized (trans mascs) she now we have a cis women saying trans men are stupid and evil because they are men. I've seen several white cis het and cis queer women saying the exact same things that would be said about a man by people who think he's a delusional girl but they want to pretend they are being super feminist because they said HE is a stupid bitch who doesn't deserve human rights.

I keep hearing cis queer women in queer spaces say shit like "well he's trans but he is a man so.... (He's stupid, violent, emotionally stunted, ect) So many trans mascs get pushed out of queer spaces when we start to pass too much because no one wants to unlearn gender essentialism they'd rather just swap the evil gender to men

[excusethequality]

While watching a DVD from the library my TV popped up a message saying to press a button if I wanted to watch this from additional providers.

It's never done that before so I looked it up and turns out Roku TVs have added all sorts of creepy things in the privacy section since I last checked.

One of which being they take screenshots from what you're watching and send them to third parties to identify it.

Fucking hell! Remember when every fucking device in your life wasn't a spy implanted in your home and working against your interests to try and sell your data? Remember how nice that was??

Remember when the TV was just a tool that would play the things you plugged into it?

Why must the future suck SO much?

[excusethequality]

How to Turn Off Smart TV Snooping Features - Consumer Reports

TVs collect a huge amount of data. Here's how to use privacy settings to limit the surveillance on TVs from LG, Samsung, TCL, and every othe

A good rundown on what each brand of TV is up to and which settings you should turn off.

[anarchistmemedistro]

[lytefoot]

PSA - Do not buy an LG smart TV. They just added a line to their terms of use that it's the user's responsibility to inform any guests in their house that by entering they consent to be recorded, in order to comply with wiretapping laws. That thing is literally recording you.

You can find tutorials online telling you how to open that thing up and physically remove the mic and wifi module. Frankly I don't trust anything less.

[mookimooks]

Please watch the Gamers Nexus video on LG Smart TV's and monitors! It's basically malware at this point.

[testosterone-tuesday]

To be entirely honest, I do not think the discomfort some people feel being around masculine presenting butches, transmascs, and trans men is purely a lingering trauma from cis men that they cannot help. While I think it certainly can be, or can contribute- I believe this line of thinking often functions as an excuse to refuse examining that what many are actually uncomfortable with here is gender nonconformity.

[call-me-zombie]

Y'know I don't think the people saying "kill all tmes" and "bomb that kills all transmascs" are being serious but I do think these are dangerous and harmful jokes to be making and maybe you need to find better outlets for your anger before you start genuinely thinking of trans men as subhuman

[mycookieadventure]

feminism is not about acting like femininity is inherently better by the way. feminism doesn't have to be about the Good Feminine People and the Bad Masculine People. I need us to realise that thinking the contrary is Pretty Bad on about every level:

"masculinity equals bad" is racist, because the cultural concept of masculinity evolved around white people in a way that especially paints Black people as more inherently masculine.

"masculinity equals bad" is transandrophobic, because you're actively calling transmasc people worse for an identity they choose to adopt. you're saying they would be better if they did not transition.

"masculinity equals bad" is harmful to willingly masculine/butch women because you're telling them they'd be better off if they'd just been more feminine instead of presenting how they do.

and this is not to mention the exorsexist undertones. the us versus them nature of it that would force neutral people into having to pick a side they don't actually identify with at all. that little bit of nonbinary erasure.

Us Versus Them or Good Versus Bad thinking will never account for everything. nuance is real. check yourself.

[thesillybunch]

you are not a real feminist if you don't include trans men, enbies, and intersex people in your conversations.

[theangryman]

Strip searches, trauma, isolation: Trans men describe life behind bars

Transgender men say they are often harassed, denied medically necessary care and “forced to be someone” they're not while incarcerated.

absolutely fucking sick to death of “trans men are privileged because they don’t get v-coded in prison”

[thebibliosphere]

Saw a headline in the newspapers earlier that was, “why are so many young women using disability aids?”

And the head-ass response seemed to be, “attention,” because that’s the kind of thing we can expect from British media at this point.

It’s not like the entire world just went through a mass disabling event or anything. It’s not like more and more women are finally getting diagnosed with chronic, lifelong illnesses and dynamic disabilities due to advocacy and raised awareness by the people who were left to suffer before them for decades.

No, no. Young lassies just want “attention.”

Fucking ghouls. A plague on your house and yours specifically. The rest of us have suffered enough.

[this-is-trans-joy]

Wait so. Elliot Page’s role in The Odyssey is to be unwillingly sacrificed within the first five minutes of his appearance and THAT’S the “complex and interesting” role that people have claimed was personally gifted to him by Nolan for transitioning into a man?? Five minutes of screen time where he’s immediately killed?? Are we actually fucking serious right now. I’ve had to deal with post after post on every social media platform telling me that The Odyssey is proof that Elliot Page transitioned into privilege and the role in question is the most insulting, transphobic, nothingburger I’ve ever seen in my life. Am I missing something here because I feel like I’m losing my mind.

[this-is-trans-joy]

These people think a trans man existing in public is proof of privilege. These people think a trans man being allowed to live and breathe is proof of privilege. These people don’t want trans men to exist btw call it out for what it is at this point.

[childofpasithea]

Sinon is a very important character in The Aeneid. He pretty much singlehandedly brought the downfall of Troy.

[this-is-trans-joy]

This is about Christopher Nolan’s movie adaptation of the Odyssey, not The Aeneid book.

[this-is-trans-joy]

I get that Sinon is an important and complex character, but when we’re discussing the context of Elliot Page playing him and how his character was handled in Nolan’s adaptation:

1) His character doesn’t exist in Homer’s Odyssey and was taken from Virgil’s Aeneid and given to him instead of giving him an actual character in the Odyssey. If someone were to visit the original source material, his role will not even be there.

2) He is essentially the dead wife of the plot, and is also one of the youngest characters. He haunts the narrative, which is a pretty common role given to women so as to not actually write them into the plot, but please do keep telling me that there is absolutely no transphobic or misogynistic biases towards why Elliot Page was specifically selected to play Sinon.

3) He still only gets a combined amount of about five minutes of screentime, and considering this is the most notable role he’s recieved since coming out 5+ years ago… I don’t think this is proof that transitioning has benefited his career. Every time Elliot Page is even mentioned by name, the internet goes on a horrifically transphobic crusade for months until he’s forced back into obscurity. His acting career has objectively tanked since coming out.

4) Elliot Page has already worked with Chrisopher Nolan and was given a (noteably) bigger role in Inception pre-transition. Christopher Nolan did not “wait” for Elliot Page to transition (whatever the fuck that means), the two already knew each other from previous projects.

Edit: Personally, the only real win to me is that a trans man got to play a cis man without his transness being considered an issue, but the way in which Nolan went about it felt more like throwing Elliot Page a bone while benefiting from the outrage caused by Elliot Page simply existing, and instead of celebrating the small win that trans men received, every single side of the internet decided to rip into him and either call him a mentally ill woman or a privileged man benefiting from misogyny.

[joleneghoul]

Not enough stories with disabled protags who were once independent loners and abled struggling with their new reality of relying on others. Where is the anger? . Where is your rage? Lets scream abt it. Rage rage rage.

Theres too much tip-toeing around the writing of violatile emotions for my liking when its part of the grief for your own body/ability. Grief thats mistaken for ungratefulness. Whatever.

[joleneghoul]

But that would probably require equal respect and emotional grace for disabled people that people give their caretakers so like lmao.

[joleneghoul]

Im gonna be so real i think that people are scared to show anger from disabled people bc they are scared of seeing disabled people through a lense of the average person.

They think the most saintly thing you can do is care for someone disables but don't care about the emotions the disabled person themselves feel. Once you reach a certain threshold of disability, people stop seeing you as on the same level of humanity as everyone else. So the thought of a disabled person actually having negative emotion towards this help is shocking to them.

Sympathy is handed out to those exhausted and hurt from having to care for disabled people (which is fine), but not those whom may be in the process of mourning their own bodies/ability/mind. We can show a nurse/doctor having a breakdown, have entire genres of show and movie and book revolve around it, but if a disabled person lashes out thats seen as something much crueler in the eyes of the typical viewer. Its spoken about in the same vein of a dog who bites and thus "needs to be put down".

Why? Why? One day that could be you. You are not safe from one day becoming disabled. Nobody is.

[shamebats]

My child, who spends their entire life being transfered from home to car to school and back, and is not allowed to leave the house or talk to anyone and can only in their wildest dreams imagine a life free from constant surveillance, is very sad. Obviously they're dumb and lazy, like all kids these days.

[whineandcheese24]

kind of a tangent but i recently went to a bowling alley with my friend i'm 19 he's 18 and the woman at the door didn't want to let us in because there was a sign saying under-18s needed adult supervision. everything got cleared up and we were able to go bowl, but i'm still so mad about the fact that kids need adult supervision to go to a bowling alley and arcade. like okay maybe young kids should have supervision but what do you mean middle and high schoolers need to hold mommy's hand while they play video games. kids aren't just addicted to their phones because phones are addicting, we're addicted to our phones because there's nothing else to fucking do

[shamebats]

I'm sure banning kids from online spaces while simultaneously not ensuring that they have access to offline spaces to socialize in (without having to rely on their parents who already don't have time for them) will help them feel better & less alienated from society.

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

As I said, one-and-three-quarter years ago:

If you're going to take away kids' smartphones, then give them back the streets.

[fiollaigean]

I deleted the photo for phone storage but I was at a public square kind of space in Cleveland, there were restaurants all around and a little open air market and food trucks and a local band playing. Some flower beds. Benches. a nice spot to sit, hang out, enjoy the outdoors and get some yummy food. And there was a sign saying anyone under 18 there after 4 pm. had to be accompanied by an adult. There was a posted minimum age the adult had to be. There was a posted minor-to-adult ratio. what's more, the sign explicitly made the exception for underage employees of nearby establishments, provided they were there during scheduled work hours (they'll take your labor, but won't suffer you to enjoy the fruits of it)

When I was "under 18" I had a job and friends from different parts of town and options for transportation. I volunteered at a food bank. I had an income and the desire to spend it. and I would have been told to leave if I had the audacity to go hang out in a community space without a grown up.

My parents made the point that teens often cause a Ruckus which can be unpleasant to be around. which is true but 1) adults are just as capable of being a public nuisance and 2) if they can enforce this rule, surely they can enforce rules such as "no swearing" or "no loud music" or "no roughhousing" or whatever else they're afraid will happen if a teenager goes out in public.

It's sad.

[nepenthean-sleep]

straight white people making a romance movie: haha what if it was illegal to have sex? wait what's lawrence v texas. wait what's mclaughlin v florida. wait what's loving v virginia

[ninewheels]

As preposterous and stupid as this fucking movie's premise sounded (for a light-hearted rom-com, and not The Handmaid's Tale) I didn't want to think about it too much until the movie actually came out, and then I could see if it was somehow more intelligent and subversive than the trailer let on, but guess what, it's even worse!

One Night Only review: Pull out from this sex-negative rom-com

If this is what it takes to get a rom-com greenlit these days, maybe we should just let them die.

Sex workers are thrown under the bus, shown only as thieves who fleece men in the woods at night, while queer sexuality is relegated to a few scenes with Allie’s roommate (a woefully underused Quintessa Swindell) and a handful of pans past blurry same-sex extras making out in the background. “This night is for the straights,” Swindell’s character says to Allie, before saying that queer people have worked around straight laws for centuries.  This is supposed to be a nod to queer resilience, but largely comes off as straightwashing the history of anti-LGBTQ legislation in this country that led towards raids of queer clubs and incarceration of queer people in the not-too-distant past (let alone the current barrage of anti-Trans and LGBTQ legislation currently in the works and on the books). It’s also ignorant of the long and fraught fight for the normalization of age-of-consent laws, which, by the way, did not happen in all states in this very country until 2003. Yes, that’s not even thirty years ago.  By the end, our intrepid protagonists have not had sex with anyone, because this is a film about Romance with a Capital R (and I guess sex is not part of romance!) and for that very same reason they ultimately embrace the fascist state of things. They aren’t the only ones who refuse to fight back. No one in this cursed film is protesting this mandate beyond “repeal” signs in various windows and some creative graffiti (...) (...) If we are supposed to believe that the film is making some subversive statement about the state of sex and bodily autonomy in this country, it cannot end with its leads embracing their chains. That’s just warmed-over conservatism running around in sheep’s clothing.

[nepenthean-sleep]

yeah i wrote this post having only seen the trailer, but jesus christ. was this movie a psyop LMAO??

also, for the unaware: mclaughlin v. florida was a 1964 supreme court case that struck down a florida anti-miscegenation law that criminalized cohabitation (and thus, as implied, sex) between white people and people of color of opposite genders. anti-miscegenation laws made marriage and sexual relationships between white people and people of color, most often specifically black people, a FELONY in several states in the united states up until the 1950s and 1960s. though it was already struck down by the supreme court, the state of alabama didn't repeal their law until 2000! there were THREE ATTEMPTS at codifying anti-miscegenation into the us constitution!

like yes, the issue here is partially straight white people's ignorance on the united states's history of homophobic policy, but it's also really important to recognize that arguably the majority of the issue here is straight white people's ignorance of the united states's history of codifying eugenics and antiblack racism.

the premise could have been interesting as a serious dystopian story, especially taking that history into account, but it wasn't written that way at all. this movie should never have been a fucking romcom making light of the violence the united states (and many other countries) has enacted on any kinds of sexual relationships it deems undesirable.

[nepenthean-sleep]

can y’all maybe reblog this version i feel like people are forgetting about the racism and just focusing on the homophobia

[dasloddl]

op disabled reblogs but I think the point still stands

[eepyenbyfox]

reminder that the books themselves also suck ass actually. there's an entire plotline endorsing slavery. the one character who advocates to end slavery is bullied and made fun of. the one slave who doesnt like being enslaved is bullied and treated as an outcast. the bankers are the picture of racist stereotypes of jewish people. the one asian character is named fckn Cho Chang. the worldbuilding SUCKS. fuck harry potter and fuck rowling. stop giving her your money.

[elveny]

If your business can only be reached and all info about it only be accessed via Facebook or Instagram, know that it isn’t reachable or accessible AT ALL.

The whole metaverse can no longer be properly viewed without an account and I am definitely not making one just to see your contact info or opening hours.

Get a fucking WEBSITE. It can be just a static landing page with the relevant information. But get off the metaverse!

[maggieithink-06]

the double edged sword of women’s sports needing sponsors to survive and continue but also ending up having to perform traditional femininity and beauty standards because of those sponsors

[marigoldrouge]

being an athletic prodigy is a marketable quality on its own only if you’re a man. but not only do women have to be ten times more talented than men, they’ve also got to be pretty to be marketable. and marketability is everything in this sport. maya (and all these women) deserve so much better.

[captainstarburst]

anyone who uses the r slur at this point needs to just be recognized as a hateful bigot and we cant be quiet about it anymore. genuinely. get mad at people for this. point it out and be annoying about it. no you cant reclaim it you just want an excuse to be bigoted

[teddy-jam]

I’ve worked in the I/DD field for almost 20 years (in the US) and in those 20 years there has been a seismic shift away from the use of that slur. When I first started, my job title was a set of initials that contained the slur but in 2010, when Rosa’s Law was signed, it mandated that the slur stop being used in regulations and other related documents. Because back in 2010, it was recognized just how harmful that word is for people with intellectual disabilities.

If you’re using the term in 2026, it’s time for some serious self reflection.