almost home
No title available
PUT YOUR BEARD IN MY MOUTH
No title available
❣ Chile in a Photography ❣
Alisa U Zemlji Chuda
Claire Keane
No title available
izzy's playlists!
shark vs the universe
will byers stan first human second
Sweet Seals For You, Always
styofa doing anything
JVL
h
noise dept.
Cosmic Funnies
Cosimo Galluzzi
$LAYYYTER
Peter Solarz
seen from Türkiye
seen from Malaysia
seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from Malaysia
seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from Hong Kong SAR China
seen from Singapore
seen from Germany
seen from Australia
seen from Malaysia
seen from Türkiye
seen from Türkiye
seen from Malaysia
seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from Germany
seen from Brazil
seen from Australia
@pinkhaterade
Body image discussion stuff.
Yes! Your body is normal! Colors and tones and lines and wrinkles are normal and not failures.
The biggest grift i ever heard was that laugh lines were bad. LAUGH lines! The marks you get from being fucking happy and laughing and enjoying life! They're not only normal, they're fucking beautiful and a sign of a life well lived.
i'll be honest it gets kind of annoying when ppls immediate canned response to an m/f ship is "she deserves better" because over half the people who say that then proceed to hyperfocus on some yaoi with the man involved and never give the woman a second glance. forgive me but i think she deserves better than being girlbossed off screen and never mentioned again
*feministly*: women should never be centered in stories because Bad Stuff™ might happen to them
Hating how Nolan's Odyssey looks on the basis of being into Classics, but chuds have made it a culture war thing, so now I'm fighting for my life arguing that the issue isn't that Nolan cast trans and black people as gods and heroes, it's that he cast those people and then put them in dogshit costumes
its interesting to me how peoples desperation to delegitimize anything they dont agree with by implying its christian in nature has resulted in people saying things like hating pedophiles, having feminist or anti-racist beliefs, or Not Supporting Sex Traffickers are all inherently rooted in christian ideology. which is incorrect to an almost unfathomable degree
I actually do think we should discourage women from becoming housewives. Do not become financially dependent on a man. That's how a lot of women ended up dead over the years. A man gets violent suddenly and you have to choose between homelessness or potentially dying at his hand because you have an enormous gap in your resume and no degrees or certifications or anything that will help you pursue a career that will allow you to be financially independent. He owns your bank account. His name is probably the one on the car. Try and leave and he can report it stolen. Where will you go then?
Don't become a housewife.
And if you do become a housewife, take steps to protect yourself. Make sure you’re legally married, for starters; stay-at-home girlfriends have very little legal recourse to claim their partner’s assets in a breakup. Make sure your name is on the house deed/rental agreement, and have your car in your name, even if your spouse is paying for it. Have your spouse transfer money every month into an account solely in your name, so you can buy yourself things without needing permission, but also so you can save up to leave if needed.
If your spouse fights you on any of this, then don’t quit your job. The tradwife to poverty pipeline is real, and so is financial abuse.
this is also why universal basic income is inherently a feminist issue. like i actually do think people should be able to choose to be a stay at home parent or whatever but until there are meaningful social safety nets so that leaving an abusive spouse after being a housewife for an extended period of time is financially feasible for the majority of women who make that choice, yeah we should be making sure that more people are fully aware of what they're getting into when they make that choice.
like my parents relationship was abusive and my mom was a stay at home for 20+ years and when she did want to leave it took her literally years of planning to be and to actually get out. because yeah, dad owned the car, he owned the house, his name was on the bank accounts, he was financially abusive.
but the fact that she was even in that situation in the first place is because of a whole lot of societal failings.
i dont think fandom people who only think about male characters and only create content for male characters are like horrible misogynists but i do think they often have some shit they need to unpack. like how can you , for example, play life is strange and the only thing you come away with from that is you want nathan and warren to fuck nasty. how can you watch birds of prey, and the only thing you come away with from that is you want roman and victor to fuck nasty......... like idk! idk! i just find it strange especially when people will engage with media Specifically about women and then put no effort in to empathize or care about them, sometimes even going far enough to say they HATE the female characters and that theyre bitches... IDK!!!!
"Capitalism is temporary. Dykes are forever"
Seen in NYC
Saw several people angrily responding to this one & all I can say is she’s 100% right
It’s really funny when people who enjoy content that’s easy consume think they’re somehow oppressed for this preference even tho the entire entertainment industry caters to it
You’re not oppressed for reading mediocre romance books that can be found on the “As seen on Booktok” table ar Barnes and Nobles or enjoying MCU movies. You’re actually the core audience that keeps these million dollar monopolies afloat.
I wanna live in the world where these people are actually oppressed lmao. Imagine going to the movie theater and there’s like a tons of thoughtful mid-budget movies made and all the romance novels at the bookstore contain intricate narratives and complex characters. Come on now
Some guy says he likes MCU movies and he instantly gets beaten to death by a gang of pretentious snobs that roam the streets like wild animals
i can’t believe i’ve been around long enough to even say this but i feel like some people aren’t old enough to realize just how important the way general wicked press played out by the cast + crew along with the films themselves are to the general sapphic community.. or the parts of our community that care about media, at least
and you can call this absurd all you want, but you won’t be able to convince me that something as big as fucking WICKED being promoted—and literally shot as—a love story between two women, downplaying the role of the male love interest, with jon chu fighting universal tooth and nail to keep integral, and some of the gayest, scenes and moments between glinda and elphaba, and having the co-lead, who just so happens to one of the biggest pop stars in the world, calling glinda a lesbian on social media every chance she gets while trying her best to sneak glinda’s queerness into conversations despite the obvious gag order is not a HUGE thing
not in my world.
not in the world that’s lived through clexa, swanqueen, supercorp, the abrupt dismissal of primetime television’s first and longest running lesbian (arizona robbins) just to be replaced with a gay man, and multiple canceled sapphic centered shows just within the last decade.
it’s not the pinnacle of sapphic media by ANY means—it’s not even allowed to be explicitly canon or talked about—but if you have even a sliver of knowledge about the historical treatment of sapphic media then you know that this was a big deal for us.
we get a sliver of smth good for ONCE and yet it’s downplayed, its actresses dragged through a misogynistic and racist smear campaign while the men of an underground gay show get uplifted and receive endless praise by the general public but what’s new
the playbook never changes
the academy as a whole is just completely unserious to me like if ur gonna sit here and say the reason why u didn’t nominate wicked for good was because u were “creeped out” by a black woman showing care and love and concern for her friend instead of just saying u didn’t like their performances in the film, ur words immediately hold no merit for me like ur just being racist n misogynistic n it’s disgusting that those voters even felt comfortable admitting something like that
The thing is I don’t think people should stop watching heated rivalry because as a gay wasian woman myself I’d rather gay wasians and women have some walking around money than other people who could have it on a purely economic basis…however you must be engaging with it aware that it’s currently being actively weaponized to promote misogyny. And it’s being consumed and talked about in a way that exposes the deeply entrenched nature of both misogyny AND lesbophobia/homophobia targeted at women. if you’re not watching it with the sort of split minded self awareness that you have to adopt when listening to a lana song or watching bridgerton then you are my enemy
it’s interesting how upset some people have gotten over negative things like homophobia and fatphobia being present in my writing. unfortunately I’ve had a life where those have been huge, shaping factors, and I like to talk about it. I was deeply anorexic for a number of years, and have had friendships and familial relationships deteriorate because of my queerness. being able to say “hey, this exists and it really, really sucks, now watch the fatphobic person get punched by a dragon” is kinda just what works for me, personally. I have a lot of feelings with nowhere else to put them, so my writing is always going to cater to my own catharsis.
I also want to push back against the idea that you can depict negative things like bigotry, so long as you also depict it being punished. there’s no Hays Code, and your story shouldn't have to be a children's fable with a moral lesson.
there's another book I've written that draws a lot from my own life (including verbatim conversations), and in it, not all the people with -isms get punished. some go on to live happy fulfilled lives, unaware of the damage they've sown, because that's often how it goes in real life. you're aware of the damage because you're inside the main character's head, and can you see how they've been affected, but that's it. no bigots getting punched by dragons this time. just one person learning how to live in a flawed society.
i think the problem with bridgerton is that it wants to have its cake and eat it too. it wants to be woke and progressive, eliminating racism and including queer characters, but it doesn't want to break faith with with the world's (and genre's) misogyny, which makes up the central thrust for why any of these romances are even happening. in doing so, it shows itself to be deeply hypocritical in the way it approaches different topics, which is how we can have an upcoming lesbian romance at the same time we're forcing a woman who's never wanted to marry, and who once dreamed of going to college, to become a wife and mother despite four seasons of protestations
the argument that women read m/m as a way of escaping misogyny in romance fiction becomes a ridiculously flimsy one when you consider how many m/m stories include a woman side character for the sole purpose of being misogynistic towards her
like I'm not even fully disagreeing that this can be a reason that women like m/m fiction, but how many m/m stories have you read where the relationship is implicitly threatened by a woman being attracted to one of the leads? or one that treats all prior female romantic/sexual entanglements as shallow and disposable once a man meets his True Real Love Who Is A Man? it's stupidly common.
tbh in my eyes this kind of thing is inexcusably pathetic like it's not cute it's not funny it's not forgivable it's misogyny plain & simple. if you can't connect with female characters as full people with thoughts & emotions you're a loser & i have no respect for you #notsorry
