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Tried out my outfit and did a practice run of my makeup today~
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Also! If you can spare some dollars, we are fundraising with a goal of $750 to make sure all our performers get paid for their hard work! As a disabled drag queen, it can be extra tough to get out and perform. You'd be supporting small performers like me and keeping the GMU drag scene alive!
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March 24, 2023, at 2:07 p.m. PORTLAND, Ore. (AP) — Walter C. Cole, better known as the iconic drag queen who performed for decades as Darcelle XV, has died of natural causes in Portland, Oregon.
ive tried to verbalize this time and time again and i never rlly get there but as a femme lesbian i have a rlly hard time connecting with femenine straight women i dont know what the fuck they r talking about ever and they have always known (since i was a small child) that i was weird and other. INSTEAD i feel as if i can read the mind of fem gay men literally dyke2fag mental communication it is real and exist and im Tuned In i want to be an old queen when i grow up bc they r the only ones that get it
elizabeth marston for persitance: all ways butch and femme
That’s it. Wow Elizabeth really just ripped me straight open there.
i hope black nonbinary ppl have a good day
i hope black nonbinary ppl kno we are worthy of care and gentleness and respect
Mo B. Dick, a founding father of the modern-day Drag King movement. 1990s
respect no op/no med trans people or die by my fucking sword b
and if you misgender no op/no med nonbinary people or call them ‘attention seeking cis people’ im stealing something from your fucking house
one day some of you will actually go outside and go to pride and you’re going to meet old black queens who refers to themselves as femme, you’ll meet people from small towns who still use the word transsexual, you’ll see that your local activist organization set up a stall about your local LGBT history that includes leather bar’s history, you’ll see lesbians in groups refer to themselves as “guys” and “boys”, you’ll see someone with breasts and pasties and little else have “he / him” painted on his chest, and you’ll be so caught up with your terminally online attitude that instead of appreciating the wide diversity of people who exist in the LGBT community who are brave enough to share themselves you’ll just be formulating posts and tweets in your head for when get home about how “problematic” it all was and it’s honestly tragic
Once, back when I worked in an LGBTQIA dungeon, I encountered a significantly older person who remarked to me that they hadn’t been to “this type of place” in decades. They struck up a conversation with me and told me how amazing it was to see an openly transexual youth such as myself. I asked them about their experiences with gender and they said “oh, well, I’m a bit male and a bit female. Men’s and women’s clothes, sometimes makeup in a suit, sometime fresh faced in a dress when I’m at home. You know, bisexual” Obv this puzzled me at first until I realized this person was using bisexual in a very, very, literal and old fashioned sense, as in, dual-sexed. Non-binary.
Y’all gotta understand there are generation gaps in the language we use and you open yourself up to a LOT of very interesting stories if you stop blocking off the past.
One of the biggest problems with modern community is the idea that (white) western, post 2000s LGBT vocabulary is the only correct way to speak about sexuality and gender.
Like the freak outs under pictures of protests from the 70s-90s because signs and shirts say faggot and dyke and queer, as if these words weren’t a key part of identity and activism.
Beyond just English, I saw a couple people making fun of the term “gender x” in an anime…but why would a Japanese production adhere to English standards?
Or the way people talk about pronouns as if every language uses pronouns the same way as English.
It’s just…it indicates a mindset that these words are objective and written in stone and western youth culture is always the most correct in a way that…feels icky. Diversity in people includes diversity of language.
just saw a post where someone put “detrans dni” and like… hey we should be supporting detransitioned people bc if we don’t terfs will
sometimes you’re wrong about your identity and that’s ok like i used to think i was bi but it turns out i was wrong and i know ppl who thought they were trans but it turns out they were wrong and it should be ok and accepted that sometimes people don’t get it right on the first try
@shadowknight1224 this is an excellent way of putting it thank you
This touches on something I have felt for a long time, which is that one of the reasons rigid queer labels and gatekeeping is so dangerous is because if you want to encourage people to explore their gender/sexuality, there has to be a safe "Actually I was wrong" option.
I went through so very much anxiety coming out, and when I really think about it it was squarely from the fear of being wrong about it all. That I was, at heart, a cishet woman, and therefore I was appropriating a label that didn't 'belong' to me, and I would (somehow) be harming other people by doing so. There's so much more unnecessary pressure if the sword hanging over your head is "But you do have to be right about this, you can't back out once you've even asked the question."
I think that is Bad. I think it makes fewer people ask the question. I think that includes those who need to ask, and would be much happier for it.
to summarize: one of the things the Q stands for is QUESTIONING
and that is as it should be
I’d like to also submit the possibility that some people may be more prone to shifts in their gender identity than others, and that it’s not necessarily even a case of being “wrong,” so much as it’s a case of just changing over time. I know the predominant narrative we see in discourse is that a person who transitions was never their agab—and I’m sure that’s true for a lot of people! But… it’s not true everyone? I remember reading an interview with Danny Lavery after he came out, and he said something along the lines of “One day, I went to bed a woman and woke up not a woman anymore.” So if a person can change once, who’s to say that can’t change again? For example, I know Eddie Izzard (whose labels have shifted a lot over the decades, as terminology and options for gender identities identity have changed many times over since the 1980s) has said she goes through long block periods of being a particular gender, so right now she’s “based in girl mode,” (her words) but she’s previously had blocks of time being based in “boy mode,” too. So like, whose to say other people don’t have block periods like that? Maybe somebody really was non-binary for ten years and now they’re not anymore, y’know? Not feeling something about yourself forever doesn’t have to mean you were wrong the whole time. Of course, being wrong is okay too! But I’d make room for both.
i LOVE this addition, especially because it helps us move away from the "ive always known" narrative that dominates so much trans space. sometimes your gender literally changes, and it's not helpful or healthy of us to act like that means everything that came before was false or mistaken.
So I'm thinking about why it is I really dont care for the "shapeshifter who's technically genderfluid" character archetype and I realized like... obviously not all characters fit this description, but so often, the way that they're genderfluid is that their gender and pronouns will match whatever cis person their body currently resembles.
And that's kinda the most cis way you can write a genderfluid person, isn't it? Like, if someone's pronouns are she/her when she has a soft face and breasts and wide hips, and he/him when he has 5 o'clock shadow and broad shoulders and a bulge, that's on some level trans, but it also comfortably fits into the paradigm of bioessentialism. And then a well-meaning cis person sees a character with inconsistent pronouns and excitedly tells their trans friend (me) about them.
I almost feel like a shapeshifter with consistent pronouns who swaps between a masc or fem body (or, heaven forbid, mixes those traits), not just to trick people but as part of their day to day life, would be better rep. Imagine Mystique turning into Beast and chilling out on the couch but still being she/her'd. That would represent me more, I think, than a character who's he/him when cis people read him as a man and she/her when cis people read her as a woman.
Here is a little comic I made about some thoughts I’ve been having recently. I don’t ID as transmasc, and I have noticed that since I’m nonbinary and AFAB, some people in queer circles (online and irl) label me as transmasc! This has increased since I started T. Much love to my transmasc siblings, but I don’t identify with that term, and it misgenders me.
I figured if there’s not a lot of acknowledgement or discussion about non-transmasc and non-transfem people who physically transition, I can make some myself :)
hi, the artist here, for some reason this actually made me tear up. thank you <3
Today the Washington Post tracked down my little brother’s personal cell phone number because my mom is the president of an organization that supports families of transgender kids.
Yesterday (Feb 9 2023) my home state, Missouri, announced a government investigation into organizations providing care and support for transgender kids.
This is after an administrator at Washington University’s Pediatric Transgender Center came out in a now-viral article about how the Transgender Center was “rushing” trans kids into care and “mutilating” us. She gave away the personal information of many of my trans loved ones who, like me, received care from the center, and she described our bodies as horrifying. Everything she said was a lie.
No goddamn trans person is “rushed” into medical care, especially not trans minors in states controlled by far-right politicians. No one gets medical care for funsies in the only industrialized country without free healthcare.
I received care through this transgender center as a minor and it took over a year and countless doctor’s notes and visits to begin any sort of medical treatment. You can hear this same story from any trans person, especially — AGAIN — minors in Republican-controlled states. I had to see fertility doctors at 16 years old who tried to convince me not to go on T.
My mom, because she’s amazing, joined a support group when I came out. She is now the president. She had to alert the police yesterday after journalists kept coming TO HER HOUSE.
I finally got a call from a Washington Post journalist today to interview me, an actual trans person who received care from the Pediatric Transgender Center. She spoke with me for only 20 minutes and didn’t know the most basic facts about being trans. No doubt my words will be published in a ridiculous thought piece that only adds to the oppression of trans minors.
My medical transition has brought me nothing but joy. I was simply lucky to begin it at 17.
I am so scared. Trans people will be eliminated in the US as this progresses. This is not just a “red state” issue, either. Please extend compassion to your trans siblings and keep up with the trans eliminationist legislation and actions throughout the US.
Transphobes do not touch this post.
Me: yep
Me: sees trans man not binding and one in a dress
Me : nope!
You didn’t have to draw a trans man with boobs sis, thanks for the dysphoria babeey
if u get dysphoric when u see a boob that’s understandable but its also your problem to deal with n u don’t get to shame other trans dudes for drawing people like them with visible breasts. as much as it sucks, most trans men do have non flat chests and it’s not a bad thing to draw trans men with breasts (unless ur sexualising them, or ur drawing a real life trans man who’s dysphoric about his chest).
also u can’t have a go at op for drawing a trans man without a binder bc it makes u dysphoric n then call him sis. dont be a fuckin hypocrite dude.
anyways good post op
some trans men can’t bind for medical reasons. some don’t prefer to bind bc it’s uncomfortable, and hot, and sweaty!!! some trans men arent that bothered by chest dysphoria!
trans people are not required to attempt conformity to be valid in their identity. no one is required to try and “look cis”. that’s your own shit to deal with.
Thank you for drawing trans men who aren’t binding and who wear feminine clothes, OP, seeing trans people like myself really helps with my dysphoria
I can’t bind because of my severe asthma and pain in my ribs from fibromyalgia. So seeing trans men who aren’t binding really helps my crippling dysphoria. Thanks op (also disabled trans men aaaaaah! 💖)
Also some trans men cant afford a binder, or are closeted, or itt isnt safe where they live to bind, binding isnt a necessity v
Also trans men, just like cis men, are allowed to wear dresses.
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As a bisexual person, it makes me happy you saw a "straight" relationship and decided it's inherently queer. Genuinely people need to understand that m/f couples can still be queer couples.
hell yeah mate!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! as a fellow bisexual i also know that m/f couples can be queer and its a shame folks don't wanna accept that. i know like three couples in my close circles that fit the bi m/f couple and they're as queer as my buddy who's a polyamorous nonbinary person
My husband and I are in a queer relationship
He is a straight man but I am a pan-ace gnc woman
There is nothing cishet about our relationship and we're also polyamorous (tho at this time it is just the two of us)
So like. Yeah. Just affirming what's been said here. M/f relationships can absolutely be queer. You can't just assume a hetero-looking couple must be 100% straight
Also, saying m/f relationships can't be queer is kind of ignoring trans peoples' existences; like my sibling is in a m/f relationship, but they're both non-binary [but most people don't see that from a first glance, which is why it's important to remember there's no one way to be/look queer].
Right, so, at that point it isn't a ban on trans youth anymore when it targets adults. Now it's just trans healthcare bans period no qualifier
Also, literally every trans person told y'all this was going to happen. We absolutely said it was going to start with "but think of the children!" and then they were going to come after trans adults, and y'all fucking fell for it! Amazing! Thanks for fucking us over!
They will just keep pushing that age further and further up until it's totally (or at least functionally) banned.
Shout out to gnc genderfluid people
To genderfluid people who present very masculine when they're a girl
To genderfluid people who present very feminine when they're a guy
To genderfluid people who don't present androgynous when their gender isn't aligned
To genderfluid people whose gender is partially static too, so they present as what is gnc for that gender
To genderfluid people whose gender is heavily fluid so what's gnc for their gender changes regularly
Just. Shout out to gnc genderfluid people of all kinds
