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It’s crazy and fucked up that being yourself is actually the solution.

It’s like. When I was told to “just be yourself” as a kid I thought it was a passive thing. Like oh easy I just have to sit here and be myself. but the reason so many people think that “being yourself” is bullshit advice is because you actually have to make active choices to do this and it WILL make your life way more fun. You have to wear t-shirts of bands that were popular ten years ago because you like them. You have to do your hair in a way that you find cute or comfortable even if it’s “so nineties”. If your friend says a food you enjoy is gross to them, you can’t be afraid to admit you casually disagree. You have to do hobbies that you’re interested in even if you’re bad at them and you cant feel like you have to get good at something before you tell people it’s an activity you do. You have to read manga and comic books in public and get piercings your relatives think are unattractive. You don’t have to tell people you dislike that you dislike them, but you don’t have to give them your time and attention either. You have to rewatch that kids show you’re nostalgic for even if you’re in your 30s. You have to change your name if you hate it, even if only a few close friends can know. You have to get fun girly drinks at the bar. You have to order hot chocolate when you don’t like coffee and black coffee when you don’t like sweet things. I am still bad at practicing this but it is the only way to make it all tolerable.

lierdumoa

First you have to realize that "yourself" is a construct built by the decisions you make. Then it becomes clear that being yourself is a deliberate and intentional practice, not a passive state of existence.

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CONfabulation 2018

With CONfabulation almost two months away, it’s time to go get your tickets if you haven’t already! If you’re just now hearing about CONfabulation, welcome! Hopefully this will answer a few of your questions! (our full FAQ can be found here). Even if you can’t attend, please reblog this post so we can spread the word!

What is CONfabulation?

In the simplest of terms, CONfabulation is a long-weekend where people from fandom come together to talk about the things they love best.

To elaborate, CONfabulation is a fan convention run by the same people who brought you Wincon for 10 great years. Wincon started out as Winchestercon in 2006, a Supernatural (the television show) fan con. The final Wincon was held in Pittsburgh in 2016 and had evolved into a multi-fandom convention that altered its location every year.

CONfabulation is a celebration of fandom with panels and structured events. We are the internet in all its glory, come to life. We are a place to get together with old friends, discover new ones, and talk about everything that makes us squee.

Does CONfabulation host any actors, celebrities, or other special guests?

No official personnel from any fandom is affiliated with this convention, nor will there be any appearances by any show actors, celebrities, writers, or other personnel. It’s all about us, the fans, and the way we express ourselves and our love for fandom.

Where/When is CONfabulation this year?

CONfabulation will take place from October 25-28, 2018 in Chicago, IL.

If you have any other questions, please email us at [email protected]!

pryxis

Having been to this con last year, I highly recommend attending; it was a total blast!

#cons #come and hang out with fangirls for a weekend

nochuie

two cuties

#taehyung #and dogs #bts

minyoongihoseok

💕

#i love a man #min yoongi #bts

pjm10

#look at this baby #jeon jungkook #bts

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bangtan exposing yoongi

#i love a man #min yoongi #bts

dar-draws

Don’t be scared. I’m a shapeshifter too!

monoreel

quiet actions speak loud words

#bts #jungkook #the baby

nullversed

DO YOU SEE THIS SHIT RIGHT NOW GUYS?? F I V E PARTY MEMBERS

thelocalmuffin

More people Donald won’t fucking heal

beui

a fitting self-intro

#you are the biggest dork #bts

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and if you turn to ur left you’ll see the emos

rnyselfie

is that my chemical romance?

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OH MY GOD not every group of emos is my chemical romance stfu tumblr

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but it actually is my chemical romance

losered

this is the funniest fuckibg thing I’ve ever seen

hillbilly---man

I feel like I should make a post about this because it’s not something that’s very well-known, and that Americans in particular may need to know about given the uncertain state of our healthcare system at the moment. I’ve wanted to write this out for a while, It’s kind of a long post, so sorry about that!

If you have an emergency and have to go to the hospital, you’ll owe the hospital a lot of money. (I got into a car wreck and broke my ankle and my arm. My hospital bill was around $20,000)

You’ll also owe the ambulance provider, if you need one. (My ambulance bill was about $800)

You may get separate bills from the anesthesiologist or surgeon. (My anesthesiologist bill was $1,700)

You may need follow-up appointments. (My orthopedic surgeon billed me for the appointments and his surgery together and it was about $1,000)

You’ve also got to pay for medical equipment you need afterward, like crutches or a walking boot. (Mine cost about $75)

Altogether, I ended up with almost $24,000 in medical debt from one car accident. That’s a really scary number for someone like me who makes $10/hr at a 12 hour a week job.

I got my debt down to $1075 by making some phone calls and submitting some paperwork.

The first thing I did was contact the hospital. They don’t make it easy to find, but many hospitals (perhaps most hospitals?) have financial assistance programs for people who can’t afford medical bills. I don’t make a lot of money, and I have bills to pay, so they were able to help me. I called the billing department and asked if they had any assistance programs for low income people who can’t pay their bills. I had to call multiple times, and I got transferred in circles by people who didn’t know what I was talking about. Finally, I got an appointment with someone in “Eligibility Services” (I don’t know what other hospitals call it, if it’s something different). I had to bring my pay stubs and copies of all of my bills. When I got to the hospital for the appointment, nobody knew what I was talking about so I had to wander a little to find where I needed to go. I spoke with the guy in Eligibility Services, and I waited for a decision on how much of the bill they would forgive. A month later, I got a call telling me it was totally forgiven.

I did the same thing for my ambulance bill and my anesthesiologist, but the process was a LOT easier. I just had to mail some paperwork and it was totally forgiven.

I didn’t bother with the medical equipment suppliers, since the bills came from separate companies and I didn’t feel like going through the process twice for $75. I was assured at the hospital that they had similar programs for debt forgiveness, so I could have probably avoided paying that too.

The only thing I couldn’t get taken care of was the surgeon/follow-up appointment cost, but they were able to put me on a no-interest payment plan.

Medical debt is scary because it’s something that can come from stuff that’s already really scary. I didn’t need the burden of $24,000 in debt on top of trying to get around on a crutch with a broken arm (it’s not easy, believe me!).. but I can’t imagine what it would be like with a bigger debt or a more severe medical emergency. I see lots of people in even worse trouble than I was in, both financially and medically. Please know that there are options for you when that GoFundMe doesn’t do enough. Even if your income is higher than mine, it’s worth a shot even for partial debt forgiveness.