have me & my 50 cents escaped homelessness yet?

if you're here 'cause i followed, this is just my messy non-fandom main. Freak. 20s. Hated by humans; hates humans in return. HATES SHITBEASTS EVEN MORE.

[purpleprosaist]

@redportrait

you can always reach out to it

it won't reach out to you

[grapefruitsspite]

Genuine and honest question!:

How is a history of unstable relationships automatically assumed to be my fault or a symptom of a disorder? People suck. People are assholes. People will hurt you. Instability will happen very often in life as a result of just being around and interacting with other people. You are experiencing everyone's individual unique person-hood. You cant hold hands and sing songs with everyone you meet, that's an unrealistic standard. Finding people that match you is difficult as fuck on its own and even worse if you are marginalized in any way. Attaching to those who you match and feeling very intensely about it is just logical if you have been hurt so many times by those who you don't match. I know I'm not alone, everyone I'm around has been through this, they experience this. i don't think I've ever befriended anyone who has not had a long history of unstable relationships!

[entirelyfiller]

It should be known as an insult (the "go to therapy get professional help" comments)

It should be known as an insult it should not be "destigmatized" because the only thing "destigmatizing" mental services does is let people pretend they're genuinely concerned about your wellbeing while they insult you.

Because they're not being hurtful they would never be hurtful they're only compassionately reccomending therapy, it would be hurtful of you to reject their noble attempts to help you and you don't want to be mean, right? :)

An insult is infinitely more hurtful and demeaning when it's veiled as genuine concern.

[cosmiccomrade]

obviously if you hurt someone you should try to make up for it, but I feel like too often this responsibility to make good falls on mentally ill people. You have to make sure you express your feelings in a way that makes everyone else happy. You can never be upset with someone for how they treated you and made you feel because supposedly everything you feel is irrational. You have to apologise for every mistake and small wrongdoing all the while they will never apologise to you.

neurotypical people (ie people with no mental illnesses, developmental conditions or brain injuries, or anything else that makes your brain ‘abnormal’ in the eyes of society) bitch about being manipulated by mentally ill people but the same neurotypical people are the ones manipulating mentally ill people. In fact it’s systematic manipulation on a global scale.

Yet we are the ones that must always be accountable for our actions.

[fenrichaita]

There isn't a significant difference between how a person who is wrong or delusional is treated by psychiatry, and a person who is correct or who is accurately describing their situation is treated.

There isn't a significant difference between the way a person who is catastrophizing is treated by psychiatry, and the way a person with reasonable concerns about their situation is treated.

There isn't a significant difference between the way a liar is treated by psychiatry, and the way someone who is telling the truth is treated by psychiatry.

There isn't a significant difference between the way someone who is having a disproportionately intense reaction to something is treated by psychiatry, and the way someone who is having a reasonable, common, and/or expected reaction to a difficult situation is treated.

The fact that psychiatry assumes that the patient is always wrong or mistaken means that it is overall disinterested in the truth and actual facts of practically any situation. It does not matter to them and once the psychiatric professional decides what your situation is, you cannot reason them out of it.

[aere1s]

No amount of 'cognitive behaviour therapy' will fix the hell I live in. It's always seen as a mindset and never the fact I have no autonomy.

[entirelyfiller]

my interactions with psychiatry and mental health systems have felt like if i had someone blaring an airhorn in my ear constantly for 5 hours a day and i was at risk of slowly going deaf. my attempts to stop the person from blowing the airhorn in my ear would be considered irrational and a disease. because the answer is not to stop the air horn. it's just to give in and go deaf because your irrational attachment to preserving your ability to hear things sounds like a problem and a disruption to your life and you should go to a doctor so you stop feeling this strange desire to stop one of your 5 senses that you use every day from being irreversibly damaged

[overclockedopossum]

Understanding the difference between "learned helplessness" (a form of trauma/disability inflicted when outcomes are disconnected from actions) and "weaponised incompetence" (intentionally doing things badly having decided that you don't want to be asked to do them) is all very well but it's not gonna stop ableists from using the latter to DARVO disabled partners.

[overclockedopossum]

I kinda like when I make a post that's overly specific about something and poorly worded because when I get people in the notes pointing it out I'm just like "yep, that's fair". I'm glad just the OP has been circulating on its own because I added something in a reblog about being able to tell by how people respond to being offered support but that made WAY too many assumptions.

I had a very specific scenario in my head but this is absolutely applicable to ableist abuse of people other than partners.

Several people have mentioned in tags that it's happened to them, which I'm really sorry to hear about and I hope it helps in some tiny way to know a random british guy took one look at these concepts and went "this would still be weaponised by an abuser tho"

[purpleprosaist]

i hear you! and thank you. i only meant my tags as an addendum, not a correction, for full clarity. wouldn't have reblogged the post if i didn't agree with it all on its own

[overclockedopossum]

Understanding the difference between "learned helplessness" (a form of trauma/disability inflicted when outcomes are disconnected from actions) and "weaponised incompetence" (intentionally doing things badly having decided that you don't want to be asked to do them) is all very well but it's not gonna stop ableists from using the latter to DARVO disabled partners.

[kumkaniudaku]

And then you can’t even say shit about bc people start trying to put you in a jacket and shit. Like omg it’s so strict???

[lycanr0t]

I can't fully form an in depth thought on this at the moment, but the concept that if you're aplatonic and nonfriending you MUST disclose that to others ASAP or you're the asshole when THEY decide with 0 discussion that you're their friend, I believe at its core, is aphobia.

[this-is-alovephobia]

the idea that love will be the thing that stops me from being suicidal. no i think more not constantly living in fear of a painful death due to politics may help more but whatever non-suis dont care to listen to us. its always something love related whether romance or pets or family or friends or whatever.

This is because of alovephobia and lovenormavity!

[purpleprosaist]

vattam, taminka ma sikipie. vattam, atenvikie saten.

[callahan----callahan-again]

a pattern ive noticed

[iamgoingtobeatyouwithhammers]

why is all mental health advice "just go to therapy!". like. ffs. no?? i am not??? i don't want to be used for personal gain by a manipulator again??? have you considered that i don't want to go to the torture prison???

like. people. i HAVE been drugged against my will several times. and i don't want it to happen again. neither do i want to be imprisoned for the rest of my life for a thoughtcrime. and i DEFINITELY don't want to be at the whim of a fucking asshole and several substances just to feel subhuman and hopeless.

[purpleprosaist]

What advice would you give me about love if you are a therapist

i would never join such an abusive field and still be me, so, no advice can occur from an impossible scenario! you are asking an alove and anti-psych thing an impossible question

always remember that no one is the authority of your own mind but yourself, and any job that legally requires one to ship off the most vulnerable people to the assault and torture factory is a job that only evil, dangerous people join

i don't know anything about love. like a therapist, i have no authority to be giving any love advice, but in my case it's because i don't personally experience it, not because i want to manipulate how someone thinks so as to ensure they're normie enough as per bastards' requirements. all i CAN say, as me, the furthest thing from a therapist in the world, is to remember that everyone has a variety of experiences, and that's all right. that alove beings exist and are as valid and worthy of being respected as the authority on their own personal experiences as allolove beings. cheers

[psychabolition]

The problem with "but the psych ward saved my life!!" argument is that it's factually untrue.

You can't even be admitted to the psych ward until you're out of critical condition, because--and this is crucial--psych wards are not places of healing.

Psych wards do not have the appropriate equipment, technology, staff, or training to administer life-saving medical care. They are not equipped to perform life-saving procedures like emergency surgeries, pumping someone's stomach, etc..

Even for psych wards that exist within "normal" hospitals, an inmate would need to be transferred to a different section of the hospital in order to receive that life-saving care.

The psych ward exists exclusively as a method of incarcerating "problematic" people and torturing them into submission.

Even if you claim that you weren't personally traumatized by your psychiatric incarceration, research shows that psychiatric incarceration drastically increases long-term suicide risk. Which certainly seems to indicate that the vast majority of people who experience psychiatric incarceration are traumatized, or at the very least, had a negative experience!!

So it's just a really, really bizarre thing to claim that the psych ward is a "necessary evil" because it "saves lives" (implying that everyone who's had their life torn apart by it needs to shut up and suffer in silence).

1.) that's simply not true

2.) who the fuck gave you the right to silence the rest of us psychiatric survivors just because you're complacent with having your own human rights violated?