death to sex-based oppression

19F | bisexual | black | Rad leaning but not trans-exclusionary. 

[radobserver]

Muscular women have my heart... like, I’m legitimately in the mood to just caress some girl’s back so I can feel that muscle tone. I wanna feel strong arms embrace me. 

[bauliya]

no but the fact poc in usa go to jail and have their children taken away for even trace amounts of weed and here is johnny depp openly admitting to doing coke while being parent in a televised hearing and having nothing but massive support from every corner is just breathtakingly racist.

[bauliya]

it's fucking insane how the very same people completely ok with calling the cops on homeless people because they may be "junkies" have the most abolitionist radical left views about drugs and addiction when it's about their fave rich white man

[entomologistologist]

the whole anti-makeup thing on tumblr (I don’t know what they call themselves; it’s not hating on makeup but hating on the idea that makeup should be a mandatory standard) is pretty cool but, as someone who doesn’t wear makeup, it seems to completely miss a huge point…

you don’t need to wear makeup. no one makes you. it’s socially expected that women “should” wear makeup, but it is NOT socially required. you can just…….. not wear makeup. you don’t need to get special permission from anyone. unless you have a job that requires it as dress code (which I agree is bad!) just…… don’t do it, and if anyone suggests you should start wearing makeup, politely say no thanks. like I can’t PROMISE that no one will be mean to you over it, but… no one’s ever been mean to me about it. I guess in Korea or someplace like that, the pressure is way worse, so I can only speak as an American, but……………………

if you don’t want to wear makeup. don’t. the fashion police won’t pop out of nowhere and beat you with their fabulous batons. the vast majority of people you encounter WILL NOT CARE. and if someone does care……. they don’t control you? —source, my whole entire life of not wearing makeup

[kadinlaraicin]

And, more frequently – which also is my experience as a woman who doesn’t wear makeup and hasn’t worn makeup until peers started bullying me for being “masculine”, for having acne, and for not liking makeup:

It’s great that you’ve never felt pressured into wearing makeup but honestly, acting as if your experience is the only one… the audacity lmao. And it’s not just Korea? Like… the beauty standarts there are horrible but I grew up in a western society too and my experience is pretty much the same as many other women who criticise makeup and beauty culture. 

[joanofrad]

In Japan make-up is a requirement for women. It’s not optional, but mandatory. If a woman doesn’t wear make-up when she goes job-hunting, she’ll most likely end up without a job. Plus, many view bare-faced women as “rude”.

Also there have been studies that women, who don’t wear make-up (in the West) have it harder to find a job and also get paid less compared to women, who do wear make-up. So yes, OP, society acutally IS forcing women to wear make-up.

[pointlessblogofmine]

I’ve never worn make-up on a daily basis (probably at most a handful of times a year) and no-one’s ever attacked me over it or anything, just like OP. But I have seen so many accounts on here and other places, where that is simply not the experience of other women and girls. I feel so sad that they are pressured not just by society at large, but often their own friends and even family to conform. But I would never think that they are delusional, or that the pressure isn’t real in their lives; just because it has never affected me.

[radobserver]

One of the big things that pisses me off about liberal feminism is this idea that we need to assuage our personal feelings and sense of agency before we do anything else. It isn’t useful to say “other strains of feminism downplay our agency” when the truth is, some women aren’t granted any agency regardless of their autonomous status. Some women are victimized over and over again. It’s not backwards to call a spade a spade. We need to admit that our situations cannot be completely reflective of who we are inside. “Victim” was never meant to be a personal identity when feminists use it to describe the spaces women and girls occupy. It’s pointless to seek out a personal empowerment utopia when I’ve seen women on the news in my lifetime get sexually harassed for being lesbians, a girl shot for going to school, a woman charged with murder for performing / assisting in  a self-induced abortion, a woman charged with manslaughter after having a miscarriage, and a murdered teenage girl be reduced to an “e-girl” online. 

All of these women and girls were / are autonomous agents. We don’t reduce agency when we talk about women’s vulnerability to misogynistic attacks. Stop defending a freedom we don’t have. It’s patriarchy snuffing out our agency by repeatedly denying it when it is expressed, not radical feminists when we describe the dehumanizing situations society puts women in. Even if women weren’t autonomous agents, us saying that wouldn’t mean it was intrinsic to women’s nature and therefore a sexist thing to say. It’d mean that patriarchy has stunted women’s ability to develop autonomy. Which I believe highlights a problem with liberal feminism as an ideology: integrating into the dominant culture cannot and will not liberate women. It doesn’t matter how empowered we are if our material conditions are lackluster because we’re women. 

[radicalfeministsworld-deactivat]

When people talk about women taking power through sexualization, it promotes the patriarchal idea that women hold sexual power over men which is Absurd. It's really men who hold that power.

Andrea Dworkin highlights this in her book, Pornography: Men Possessing Women.

[fkaho92]

[moonisneveralone]

We're living in the world shaped by the people who used to watch beheadings for fun and it shows.

[larkandkatydid]

Nine of my Favorite History Books Written by Black Women

Kellie Carter Jackson, Force and Freedom: Black Abolitionists and the Politics of Violence*

Danielle L McGuire, At the Dark End of the Street: Black Women, Rape, and Resistance- A New History of the Civil Rights Movement from Rosa Parks to the Rise of Black Power*

*in my opinion, these are the two most consciousness raising, informative history books I can recommend.

Isabel Wilkerson, The Warmth of Other Suns: The Epic Story of America’s Great Migration

Stephanie E Jones-Rogers, They Were Her Property: White Women as Slave Owners in the American South. *this is a book more talked about than actually read and that is frustrating because it is an amazing, insightful, grueling book.

Keeange Yamahtta-Taylor, Race for Profit: How Banks and the Real Estate Industry Undermined Black Homeownership

Joy Gleason Carew, Blacks, Reds and Russian: Sojourners in the Search of the Soviet Promise. *this is a fascinating history that I had learned very little about before reading this book.

Lauret Savoy, Trace: Memory, History, Race and the American Landscape *a nature and landscape memoir in the vein of Braiding Sweetgrass

Marcia Chatelain, Franchise: The Golden Arches in Black America

Leila Taylor, Darkly: Blackness and America’s Gothic Soul*. This is the most fun book on this list, a black, Gen-X version of Stephen King’s Dance Macabre.

[radobserver]

There’s objectification in the LGBTQ+ community and I notice calling it out gets responses like, “How can I fetishize people I’m actually attracted to?” and it’s just like... um... In a similar way to how straight men do it. Of course it’s not nearly on the same scale but we can have healthy sexual attraction without reducing people to how hot we find them. It’s not saying that your sexuality is bad when you’re advised to examine how you act on it or express it. Your sexuality is innate but objectifying women isn’t.

[radobserver]

Women’s liberation requires that we challenge capitalism and its children. Namely celebrity culture and the false scarcity of name brands. 

[kitchenalia]

God, YouTube "feminism" is such a joke tbh, even worse than Facebook, Twitter, Buzzfeed or Tumblr. I guess Broadly is ok, well into libfem sex pozz ideology, but still tolerable, at least their cultural documentaries are interesting. But oh my gosh Vice is pure garbage cesspool (you'll get sick just by looking at the video titles) and needs to be taken down. Some radfem wrote that they're heavily involved in the sex trade and trafficking, which wouldn't surprise me if it were indeed true.

ugh that sounds awful. i have never really sought out feminist content on youtube much, i mostly use it for gaming/music/sometimes lesbian or disability content, but i’m not surprised it’s bad…i’ve heard vice is just AWFUL though.

[radobserver]

Anon’s right. To add on, there’s so much libfem ideology when you get into the individual talking head channels, too. Specifically, there’s a whole lot of unquestioning of celebrity culture when it comes to female sexuality. Pisses me off. 

[frogberryshortcake-deactivated2]

Everytime I see “actually corsets were actually good and supportive and good and not unhealthy and had nothing to do with beauty they were good corsets were GOOD CORSETS ARE GOOD SHUT UP THEYRE GOOD” the woman speaking always references the same YouTuber no matter where I’m hearing it. In real life, Reddit, YouTube, Twitter. They always reference the same YouTuber. Is this legit or is everyone just jumping at the opportunity to justify restrictive women’s clothing? Cause it really seems to me that everyone and their mom watched the same YouTube video and went “oh thank fuck I don’t have to worry about any sort of historical precedent for restrictive and uncomfortable clothing being forced on women. Thank god it was all blown out of proportion. Never gonna worry about that again 😌” and now they won’t shut up

I predict this is going to develop into western libfems telling South Korean feminists that they should change the “escape the corset” slogan because “actually corsets are good!!”

[femailment]

I don't get why you're a radfem, genuinely. You're an ex sex worker and a lesbian, these radfems don't accept you. You're tainted in their eyes. So why are you trying to even impress them?

1. Women can actually have their own thoughts and opinions without trying to be apart of some clique or impress someone.

2. Radfems are the ones who supported me and helped me the most after I got out of prostitution when other people shamed and silenced me about my experiences

3. Oddly no radfem or other radfem lesbians have shamed me for being a victim, almost like they don't view men raping me as me having an attraction to males.

4. The only people who have ever implied im tainted are anti-radfems. So many say that radfems will think I'm tainted but the only people who even use that word to me are you all. Radfems don't think I'm tainted, you do, and it angers you that I don't feel like I am. It angers you that I'm not broken in like you'd like to think I would be after what males have put me through. Ur mad.

[alrightsnaps]

What gets me about the Johnny Depp situation is that for years, and especially since the #MeToo movement, every fucking MRA goes on and on about how everyone is innocent until proven guilty and how poor innocent men in positions of power can't possibly have their careers and reputations ruined because some lying bitch wants money/attention etc........and that's exactly how Depp was treated when Amber Heard accused him of domestic abuse. As innocent until proven guilty. He was literally cast as the main antagonist in a big franchise movie series, regardless of the allegations against him. And when he lost the libel case against the Sun for calling him a wifebeater, when 12 of the 14 alleged incidents of domestic violence against his ex wife were proven to have occurred (thus making him– you guessed it!– a fucking wifebeater) then and only then was he fired from his job.

Except, of course that wasn't enough for the abusive men fandom. Nope, all of a sudden the rich and powerful white man with a history of abusive behaviour is but an innocent little snowflake, victim of cancel culture and unjustly fired from his job because of a manipulative, lying bitch!

Because nothing is ever enough for a patriarchal society when it comes to women getting abused. Unless a woman is the perfect textbook victim that only exist in their heads they will defend an abusive man within an inch of their lives instead. Because the only good woman is the one that keeps her mouth shut and takes it, otherwise she's actually the one abusing the man who has literally talked of raping her dead body.

[radobserver]

It’s like people forgot about all the memes they used to make about toxic “softbois” because that’s what a lot of these abusive celebrity men become in their head. Their personas are sensitive, cool-headed, and mysterious. It’s comforting for newly-pubescent young girls because they can explore their feelings for boys safely. This may be a stretch, but I wonder if some of them are putting themselves in Amber’s shoes and going, “If I had Johnny, I wouldn’t complain!” because they’re still stuck on whatever loveable rogue Johnny played in a movie. Depp has claimed the 23-year age gap between himself and Heard didn’t affect their relationship much but I honestly doubt that. They’re a generation removed from each other. He was an established actor when Heard was a child. That’s just not a normal relationship dynamic. I don’t care if “it’s just different in Hollywood.” It clearly doesn’t work, and that’s what’s important here. 

I’m gonna be honest, I had to laugh when I saw Depp refer to himself as a “victim of cancel culture” when there’s no shortage of people who defend him. Heard has become the butt of the joke online. Nobody ever says why she would’ve hit Depp. But that’s all I hear about her... With no mention of Depp’s threats. As you’ve said, the dominant culture judges women by the impossible standards of the perfect victim, when many abuse survivors wouldn’t have been able to survive if they had been “perfect.”  We live in a world where gender roles are still weaponized against women, which undoubtedly results in many women’s deaths.

[bakwaaas]

idk why ppl act like men don’t gossip, talk shit, be fake, backstab, etc, they literally do all these things it’s just not blamed on their gender

[showgirlie-deactivated20211030]

The majority of comments were in agreement with her but god these were not hard to find 😶 the homophobia on tiktok is insane.

[clusterlesbi]

i love her

[not-the-shinigami-eyes]

we’ve gone from “sexual orientation is based on gender not sex” to “gender is not a factor in attraction”.

[radobserver]

I honestly don’t think the concept of “fluid sexuality” has helped the LGBT community as much as some seem to think it does. I’m bisexual and my attraction doesn’t really change. I’m not fluid. My attraction to men and my attraction to women coexist. My preferences don’t really change.

[clitoralthinking-deactivated202]

seeing tiktoks of women joking about loving the validation from being used by men and having sex with them and then looking at the comments to see 14-17 year old girls agreeing makes me feral

[radobserver]

Fuck yes. And when we really get down to it, a lot of it isn’t even a joke. They genuinely think male validation is a good thing to seek. They think their “ironic self-awareness” covers up the situation’s reality. The jokes are always at their own expense. I hate that libfems have co-opted the concept of self-love because so many women could stand to gain genuine compassion and appreciation for themselves.

[radobserver]

I don’t believe p0rn can be ethical. It as a concept depends entirely on paying people to perform acts not for their own pleasure, but the pleasure of consumers. It’s not the same as having a different kind of job like customer service or fast food. Though all work tends to be exploitative, the p0rn industry relies on people themselves becoming the commodity. Customer service makes information a commodity. Fast food makes nourishing one’s body a commodity. The companies taking people’s money are the most “empowered” in the situation. The sex workers always end up on the bottom.