Earthy💭🌱🍃🐮 dreamer

I post a tangled mixture of things. Books, inspirational stuff, and whatever I feel like posting. Welcome ♡

[vaultsixtynine]

horror but make it healing

[vaultsixtynine]

what i mean is: the house that hates you because it hates all of humanity because it is old, and abandoned, and left to rot. the house that tries to kill you because it doesn't care what you intend or what you want and all it knows is that its purpose has gone ignored and then has changed, by degrees, with malicious intent derived from neglect. a house that sees you as threat and will not wait for you to draw first blood - or worse, to just... ignore it more. again. forever.

but also; what does it look like to meet that house halfway and work to better it. can you renovate it? can you find the hurt and heal it? is it Horror if it can be Fixed? but not fixed like it never happened, but fixed like we reinforced the crack in the east wall of the foundation, we re-bricked the fireplace with respect to its original style, we found the rot and - as gently as possible - removed it, grafted new tissue, applied bandages. can you rehabilitate a haunted house, and offer it love? or is it prideful to even try - because all you're doing is setting it up for more failure and heartbreak in the future, after you die and it goes uncared for, neglected, again?

can you make a house that hates you love you without ensuring that it will hate again after you - because a house lives a long, long time after a human dies?

[eba-hoodlum75]

[rudjedet]

Sorry, I don’t know anything about Egyptology? What did Ramses II do?

Being a little bitch about a lot of things. To be fair most his actions weren't really out of the ordinary for an Egyptian ruler, but he lived for so long that he could do SO MANY of them so it just stacks. A few choice acts:

Appropriated buildings, monuments and even reliefs from his predecessors, including his own father, cut their names out and carved his own in.

Carved his name so deep, in fact, that birds could nest in it. Yknow, to keep his successors from doing the same to him.

Couldn't win the battle of Kadesh.

Twice.

Still lied about it and said he had actually, honestly, cross his heart and swear on his dad's grave, won it - singlehandedly at that! (Again this is pretty normal behaviour for an Egyptian ruler but he was such a fuck nugget about it.)

In the aftermath of this wrote up a peace treaty with the Hittites, got two princesses for his trouble, and in the dowry negotiations wanted quite frankly exorbitant amounts of dowry, leading mother of said princesses, Puduhepa, to write him letters that basically read "bitch? The fuck??"

Had an exorbitant amount of wives and an even more ridiculous number of offspring because he was terrified of ending up with no heir.

Lived for such a fuckass long time that he actually survived many of his prospective heirs, to the point where his thirteenth son Merenptah ascended the throne in his fucking seventies. In so doing, Ramses threw the line of succession in such disarray that we could blame the eventual fall of the New Kingdom on his refusal to die.

[bitegore]

okay seriously though

everyone on the internet needs to relearn proper fucking boundaries. You don’t make unwarranted sexual comments towards strangers. You do not reach out to strangers out of the blue and interact as though you’ve known them for ages. You do not demand strangers’ real names, you don’t get to know where they live, you don’t ask for ID or photos of their face or body to ‘prove’ they are who they say they are. (Among other things, this is a massive security risk and I’m fucking furious that you people seem to think you can demand it.) Just because you follow someone doesnt mean they know you; just because they follow you doesn’t mean that either. Draw a line between your mutuals and your mutuals who are your friends because there is a difference. and fucking respect people’s boundaries like goddamn

[tinnim2]

monster falls~ deerper and mermabel!

[sunriseseance]

What is Qanon?

Ooooooh this is gonna be a lot so buckle up, but the short answer is: far right death cult that's gaining a deeply, deeply concerning amount of traction right now.

TW for absolutely fucking everything.

Long answer is Qanon is a far right death cult that started on 4chan in 2016. It started with one jackass anon who called himself Q and made (completely false) predictions, claiming insider knowledge to help Trump and defame democrats. Followers decided that, due to the pseudonym chosen, he must be someone in the military with Q-level clearance. It's basically confirmed at this point that Q is (and probably always was) an asshole named Jim Watkins. Jim is the founder of 8kun, which hosts child porn. Hold this in your mind for later.

Qanon centers on the belief that Trump is a) secretly really smart b) secretly a really good guy and c) secretly working behind the scenes to root out the Very Evil Bad Guy Deep State Democrats. At its core, the conspiracy is about worshipping the Asshole, waiting (for now), and interpretation. This allows them to dip into basically every conspiracy theory that has ever existed before. Evil deep state Jewish People? Absolutely. Lizard people (which is just evil deep state Jewish People with a weird new coat)? Yes. Hillary Clinton is the antichrist cause a fly landed on her? Absolutely. Vaccines are a way for uhhhhh Bill Gates to put microchips in your blood? Mhm. 5G caused Coronavirus? Yes. Donald Trump is the archangel Uriel? Jesus, yeah, some of them actually believe that.

Because Q is online, and disparate, and anonymous, and based so heavily on interpretation, people can bring whatever personal brand of crazy they want. It's dangerous, it sucks you in, and it camouflages itself. Here's why:

The big, center stage of Qanon the reason you, anon, me, and everyone else on Tumblr has to be just as careful as Aunt Karen, is that Q sucks you in by pretending to care about pedophilia and child trafficking.

Do you remember the Wayfair scandal that got a hundred thousand notes a while back? The one about the cabinets on Wayfair being priced high and having the same names as missing girls? Yeah, that was Qanon conspiracy.

Q gets its talons in good people, people like you and me, by pretending it's about "saving the children." It pretends that when it wants to kill individual democrats who oppose Trump, it's because they're secretly pedophiles. It positions itself as a moral authority against global elites who are trafficking and abusing innocent children and who can argue with that??

I mean, not me. Hollywood DOES have a pedophilia problem. It just isn't Chrissy Tiegen, ya know? And I'm sure that there are pedophile democrats but look who they've put in the center of their conspiracy theory, a dude who is named in a rape case against a 13yo, a dude who was buds with Jeff Epstein.

Also, I think it's important to note how wacky their idea of pedophilia is, and how nefarious it gets. Their idea of pedophilia isn't molestation or anything like that. It's buying a kid on Wayfair and then raping it in a ritual while you cut its face off and take its blood to harvest a magical chemical called Adrenochrome so you can stay young forever (yes, this is blood libel. Hello again, antisemitism!!) This means that they get desensitized to actual, average, everyday pedophilia. This also means that they sucker you into the rest of their far right death cult. Because if the left is doing this, then you have to be on the right, right?

So what is the right doing?

Well, they're waiting for something they call the Great Awakening. They're expecting, soon, televised trials and executions of all of these pedophiles (who are, again, just people who oppose Donald Trump). They are expecting a military takeover of America and the world. They are expecting everyone to be forced to watch this to reprogram their brains and get them used to the new world. They've been expecting this for a while (and, not to get too scary, but they're getting impatient, and they're getting scared what with the election).

I think Q spreads because it makes the world feel safer and more simple, and that appeals to everyone.

I guess, ultimately anon, Qanon is a right wing death cult that most people think they're too smart and too good for, but I see Tumblr spread pieces of it ALL the time, and it scares the shit outta me. Good people, smart people get lost to this. Be careful out there, do your research, and always think about who stands to gain power from the things you spread.

(Also if you feel comfortable, it is more than okay to reblog this.)

[sunriseseance]

What we're seeing right now is a direct result of this. These people lived in an alternate, flattened reality where they were the main characters and nothing could go wrong for them. They firmly believed Trump would be perma-dictator and would save the world by killing non-existent pedos and creating an ethnostate. We are seeing the violence of fantasy land crashing into reality. We are seeing their white supremacist, fascism, and magical thinking turning into a desparate attempt to turn their fantasy into reality. Nobody paid attention to Q anon as it grew. Nobody paid attention to all of its malicious tendrils. I saw Q conspiracy bullshit being spread on Tumblr TODAY. Q scares the shit out of me, and this is why.

[sunriseseance]

After what happened yesterday, they're going back to unreality and conspiracy. They're claiming that the deep state and antifa staged the violence and insurrection yesterday. Q people (and others) are claiming that every single anti-American act that took place yesterday was done by antifacists dressed up like fascists to Make Them Look Bad. The point of this is to keep living in this flattened world where they're the good guys and we're the bad guys and they've got good things coming. They want to keep being able to believe that they're going to win. Yesterday was supposed to be the Great Awakening, and because they failed, it's back to conspiracy. Keep your eyes on this. Don't let them get away with this bullshit.

[icarus-suraki]

Please do keep your eyes on this. When QAnon started getting attention back in the spring of 2020, I had a giggle about it. I was rolling my eyes and laughing. I wish now I’d taken it more seriously then. But I’m glad I started paying attention, even if I was laughing. Nothing the conspiracy espouses is rational, logical, or factual, but it’s also not at all new and it’s as dangerous as it was when it first appeared.

If you want to go back a bit, all of QAnon’s stuff is basically rehashed from the Satanic Panic of the 1980s (sacrificing children), Milton William Cooper’s book Behold a Pale Horse (anti-Semitism, Deep State/Evil Government, secret cabals and banking dynasties, HIV/AIDS is man-made), and William Luther Pierce’s book The Turner Diaries (anti-Semitism again, Deep State/Evil Government, supporting assassinations and hate crimes), the American version of Evangelical Christianity (anti-Semitism again, except Israel is important because Israel is how you get The Rapture to happen), and probably a hundred other things.

Working in the library you get genuine questions about this--and lectures. I’ve come across dozens and dozens of other conspiracy theories that I haven’t yet seen in QAnon but I’ll bet it’s in there somewhere. Far be it from me to support censorship, but I wish I could put more context or explanations around these things instead of people just taking the ideas on whole.

So when you look at it, the “HIV/AIDS is man-made!” idea links up pretty well to the more recent “COVID-19 is man-made!” ideas. Likewise the “Great Awakening” concept maps almost perfectly onto American Evangelical Christians’ general interpretations about the biblical book of Revelations. 

Nothing QAnon says is entirely original. Whether the QAnons (I’ve heard there’s possibly two writers, one who started on one site and one who picked up on another site, and the writing styles are different enough to make it clear that it’s at least two different writers) know any of these sources specifically and are specifically taking pieces of them for their stories, I don’t know. But certainly all the ideas contained in the works and events referenced above are in the ether of the right wing. I mean, they were chanting quotes from The Turner Diaries at the insurrection about executing government officials. Whether they know the sources or not, these old ideas are being dredged up and put into the minds and mouths of right wingers. 

All the stuff that was dismissed as irrational nonsense and fringe ideas is now being paraded around as true. I’ll leave you with a quote from Alan Moore that sums up the mindset of the conspiracy-favoring right wingers:

The main thing that I learned about conspiracy theory is that conspiracy theorists actually believe in a conspiracy because that is more comforting. The truth of the world is that it is chaotic. The truth is, that it is not the Jewish banking conspiracy or the grey aliens or the 12 foot reptiloids from another dimension that are in control. The truth is more frightening, nobody is in control. The world is rudderless.

[theinsects]

fuck you, my child is completely fine!

your child romanticises the idea of running far away and completely changing their personality, looks & soul as a way of coping with having no control over their life & being generally dissatisfied with who they have become

[isletconqueror-deactivated20230]

felt like this should be enunciated! rightful credit goes to @/celisiastanton on instagram

[silentauroriamthereal]

All people who identify as white women need to read this

[thededfa]

therapist: so, how have you been coping with your anxiety lately?

Me, nervously: Well… I’ve been trying to treat myself like a nervous cat…

therapist, stifling a goodnatured laugh: Oh? can you explain that to me?

Me: Well… if you have a nervous cat, the first thing you do is make sure their environment is safe and remove stressors… and you make sure they have enough food and water and places to hide… and you provide some enrichment in case they need to work out energy…

Therapist: And how are you applying that to yourself?

Me: Um. If I feel anxious, I’ll see if I need to back out of any sites or conversations, enforce my boundaries… check my environment for flashing lights or painful noises… make sure I’m hydrated and have eaten… and work on a hobby

Therapist: those are all excellent things! You’re a nervous cat and you need care and kindness!

[pipistrellus]

“suppose someone pushes you into a river,” the therapist said to me slowly, smiling, smiling smiling, “just because it’s not your fault that you’re in the water,” she said, “doesn’t mean it isn’t your responsibility to climb back out. just because someone pushed you into the water doesn’t mean it’s okay to just sit in the water and sulk.”

“i’m not sitting in the water,” i said, “i’m drowning. i’m drowning and everyone is screaming at me to stop being so lazy and just grow gills already”

she smiled at me, smiled smiled smiled, and shook her head. because i didn’t understand. because i was making excuses.

[pipistrellus]

it’s exceptionally convenient for all the people who go around shoving vulnerable mentally ill people into rivers that they bear no responsibility for helping us climb back out.

[yourmotherisafragginaardvark]

Omfg I wish I had the spoons to go to school and become a therapist. We need kind autistic therapists. We need neurodivergent therapists who actually understand, and aren’t just book smart about this stuff.

[process-them-all-1989]

Hey okay her phrasing and attitude sounds awful but if she sits there and commiserates with you about drowning it won’t help either…in fact most things in this metaphor translate to shouting encouragement to you as you’re drowning (what she was doing, badly), or shouting swimming instructions (coping techniques) or throwing you swimming bands (medication). What can people do that is most helpful to a *drowning* person? Just do the above stuff nicely, or what? I would like to know and I work in mental health but I started my interest from tumblr and I know that ableism sucks, this is me genuinely looking for better alternatives.

[pipistrellus]

Heyo, OP here. I’m real tired but I do wanna answer you but before I do I want to address something else real quick, which is: you’re very careful to assure me that you’re asking an earnest question, and that you know ableism sucks, but you’re also very very resistant to the idea that treatment providers can and do actively contribute to ableism and the suffering of disabled people. I think that is something that’s important to reflect on if you are a person who works in mental health. 

The second thing I want to say before I answer your main question is that this response for you was you reblogging a post that came across your dash asking a question. For me it was someone reblogging a post I made about a painful experience I had, demanding that I do the work of explaining my views on therapy generally and how to be an effective mental health worker. 

I have experienced a lot of medical abuse in my long & illustrious career as a disabled person. I have been in treatment for 20 years.

There is no way for you to know this, but in a way that’s the point: I am a stranger to you. You don’t know me and I don’t know you, all you have is this post, out of context, to draw conclusions from (and you definitely drew some that are not only incorrect, but really uh… hurt my feelings is not the phrase I want to use but it’s close). 

This isn’t me saying that it’s bad for you to wonder those things or ask those questions. “How can I effectively help disabled mentally ill people who are suffering” and “how can I try to do that WITHOUT harming them further” are good questions to think about if you work in mental health. This is just me trying to explain why I think asking me this, on this personal post, was thoughtless.

Because this was the post you chose to ask these questions on, when I answer this I’m going to be talking about me and my specific circumstances and the specific therapist who I wrote about in my original post. There are elements of this anecdote that you could not possibly have known about when you reblogged my post and I want to be clear I am not including them as some kind of “gotcha” but as an expansion of the story I told in my original post, and because this is the story you chose to ask these questions about. 

Firstly I want to emphasize that “her word choice and attitude sound awful, but” is a misrepresentation of what went on. If a therapist’s word choice and attitude are awful and what they’re saying is victim-blaming and harmful, they’re not just screwing up on an idea that has its basis in something reasonable. They’re being a bad therapist.

In this particular situation, I was seeing someone who I had not seen very much and who knew really only the bare bones basics about my life from a couple of conversations with me and my father. At this time in my life, I had dropped out of college twice due to the inability and unwillingness of the schools to accommodate my disabilities, and I was very scared and worried about what was going to happen to me, because I was also too sick to work. My father had contacted this therapist partly because he wanted someone for me to talk to about trying to apply for disability. She not only repeatedly denied that I was disabled at all, but constantly told me things like “if you think of yourself as disabled it’s just an excuse to give up and stop trying” and “if you go on disability it would be taking money away from REAL disabled people” and “maybe your REAL disability is a bad attitude”.

To contrast this with some things about one of the only therapists I ever had who was actually good at her job, here’s my answer to “what could she have done”. Here’s some things my good therapist actually fucking DID instead of crouching on the riverbank throwing rocks at my head:

She acknowledged that the things I had gone through were hard and unfair and that my situation was a shitty one and she let me express these things in whatever ways I needed to without pathologizing them (lying on the floor, bringing a lot of fidget toys, sorting things, crying, screaming, etc) instead of acting like any “weird” ways I expressed those things was childish and unnecessary.

She indicated that she cared about me as a person and that she wanted for things in my life to be less bad. This sounds basic but most therapists I have had either expressed condescending fondness towards me like I was a misbehaving dog, or outright contempt. 

She would suggest concrete solutions to many of the things I struggled with re: getting out of the house and keeping a schedule. She contacted people for me when I could not do it myself. She asked my permission for these things. She would get my permission to reach out to people about volunteering opportunities or group meetings she thought I might find helpful and then instead of just giving me a phone number she would arrange things on my behalf, because she knew I could not do it myself. 

She let me contact her in ways I was able to e.g. she let me email her instead of insisting I call her office every time I wanted to change an appointment or anything. 

She brainstormed with me about genuinely actual things I could do, as someone who was unable to do a lot of normal things. She worked really hard to try to connect me back to society and she went out of her way to find contacts for me for other kinds of doctors to address my other health problems. When I moved away, she went out of her way to try to find contact info for therapists in the area I was moving to who I could contact so I wouldn’t be adrift and not have any support.

I’m tired and I don’t have the energy to get into this any more but I want to emphasize that I believe you. I believe you want to help people. I believe you’re anxious about feeling helpless in the face of the suffering your clients/patients are going through and that you are anxious not to add to that suffering yourself. I think those are important things to work towards. 

But “what not to do” in this situation also includes your reblog of my post. 

In reblogging my post, a post made by a disabled person about mistreatment by psych professionals, you, a psych professional, and saying “okay so that wasn’t GREAT but like what do you WANT people to do??” you’re setting up a dynamic between us that replicates dynamics between psych professionals and disabled people where I am responsible for telling you how not to hurt me. 

This has happened to me a lot. It has happened to a lot of vulnerable/mentally ill/traumatized/disabled people a lot. It is not a good dynamic to replicate. I would advise you to avoid it in the future.

[vio1315]

The obsession with proving there were warrior women in history is kinda weird, honestly. Like it’s cool where it happens and their life stories tend to be really interesting, but acting like women were just worthless if none of them fought in war is high key weird to me, and it is equally weird when fiction acts this way too.

Like there is more to life than death and violence. The women artists, craftsmen, business owners, nuns, wives/mothers they’re all really interesting too. And they were worth having around. Just because they didn’t go fight in battle doesn’t make them worth any less or anything…

[greater-than-the-sword]

THANK YOU

[beggars-opera]

This is the real sentiment behind “well-behaved women rarely make history.” It wasn’t about celebrating the radicals (though we should), it was about remembering the women who didn’t buck the system enough to get written about, but were so important to the fabric of society all the same.

[plannedparenthood]

My partner and I want to send each other nudes. How can I protect my pictures and info from hackers?

Image: Gender Spectrum Collection

Someone asked us:

i genuinely want to send my boyfriend nudes, and he’s interested in getting them, since it’s a way for us to connect in this time. however, I’d like to know how to be safe from hackers or other people trying to save or spread my pictures? this is a real fear – people have hacked into my phone before to try to find dirt on me, but at the time there wasn’t anything to find (thankfully)

Here’s the #1 thing you need to know before you read the rest of this: If you or your boyfriend are younger than 18, it’s best to not send nudes. It can have some pretty big personal and legal consequences. 

In many places, it would be illegal for your boyfriend to have those pictures and may even be illegal for you to send them. Yep, even if you yourself were the photographer! If you’re 18 or older, legal issues are less of a concern. But it’s still important to understand all the risks before you decide to hit send.

People hacking into your phone is a problem. For starters, put a passcode or password on any phone, tablet, or computer you use. Put two-factor authentication on all your personal accounts — especially social media, chat, and money-related apps. Each app has information on the steps to take to set this up.

But the problem with sending someone nudes isn’t just losers hacking into your phone. It’s the risk that one day your partner might share your pics without your consent, and there isn’t anything you can do to stop it. 

You can’t control what the person who receives your nudes does with them after you press send — and there’s no way to control who may see them and no way of getting them back. Whoever gets the pics can save them on their phone or computer forever. Even though it’s a crime in many states, they can send them to other people or even post them on public forums. On apps where photos disappear after some time, they can still take screenshots and do the same with those. 

Ultimately, the most important thing to consider is how much you trust the person you’re sending pics to and what you’re willing to risk if they break that trust. 

Here are a few methods people use to send sexy pics to their partners and their privacy pros and cons. 

Text, email, or instant message

Pro: It’s fast.

Cons: Pretty much everything else! Your partner could save the pic on their phone/tablet/computer and do whatever they want with it. Depending on the kind of phone they have, the pic might even show up on their lock screen where other people might catch a glimpse. 

Send a photo that disappears (via Snapchat, disappearing Instagram message, etc.)

Pro: The pic auto deletes after a certain period of time or number of views. 

Cons: Even though the app might tell you if they do it, you can’t stop your partner from taking a screenshot. If they’re really sneaky, they could also take a photo of their phone with a second phone or device. 

Send a photo of your body without your face

Pro: If your partner does cross your boundary and shares the photo without your consent, it will be harder to identify you. 

Cons: It may be possible to recognize you by your body type, skin tone, hair, tattoos, or things in the background of the photo. There’s also something on digital photographs called “exif” data. Exif data can tell you when and where a photograph was taken, so tech-savvy people can easily figure out whose body they’re looking at. 

Send a pic on one device while you video chat on another

Pro: You can see them when they receive the picture and then walk them through the process of deleting it. 

Con: They could end the chat before you get them to delete the picture. Or they could pretend to delete it.

Other things to know:

If your phone backs up all of your photos on something like iCloud or Google, there’s a chance the photo could be stored in another place if the back-up feature isn’t disabled before you snap those pics. It might also be possible for other people to see, if you share one of the connected devices with someone else. 

Deleting pics on most phones, tablets, and computers is often at least a two step process: first deleting it from your album and then emptying your trash folder or permanently deleting. 

If either of you uses a work or school-issued device, the school or job may have access to your data. (Scary!)

Whatever online privacy steps you take, make sure the person you send nudes to is also thinking about cybersecurity. You don’t want to worry about them getting hacked, too. 

Most importantly of all, remember this: it’s never OK for someone to pressure you into sending nudes or to send them without asking. It sounds like you’re into this idea for your own enjoyment and to feel close to someone you can’t see in person, and that’s totally cool and understandable! But if expectations change, know that the the rules of consent apply to sexy pics as much as sex itself. 

-Emily at Planned Parenthood

[dangcommaannie]

Hi. I'm gonna be really nerdy with some spoilers for two seconds.

So in Lupin, Assane teams up with Fabienne, who's a journalist known for writing about corruption and shit, but then she got sued by Pellegrini, who Lupin is currently going after, and lost her standing with the public.

Anyways! Fabienne has a dog and her dog's name is J'accuse, which is hilarious because, if you don't know, J'accuse was an open letter published in the newspaper in 1898 that called out the French president and government by writer and journalist Émile Zola, who was then also prosecuted for libel.

Since J'accuse shares Fabienne's disdain of Pellegrini, as seen by how he barks and growls whenever Pellegrini's name is mentioned, that means Fabienne got him after her fall and then named him after a historical letter where a journalist called out those in power.

[brandysmellville-deactivated202]

girls after saying something smart: So yeah

[skybluelipgloss]

Girls after giving a concise and completely sensible thought on the matter, with well thought out arguments:

... If that makes sense?

[jasmiinitee-deactivated20210610]

Girls after expressing a personal opinion: if you think that's okay haha maybe

[labradorduck]

Girls saying something they know to be absolutely correct and spent years studying: if I remember correctly

[one-pointperspective-deactivate]

Alternatives for each of these to practice:

instead of: “so yeah” -- silence or “do you have any questions?”

instead of: “if that makes sense?” -- “does that make sense or can i clarify further?” or “do you have any questions I can help answer?” 

instead of: “if you think that’s okay haha maybe” -- “that is my recommendation/opinion, though I am open to further discussion” or “Does anybody have reservations about this course of action/decision?”

instead of: “if i remember correctly” -- “to my understanding” or “I have found, through xyz”

the goal of these alternatives is not to shut down dissent, but to change the level of confidence and authority you give yourself in discussions. 

the original statements essentially position your opinions and knowledge as by default “probably incorrect” and seeking confirmation. 

the updated statements position your opinions and knowledge as being confirmed by you considering the information you have available-- others can voice their concerns and disconfirm, but this requires them to logically explain with facts/evidence why they disagree with you. 

[orquidia]

corny wlw solidarity art  🏳️‍🌈

[clickbaitcowboy]

here since none of you know what a bear is

[tumblunni]

Srsly thats just a regular hunk. Bear is an important term cos there really wasn’t any word for “handsome heavyset man” before the LGBT community came along and opened our eyes to the truth. Calling skinny buff dudes bears is like all those douchebros who are like “i want a thicc gorl” *points to stick thin woman who just has big booby*

[villainous-queer-deactivated202]

THANK you. And originally it DID just mean fat hairy men exclusively, it was only later that ‘musclebears’ became a thing. But Bear was a reaction to the gay male culture’s obsession with what we now call a twink (which is, to whit: a thin, hairless, youthful man between 18-25), as well as a reaction to the idea that gay men had to be femme in order to be gay, as well as offering body positivity to gay men who were fat, which is an important distinction–Bear Pride is a gay male fat positivity movement/identity, that’s real important and we gotta not forget that, because that support and representation and pride is a protest against the part of gay culture that toxically commodifies male bodies and demands thinness and hairlessness.  /soapbox

anyway i am here for my bear brothers.

[judgejudyofficial]

now that we know the difference, bears please feel free to send me marriage proposals

[student-film-lying-piece-of-shit]

[cuddlycryptid]

soul (2020) really said meaning doesnt come from one job or “purpose” but from finding everyday moments of wonder and joy. idk its a nice reminder that the world is so beautiful and life is SO worth living!!