every time you harass someone for their ships, a flower wilts
greetings. you may call me red, and refer to me with it/xe pronouns. you have come upon my blog for proshipping. i would prefer to keep my actual main a secret, but if you would like to see some of my specific shipping, check out @redpetalstems. If you would like to see my selfship blog, check out @selfshipping-in-red. if you wanna see some x masc reader fics, look at @red-reader-boy
i hold the opinion of ship and let ship. i believe that harassing people over their shipping is a much worse thing than people enjoying darkshipping.
i personally love darkships, but it is not my place to judge people who don’t. (edited to reflect my newfound love of darkships)
please keep interactions with this blog sfw. thank you.
"I don't support the radqueer ideology because they support taboo fiction, transids and paraphilias" ❌
"I don't support the radqueer ideology because their ideology is inherently built on supporting/accepting people of all contact stances and the community blurs the lines of consent, contact and harm so much that it hurts the people participating in it." ✅
Antis love acting like the world revolves around them, their discomforts, and their trauma. I’m sorry if this isn’t what you want to hear, but it isn’t. There are over 8 billion people on this planet, very few people are thinking about you specifically. Nobody is sexualizing your trauma because we don’t know you.
We tag our stuff so you don’t have to see it, yet you come into our spaces anyways and yell at us for “hurting” you.
Not everything is about you, please learn that it is okay for that to be true.
Oops I coined a blankqueer . Happy pride, get queerer NOW
SHIMMERQUEER is a stance that, while not mutually exclusive with radqueerness, sets clearer bounds to prevent the perpetuation or promotion of harm. I felt like making it to describe better my thoughts on some matters :P
What does it stand for?
✦ PRO PARA
Paraphiles aren't inherently dangerous people, they deserve compassion and support as any other person, and a community to express themselves. They are not to be assumed as criminals just for having these thoughts. SFW paraphile spaces are possible.
✦ ANTI CONTACT
There are several paraphilias that would be unethical to act on in real life on a 1:1 scale, namely minophilia/map, zoophilia, necrophilia, and incest/consang attraction. This is due to concerns of safety, not mere 'ick'. But NOTE: there are ways of acting on these safely with consenting parties, i.e zoo4therian relationships, insys age differences with a matching maturity, kink, etc. These methods are okay, as there's no one being abused.
✦ TRANSID COMPLEX
Leaning pro, however individual shimmerqueers may have variating thoughts and degrees of comfort sorrounding them that should be respected. The main thing of note: the feelings of yearning, euphoria and dysphoria that may come with transids are real, deserve language to be described, and community.
For the more controversial transids, alternatives like altid or desirdae and dissomei may be encouraged, but not forced. Research of the subject is also highly advised. Shimmerqueer is strongly against transhateful identities. They cannot be separated from their ties with bigotry.
✦ PRO CONTRADICTORY IDENTITIES / GOOD FAITH
Queer experiences are complex, labels are meant to fit YOU comfortably and not just viceversa, and good faith IDs have been known to be around for a long while. Also have fun with your silly words whatever
ADDITIONAL BELOW
✦ PRO FICTION/SHIP
(restrict younger teens from darkfic spaces for safety)
✦ ANTI RPF WITHOUT CONSENT
(political satire exempt)
✦ WELCOMING OF ALL PLURALS
(you may have different thoughts on their origin, but you're good so long you don't fakeclaim them or bring it up to them when uncalled for. Personal discomfort is okay to have, just be respectful. Follow boundaries)
✦ ANTI HARASSMENT
✦ ANTI FAKECLAIMING
✦ ANTI FAKING (specific) TRANSIDS AS CIS/NATIDS
(you don't need to state what you're identifying away from, however faking things like culture, neurotype, ability or age can lead to appropriation, misinformation or safety problems depending on what's being lied about. Chronological age should be the considered one for matters of keeping spaces age-restricted.)
✦ TRANSID TRANSITION COMPLEX
(Many transids are harmless to transition to, but it should be handled delicately for specific ones. Transition may be reconnection with your culture, learning to unmask, obtaining disability aids you need, etc. There are ways to handle well the more delicate transids without the need for transition. Disabling the body should be a last resort when it comes to things like BIID)
✦ ANTI "agreeing to disagree" ON CONTACT STANCES
✦ ANTI GEN AI
✦ PRO CHOSEN RECOVERY
✦ ANTI-ABUSE
✦ PRO ALTER/NONHUMANITY, INCLUDING PHYSICAL
✦ PRO HARM REDUCTION
✦ PRO CHOICE
DESIGN NOTES, ALTS & SYMBOLS
I like to call the symbol the Wishing Starfall :}}}
Ooouuughhh I've been cooking this up for a while !!!! I think I'm at a place where I've figured things out well enough to finally release this into the wilderness.... BE FREE MY LOVELY CREATION
EXTRA FACT!! Shimmerqueers may call themselves shinies or shimmers for short, shinies is my favourite !! EKEKEKKEEE..
Sinister, i was wondering if you'd have some advice on how to deal with a situation.
some kinfolk who really dislike doubles and say im kinning a certain character wrong because i dont also kin a different character thats related to them have been sending me hate asks ext. ive blocked them on every blog they have, but i keep checking their blogs to see if they have calmed down and they keep vaguing me and self admitted to stalking my blog and having a group chat of people where they all hate me.
i just keep impulsively checking to see oh what are they saying about me now?
I'm sorry I didn't get to this ask sooner anon, sadly, I've been pretty ill and brainfoggy for the last 2 days, so I couldn't address it.
First of all, I am so sorry you're in this situation. It is unfortunately, very familiar to me, and plays out all the time in kin communities, self ship communities, etc - basically anywhere where some people feel like they have a "claim" to a character. I've had it happen to me.
Unfortunately, you can't stop this person from obsessing over you. And you don't have to. It's their problem to deal with, not yours. Remind yourself of that.
Cut off all contact, stop checking their blogs. Ignore them, and keep being yourself.
I want to say here again for anyone who sees this.
It is ALWAYS WRONG to harass doubles. ALWAYS. I don't care what your excuse is. I don't care how insecure you are, or how bad doubles make you feel.
its too awkward to vent about my ex on my main blog because we still share quite a few mutuals and i dont want to influence anyone to dislike her because of my experiences. like i dont think she treats friends the same way she treated me
Not a big fan of how our community has been weirdly welcoming toward the radqueer community the past month. Not a big fan of the ideology that tells you minors that "are transadults" can go into nsfw spaces and have sex talks with actual adults. Not a big fan of the ideology that seems weirdly supportive of minors asking for adults to flirt with them.
Maybe it's just me tho, but I'm uncomfortable with minors being sexual with me. Maybe my woke ends there.
I love my pals with contradicting identities like lesboys/turigirls, in fact I love EVERY queer person. I love plurals (all of them.), I love POC, I love disabled people, I love.
However, I'm not a fan of an ideology promoting shits like nazism or abuse, saying "transnazis are valid, transabusers are valid, they're not actually that!!" just to say a hour later that everyone should be able to "transition into their transID" (become a nazi? become an abuser?).
Yeah, maybe it's just a me issue.
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