Trauma often messes with oneās ability to sayĀ ānoā.Ā
You either consciously or subconsciously think,Ā āI donāt want to hurt this personās feelingsā orĀ āIf I say no, then theyāll hurt meā orĀ āIt wonāt really be that badā orĀ āI can handle thisā orĀ āI need to do this to prove myselfā orĀ āI deserve thisā, or you forget thatĀ ānoā is even an option.
Itās still not your fault if you didnāt sayĀ ānoā, even if you think maybe you could have. Itās still not your fault. You didnāt deserve what happened to you and you didnāt bring it upon yourself. It was never your fault.
I just cried when I read this. Thank you.



















