Bombastic Romantic

Name's Jay/Elliot, He/him, Ve/Vim/Vis, It/Its, Ey/Em, Adult Queer, bigenderfluid trans guy, butch, androgyne, tranandrogynmasc bi, abro, mesrien, vincian, romeric, hypersexual radically inclusive, pro-mogai, transmasc postitvity and discourse abound don't call me nonbinary without guy at the end, if you don't think transandrophobia is real please dni

[rombastic]

Hey, I’m Jay/Elliot, I created this blog to talk about trans and queer discourse. I also have adhd, mental health stuff, and chronic pain and will talk about it sometimes. I don’t tag because adhd brain, so follow at your own risk. if you ask I will tag but I can’t promise I’ll always be consistent.

Here is some stuff to make people more comfortable following me:

I am pro:

Queer

Transunitism

Mspec

Aspec

Mspec lesbian/gay (I am one)

Neopronouns (I use them)

Pronoun non-comformity 

Lesboy/Turigirls

Xenogenders (I have many)

Polyamory and ENM

Endo (I am a singlet but still)

Sex positivity

Fic

Kink

Pretty much as I said I’m radically inclusive of all people with good faith identities, and I believe in Queer philosophy which wishes to not conform but break down the social hierarchies around sexuality, relationships, and gender. People should be as weird and perverted and queer and strange as they want to be and be proud of it. And you should never push labels onto other without their consent. policing other peoples identities is not progressive and never has been. Kink is integral to the Queer community, always has been. if you think your disgust response is a reasonable basis for your morality then you’re not progressive and we can’t be friends. 

[apollosfallen]

The argument of "trans men have privilege when they pass" is also so asinine because privilege isn't just "other men treating you nicer" it's getting unbiased and unrestricted medical attention, it's lower or no statistics of corrective sexual assault or impregnation, it's not having actual laws passed against your existence, it's not having to worry about passing in the first place, it's having historical figures retain their identity and not erased in some girl power misgendering bs, it's having your identity celebrated instead of treated like a loss of something pure.

If you think male privilege is just being treated like "one of the guys" in day to day life, you need to relearn a lot of things about privilege before you try to have these conversations.

[practicallysilver]

Throwback to this classic and its continuations

[rand0mlyther3]

This is so in character it’s not even funny

[hemomancy-deactivated20251126]

Love how transandrophobes be like "yeah all men should die. Including trans ones. Why aren't you happy about this, trans men? Youre basically misgendering yourself and a misogynist if you say you shouldn't die for being a man also."

[thisismajortomtogaycontrol-deac]

Hi I’ve invented a new term it’s called ‘people are mean to me because I’m trans masc’

It’s a term for talking about how people are mean to me because I’m trans masc.

It’s about how people treat me as less than a cis man and less than a cis woman because I am neither.

It’s about how some people are misogynistic twords me and some people are transphobic and some people are both.

It’s about how I get treated badly because I am choosing to be a man in a world that wants me to be a woman.

It’s about how I get treated by some people as dangerous because I have he/him pronouns because ‘men are inherently violent’ and how I am also treated as a stupid child who doesn’t understand myself enough to know what I want to do with my body because of misogyny.

It’s about how I’ve been threatened with forced impregnation and pregnancy.

It’s about how I have a hard time accessing healthcare.

Oh- what’s that? You don’t think I should talk about those things? You don’t think I should because my term is talking over women? You think that I’m trying to steal things from women because I’m a man and that’s what men do? You think that I don’t really experience these things all the time because men don’t experience misogyny? You think I should make a new term? Ah. I see. My bad.

Hi! I’ve invented a new term it’s called ‘people are mean to me because I’m trans masc-

[our-queer-experience]

i dont think trans men having occasional conditional male privilege is impossible or unattainable, but to bring that up in conversations where we are talking about specific issues trans men face that no one else does (like forced detransition via pregnancy, access to gynecological healthcare, using anti-fgm laws to outlaw ftm bottom surgery) as a denial of those issues or “softening the blow” is transphobic nonsense

[b-side-takes]

”trans men derailing a post” and it’s a post that should have included trans men to begin with

[indigosfindings]

callout posts are like "i did something extremely rude to this person & they were annoyed by that. dont you think that means they should lose all of their friends & become socially untouchable & get shot with 1 million guns???"

[catchymemes]

[depsidase]

[squishysquidtoasters]

@ anyone posting/reblogging/liking the video of Lil Nas X's mental health crisis: Delete the post, please keep your speculations about him absuing drugs to yourself, do not interact with any media outlet that's sensationalizing/humiliating a young queer black man at a very difficult time in his life.

Please leave encouraging comments on his social media instead. Lil Nas X has an instagram and as far as i'm aware he MIGHT still have a twt acct.

Let's address that he was forced to the ground by police officers. He's apparently still in police custody currently (when I first posted this, he was) He'll be out eventually, hopefully very soon in the near future

Call out the LA police for their unnecessary and harsh methods.

Please folks, let's remember to give him the privacy and respect that he deserves, just like every other human being does. Nas deserves to heal and recover, try to show your support for him <3

[EDIT] I fixed some MAJOR grammar issues and a few typos, I posted this at 1am yesterday :p

Consider donating to charities such as:

The Trevor Project: A charity focused on suicide prevention efforts for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning(LGBTQ) youth.

http://thetrevorproject.org/

The Black mental health alliance

The Okra Project:

Due to a multitude of circumstances — not living near a grocery store with a large selection, not living in a space with adequate kitchen facilities, or not being paid enough to afford top-notch ingredients — transgender and nonbinary people (especially those of color) often lack the resources to cook fresh, healthy meals.

The Okra Project bridges the gap by sending Black transgender chefs to houses to provide professionally-prepared meals to Black transgender folks experiencing food insecurity

The Okra Project

[genderkoolaid]

the problem with the idea that we can bully cis men out of toxic masculinity is that toxic masculinity is fundamentally about bullying people seen as men into "proper" behavior. the patriarchy is absolutely in love with casual cruelty and shame as a way of modifying behavior. and whenever i see people trying to use toxic masculinity tactics but for feminist aims it makes me want to bite the walls. oh wow you are telling depressed boys that if they feel bad about themselves its all their fault for being a whiny bitch? are you also selling a $200 get rich quick scheme and sawdust supplements by any chance

[rydengg]

whether you’re a sex worker yourself or someone close enough to us to really see our inner lives, i think the resounding realization that washes over so many is how much of the belief the general public has about sex work is media and stereotype and stigma and manufactured. it’s all a lie to dissuade people from engaging in something so harmless and so fun and so freeing. i feel like becoming a sex worker and learning the truth over a decade + has made me a far more curious and critical of the social structures that affect how we judge one another & i’d even say i feel like a far more accepting person because of it. it feels like it came naturally, along with understanding that i’m likely gonna face stigma for the rest of my life just for a simple career path choice and the process of coming to terms with that reality.

it’s just disappointing that this stigma can be unlearned and so many people choose not to because it’s uncomfortable for folks to admit they were misguided.

[depsidase]

[schizopositivity]

Idk what neurodivergent nonschizophrenic person needs to hear this but we are not all that different. Our brains are wired in a way that makes us have unique experiences from others. No need to draw a line in the sand of the "quirky" ones and the "scary" ones. We all struggle to adapt to a world not built to accommodate us. We all feel alienated and alone at times. We all may need some extra help from those around us. If you don't see schizophrenic people as being on your side of this, then you need to unlearn some biases and realize we have a lot more in common than we have different.

[dramatic-dolphin]

an absolute fuckton of people at pride rn

[dramatic-dolphin]

record turnout for sure. here's some pics i stole from facebook:

the tail end of the crowd only started marching around the time the first part got to the end goal. i can't stress how fucking massive the crowd was. the perfect example of "they can't arrest all of us"; the police didn't even try. no incidents, but we all had an awesome day. 🥰🥰🥰

[littlescratches]

[tboyrory]

While we’re on topic about a certain cis guy… and hopefully this is the last I speak of him because he’s already been dunked on by literally everyone… I’m genuinely so fucking annoyed about how him and his followers were going on about how much “trans boy vibes” he gives off. Like actually fuck off. “Transmascs on tumblr are telling me I have trans boy vibes” so close, we’re actually telling you to fuck off. Convenient how this is the only thing he’ll accept hearing from us. As if this man doesn’t talk over us all of the fucking time and silence us if he doesn’t like to hear what we have to say. Trans men are infantilized and told our culture is just taken from trans women and that we don’t contribute anything and don’t need to be celebrated or recognized, yet the fucking CIS guy gets to be celebrated for supposedly having trans masc vibes? A cis man has received more positivity for seeming like a trans guy, than actual trans men and boys.

[fallonturing]

Why can we suddenly not recognize a chaser once they start lovebombing one subset of trans people while being a bigoted fuck to the other major subset of trans people? I see this shit happen with anti-transmasculine cis people who lovebomb transfems all the time. If I had a nickel for each time I've seen that, it'd be at least 2 or 3 nickels. But if they're anti-transmasculine, this chaser shit gets a pass for some reason.