[eggpngg2]

Personal ads in Siren, a Toronto-based lesbian magazine, 1998

[rainydaydecaf]

I never saw people say stuff like this enough when I was a teenager, so I’m saying it now.

I’m in my mid-thirties and I have never had sex. I’ve thought about it and could have had one or two opportunities if I put in more effort, but I always decided against it because I just wasn’t into it at the time.

I can safely say that I do not feel I have missed out on anything. I was perfectly capable, by myself, of learning about my own body and boundaries without anyone else there to muddy the waters. The immense pressure that was there in my teens/twenties to Have Sex Just Do It is basically gone. I’m vibing. I’ve got my routine by myself in bed that I enjoy, and that’s enough for me.

And in the unlikely event that I ever decide to have sex with someone in the future, I don’t feel at all like I’m lacking some essential Knowledge or Skill that would “make it good” for someone else. I fully expect to ask my partner out loud what they like and to receive an answer clearly communicated and to relax and have fun. And if it’s a disappointing experience, I’m fine with that too. It is what it is.

Sex is just not that big of a deal. I suspected it as a teen, and I’m more sure of it now. It’s fine to have it or not have it. It’s whatever.

[aromanticsky]

I mean, phobias *are* disabilities. They are not directly fatal like seizures can be but they *are* disabilities. Phobias aren’t just getting a little nervous or grossed out about something. They are clinically debilitating.

[unnecessarilyconfused]

homophobes actually fall under a medical umbrella known as "clinically stupid"

[aromanticsky]

so 1) I am talking about clinical phobias, you know, the thing under “specific phobias” under “anxiety disorders” in the DSM. I am talking about disability. I would appreciate you not comparing bigotry to disabilities. 2) in the same vein of not comparing bigotry to disabilities, I would appreciate you not essentially comparing bigotry to intellectual and cognitive disability. Homophobes are homophobic because we live in a homophobic society, not because they are less intelligent, cognitively disabled, or have actual phobias.

[roucacia]

instagram reel of white christian couple doing a mission in brazil and adopting a child 💔 they changed the girl’s name after praying on it for weeks because “god said to.” this girl is like 4 years old

[roucacia]

don’t forget they left the name given to her by her parents as her THIRD MIDDLE NAME to “honor that part of her story.” are you fucking serious rn. colonialism made into “adoption content” 🤩🤩🤩

[roucacia]

instagram reel of white christian couple doing a mission in brazil and adopting a child 💔 they changed the girl’s name after praying on it for weeks because “god said to.” this girl is like 4 years old

[roucacia]

what purchase can really compare to the purchase of knowing your mutual aid helped someone stress less about money today?

[eggseventy]

one of the best things about cats is that sometimes they'll just purr because youre around them

[misandrynistic]

hiiiiiiiii its me again. long time no see. im dj aka damone. im a blak s.asian disabled bi woman

i just got kicked out of an abusive home with basically nothing but my medication and my laptop, and i live in the middle of fucking nowhere, have no one in the area, no license, and i need to sort out accommodation, food, and other essentials for me and my cats tonight and for the next few days most likely.

im australian and our dollar is dogshit so anything helps more than you know. love u.

Become a supporter of damone today!

poll to make this less "woe is me" (though please do not get it twisted. its at least a little woe is me. but look theres a button to press)

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[thelastwhimzy]

please help my best friend! she is an amazing person who has done a lot of good in this world - they don't deserve what they've been going through. she has nowhere to go right now, two cats to take care of, and it's winter in aus rn 🫶🏽💜

[naanviolent]

[thememedaddy]

[suzirya]

It was a helluva Monday but El made us buldak we had with farmers market lettuce, perilla, kimchi from the Korean grocer, and rice with mixed grains 🤤

[starfoozle]

Should you wish to make this yourself:

Dak Bulgogi (Korean BBQ Chicken) Recipe • 5★

One great joy of bulgogi, marinated grilled beef that translates to “fire meat,” is that you can prepare it in advance and, when you’re read

[socialistexan]

Not getting a ton of reporting in US news, but the Trump administration is going after donors to Palestine, including going as far as international extradition under the guide of "counterterrorism"

[kumkaniudaku]

And then you can’t even say shit about bc people start trying to put you in a jacket and shit. Like omg it’s so strict???

[cazfax]

my dad gets on the computer for 5 minutes and he already manages to unlock internet explorer’s unholy twin and pull it out of the depths of hell you know what fuck this shit

[pristineblades]

i think a lot of the people who say that warning posts are useless drama-starters that only exist to further harass marginalized/vulnerable people would have more plausible deniability if those type of posts didnt spring up literally every single time a black user pointed out that a white user is racist

[pristineblades]

and also if the Black user didn't proceed to get racist harassment from the white users followers for pointing out said racism

[pristineblades]

Black tumblr user: this user is racist, here is proof, and i would prefer it if those who willingly interact with this person after knowing this to keep their distance from me

dashboard for the next 4 days: when you make a callout post for someone you have murdered them. it is the same thing. it is the exact same thing as taking a life. you have killed them forever and you have blood on your hands.

[pristineblades]

a small reminder with all the "trans womens blogs getting deleted is Literally social murder" going on that white trans women harassed and mass reported a Black trans womans blog that she used for fundraising to the point of termination all because the Black trans woman said she didn't rock with pedophiles and racists.

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

[creekfiend]

[laferrarii]

opening Tumblr is like a cigarette break