It honestly feels like some sort of mass grooming.
Since most people who are going to come across those posts and be convinced of what they're saying are themselves part of the trans community, they're being groomed to accept that abuse is something you let happen and shut up about when it happens within the community.
Which is not something most trans people believe, but it's easy to buy into when you genuinely care about (other) trans people and you've seen queerphobes use accusations of abusive behaviors against us as a group and also individuals.
But think about those cases you heard about on the news of TERFs making accusations, really think about them. How many were sexual assault accusations? Very few.
There have been more credible accusations, usually from other trans and otherwise marginalized people, than false accusations by far. We know this to be true.
Not because trans people are more likely than cis people to be abusers or assault someone, but because this is true across the board. False accusations are rare, even against marginalized people.
Hysterical bigoted white women are not, in masses, falsely accusing BIPoC men and trans women of rape. That's a misogynistic belief that does a great job selling rape culture ideas to progressive people.
If you join a community and are told not to believe victims and that sweeping things under the rug is necessary for the safety of the group, that's an abusive environment steeped in rape culture and you should not be a part of it.
That attitude doesn't protect trans people as a whole, it protects abusers. In the majority of cases, the ones who will get hurt and left carry the pain alone in secret and shame will be other trans people.
A community that protects abusers and expects silence from victims to protect their collective image/reputation is not safe. It can't be. Not when it's the family system you were born into, nor a religious group, friend group or any sort of community.
Please listen to victims. Protect your fellow trans people. Just 1 person being allowed to freely abuse others is enough for an entire community to suffer. Please read this blog post if you still aren't convinced:
Flickr user BadSwan Have you ever been in a house that had something just egregiously wrong with it? Something massively unsafe and unc
