A quiet Memento.

♱ Rue/Ruine • 20s • Any/All ♱ Read the Pinned Post before following and/or viewing this blog.

[ruinestagehouse]

[This blog is +18! Minors, do not interact!]

Welcome to the Stagehouse~

Hello, my name is Ruine. I hope that you enjoy my blog, but for the comfort of myself and for readers, I figured I would set some expectations and lay out the content warnings.

Please read before following~!

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Can Minors follow/interact with your blog?

No.

Minors will be blocked on sight.

Yes, I do have a SFW tag. This is not so that minors can scroll through it. It is so my adult followers and friends can filter the content they view.

Minors and ageless blogs and NOT welcome on here. I am done being nice about this.

Do you have a DNI List?

I don't. Outside of minors and ageless blogs, I don't care who views or interacts with my blog. It's out on the internet, people will find it, be they Proship/Anti, TERFS/SWERFS, Pro/Neutral/Anti-Para, etc. My general rule is that if you act like an asshole, I'm going to block you. Regardless of what label you wear.

Are there any Trigger Warnings associated with your blog?

I'm glad you asked.

Queerphobic Slurs: You'll notice a lot of my reblogs are from other queer folk. We use slurs, they are directed at ourselves with the intent of reclaiming them but they are slurs nevertheless. Be advised. As a side note, I don't consider Queer a slur. I won't call you queer if you ask me not to, that's common decency. However, I am queer. I call myself queer. If you tag my posts with "q slur" I'm going to block you, my identity isn't a slur. Tag it "queer" all you want but I reserve the right to block you if you reblog something of mine with "q slur."

Sexual Content: This blog is NSFW and that is mostly due to kink related content. The major warnings happen to be: CNC, NonCon, Blood, Knife play, Vampires, Body Modification, Hypnokink, Asphyxiation, Gunplay, Body Modification, Transformation, and Uniform kink. Be advised, you will be seeing depictions of Nazis on this blog. Beating the shit out of them is a kink of mine, this is your warning if Naziploitation (this word is a nightmare to spell) is a trigger for you when the Nazi's are on the heel-end of the boot.

Problematic Content: I'm a horror writer, and sometimes I write and interact with content that may offend or trigger. I will always include trigger warnings, and my writing and viewing of content does not equate to an endorsement. This blog is essentially one big Dead Dove: Do Not Eat warning. I'll tag things as best I can, but you have been warned. I'm human and may miss a minor tag here and there.

Do you have any triggers?

Not particularly. Fiction doesn't bother me, regardless of how graphic or otherwise disgusting it may be. You're unlikely to bother me, but tag your posts just in case. I don't want to open gore or porn on public transit. Other people do, in fact, have triggers.

What are your thoughts on [insert topic here]?

My ask box is open, I'm not going to make this unreadable by listing them all. Feel free to ask, I don't bite.

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Currently in-use blog tags.

RedLightStages: NSFW content of any kind.

Hypno'dPlush: If I get tranced or otherwise out of a clear state of mind and go on any kind of rambling, it will end up here. It'll mostly be droning on about my S/O.

OpenDistrict: SFW content of any kind.

RuiAnswers: Answers to asks I've been sent.

Dead Dove - Do not Eat: Exactly what it says on the tin. Proceed with caution, this is a tag exclusively for stories and my writings that go a tad beyond that norm. I am aware this is an actively in use tag on the website, hence why I picked it.

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A Brief About Me~

♱ Aromantic, Demisexual, and Agender.

♱ 20s.

♱ Author, Artist, and lost somewhere along the west coast.

♱ Disabled.

♱ Happily taken.

♱ Generally unconcerned with what consenting adults decide to do with their free time, as long as it doesn't involve unconsenting persons or my olive stash.

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Did I miss anything? If so, send me an ask with what you think ought to be included.

[Last Updated: October 27th, 2022.]

[ruinestagehouse]

Account Deletion

As a heads-up, I'm deleting this account. Before I do so, I figured I would note that my new account is @ruinousredlight.

This account is being deleted because:

My sexually abusive ex used it to fucking degrade me in front of a minor and I want nothing to do with those memories. The abuse was disgusting, and that ex shouldn't have even seen those posts. "Sex-repulsed" they told me, while intentionally scrolling through my tagged NSFW content to bring it up and mock me for it in front of a minor.

I want to post about things I actually enjoy, instead of hiding in a corner out of shame like I did when I was with said ex. A lot of that stuff wasn't included in my BYF because it was never on the account, and I don't want to simply update the BYF because older followers won't know to read it, and I don't trust Tumblr to put an update post where they can see it.

I'll get the BYF up on the new account before refollowing people, but I'll be deleting this account on November 12th. This is just notice so you folks know @ruinousredlight is me.

[jewishzevran]

This thread is a few years old but it bears repeating. I’m tired of being treated as if I am invisible. Listen to Jewish voices when we talk about fascism. I am begging you.

[kiwilemonteanonsense]

The widely accepted nonviolent approach to nazis has, in fact, lead to a dramatic increase in the number of nazis in recent years.

[brunhiddensmusings]

if you allow them to speak, to give them a platform as though their oppinions are valid or equal, they have already partially won, and they have already made very clear what their goals are if they win

[sunlaire]

you ever look at a kink and think “nah” then a few years later look at the same kink and go “actually yes”

[fslut]

Oh this hit all my red flags, I've torn down 3 already just walking Malaya to the park

[fslut]

If you see shit like this Especially outside your local highschools rip it down there's a 80% chance this is a trafficking scam

[fslut]

Thankfully seems I'm not the only one in town who feels this way

[fslut]

This is totally ok to rb by the way

[fslut]

Scam signs:

Targeting teens

No actual mention of the job company or what you'll be doing

Paid daily

Promises of trips and prizes

Encouraging you to bring a friend or relative who's also a teen

[themanicnami]

If it is NOT a trafficking scam (still likely it is) then it is a Multi-Level Marketing/Pyramid Scheme. There are a lot of them that try to scam either teens or college students with “same day cash pay! Win prizes! Work your own hours!” etc. 

Avoid anything to do with these signs and if they mention Vector Marketing, Cutco, Aerogrow, Ambit, Xoom etc its a Multi-Level Marketing scam. 

Neither option is good so avoid it either way, warn others. They are especially prevalent on college campuses or around college housing!

[cumaeansibyl]

It's not a fucking trafficking scam, they're not out here advertising GET KIDNAPPED INTO SEX SLAVERY on telephone poles. Y'all sound like QAnon believers.

Everything mentioned in the "sex trafficking red flags" list is a multi-level-marketing red flag.

Common targets for pyramid scheme companies include high school and college students, stay-at-home parents, military spouses, disabled people, and anyone else for whom a 9-5 job is difficult to get.

Amway is notorious for operating under different names/not giving a name until they've hooked you in with their promises, because they know people are on to them. Herbalife operates "cafes" without advertising whose products they're selling. Lesser pyramid schemes rebrand and rename all the time as the bad publicity catches up.

Companies like Primerica or the cluster of door-to-door sales companies known as Devilcorp will outright list "administrative assistant" jobs and then tell you after several rounds of interviews (mainly to get you hyped up about working there) that they don't have any of those but they have these great sales jobs you'd be just perfect for.

Some MLMs will pay your commission any time you make a sale, in order to keep you feeling excited and productive. The big asterisk there is you get paid daily if you sell daily, but you don't make any wages.

The most famous prize is the Mary Kay pink Cadillac, which is leased by the company when you've reached a certain sales rank. If you drop out of that rank, you take on the lease payments yourself. The trips usually mean that you get a free hotel room but have to pay for event registration and travel and spend your "vacation" getting pumped up with company propaganda.

This is just the basic mode of pyramid schemes: bring more recruits! Recruit your friends!

I promise you sex traffickers are not operating in the open snatching dozens of teenagers daily, this is not a thing.

[wildhumanhasappeared]

50,000 people go missing in the US and are not found each year. Each. Year.

[cumaeansibyl]

So I can't find a source for that statistic anywhere, but I did find a 2012 NPR interview with the comms director for the National Missing and Unidentified Persons System. https://www.npr.org/2013/05/07/182000622/majority-of-missing-persons-cases-are-resolved

In 2012, we had 661,000 cases of missing persons; and that's just from that one year. Very quickly, 659,000 of those were canceled. So that means those persons either come back; in some cases, located as deceased persons, maybe never an unidentified person; or just a total misunderstanding. So at the end of 2012, of those 661,000 minus the canceled, we had 2,079 cases that remained at the end of the year as unresolved.

Emphasis mine. If you have sources that contradict this, by all means provide them.

[ruinestagehouse]

Yeah, no, this could absolutely be a trafficking scheme or an MLM, I have no idea what this person gains by attempting to dissuade people from the possibility that it could be a trafficking scheme, because teenagers are bloody targets. Teenagers also want to make money to help fund their independence even in a healthy home situation, those in an unhealthy home situation? Those ones will bite at any chance you give them to fund their escape, and that's what makes me worry about this being a trafficking scheme.

Papers on a damned pole isn't the easiest thing to trace, nor is it blatantly a scheme. Actual, legitimate jobs will post bulletins quite often, it's an established behavior in hiring that is easy to replicate to avoid attracting attention from those who aren't actively looking, and even then, those who are looking get shot down by people with "it's just an MLM, not trafficking. They wouldn't be so obvious."

If this was a trafficking scheme, and it very well could be, I hate to say it's decently thought out because we just watched someone try to dissuade us from considering the possibility.

Regardless, don't accept job offers from companies you cannot verify. If you can't concretely confirm a company's identity, and their contact information, don't work for them. Don't call them. Do not go to their location.

[zmpl]

the topic of purity/oversanitization is so interesting because like it went from the 2000s attitude of “don’t even THINK about having sex until you’re married and if you do you’re a slut” and “boys are keys and girls are locks hehe” to the 2010s where the perspective took a 180 and it was like sex positivity and defining consent and personal autonomy which is actually really good stuff but now we’re in the 2020s where the narrative has once again taken a 180 and chronically online people are pushing the idea that like “if you’re sexually attracted to another person that’s creepy”………what happened

[luckyladylily]

Feminism became mainstream, so a bunch of people learned a very surface reading of feminism and ended their thinking there. "Of course I am a feminist!" they think, despite not knowing anything about the deeper theory of progressive ideals, and if they are a feminist their thoughts are feminist thoughts, whatever those thoughts happen to be. Thus they excuse themselves from cultivating a progressive mindset and end up embracing conservative thought patterns and beliefs with only the thinnest possible veneer of surface level feminism, queer support, etc.

On a society level this has resulted in a strong movement of highly prejudice conservatives pushing their views from within progressive spaces. Most of these people don't know that they are conservatives, and they can be difficult to identify using surface level markers like using correct terminology. This means their ideas are not immediately dismissed by the progressive community, causing an infection like growth of conservative ideas in the collective progressive consciousness.

[evanzbuck]

9-1-1 | 4.13 “Suspicion”

↳ for anon

[brellom]

[ruinestagehouse]

You know if my girlfriend stuck me with a needle and did my T-shot for me while we made out I'd marry her on the spot.

Don't drink and mix needle, gender-affirmation, and medical kinks kids.

[megapope-deactivated20220531]

this tweet goes from surreal to hilarious when you realize that she was the CEO of Reddit

[ms-demeanor]

Casual reminder that while she was CEO at Reddit she created a salary negotiation policy that evened the playing field for women employed by Reddit.

Not-at-all-casual-reminder that she left Reddit in 2015 after being forced to resign because Reddit lost its collective shit at her when the site banned 5 subreddits for harassment; not-at-fucking-all casual reminder that Ellen Pao was the CEO of Reddit when it banned revenge porn after The Fappening.

One of the subreddits that was banned that led to her resignation was r/fatpeople hate. The others were transphobic and racist.

In her time at Reddit Pao did more than the site had ever before done to fight harassment from its user base and for that someone started a subreddit calling for her firing and trying to make nazi and ISIS imagery come up in searches associated with her name.

If *anyone* in the tech industry knows what the blackpill subculture is like and how vile and toxic groups spawned in subreddits can be it’s Ellen Pao.

This isn’t someone who’s oblivious to the fact that her former company is a source of the problem, this is someone who is speaking from personal experience with online harassment campaigns orchestrated by people who want the freedom to post celebrity nudes who were *enraged* that she made it harder for them to do so.

(also basically the rest of her twitter is about #metoo, the need for labor regulation and worker protections, and salary transparency so maybe go check her out)

[ruinestagehouse]

I really love the genre of mindless "hah, gotcha!" posts followed with an actual explanation of why the "gotcha" was completely wayward and nonsensical, because it really well illustrates that you've got to do your homework about this stuff.

[soft-october-night]

Like to charge reblog to cast

[lithominium]

You’re not casting

[kaelio]

Saying "voting doesn't matter" might reach your younger peers online but it certainly hasn't reached Clangus Hargbarg who was part of the kkk in 1951 and still sends in his ballot. He hasn't missed a one.

[ruinestagehouse]

"Why would you participate in the system? Voting is rigged, anyhow. It's pointless."

As long as the system is in power, you can't ignore it, and ignoring it only gives license to others to turn it against you without much resistance.

Vote.

[vergess]

Buddy, when racist cunts illegally prevented me from registering to vote by just refusing to accept my papers, I PROMISE YOU shitty guilt trip memes about my inability to vote made everything worse.

You know what ACTUALLY helped?

More than every passive aggressive shit for brains on this website telling me I deserve to me racially harassed for not giving Democrats my soul?

A fucking email from a fucking HERBS AND SPICES STORE that unlike you wretched cunts ACTUALLY HAD VOTER REGISTRATION HELPLINES IN IT.

Every time one of you godforsaken freaks tells me to 'get out and vote' like its cutely trivial and didn't take months of desperate phone calls just to register (IF my registration even WORKED THIS TIME).

If you, like me, are struggling with registration or poll access, try contacting your STATE board of elections.

Request that they send you TWO copies of their registration guidelines. Collect any documents listed in them.

Then, contact your LOCAL board. Tell them you would like to register IN PERSON IF POSSIBLE.

Bring your documents and the two copies of the guideline AND a working cell phone.

If you get ANY trouble AT ALL tell the local person you will call the state board to confirm their registration requirements. Be polite, but do not leave. Put the phone on speaker.

Most of the time, the local person who is doing Actual Serious Federal And State Crimes will give up at that point. If not, the person at the state board will generally outrank and overrule the local one.

Make a note of the names of both the local and state official.

Then, and this is the most important part:

CONFIRM YOUR REGISTRATION WAS FILED.

Confirm You Are Registered to Vote | USAGov

Check your voter registration status to confirm that you’re able to vote in the next election. If you’re an active voter, you should not hav

It may take a day or two for your registration to appear.

Unfortunately, if it's been a week, you're going to have to repeat the process.

Take the names you noted previously, and contact the state board again. Report that these people denied you registration on this day, in spite of you providing these documents, then list all the required papers you collected.

The person at the state SHOULD be able to direct you from there, but the process varies hugely by state.

Good luck to you all.

[ruinestagehouse]

It's worth noting that depending on the state you live in, you may be able to get automatically registered to vote upon renewal or issuing of an ID card, Drivers License, or Driving Permit. This may also give you more of a paper trail to provide should whoever you're dealing with refuse to register you - it may also be completely out of their hands.

I know the state of Oregon has an automatic registration system with the default being "opt-in." If you go to the DMV and get a new ID or applicable form of identification, you get put in the voter registration system. Getting that new ID gives them identity confirmation and your proof of in-state address, which is all they need to go "put a ballot in their mailbox." From there, all voting in Oregon is mail-in, so you don't even need to hunt down a physical location to vote. It just gets sent to your mailbox.

If you happen to live in Oregon, this is also an option! If somehow the DMV fucks over your registration, it also leaves a massive paper trail. The charge on your card from them is enough to prove you were there. The physical ID in the mail is too, alongside your interim card. If for some reason you don't get a ballot, you can call the Board of Elections and flat out say: "I have physical evidence and bank statements to prove I was at the DMV on [date] - I think my voter registration has been compromised, as I opted-in to the voter registration when I went to the DMV."

Save your bank statement with the DMV charge. Save your interim card. All of it serves as a paper trail in Oregon.

I know this is state specific, but if anyone is an Oregonian or looking to move there, this is important info!

[neenarchive]

me when we start eating billionaires and i have to kill gomez addams

[neenarchive]

[nudityandnerdery]

Gomez and Morticia, telling us where they store the spare guillotines so we can go after Jeff Bezos after we finish with them.

[nudityandnerdery]

Look, I know we don't want to admit that our heroes can be flawed, but this isn't just people baselessly picking a rich person and saying they're a billionaire.

Don't hold back. Gomez will respect the revolutionary fire burning in your heart!

[bravelion96]

The Addams would bring the guillotines for the other billionaires, give away literally all their money and then still ASK for executions because it’s been so long since they had a good beheading in the family

[anderjak]

honestly, you'd break his heart if you said you WEREN'T planning on sticking his head in a guillotine. morticia, too. they'd be upset at the special treatment, too, but mostly they really want to be executed gruesomely as they stare lovingly into each other's eyes as their heads are separated from their bodies, and we need to respect that.

[krudman]

[toxic-blogman]

1,027 votes and 152 comments so far on Reddit

Reddit post made by a 43 year old mother about her 14 year old daughter being brainwashed and groomed by an anti and the very real consequences it caused. A depressing but important read that gives insight into how antishipping (like many things) can be used to groom minors.  The post begins with “I (43F) received a phone call” - everything above that is a final update edited in by the OP.

[ruinestagehouse]

This was actually horrifying to read, and what's more horrifying is I wouldn't be shocked if it was real.

This popped up on my Twitter, as well, and it's incredibly uncomfortable, but probably fairly important to read. Please mind the TWs and let me know if I missed anything.

[lalunanymph]

The TikTok-fication of Tumblr and why it needs to stop before your fave writers are gone for good:

1. “Part 2??”

Unlike TikTok, writing 5,000 words for a fic does not happen in 6 seconds or more. Weekly updates are from a writer who spoils you and is passionate about their story. Don’t kill the passion by demanding for more and not appreciate what’s already given.

2. The DC Conundrum

Many writers on this platform hail back from the ff.net days where dark content is a norm, not like TikTok where even death has to be censored or you could get flagged.

Despite that, writers are doing you a service by sharing fic warnings despite how it may take away from a plot twist or a big reveal. However, there’s a fine line between sharing warnings and downright spoiling our own work. Heed the warnings, don’t be a dick. If you don’t like it, don’t read it. Learn how to filter your own content, too, while you're at it.

3. The Wild Algorithm

Unlike TikTok, Tumblr’s FYP is not in your face and you have a choice to not view it. Content often gets buried a few days after it’s posted without reblogs or comments to keep it alive.

4. Passive Content Consumption

Ties back with point #1. If you’re only sitting back and reading works without supporting the writers, they can’t spend 6 seconds to conjure up a fic. Writing takes time, editing, proofreading. Tumblr is a book club, not a delivery service.

5. De(constructive) Criticism

If an opinion isn’t asked for, don’t give it. Many writers choose this craft for their own enjoyment and to share a thought or story about a beloved character to those who love them, too. If an opinion is asked? Be kind when you share it across to them. No one likes their hard work to be shat on by someone who doesn’t understand the time and effort it took to create this piece.

6. Are You My Content Machine?

Again, back to point #1. Writers have busy lives. There are days when we want to scream into the void about our favourite characters. We want to share our thoughts about them or sometimes, we just want to talk about what happened during lunch break. Demanding and expecting that a writer post content without giving a shit about the soul behind the screen? Dehumanizing.

Don’t ruin the experience for those of us who are still here. Do your part to make fandom better for everyone.

[tarasaurus98-deactivated2022110]

Americans, vote like your life depends on it because if this bill passes it literally will. They’re straight up trying to make it legal to arrest people for existing as LGBT.

[quasi-normalcy]

If any of your sneering people think “Oh, it’s just the transsexuals; no one cares”, I guarantee you that once they strip rights from us, they’ll just move on up to the next group on the hierarchy, because that is and always has been how fascism works.

[bundleofsouls]

The bill being discussed here is H.R.9197 and it goes farther than is being described.  This bill isn’t a prelude, it in and of itself tries to, effectively, ban “sexual material” from being viewed by someone under the age of 10.  “sexual material” which it defines as anything pertaining to”Any depiction, description, or simulation of sexual activity, any lewd or lascivious depiction or description of human genitals, or any topic involving gender identity, gender dysphoria, transgenderism, sexual orientation or related subjects“.  This is an outright assault on all of us in the LGBT community and beyond that would ban us from existing in spaces where children would be expected to be present, or attempting to teach children that we exist so they don’t suffer like many of us did and don’t cause others to suffer. 

Do not undersell the seriousness of this bill.

[ehbfrh]

Imagine how this would be used to prevent people from communicating with children in a way that could help the children confirm that they have been sexually harmed by someone.

Imagine how this would be used to prevent children from getting to know their own bodies in healthy and respectful ways so that they could make skillful choices for their own well being.

Imagine how this would be used to gag anybody who could possibly help a child who is being abused and prevent help from ever getting to children whose parents perform indoctrination of intolerance and hate for the first 18 years of a human’s life.

We grown ups are in danger, yes. But the goal could might be to isolate children from any diversity and keep them locked in step with their authoritarian designs.