the other other thing with the weaponization of socialization theory against trans women is that it's extremely defeatist and it serves the patriarchy, rather than challenging it, as the theory was developed to do
they've molded the theory into an extraordinarily powerful weapon by asserting that even people who literally change the sexgender class they belong to cannot do anything to change the shape the patriarchy has attempted to beat them into
you spend the first x years of your life with your environment attempting to shape you, and then, like clay hardening, you're stuck in that shape forever. if you were not taught confidence, you can never learn it. if you were not taught humility, you can never learn it. if you were taught ideas that harm you, you can never unlearn them
if you truly buy into this version of the theory constructed as a prison cell for trans women, you're putting yourself in the cell too, aren't you? how can you believe in feminism at all if you conceive of yourself as forever stuck in the shape of a helpless doormat? if not even a trans person can do anything to leave the cell you've constructed, surely you have even less hope of it
no, obviously you can and will change and break out of the shape the patriarchy attempts to beat you into, and trans people and feminists have been proving that throughout history
socialization theory describes an attempt by the patriarchy to mold you into the shape it wants. to conceive of this as an all-powerful force is to lie down and let it do the molding. one of the greatest tricks of the patriarchy has been co-opting socialization theory and managing to convince so many people that somehow not even transition itself represents any challenge to the efficacy of its untouchable socializing forces. feminism would have nowhere to go if that were true, and that's why it's so important to understand that it isn't true
