Believe It Or Not, Women Are Simple Creatures - The BAR System
Think she’s complicated? Think again.
Most men think that women are complex creatures. They complain about women over-analyzing, running amok, and being too demanding.
But in fact, the opposite is true. All girls really need in life is 3 things – and they form an acronym: Boundaries, Appreciation, and Routine - or BAR.
If she has Boundaries, which include punishment for violation, she knows there are limitations on how far she can go before you put her back in her place. Boundaries also include accountability for her actions. These Boundaries give her a sense of security unlike anything else you can give her.
Of course, she needs Appreciation – to be used like a slut, to be cuddled when she cries, to be told she’s a “good girl” when her behavior is at its best. Appreciation includes “I love you”s and maintenance spankings.
She requires Routine which includes consistency. If she’s busy with her Routine, she doesn’t have time to over-think. If she doesn’t have time to over-think, she can’t over-analyze every little situation in her life, and that’s liberating for her.
Make no mistake, she will consistently test to make sure these 3 things are still in place. It’s not a challenge to your authority, your masculinity, or your dominance; it’s actually a compliment. She treats these little tests like a “ping” signal. She pings because maybe, just maybe, she’s feeling a little insecure right at that moment and she needs to know the BAR is still firmly in place and because you’re the only one who can make her feel secure again. Don’t cower from the test, delight in it. She’s pinging you because she believes in you and knows with all her heart that you’ll return the ping signal with a loving, “it’s okay, babygirl … everything’s under control.”
All your girl has ever wanted is freedom in chains. Give her that freedom.
Set the BAR for her.
-Vintage In Stepford
This lowly girl fully believes in the BAR system and is working on having her Daddy use it with her ongoing training. BAR is genius and the Man than created it should get lifetime free blowjobs from us who believe in the System.
@that-blonde-bombshell Thank you. I might call in that reward some time in the future.
But it’s not really something that is unknown to Dominants. We know that girls need these three things, it’s just that I came up with the acronym to explain it to people who are new to the lifestyle.
It’s common knowledge, really. All I did by creating the BAR system is point out what Dominants already know.
So, really, girls owe those blowjobs to every dominant man. And I think everyone will agree that’s a good plan no matter the reason.
-VIS
















