A Wife's Oral Training
The first time I was spanked for lackluster oral sex, I was genuinely shocked.
I knew my husband was strict. By that point I already understood that he followed through on his rules, that he expected obedience, attentiveness, good manners, all of it. But I think some naive little part of me assumed sex would somehow exist outside that structure. That if I was at least trying, that would be enough.
Well...it wasn’t.
The problem wasn’t that I refused him. It wasn’t that I was openly disobedient. It was subtler than that, and honestly more embarrassing. I was being lazy, distracted, performing instead of serving. I was treating his pleasure like an obligation instead of giving him my full attention.
Of course, Mr. Quail noticed immediately.
He stopped me very calmly, took my chin in his hand, and asked:
“Are you trying to please me right now?”
I remember blushing instantly because I knew the truthful answer was no. Not really. I was in my own head. I was rushing. I was waiting for him to finish instead of focusing on him properly.
That was the first lesson: compliance is not the same thing as submission.
I was already naked, as I usually am when I’m giving oral. Bare from head to toe, on my knees in front of him, thinking I was doing what I was supposed to do. But, kneeling isn’t enough if my mind is somewhere else. Opening my mouth isn’t enough if I’m not truly attending to him. Being physically available is not the same as being pleasurable and useful.
He stood up, walked to the dresser, and picked up the leather strap.
That was when my stomach dropped. I honestly thought I was getting maybe two or three swats and a lecture. Instead, he pointed to the bed and told me to bend over.
I remember standing there beside the mattress, face hot, eyes down, still half-convinced this was going to be mostly symbolic. He told me to put both hands flat on the sheets, spread my feet slightly, arch my back, and hold still.
Then came the rules.
No reaching back. No twisting away. No closing my legs. No clenching. No interrupting him while he corrected me.
If I broke position badly enough, the count would restart. That made the whole room feel different.
The strap itself was folded leather, thick and heavy in his hand. I remember the soft creak of it as he adjusted his grip. I remember how quiet he was. That is always the thing that gets to me with him: he doesn't need to raise his voice to make me feel small. His calm is much worse than any yelling could be.
The first stroke shocked me more than hurt me at first — a deep, flat burst of heat across both cheeks that made my whole body jump forward against the mattress. Before I could even recover, his hand settled firmly between my shoulder blades.
“Hold still.”
His voice stayed perfectly even.
The next strokes came slowly, spaced far enough apart that I had time to feel each one fully bloom before the next landed. By the fourth, I was breathing hard. By the sixth, my thighs were trembling. The leather hurt in layers: first the impact, then the heat, then the spreading throb that seemed to settle deeper every second.
And he kept talking to me while he strapped me.
Not loudly. Not angrily. Just very matter-of-fact.
“If you’re on your knees for me, you'd better focus.” “Lazy service is disrespectful.” “You will use your mouth attentively.” “You are not down there to wait me out. You are down there to please me.”
That last one made me cry harder than the strap, because he was right. I had been waiting him out.
I had been physically in my place, but not mentally in my place. And my place, when I’m on my knees before him, is not passive. It is not bored. It is not half-present. My place is attentive, eager, and focused on his pleasure.
At one point, I instinctively tightened when the strap came down low across the underside of my cheeks. I didn’t even mean to. My body just braced.
He stopped immediately.
“No.”
Just that single word.
Then his hand was on me, firm and unhurried, pressing and shaking my cheeks loose until the tension went out of them.
“Clenching is defiance.”
I was crying by then, mortified and sore, trying to breathe properly while he corrected my body calmly.
“If you tense against correction, you are resisting me. Stay soft. This is your last warning. Next time you clench, we start over.”
That was another lesson I never forgot.
It wasn’t just about taking the strap. It was about how I took it. He wanted me open. Yielded. Not armored against him. Not secretly fighting him with my muscles while pretending to obey with the rest of me.
I had to physically force myself back into position: feet spread, back arched, cheeks loose, hands flat on the bed. He waited until I was properly arranged before continuing.
By the end I was openly crying into the sheets. Not pretty tears. Real ones. My face was wet, my nose was running a little, my backside felt hot and tight and impossibly tender, and I was trying desperately to stay still because I knew he would not accept flailing or dramatics.
Finally, the strap stopped.
I thought it was over.
Instead, he laid the leather lightly across my lower back and said:
“Now tell me what you learned.”
I was still shaking too hard to answer properly at first.
He waited a few seconds and then added, very calmly:
“If the lesson hasn’t sunk in yet, we can continue.”
That terrified me far more effectively than yelling would have. I forced myself to answer between breaths.
“I need to pay attention to you properly.” “I need to focus on pleasing you.” “I shouldn’t lazily service you.” “My mouth is for your pleasure. I will use it attentively.”
Each sentence had to be repeated clearly until he was satisfied with my tone. If I mumbled, he made me start again. He wanted to hear that I understood, not that I was simply trying to get through it.
Only then was I allowed to stand. But I still wasn’t forgiven yet.
He sent me to the corner afterward, still naked, bare ass burning, hands clasped behind my neck while he sat in the chair and read quietly. That corner time did something to me. The strapping hurt, obviously, but standing there afterward with my skin throbbing and my face wet gave the lesson time to sink in.
Every few minutes the heat would settle deeper and make me wince. I could still feel the shape of the strap across me. I could feel where I had clenched and where he had shaken me loose. I could feel the humiliation of being corrected not for refusing him, but for failing to serve him with the care he deserved. Underneath the humiliation was something else: relief.
That is hard to explain to people who don’t live this way. But being taken in hand like that — truly taken in hand — does something to me. It cuts through the excuses and the noise. It reminds me that I am not floating around in our relationship deciding moment by moment how much effort I feel like giving. I am his. His submissive. His girl. When I serve him, I must serve him properly.
Eventually he looked up from his book and said:
“Come demonstrate what you learned.”
I went back to him, still sore, still sniffling a little, and knelt between his legs again.
This time everything felt different.
I wasn’t thinking about myself. I wasn’t waiting for it to end. I was watching him. Listening to him. Paying attention to the smallest changes in his body: his breathing, the tension in his thighs, the way his hand moved into my hair when I did something right. I focused on pressure, tongue movement, eye contact, rhythm. I focused on making him feel worshipped.
And when he finally stroked my cheek and said:
“Much better.”
It affected me more deeply than the strapping itself. I realized he wasn’t just teaching me oral technique. He was teaching me attentiveness. He was teaching me that my place beneath him is active, not passive. That submission is not simply being available to be used. It is applying myself to his pleasure with discipline and care. It is listening with my whole body. It is learning him.
And no, that was definitely not the last time.
Once Mr. Quail realized how responsive I was to that kind of training, he became very exacting about it. The standards didn’t stay fixed either. As I became more experienced, more capable, more familiar with his body and preferences, the expectations rose with me.
He trained me deliberately.
If I did something especially well, he reinforced it immediately. A hand in my hair. A quiet:
“Good girl. Just like that.”
Sometimes he would let me feel how much I’d affected him physically — the change in his breathing, the way his thighs tensed, the way he pulled me closer when I was using my mouth exactly the way he liked. Positive reinforcement absolutely worked on me. I became hungry for those little moments of approval.
But if my focus drifted, if I rushed, if I got lazy or sloppy or stopped paying close attention to his reactions, correction came just as quickly.
And his corrections hurt.
Not playful little swats. Real strappings that left me sore for days. The kind that made sitting carefully necessary. The kind that reduced me to hiccuping tears because I knew I had disappointed him.
The humiliating part was that he was always specific.
Not:
“You’re bad.”
But:
“You stopped paying attention.” “You got lazy.” “You’re capable of better than that.”
That got under my skin much more deeply.
Over time, the training became increasingly exact. He would have me try different pacing, different pressure, different ways of using my tongue and throat. He taught me to pay attention to the entire experience of servicing him, not just mechanically getting him off. He wanted to feel desired, worshipped, carefully attended to.
For a while, during that period of training, he kept the strap physically in his hand while I serviced him. That affected me enormously.
Just seeing it there while I knelt between his legs — folded leather hanging loosely from his fingers — kept me intensely focused. I knew exactly what it meant. If my effort slipped, if my attention wandered, if I became careless, the correction would happen immediately.
And because he always followed through, the threat never felt abstract.
Sometimes he would tap the strap lightly against his thigh while watching me. Sometimes he would rest it across my shoulder or the back of my neck, not striking, just reminding. Sometimes he would pause me, lift my chin, and ask:
“Are you paying attention?”
And I learned to answer with my eyes before I answered with my mouth.
It created an intense state of concentration in me. I became hyper-aware of every reaction in his body: his breathing, his stomach tightening, his hand in my hair, whether he was relaxing into me or becoming impatient.
I learned quickly that attentiveness itself was erotic to him. Feeling carefully observed and skillfully pleased by his wife mattered deeply.
And honestly, it changed me. Eventually the standards stopped feeling external. I internalized them. The strap is rarely needed for that now because the training worked. These days, if I’m on my knees for him, he has my full attention almost automatically. I know what he likes. I know what it means when his breathing changes. I know when to slow down, when to use more pressure, when to stay exactly where I am.
Over time I began to love it.
There is something incredibly intimate about learning another person’s body so thoroughly. About knowing exactly how to make your husband tense, soften, groan quietly, grip your hair harder. About feeling him afterward, relaxed and pleased, and knowing you did that.
I’ll also admit something a little uncharitable: I sometimes pity men whose wives or girlfriends treat oral like an occasional treat, or a bargaining chip, or something to be gotten through with a few half-hearted motions before using their hands to hurry things along. That is so far from how I understand it now.
In our marriage, oral worship is not a cute bonus or a reluctant favor. It is symbolically important. It is one of the clearest physical expressions of my place relative to him: me on my knees, focused upward; him receiving my full attention, patience, and devotion.
There is something profoundly intimate about it. It is not just “giving head.” It is lips, tongue, throat, breath, eye contact, effort, and submission all organized around his pleasure. His cock becomes the center of my attention in a way that is almost ritualistic. I am not trying to rush him to an orgasm so I can be finished. I am trying to make him feel adored, served, and sexually honored by his wife.
There is something very powerful about elevating his cock that way — treating it as something worthy of care, patience, and reverence. Not because he is fragile or needs his ego stroked, but because in our dynamic, his pleasure matters. His satisfaction matters. His body matters. And when I am kneeling there, giving him my mouth properly, I am acknowledging all of that without needing to make a speech.
It has changed how I think about service completely.
A lazy blowjob feels almost insulting to me now. Not just technically bad, but spiritually wrong for the kind of marriage we have. If I am going to kneel for him, I want to kneel all the way. I want him to feel the difference between being casually serviced and being truly worshipped.
There was a funny moment once around “Steak and Blowjob Day,” which I believe is the day after Valentine’s Day. One of Mr. Quail’s friends, Doug, mentioned it to him in that joking-but-not-really-joking way men sometimes do. Something like, “Well, tomorrow’s my day. Finally getting a blowjob out of the wife.”
Mr. Quail smiled in the expected male way — amused, indulgent, not making a scene — but later he told me what he’d actually been thinking.
How sad.
Not cruelly sad, exactly. Just… sad.
Because in our house, there is no special holiday required for my husband to be pleasured by his wife. Hardly a day goes by that he isn’t touched, kissed, licked, sucked, or otherwise attended to. He doesn’t need a calendar gimmick or a once-a-year bargain. He doesn’t need to hope I’ll be in the mood, or negotiate for what should already belong to him.
Later, when he was telling me about it, he smiled and said:
“I really am lucky compared to some of these guys.”
And I loved hearing that.
Not because I want Doug to be unhappy, or because I think every marriage needs to look like ours. But because I want my husband to feel the contrast. I want him to know that he is not one of those men quietly hoping his wife remembers to desire him twice a year.
He did joke — privately, obviously — that Amy sounded like she could use a proper wife boot camp. A few weeks of long and hard spankings, clear rules, early bedtimes, calorie tracking, daily service, and learning that “not tonight” is not a personality. It was partly a joke, but I understood what he meant. From our perspective, a lot of what people call “normal marriage” looks like neglect dressed up as independence.
And yes, I know that sounds severe to some women.
But I do think it’s part of my responsibility as his wife not to let myself become sexually unavailable, physically careless, or indifferent to his appetite. I don’t think a man should be expected to stay endlessly faithful and devoted to a woman who refuses to care for herself, refuses to care for him, and treats his desire like an inconvenience. In our marriage, that would be a serious failure on my part.
He leads. He provides structure. He protects the marriage, plans for our future, keeps himself fit, disciplined, and desirable. And I owe him the same seriousness in return — my body cared for, my attitude softened, my mouth willing, my attention on him.
That is part of why oral worship matters so much to me. It is not just a sex act. It is a daily refusal to become that cold, withholding, half-hearted wife who makes her husband wait for a joke holiday to receive what should be freely and lovingly given.
I want Mr. Quail to know, in his bones, that he is desired here. Not occasionally. Not reluctantly. Not as a treat.
Giving him oral doesn’t feel like “performing sex” to me anymore. It feels like slipping into one of the deepest forms of service between us.
But I still feel a little jolt of anxiety if I ever catch my mind drifting.
Because somewhere in the back of my body, I remember very clearly what happened the first time he decided to teach me better.
And I’m grateful he did.
Devotional Training: For the wife to measure up.
