*mechanical whirring*

20 | entp | slytherin

[anthonybourdainpartsunknown]

corrective action

[vague-humanoid]

be the change you want to see in the world

[dearydeerling-deactivated201904]

His name is  Onur Albayrak! Here’s the story.

Hurriyet Daily News reports that Albayrak had been hired to photograph the July 5th wedding at Turgut Özal Nature Park in the eastern Turkish province of Malatya. On the day of, when he noticed that the bride-to-be didn’t look like an adult, he asked the groom her age and learned that she was only 15.

“The groom had come to my studio some two weeks ago and was alone,” Albayrak tells the Daily News. “I saw the bride for the first time at the wedding. She’s a child, and I felt her fear because she was trembling.”

Albayrak then reportedly refused to continue as the wedding photographer and attempted to stop the wedding.

The argument soon turned physical when the groom attacked him as he was attempting to leave, Albayrak says. The photographer ended up breaking the client’s nose in the fight, according to local reports.

Albayrak confirmed the reports in a Facebook post, which has been met with widespread approval, attracting thousands of Likes and hundreds of overwhelmingly positive comments.

“I wish this had never happened, but it did,” Albayrak writes. “And if you were to ask me if I’d do the same thing again, I’d say ‘yes.’ Child brides are [victims] of child abuse and no power on earth can make me photograph a child in a wedding gown.”

The legal minimum age for marriage in Turkey is 18-years-old for both sexes, and child marriage is punishable by imprisonment for men who marry underage girls. Despite being outlawed, however, child marriage is still prevalent in the country and remains a controversial political issue.

[Source] – go read the rest!

[erikacpataki]

this guy is a hero.

btw - let’s remind ourselves, americans, that unlike turkey, in the US the legal minimum age for marriage is only 18 in two states. in alabama, you can be married as young as fourteen years old if you have “parental permission”. in california, you can get married under 18 if you go to counseling, have a parent with you when you apply for the marriage license, and appear before a judge. in some states, there isn’t even a specific minimum age for marriage.

the minimum marriage age for girls in new hampshire is 13 years old.

48 states allow child marriage.

child marriage is not an “over there” problem, it happens right here, legally. any one of us might find ourselves called upon to break somebody’s nose if we encounter something like this occurring. we also have a responsibility to support groups and laws trying to end child marriage in this country.

[previouslysaltyfandombrat]

And often times, it’s not a child marrying another child. It’s a child marrying a much older person. 

Please remember that child marriage is NOT an “over there” or “not here” issue. It’s just not as talked about in the USA. 

[kabaks]

ideal blunt rotation

[scr4pyard]

seeing white ppl call out racism in other white ppl is always a ride because more often than not you can clearly see the way they phrase themselves, either full of white guilt or so distanced from it that they’re pretending they’re not white privileged by calling out those people.

ALWAYS remain suspicious of white person saying they hate “white women” or “white gays” or “white anything” because their whiteness is the same. their whiteness is the same, and more often than not, the prefix “white” is simply used as a way to appear woke while they openly spread hatespeech. i’m not interested in white men talking about annoying white karens, or white girls talking about white gays being the “cishets of lgbt”. 

y’all know exactly what you’re doing. it’s performative as hell and you need to shut the fuck up.

[sodafrog13]

the burly beast is genuinely so fucking funny to me bc someone on the workshop was like "i wanna see medic with his tits out" and actually went ahead and modeled it out and people liked it so much valve was like "ok here you go"

imagine being that person. imagine being Svdl, a pretty damn good modeler who has had a few of their other workshop items added to the game. you probably made that for the memes and then valave looked at it and was like "you are right, medic's titties are phat, into the game it goes"

[news-queue]

Social media fight spreads in Iran as women seek to regain international travel rights

Once married, women give up the right to leave the country and pursue education.

Iran’s Alpine ski coach, Samira Zargari, couldn’t join her team for the world championships in Italy last week.

The reason? Her husband barred her from leaving the country.

The reaction on social media was swift, and many Iranians vented their fury by demanding the government change the law to give women back their right to travel internationally, along with other rights stripped away after they’re married.

Based on domestic family law in the Islamic Republic, women give up the right to leave the country, pursue education or even choose where to live and work upon signing a marriage document. The only exception is if a woman’s husband relinquishes those rights, which rarely happens.

The only rights married women retain are limited custody of children and the right to divorce.

Zargari’s case, however, went viral and different hashtags about women’s rights began popping up on social media, including the “right to leave the country” and “no to discrimination against women.”

When asked to comment on Zargari’s case, the International Ski federation provided ABC News with a statement but did not mention Zargari by name.

“FIS sympathizes with any team member who is not able to travel to our World Championships,” the statement read. “However, FIS is also not in a position to dispute the laws of any given nation.”

Zahra Abdi, an Iranian poet, wrote on Twitter: “It is impossible for a society to move towards the future when the hands and feet of half the people are tied up. This is well understood by the developed countries and it is why they fight discriminatory laws against women. Wherever there is a sign of development, this struggle is taken more seriously.”

An online campaign asking to revise regulations on women leaving the country was signed by almost 50,000 people in less than a week.

“The basis of the family law in Iran is that the husband has all the rights,” an Iranian lawyer, who requested anonymity out of fear of reprisal, told ABC News. “Any woman who wants any of the rights back has to swim against the river and prove it at the court.”

Despite the outcry, the Iranian government hasn’t budged.

Responding to the social media campaign, Masoumeh Ebtekar, vice president for Women and Family Affairs, tweeted that in an emergency, women can ask the court to revise a husband’s decision but this can only happen after a judge is convinced the travel is “necessary,” and, even then, the woman would only be allowed to leave “on bail.”

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[whencyclopedia]

HAPPY International Women’s Day! ♀️

We’re proud to share the stories of strong, powerful women - most who are remembered for challenging the social norms of their respective time periods, and for making real changes in history.

[keplercryptids]

thinking of incarcerated women on this international women’s day, a group I haven’t seen specified in any post yet.

Women are the fastest growing US prison population, at an increase of 834% since the 70s.

Incarcerated women are more likely to enter the system with a history of abuse, trauma and mental health disorders, which prisons ignore or exacerbate.

Most incarcerated women (62%) are mothers of minor children, and are more likely to be the primary caretaker of these children, leading to family disruption/dissolution.

Women are also frequently incarcerated for “failure to protect” convictions - meaning victims of abuse are punished for being abused.

today i am thinking of all the women in jails and prisons, across the US and around the world, and hoping for a future where ALL women are seen, valued and fought for.

[scr4pyard]

don’t forget about marginalised women, this international women’s day. don’t forget about women in third world countries. don’t forget about women that aren’t even allowed to rejoice on the very day that is dedicated to them, because their patriarchal culture won’t allow it.

turkey has had 67 (possibly even more, since i last saw this phrase) women murdered at the hands of abusive men in the past 65 days. just this very morning, i watched a woman on the news get beaten to near death in front of her 5 year old child, by an abusive ex husband. she was in critical condition. it was attempted femicide.

they restricted access to certain parts of the city today, so that people couldn’t go out to celebrate. mind you, yes, social distancing is important, but this is not a rule they apply to other important days- it’s only come up for women’s day.

women’s history and women’s rights are important to celebrate and remember, but don’t forget about your sisters in other countries that aren’t free yet.

[the-bisexual-agenda]

[antisocial-hatred]

questions for my fellow antisocials

I’m working on a post that will explain AsPD in detail, including some sort of personal experience but mostly focusing on data and statistics. Since great part of the knowledge we have of the disorder is collected from criminals’ behavior, I wanted to add insights from people with AsPD who can function in a society (more or less). I will accept every answer but I’d prefer if the edgy teens and the “I’m the worst case of psychopathy my therapist has ever seen” stayed out of this, and please try to be honest about your own experience, it’s not a race to see who’s worse off Here are the questions, you can answer to all or just a few ofc: 1. Do you have any other disorder? 2. How would you describe the way you perceive feelings? We all know our emotions are toned down, but where do you feel them? Most neurotypicals identify an energy in correspondence of the heart, while for me it’s more like I know I’m feeling something but I can’t really place it anywhere in my body, so i’s kinda as if I rationally know I’m sad but I don’t feel the “sadness” physically. I’ve definitely felt some emotions tho, it just happens very rarely and I was wondering if maybe it was related to AsPD. 3. Have you ever felt love for a person or do you just view relationships as a contract, because you think someone may deserve your time and effort? Again, to me it’s like I generally know I love that person and sometimes I actually feel it, for a couple of minutes. 4. At what point in a relationship would you break up? ‘Cause we often say that as soon as the contract isn’t beneficial anymore we hop out, but at the same time we like chaotic situations and can tolerate more stress than the average person (and also I personally hate opening up with someone, so if I choose a person I’ll try to make it work 'til the end). 5. Do you think you can spot a person with AsPD by their appearance? They usually say we have a creepy stare, a controlled body language or those “Sanpaku eyes” which I don’t quite get tbh, although I’ve been told before that my eyes look “weird”. I think I can spot people with AsPD by their looks but manly by the way they approach and by what they say during conversations, for example a controlled body language, avoiding sharing personal infos, people pleasing and not moving the eyes much are indicators for me; anyway my biggest concern is about eyes, 'cause NTs seem so bothered by them and I don’t really see anything wrong, do most of them look plain normal or am I missing something? 6. Where do you stand on the political compass? Do you usually have strong opinions or do you stay in the middle? I’m an anarcho-communist and very opinionated, since it’s the only way I remember what I can morally tolerate 7. Do you feel anxiety, fear and panic, if so at what intensity and for how long? 8. Do you find yourself making better choices than neurotypicals thanks to your ability to act rationally? 9. Have you ever been spotted manipulating someone? If so, how did you react? 10. Do you have trouble using social media? Do you have a different approach based on your followers/the main topics discussed on the social media? 11. Do you need to “recharge your social battery” after spending time with people? Do you experience distress after masking (= putting a mask on to make social interactions) for too long? 12. Which are the most common myths about AsPD, false or not? If you need something to start with: misrepresentation in media, stigma and ableism (psychopaths are sadistic monsters who like to hurt people, empathy is necessary to be a good person…), general beliefs enforced by science (psychopaths tend to say “uhm” more often, psychopaths have a lower resting heart rate and less emotional responses than neurotypicals…), you can even just share a fact and say if it applies to you 13. What are the least discussed symptoms of AsPD? 14. Do you tend to sympathize more with the victim or the abuser? Please elaborate also based on the gravity of the crime and the way it touches you personally (for example if it’s a trigger or you’re involved somehow) 15. Do you say “sorry” often? Does it bother you to say it? Would you desrcibe yourself as hostile? Thanks for your time and hope you enjoyed answering, follow me if you want to stay updated on the post :D

[scr4pyard]

gonna read-more this because its a lot of questions

1. Do you have any other disorder?

i have adhd, odd, dpdr, and subclinical schizoid traits alongside my aspd

2. How would you describe the way you perceive feelings? 

usually i don’t feel things mentally. as in, if i’m happy or sad or angry, i won’t think under the influence of that, or i won’t think about how happy/etc i am, and it won’t really change my opinion on things. 

i think i usually feel things physically, like getting shaky hands or the physical urge to run around or hit something when i’m angry, and i can often identify it very easily when i’m happy or angry, but beyond that i sometimes can’t tell what i’m feeling.

3. Have you ever felt love for a person

i’ve loved like 2-3 people out of my many relationships. with the people i wasn’t in love with, i enjoyed spending time with them, and i liked the concept of a relationship, so i started one. with the people i’ve loved i’d say it’s reminiscent of how NTs experience it. 

i love my boyfriend, i think about him a lot even when he’s away, i crave interactions with him, i’m proud of him and want him to be happy even if it doesn’t benefit me. i’d say that fits most people’s perception of love?

4. At what point in a relationship would you break up? 

i wouldn’t break up with the person if i loved them, and my 2 previous relationships with people i loved, they broke up with me. with the people i wasn’t in love with, i generally just stopped talking to them at all, because i decided they weren’t fun to hang out with anymore. i don’t know if i ever clarified a break-up to anyone, either, i guess they mainly figured it out after months of radio silence.

5. Do you think you can spot a person with AsPD by their appearance?

i doubt i could “spot” people by their eyes, since i don’t like making eye contact and i don’t pay much attention to most people’s features while talking to them, anyway. but i might be able to tell that someone’s low empathy, at least, based on conversation.

6. Where do you stand on the political compass? Do you usually have strong opinions or do you stay in the middle? 

i’m a trotskyist and a radical feminist. it’s my hobby to start shit with centrists and attempt to radicalise baby left-wingers.

7. Do you feel anxiety, fear and panic, if so at what intensity and for how long?

yes, but all of them are on a physical scale. i’ve had restlessness and that weird pull in my heart and also hyperventilating etc, but the moment an issue is resolved or the trigger that’s causing it is removed, i go back to normal. so i don’t think i feel those in like.. a prolonged sense.

also, i think my fear reaction is wonky? usually i don’t get frightened of situations like seeing a car speeding towards me on the road, or being nearly mugged etc, but i’ll have a fear reaction to hearing footsteps coming towards my door regardless of whether i know who’s coming or not.

8. Do you find yourself making better choices than neurotypicals thanks to your ability to act rationally?

better in my opinion, yes, but i don’t think the people around me would agree, because we have different moral compasses and concepts of right and wrong.

also, my rationalising is probably overshadowed by me wanting to be reckless and cause drama or something else that’s exciting, so even if i think my choice was good, objectively it would probably be a shitty one.

9. Have you ever been spotted manipulating someone? If so, how did you react?

i mean, probably i’ve been spotted? idk how obvious that gets. i’ve lied to people or attempted to make them do things by suggestion, and they didn’t take the bait, but i doubt i’ve been directly accused with “you’re trying to manipulate me” outside of like a couple incidents.

i try to bullshit my way out of things or play on the opposite person’s emotions (like our friendship or how i’ve helped them out before etc) to make sure they don’t lose their trust in me.

10. Do you have trouble using social media? Do you have a different approach based on your followers/the main topics discussed on the social media?

my main issue with using social media is probably my schizoid symptoms and not aspd, since i find it incredibly boring to stay on most social media unless i’m specifically looking to save images or memes and thus have a reason to be there.

regardless of what’s going on, i like to post controversial content, but i’ll often get bored of debates i’ve started, too, and drop things halfway through. i have fb, insta, reddit, twitter etc and they’re all unused, and if i get back on them i usually only stick with it for like a week before i decide i’m bored again.

discord is the only platform i’m using regularly, and oftentimes it’s exclusively to talk to my boyfriend and debate with people in discourse servers, lol.

11. Do you need to “recharge your social battery” after spending time with people? Do you experience distress after masking (= putting a mask on to make social interactions) for too long?

i don’t mask anymore and i haven’t done so in years, so i don’t really feel distress about it, and i didn’t feel distressed over it when i did mask. but i’m very introverted and while i’ll seek out interactions and hang out with people, i’m going to ghost them the moment i get bored.

if i’m forced to interact with people for longer than i want to, i start getting aggressive and irritated and i’ll probably cause drama somehow. but that hasn’t happened recently, either, since i only befriend people that are respectful of my boundaries.

12. Which are the most common myths about AsPD, false or not? 

probably the stereotype of us being really edgy/selfish/malicious, and i’d say those kind of apply to me? i mean, i’m not edgy in the “i’ll raid your server and call you slurs” way, but i engage in morbid/grotesque and admittedly edgy interests. and i openly admit that i can sometimes be selfish and malicious, even if i don’t act on it, because i think it’d be dishonest of me to deny.

i think some aspd myths have some merit, but they’re taken the wrong way. someone feeling selfish or sadistic or not having compassion for others are just feelings; the person is fully capable of acting in a manner that doesn’t show those traits and displays ‘traditionally positive’ ones instead.

though clearly more often than not those myths are just horror movie fodder and blown out of whack. as in, entirely inaccurate, lol.

13. What are the least discussed symptoms of AsPD?

idk if this is a common symptom, but it seems that most people with aspd i know feel some sort of disconnect from the concept of being human, since they can’t relate to other people. there’s a lot of depersonalisation that goes on, but people generally don’t mention it, because it’s normal to them or they think it’s weakness or they don’t even realise that their detachment is depersonalisation.

14. Do you tend to sympathize more with the victim or the abuser? Please elaborate also based on the gravity of the crime and the way it touches you personally (for example if it’s a trigger or you’re involved somehow)

if it’s something like an abuse case, i’ll support and sympathise with the victim. i kind of have a history of getting very aggressive on behalf of my lovers, since they’re often kinder people than i am, and going absolutely apeshit on people that have hurt them. maybe a bit overboard, but it was fully deserved in my mind.

stuff like sexual harassment or worse, always side with the victim, too. murder, it depends, because if it was out of self defence by someone who has a history of being a victim, i’ll side with them, but if it was an abuse of power and authority, i’ll be against the person who committed it.

i’ve always been told i overreact in my statements about abuse, like “oh, if X did that, then the punishment should be (something severe)”, but i’ve always thought it perfectly justified. feeling sorry for someone doesn’t change the fact that they deserve something equally malicious for their own act of knowingly exploiting and hurting vulnerable people.

15. Do you say “sorry” often? Does it bother you to say it? Would you desrcibe yourself as hostile?

i don’t say sorry that often besides in a joking manner (like “im sorry but i have to kill you” in reaction to a shitty meme lol) or besides using it to mean “excuse me?”, and i almost never use it in real apologies.

i think it bothers me to say it sometimes, because generally i’ll feel that i haven’t done anything worthy of me saying sorry, and saying it when i don’t feel it is an act of submission/makes me feel weak. i’ll use phrases like “i apologise” or “my bad” instead, i think.

i’m a very hostile person. like, incredibly hostile. i don’t act on it, but mentally, i’m always ready to start shit with the first person i see, and i think that’s moreso out of boredom than it is out of real anger, although i’ll get incredibly furious too, if i feel like someone did me wrong. but i’ll come over it and act perfectly normal like before, if they apologise and the situation is resolved. so i guess it depends?

[creemee2]

I’m gonna take a step back and block all the personality disorder related tags and phrases because I’m hyperfixating on NPD and spiraling and I need to do what is best for myself. Sorry if someone has a genuine response to one of my posts about NPD. I can’t keep hurting my own mental health and engaging in these discussions as a way to avoid things in my own life that are even more overwhelming to me.

I still stand by everything I said about people with NPD having traits that are inherently harmful and I will let others know if my stance changes.

[scr4pyard]

so what gives you the right to harass, abuse, and upset extremely vulnerable and marginalised people on here before you decide that your feefees are too weak to keep going?

one of your posts say that people with ASD are “willing to be compassionate and empathetic” yet i’ve seen nothing but incredibly fucking malicious BULLSHIT from every single post you make about NPD, lol.

[scr4pyard]

hey any advice for ppl scared of identifying as radfem due to the association of the ideology with terms?

personally, i clarify to people that radical feminism isnt inherently transphobic, and i provide sources with trans-inclusive radical feminists, radfems who are trans women, etc.

you can also explain the difference between liberal vs radical feminism, and how liberal feminism’s focus on personal empowerment is never going to help the marginalised women across the globe. and it isn’t feminism if it doesn’t uplift ALL women.

here are some links from trans advocate’s twitter site and radfem extension, where you can read multiple different articles and sources about women that support trans people, transitioning, believe women’s social class to include trans women, and the like. you can always use these to help other people realise that radical feminism isn’t what it’s made out to be.

http://radfem.transadvocate.com

https://twitter.com/transadvocate/status/1208125477187178497

on top of this, a blog i REALLY enjoy is @terfslying for posting unapologetically radfem content while also actively debunking and arguing against TERF points and spreading good info about trans-inclusive radical feminism.

[scr4pyard]

i’ve decided that westerns are automatically not allowed to comment on radical feminism in general. the only reason y’all think radical feminism is inherently transphobic is because y’all have the privilege of not having to look up all the (very real and trans-supported! trans advocate even has multiple pro-radfem posts and articles) examples of trans-inclusive radical feminism.

if you’re american, western european, anything of that sort, simply shut the fuck up i am NOT interested in your objectively wrong and shitty takes about radical feminism  💛 get well soon, misogyny can be lethal

[j-uwu-ish]

*Is masculine in a feminine way that pisses you off*

[grimeygruelx]

*is feminine in a masculine way that makes your brain buffer*

[fdgvfdasgv]

You mean Homosexuality? Thats not clever, youre just gay. You shouldve said entitled in a narcissistic way that makes people cringe at you.

[j-uwu-ish]

It pissed you off didn’t it

[malewifenat]

What does the arab in your carrd mean? Is it like afab and amab?

.. i’m palestinian

[captainlordauditor]

same energy

[princesskuragina]

[unscharf-an-den-raendern]

[definitely-not-lordenglish]

[catradoraism]

[thousandfoottallowl]

there’s more

[snenby-with-two-daggers]

[scr4pyard]

Hey if you blacklist radfem and terf and gender critical, several posts on your blog get censored because the op used those tags. You should try blacklisting them, easy way to find out if op of something is a terf

radfem isn’t the same thing as TERF. i wholeheartedly support radical feminism and will not be blacklisting anything, sorry. 

the posts themselves are agreeable and make very important points. you should read them and acknowledge the valid concerns they raise regardless of who says it.

[scr4pyard]

I love your tumblr, learned so much from it thank you!!!

glad you enjoy my posts!