when i was a kid i was so mad all the time bc i thought someday i'd have to be somebody's wife i didn't know it was optional. is everybody reminding the young girls in their lives that it's optional.
is wanting to be a wife and mother a requirement for being a woman?
why might OP be annoyed with replies assuming that this post is about being aroace or transmasc if a woman doesn’t want to be a wife or mother?
are there reasons unrelated to sexuality and romantic interest that might make a woman not want to be a wife or mother?
are there reasons unrelated to gender identity and expression that might make a woman not want to be a wife and mother?
core concept: what is gender essentialism?
is it gender essentialism to imply that all women inherently want to be wives and mothers? could this be what OP is critiquing?
look at the notes OP responds to. is it gender essentialism to imply that being a wife and mother is so affixed to womanhood that to not want to be those things means you’re incapable of sexual/romantic feelings, or not a woman?
what trait are you perpetuating when you assume that women who do not want to be wives and mothers must be aroace or trans? is it gender essentialism?
good morning to horror fans, fat bitches, people with psychosis, they/thems, people who can’t drive, trans women, witches, and single dads. the rest of you... you’re on your own
[ID: handwritten note with first grade penmanship saying “i know this year you have had a hard time teching these chilldren but i know you can do this. ♡”]
My commissions are open once again! More examples can be found on this blog or on my [Ko-fi]. Prices are in USD, please contact me BEFORE purchasing. Contact me here through DMs, through Ko-fi messaging, Bluesky (@hemolymphart), Instagram (@hemolymphart), or my discord (@hemo_lymph) to commission me. If you have any questions, feel free to ask me!
I would greatly appreciate any reblogs on this, because my audience is very small. I would like to change that!
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Image 1: A commissions price sheet. On the left is a digital illustration of the artist’s sona, divided into categories marking the size difference between an icon, a half-body, and full body pieces. It also displays the different levels of rendering. The icon section is fully shaded, the half-body section is colored without shading, and the full body section shows just lines. The prices are as follows:
Icons: $10 for lines, $20 for color, and $35 for a fully shaded piece.
Half-Body: $15 for lines, $30 for color, and $50 for full shading.
Full-Body: $25 for lines, $40 for color, and $60 for full shading.
Adding colored lines is +$5. Adding another character is +50% of the total price. A simple background is +$5-20, depending on complexity.
Payments accepted are ko-fi, paypal, and venmo. Check the post for more info.
On the bottom right there is a table showing what I will and will not do.
I will do: humanoid, anthro, robot-android (not mech!), fandom, OCs, real people, suggestive, artistic nudity, injury, blood, and personal use.
I won’t do: I reserve the right to refuse any commission, but here's some "don'ts": complicated mech or machinery, full NSFW, heavy gore, and commercial use.
Image 2: Another commission prices sheet titled "Reference Sheets". The prices are as follows:
Front only: $45 for flat colors, $60 for shading.
Front + back: $60 flats, $75 shaded.
Colored lines: +$5 flats or shaded.
Extra expression: +$5 flats, +$10 shaded.
Extra outfit (same pose): +$5 flats, +$10 shaded.
Extra pose (can include new outfit): +$10 flats, +$15 shaded.
It shows examples and their prices. A shaded reference of an anthro dog with front + back and an extra pose is $90. A flat reference of a pink anthro cow with front + back, colored lines, an extra pose, and 4 extra expressions is $95. A flat reference with just a front view of an anthro wasp mimic moth with colored lines is $50.
Image 3: A page labeled "Misc Examples" containing examples and prices of the art shown. A half-body piece of a bloodied vampire examining their own reflection in a mirror with shading, colored lines, and a simple background is $60.
A full body piece of an anthro monster creature sitting on a bench and a park with shading, colored lines, and a complex background is $80.
A full body piece of two people slow dancing in a room with large windows with shading, an extra character, and a background is $100.
A full body piece of a black anthro wasp with flat colors and colored lines is $45.
Text on the bottom right reads "Note: excessively complex designs may be subject to extra charge.
I have increased the sale from 25% to a full 50%!! The sale will continue at least a few weeks, possibly till the end of the month. Grab em now while you can!
CONNIE PANZARINO at a pride march in Boston circa 1990
[ID: Connie is marching along in her sip 'n' puff (SNP) wheelchair. She is wearing a patterned poncho and sporting a green felt party crown on her head. She styles a pair of wire-rimmed glasses with her slicked back hair. She is smiling. Attached to the back of her wheelchair is a large green cardboard poster that reads "Trached Dykes Eat Pussy Without Comin' Up For Air!" followed by a pink upside-down triangle with a stick figure person in a wheelchair at the centre (a symbol for disabled women)].
the cyborg & the crip by Alison Kafer
[ID: “Trached dykes eat pussy without coming up for air.” Connie Panzarino, a longtime disability activist and out lesbian, would attach this sign to her wheelchair during Pride marches in Boston in the early 1990s. Shockingly explicit, her sign refuses to cast technology as cold, distancing, or disembodied/disembodying, presenting it instead as a source and site of embodied pleasure.
“Trach” is an abbreviation of tracheotomy, a medical procedure in which a breathing tube is inserted directly into the trachea, bypassing the mouth and nose. Someone with a trach, then, can, in effect, breathe through her throat, freeing her mouth for other activities (another version of this sign is “Trached dykes french kiss without coming up for air”). From a cyborgian perspective, this sign is brilliantly provocative and productive. It draws on the pervasive idea that adaptive technologies grant superior abilities,not merely replacing a lost capacity but enhancing it, yet it does so in a highly subversive way. The message here isn’t about blending in, about passing as normal or hypernormal, but about publicly announcing the viability of a queer disabled location. It’s disnormalizing, adamantly refusing compulsory heterosexuality, compulsory able bodiedness, and homonormativity. As Corbett O’Toole argues, it challenges the perceived passivity of disabled women, presenting them as actively pleasuring their partners, thereby graphically refuting stereotypes linking physical disability with nonsexuality.]
being as i am an idiot, and having been one my whole life, i just wanna say that i find it very easy to do nothing, and go nowhere. i eat chocolate late at night in the dark. i stand in the garden also. and i’m often waiting for something to happen. and i’m stupid.
Scifi is when the hot butch wears a tank top and cargo pants and carries a complex but beat up looking tool that looks vaguely like a welding torch but it's ✨plasma✨ and fantasy is when the hot butch wears armor and a banner and carries an implement of death wrought in steel
These archetypes, of course, don't exist in real life.
I would need to see direct, photographic evidence of either type of hot butch women existing. Yes, direct photographic evidence, in my DMs or the reblogs of this post, will be the only thing that smugly proves me wrong.
part-time soulmate,
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