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Listen. I want to tell you guys about the Dollar Tree. If you ever need to rebuild your life fast, you want a dollar tree. Everything in a dollar tree costs one dollar. No exceptions. Nothing has a price tag. Everything is one dollar.

This is Dollar Tree not Dollar General.

Dollar Tree looks like this:

Their stuff is off-brand but decent quality.

Here are some things you can buy at the dollar tree for one dollar:

- any kind of makeup- foundation, eyeshadow, lipstick, lip gloss, mascara, etc

- socks

- Sports bras (sometimes)

- combs, brushes, hairclips, scrunchies, hair ties, headbands

- clothes hangers, laundry bags, mothballs

- any kind of office supplies or school supplies. Staplers, pencils, posterboard, pencils, pens, etc.

- party supplies including paper plates and balloons

- all kinds of toiletries- shampoo, conditioner, toothbrush, toothpaste, dental floss, washcloths, deodorant, razors, shaving cream, nailclippers, etc. Decent sizes, too.

- ceramic/glass plates, bowls, cups

- reading glasses, sunglasses

- plastic buckets

- cleaning supplies, detergent, bleach, laundry syrup, fabric softener, dish soap, sponges. brooms

- electronics, headphones, night lights, phone chargers, batteries, screen cleaners, phone cases

Basically? If you ever get kicked out of your house or find yourself with a couple bucks and nothing else, get thee to a dollar tree.

mamstheodd

All the dollar tree stores I have been in have some sort of medical aisle too. Its actually where I went first when my tooth broke for some off brand orajel (Works much faster and better than orajel imo, longer too if you put it on a cotton ball and keep it in the area) And sometimes even emergency temp tooth repair kits, which are at least $7 elsewhere. Dollar tree is a miracle.

ahshmeeeee-in-wonderland

I love Dollar Tree. When I first moved out this place saved me.

rikuzegram

Every 20-something individual needs a Dollar Tree nearby.

corporalbutts

Dollar Tree also sells PREGNANCY TESTS and yes they work! Go in and buy like 5 of them, don’t spend $25 on three at CVS, not worth your money and honestly has saved me TONS of anxiety.

strawbebbynya

Dollar Tree also takes EBT. I nearly cried when I discovered that, because of my strict dietary needs.

itsmeredithlynne

HEY EVERYBODY, the election is TOMORROW. I’ve got my vote in. Please get yours in too.

Please.

nprfreshair

Tomorrow is Election Day. Follow NPR’s coverage all day, like How To Make Sense Of Exit Polls.

Illustration by Meredith Miotke

it takes years to develop your craft. do not romanticize the idea of an ‘overnight success’. be a student. grow organically. get really good. hate your work. start over. find new ways to express the same ideas. the student becomes the master. your time will come.

omgthatdress

Putting these up for anyone who needs them today.

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward

Why Does he DO That: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

superopinionated

Cannot recommend WDHDT highly enough. I’ve found it helpful not just for romantic relationships, but also for growing up w a “unexplainable/uncontrollable” dad.

IT HAS ALSO BEEN REALLY HELPFUL FOR UNDERSTANDING ONLINE MOB HARASSMENT.

So if you’ve ever been bombarded w threats to be raped/killed, (so…if you’re a minority and you’ve been on the Internet for a while), this book might be useful for getting clarity around the whole entitled, abusive mindset that drives certain kinds of people to behave that way. And by “getting clarity”, I mean (for me) being able to go “oh, that’s what’s happening” and not really feel scared anymore. Or angry, or drawn out into it, or anything.

And if you’re still standing around going “but how does something like GamerGate happen?” or “but why do men hit their wives?” or whatever – please read that book and learn something.

omgthatdress

^^^^ truth WDHDT is fantastic at cutting down MRA bullshit and calling it what it really is

kithnkin

Also recommending

swampseer

Please consider reading these. WDHDT is really, really helpful. And I know some of you are struggling with abusive relationships, friendships, families, etc. You’re not alone. There is help.

heysawbones

Yo. This family holiday, please, please take care of yourself. You aren’t there to be anybody else’s cushion.

robotsandfrippary

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

Reading any of these books does not mean you don’t love your parents or family. It’s just self care for helping you cope and not repeat the behaviors.

anna-mator

A gentle reminder that I have Toxic Parents as a FREE PDF if you would like to download it and read it on your own. Take care of yourselves.

heavyweightheart

All the books in this thread are great; adding this one because it was the most helpful to me. Free pdf here

millionsknives

please make sure that wherever you’re at in life, you don’t treat it like a transitory period. don’t waste your college years wishing to already be graduated & have a job. don’t waste your single years wishing for someone to be in love with. if/when those things come, they will come in due time and they will be good. but there is nothing like looking back and feeling empty because you wasted literal years ignoring what you had because you were hoping for something better. while it’s important to better yourself and reach for your goals, don’t neglect the present because that’s where you are now and it’s your now that determines your future.

sapphiac

One of those “hard to swallow pills” as far as mental health advice goes is stopping negative self talk. I understand that making self deprecating jokes and and poking fun at the topic of depression can be a coping mechanism for some people, and it’s miles better than actually doing something self destructive, but it perpetuates a negative mindset. It doesn’t facilitate any progress to continue to constantly put yourself down, and joking about wanting to die propagates casual suicidal ideation.

I understand that I’m absolutely guilty of indulging in negative self talk. I don’t mean to sound hypocritical. It’s not terrible if you can’t find a way to stop your negative self talk, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about it, but it definitely inhibits any progress towards recovery you could be making, which isn’t ideal. I’m only saying that it’s something that people who struggle with mental health issues should be mindful of.

Please be kind to yourself. You don’t need to over-emphasize your negative traits to be funny or relatable. Sometimes it’s ok to just be.

ironinkpen

my shit brain: i’m so bad at this, i just can’t do it-

me, a learning, growing human being whom believes in her own potential: yet bitch!!!!

ironinkpen

you’ve been tricked by the education system into thinking that your worth is based on your ability to do the thing Right Now on the First Try, but here’s the big secret: everyone sucks at shit when they first try it, including the people who then get really good at shit. if little baby you had given up on talking because you fucked up on the first try, you wouldn’t know how to talk. and if your favorite singer/artist/whatever gave up because they fucked up on the first try, they wouldn’t have made that thing you love. so stop shitting on yourself for failing and get excited about learning a new skill instead! be bad at things!! have fun being bad at them!! that’s how you get better!!

delcat177

There was this episode of Monk where he joined a painting class, drew one line, and then despondently said “I ruined it”, and that show may have had a lot of problems but fuck me if I haven’t been going back to that Mood for ten years solid now

The Mood to replace it:

churchyardgrim

god this is a big ask but I really wish there were like….. a site where you could plug in your state/district/whatever and tick some boxes on issues you prioritize and then the site would give you a rundown of the potential candidates in your area and where they stand on those issues in like….. clean simple bullet points. gimme the cliffnotes, I literally do not have the time or energy to comb through god knows how many articles and shit to figure out who to support, just tell me what their stance is on X, Y, and Z, and that’s gonna have to be enough.

antis-are-abusive

There’s BallotReady!

It goes through who’s on your ballot and explains things like that based on your address.

jumpingjacktrash

this is really great. it gives you bullet points on what each candidate has said and done on each issue.

very illuminating, frankly, seeing the candidate’s own words and actions. for instance, under ‘defense/veterans’ the republican candidates almost always say something about a well-funded military, and the democrats almost always say something about getting veterans the medical care they need. makes it pretty obvious that republicans don’t care about soldiers once they’re done with them.

kvebox

go vote kids, no excuses

#voting

realtransfacts

Top Surgery Masterpost

Obligatory disclaimer: trans people don’t have to have any kind of top surgery in order to be valid. It’s your own body, so you get to decide what and what not to do with it.

& if anyone else has any more good resources or information, please feel free to add to this post!

General Top Surgery info:

My Top Surgery Tag

Myths about transmasc top surgery and NB people

Ultimate Top Surgery FAQ

Surgery: A Guide pdf

TPOC representation & general info

Top Surgery Resources

Top Surgery Before and After Photos

Chest Reconstruction Surgeries

Keyhole Top Surgery

Keyhole Incision Top Surgery Video

Top Surgery Expectations vs. Reality Video

How top surgery works Video

What is top surgery? Video

Nipple Graft Sensation

Scar Comparison

Top surgery for fat people

Top Surgery pre-testosterone

Top Surgery Kit List Video

Things to Know When Getting Top Surgery

One thing they Don’t tell you about Top Surgery

Pre-surgery Care

Top Surgery Shopping & Packing Checklist

Aftercare & Scars:

Top Surgery Survival Guide | Post Op Packing List & Tips Video

Trans Guy Problems: Top Surgery Recovery Video

How To Change Your Nipple Dressings After Top Surgery Video

Scar Creams & Massage Video

Trans Guy: Top Surgery Scar Treatment Video

One Year Post Top Surgery + Scar Tips Video

2 Months post-op Double incision top surgery Video

Things I Needed for Top Surgery Recovery

Scar Care

Hypertrophic Scar Treatment

Cosmetic Procedures: Scars

Scar Concealer Video

Breast Reduction:

Breast Reduction vs. Breast Reconstruction: What’s the Difference?

The Difference between Chest Reconstruction and Breast Reduction

How breast reduction surgery is carried out video

8 Things I Wish I’d Known Before Getting a Breast Reduction

Should I get the full chest reconstruction or just a reduction?

Is it possible to have top surgery after a breast reduction?

Top Surgery and Breast Reduction

Bilateral Breast Reduction

Before & After Pictures

Revision Surgery:

All About Top Surgery Revisions

Additional Chest Procedures

Top surgery: did you get a revision?

Chest Masculinization Surgery

Getting a top surgery revision! video

Previous Masterposts:

Transmasc Presentation

Transfem Presentation

HRT Masterpost

#top surgery

bold

i understand when ur 13 and u just realized u have a mental illness and ur so relieved to know there are other ppl going thru the same thing as u, its easy to slip into the idea that your newly labeled thoughts and behaviors are normal and okay.

they are not. suicidal thoughts arent normal. violent impulses arent normal. delusions and hallucinations arent normal.

now that you have a name for this behavior you need to seek help. dont let tumblr trick you into thinking unhealthy coping mechanisms are the only ways to deal with your mental illness. dont let it fester, dont let it worsen. seek as much help as you can. actively try to better yourself.

starlightandtears

Hmmm let’s learn to tell people that we’re upset with why we’re upset with them instead of being passive aggressive and expecting them to guess. Let’s learn to healthily communicate our anger/disappointment instead of dragging things out over days and weeks and breaking our own hearts and spiraling when people can’t read our minds and take the steps we think appropriate to reconcile the conflict.

Our moods are not as obvious as we think they are.

stayhungry-stayfree

This is a really helpful page in my CBT textbook for tackling some of the maladaptive beliefs we often hold. The first column lists the rules and assumptions we often may tell ourselves, while the second column is a more functional belief. Just thought I would pass this along. Be kind to yourselves, friends❤

ceekari

Oh my god, number 5. And 6, and 7.

I frigging needed that.

rollerskatinglizard

Failure is not a permanent condition.

kosmonauttihai

The text on the image:

Maladaptive belief: If I don’t do as well as others, I’m a failure. More functional belief: If I don’t do as well as others, I’m not a failure, just human.

Maladaptive belief: If I ask for help, it’s a sign of weakness. More functional belief: If I ask for help when I need it, I’m showing good problem-solving abilities (which is a sign of strength).

Maladaptive belief: If I fail at work/school, I’m a failure as a person. More functional belief: If I fail at work/school, it’s not a reflection of my whole self. (My whole self includes how I am as a friend, daughter, sister, relative, citizen, and community member, and my qualities of kindness, sensitivity to others, helpfulness, etc.) Also, failure is not a permanent condition.

Maladaptive belief: I should be able to excel at everything I try. More functional belief: I shouldn’t be able to excel at something unless I am gifted in that area (and am willing and able to devote considerable time and effort toward it at the expense of other things.

Maladaptive belief: I should always work hard and do my best. More functional belief: I should put in a reasonable amount of effort much of the time.

Maladaptive belief: If I don’t live up to my potential, I have failed. More functional belief: If I do less than my best, I have succeeded perhaps 70%, 80%, or 90%; not 0%.

Maladaptive belief: If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll fail. More functional belief: If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll probably do reasonably well and have a more balanced life.

farahandthemachine

What book is this?

succubusboyfriend

look if you’re feeling really low the questions “am i hungry,” “am i thirsty,” “am i sleepy,” “do i need to bathe,” etc ARE very very important for you to ask yourself but something else you should ask is “have i done anything today??”

when you’ve got mental illness esp anything related to depression or executive dysfunction it can be VERY HARD for you to be productive sometimes, but. the human brain literally hates being bored and it hates feeling like it hasn’t accomplished anything; sitting around stagnant is just gonna make you more miserable.

even just getting up and washing a couple dishes can take a shit ton of the weight off. it doesn’t have to be something big. just do… something.

sometimesicryatnight-deactivate

The city I’ve grown up in is trying to rezone my neighborhood so they can cut down all of the old forest surrounding it which will fuck up the entire lake habitat to build high density housing. Please, please help me stop this from happening by signing this petition if you can and save our wildlife and the beauty of my home

This is one of my favorite places on the planet and seeing it be ruined for unnecessary development would break my heart.

pettankogothgf

It takes 2 minutes. There aren’t many more signatures they need left, go help out please. It’s worth your time.

#signal boost

fishmalazahn

thepowerwithin

Have you told yourself that you love yourself yet today? Have you acknowledged how naturally beautiful you are? Have you noticed all of the many skills and talents that you possess?

spoonie-living

When Spooniehacker offered me the chance of trying some of the many mental health apps around to see if they were helpful, I thought I’d give it a go. A bit of research showed that I had a *lot* of options to choose from, with prices ranging from completely free to annual memberships of up to $135. I chose the free version of Happify to start with because I liked that it mentioned using games as part of the ‘program’.

Folks, this seems like a really neat app. In addition to your standard “happiness” tools like meditation and CBT, it also has games!

From the review:

I really liked the ‘negative knockout’ game. This is similar to the game Angry Birds but you are firing ‘happiness cannon balls’ to destroy your ‘concrete negative thoughts’. I actually found this really useful. I got to pick my negative thought phrases, and then blast them, and (especially on bad days) it really helped lift my mood.

Another good game was called Uplift. This featured images of hot air balloons – you have to click the ones with positive words, and ignore the negative ones.

Seems very innovative, and right on point for folks struggling to maintain positivity in tough times.

Happify on Google Play | Happify on iTunes

By the way, the site this review is on is called Spooniehacker, and it’s a new community effort similar to Spoonie Living—but with a broader focus that goes past resources and includes entertainment and personal pieces as well.

They are looking for (paid!) contributors, so definitely send them a pitch if you have an article in mind.

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