semsouljah

she/him | my 3 favorite things are my wonderful partner (@junegivesyouwings), underground rap, and trans people

[kayla-denker]

The issue of trans women being sent to men's prisons isn't brought up as being a monstrous thing because of the misgendering, it's monstrous because we're sent there to be legally sex trafficked.

That's what V-coding is. That is why they are so adamant about sending trans women to men's prisons, because sex trafficking trans women within the men's prison system is an essential part of that system. Being misgendered by this isn't even an issue that's on our radar!

[augmented-angel]

i can't believe i have to say this in the big 26, but if you are a transgender man,

YOU HAVE MALE PRIVILEGE, AND DO NOT FACE TRANSMISOGYNY.

now, you may have several arguments to this: "but i don't have the privilege cis men do", "i still experience transphobia", "i experienced misogyny before i came out", etc, etc.

this is a fundamental misunderstanding of how privilege works. when looking at privilege, you need to take into account that it works on several axes. there's the axis of race, of religion, of economic class, AND of gender. (and tons of others, but i digress)

to break that last one down further, there's even an axis of cis-ness, if you will. (i.e., cis men do hold privilege over trans men, same thing for cis and trans women.)

what you aren't understanding is while the majority of the population holds privilege over you on the axis of gender, it is NOT because you are a man. it is because you're transgender.

another way to look at this is with myself. i am a white transgender woman. that gives me privilege over people of color because of my race, but i am still subject to misogyny from men of color. at the same time, while i and a transgender woman of color both face transmisogyny, i still have privilege she does not on account of my whiteness.

so what's my point? trans men, you taking on the gender of man gives you male privilege. it does not grant you the same level of privilege a cis man would have, BUT YOU STILL HAVE IT. you are still given a level of privilege that transgender women will never have. this is a fact that you NEED to come to terms with, especially in a time where transmisogyny has never been more prevalent.

in conclusion, love and support your sisters, know that we do recognize your struggles, and use the privilege you have to uplift us. please.

p.s.: i am a woman with very little patience for ignorance and hostility, and i will not allow it to fester in my notes. be respectful or get blocked.

p.p.s.: trans women of color, please feel free to add on to or correct anything i said. i love you, mwah ♡

[cardentist]

Context [Link 1, Link 2]

[sees a drawing of a non-conforming trans woman and immediately turns it into a transphobic caricature] what'd they mean by this

[cardentist]

tags from @chiko-akihari

you would NOT be crazy whatsoever, because it absolutely IS racism mixed with misogyny mixed with transmisogyny (mixed with fatphobia).

if you don't conform to sexist WHITE cis-hetero body standards then you don't Get to count as a woman. and not only do you not get to Count, but your existence At All is considered so offensive that it HAS to be censored and fixed.

people let their insecurity lead them deeper and deeper into bigotry, and it's absolutely cannibalizing the trans community

[getleond]

Real talk tho yall why the hell are we using gender assigned at birth labels to identify “what kind” of nonbinary someone is. First of all AGAB was created by the intersex community to uplift their voices about medical discrimination. And for some reason, people saw it and went “oh goody!! A new box to shove nonbinaries into!!!!”

Yall. It’s not hard to say “person with breasts” or “person with a penis” or “person with a uterus” or “person who menstruates”. Like your “AGAB” doesn’t actually give anyone the information you think it does…

[scramratz]

“ICE is now targeting trans people!”

they been doing that. They just weren’t targeting WHITE trans people until now

[dehydratedbr34dcrumbs]

The Use of the word Transandrophobia on this Website

As a trans man, I find the way transandrophobia is used on this site really frustrates me. People will make thoughtful posts about specific forms of oppression that transmasculine people face, our very real difficulties and threats, and then label it all as transandrophobia. But those posts often aren't actually discussing transandrophobia as the term was originally meant to describe, and that misuse detracts from those posts in my opinion.

On this site, transandrophobia is frequently treated as some catch-all term for any oppression trans men and transmascs experience. That was never the purpose of the word, and I believe this overgeneralization is one of the main reasons there's so much debate about whether transandrophobia is intersectional or even a valid concept. The term isn't intersectional by design, but that's because it also wasn't created to describe every form of anti-transmasculine bias or even an intersection of oppression. Transandrophobia isn't supposed to describe some sort of intersection between transphobia and misogyny that trans men and transmasculine people face. It isn't some mirror opposite to transmisogyny.

Transandrophobia was coined to describe how gender-essentialism within LGBTQ+ spaces combined with many people's general fear and discomfort toward men within these spaces specifically impacts trans men and transmasculine people. It's not about an intersection of oppression, it's about a pattern that comes from these issues and biases.

For example, in my "3 most likely reactions when someone finds out you're a trans man," post, reaction number two is a clear example of transandrophobia. That reaction is driven by fear and disgust toward masculinity and men, fueled by gender-essentialist thinking within the community. These manifest as, implying that being a man (especially a masculine one) is ugly, poisonous to one's body, and corrupting to one's character, using "male socialization" as a weapon to frame trans men and transmascs as dangerous, poisoned, or traitorous, and assuming that trans men who pursue masculinity or medical transition are inherently misogynistic and therefore suspect.

Trans men and transmasculine people seeking community with other trans men or transmasculines is seen as a bad thing and something that'll fast track them to being THE Misogynists™. Instead of it being the normal seeking community with others who've probably had similar experiences and problems, because being trans is very isolating.

At the same time, trans men and transmascs are often only allowed to be GNC or "genderfuck" when they move toward femininity, because that makes them more palatable, less "threatening," and less "contaminated" by masculinity. This isn't to say that feminine trans men have it easier, or that trans women and transfeminine people never face gender essentialism. But there is a specific dynamic where masculinity in trans men and transmasculine people is treated as a moral failing or outright traitorous**. Again, this is what transandrophobia was coined to name.

This leads into reaction number three in my, "3 most likely reactions when someone finds out you're a trans man," post. Three may be a little less clear, but is also an example of transandrophobia. It is someone trying to prevent a trans man or transmasc from "becoming" masculine, constantly emasculating, feminizing, and infantilizing them to enforce that. This individual may also discourage a trans masculine person from pursuing medical transition, anything to keep them from becoming, in their view, a "poisoned" and "disgusting" man. Trying to prevent "an angel from losing its wings."

To restate what I said earlier, the misuse of the word transandrophobia dilutes its meaning and creates unnecessary conflict within the community. When every hardship a trans man or transmasculine individual faces is labeled transandrophobia, we lose the ability to talk about the very specific, gendered form of bias within the LGBTQ+ community that the term was actually made to address and mislabel many of our other hardships. Transandrophobia isn't a catch-all term, it isn't supposed to describe some sort of intersection between transphobia and misogyny that trans men and transmasculine people face. It isn't some mirror opposite to transmisogyny.

**(Though I am not denying that transfeminine individuals also have any masculinity they express treated as failure or dangerous, I am explaining transandrophobia and am not transfem so, I personally, won't be discussing that in detail)

I've been planning on typing this up and sending it for the past two to three days, but I haven't had much energy. I'm not some discourse lord or theory master. This isn't meant to be something academic, and I'm sure that's clear from the writing and where this is posted. I'm just expressing my frustrations with how the word is used, because it's meant to describe something within the LGBTQ community that affects trans men and transmascs, not cis people outside the community treating us poorly. The examples I gave in the, "3 most likely reactions when someone finds out you're a trans man," post (it doesn't have an actual title so that's just what I'm calling itl) were all examples from primarily cis people within the queer community. There's literally only one time I've been outed to a cishet person and they obviously defaulted to one. But majority of examples, one through three, all came from cis people within the LGBTQ+ community, with of course the exception of a singular trans person.

(If you think you've seen a post just like this by me, you have. This is a repost with some fixes and an actual title.)

[semsouljah]

this person explains it wayyy better than i do

[crazysodomite]

The popularity of the "incompetent stupid piece of shit husband and competent wife who loves him anyways" trope in media is a psyop to make women believe its normal to settle for an incompetent stupid piece of shit husband

[crazysodomite]

But if a woman acted incompetent once then she will be literally crucified in the street and she's evil for manipulating her husband into settling for less and suddenly it's not a silly endearing sitcom trope 🤔

[imjunebitch]

hate when a motherfucker says he has dark humor and then it turns out he just means he knows racial slurs

[genderkoolaid]

saw a woman talking about how betrayed she felt by her female gyno who really hurt her during a pap smear & claimed the cervix has no nerve endings. & i really do feel for her but also I think this is the problem with people only viewing medical bigotry and abuse as a problem that is the byproduct of other forms of bigotry & not tied to how the medical establishment works inherently.

it's not just "that doctor has internalized misogyny" it's that western medicine is, as in so many parts of our culture, deeply authoritarian. the patient is meant to be a passive problem to be solved by the active doctor. there is meant to be a stark harsh line between you and the doctor, where you are pure of any medical knowledge and simply report the raw data & let the doctor interpret it. this is how the system works. it fucks over marginalized groups the most because that's how marginalization works, but even a thin white abled cis man could get fucked over by this shit if he's unlucky.

female doctors will not save us! trans doctors will not save us! doctors of color will not save us! these are all GOOD things and we DO need more representation in the medical field, it DOES help. but it will not save us. the same goes with teaching as well frankly. these issues cannot be reduced down to simply getting more people from columns B C and D into the same fucked system. nothing can make up for the societal change of heart we really need.

[whereserpentswalk]

You cannot diversify yourself out of a problem which comes down to a deprivation of autonomy.

[queenrizzardnthelizardscissored]

i keep thinking about that one murder of a trans woman, juniper blessing, by a cishet man earlier this year. and the woman was beautiful. she was a singer and a musician who had won a scholarship for her voice, and she was studying meteorology. she had made all sorts of art and had a small community around her that loved her music. she was such a creative and brilliant person, the sort who brightens the world around her just by existing. And the man who murdered her was nothing. he was a worthless pathetic POS with zero redeeming qualities, who made no art, wrote no papers, had won no scholarships, sang no songs, played no music, had no merit whatsover and so nobody who'd deign to love him, who, in a spiteful tantrum, a wretched attempt to exert some degree of control over the world in the tinyest most repulsive way possible, stabbed her to death.

and that's really what this, what all of this, is, isn't it. all of the manosphere, the incel 'movement', the so-called 'male loneliness epidemic', MRAs, this resurgence of fascism that seems committed to eradicating any and all deviances from the norm, bludgeoning and brutalizing minorities, to shredding our rights and murdering our families: just a bunch of pathetic cishet men, scared and jealous, irrelevant and worthless, with no joy or spark or creativity of their own and envious of the beauty and freedom and happiness of others, who decide, out of little else save spite and bitterness, to destroy that beauty and that freedom. and they wonder why we hate them, blame us for venting our frustration with their malevolence and cruelty and spiteful destruction of everything we hold dear.

i'm so fucking tired of thinking about men. and manosphere stuff. im so annoyed that young white men somehow are pushing us back into fascism. i want to stop caring about the latest manosphere or looksmaxxing influencer and i want to stop hearing about incels. our rights are being taken away and so many people are dying because of a massive societal temper tantrum spearheaded by the most pathetic people alive, and we're told we have to kowtow to them. coddle them so they don't murder us.

[dreadwedge]

As a transsexual woman 👩 who has had multiple experiences ‼️ I have found 🔎 that the biggest block of cheese 🧀 is usually the one ☝️ that has the largest size 📈

[dreadwedge]

mature content

[semsouljah]

saw someone in an Instagram comment say that instead of calling them terfs they call them farts because "Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist" implies that they're actually feminists when they're not... and instead the acronym should be fart because they're "Feminist-Appropriating Radical Transphobes" and Yeah thats so true i will also start calling them that. farts are NOT welcome on my page kthxbai

[sailatina3]

This is how people talk about HRT.

[assignedmale]

[semsouljah]

i feel like this whole "transandrophobia" thing would be soooo much easier to discuss and have so much less discourse if people on ANY "side" of the discourse understood these two points:

1. transmisogyny is NOT "transphobia, as it pertains to trans women/fems", it IS a separate oppressive force caused by the intersection of transphobia and misogyny that targets people transitioning into femininity

2. transandrophobia/transmisandry is NOT a separate oppressive force like transmisogyny is, as there is no structural "misandry" to intersect with it. it IS "transphobia (and sometimes misogyny), as it pertains to trans men/mascs, especially within queer spaces"

if you dont understand these points... you maybe shouldn't be talking about the concept of transandrophobia or how it compares to transmisogyny. two words with similar structures don't have to be parallel in meaning with each other. if you assume they are equivalent terms describing equivalent oppressive forces, you are wrong.

also if you're arguing AGAINST either of the two points you are probably transmisogynistic in some way. and I Don't like you

unfortunately, a lot of people who use the term "transandrophobia" disagree with or argue against point #2 specifically, and often use transmisogynistic (as well as transphobic, misogynistic, or bioessentialist) language or arguments to do this, making me and many others wary of & avoidant of many people who use the term, even if they're discussing truly important things that harm transmascs disproportionately (such as, the fact that testosterone is much harder to get than estrogen in a safe manner due to its status as a controlled substance in the US)

but ☝️ it is absolutely important for people to have the space to talk about Both of these issues, as long as they dont express hate or ignorance to others while discussing the issues. if you try to silence transfems on the unique types of oppression they face because you think it's some kind of attack on transmascs, or if you think that transmascs have it as bad as or worse than transfems and try to dismiss the privilege that they have because you think being called privileged is an insult***, you are being a bad and ignorant person. if you try to silence transmascs on the transphobia they face because you Always assume they're trying to take away from discussion of transfems, or if you believe the privilege they have over transfems is enough to tell them to shut up and deal with it, you're also being a bad and ignorant person.

if you all. led your discussions with love and support for your trans siblings instead of fear or underlying hatred, worked to educate and improve yourselves when someone calls you or your peers out on hateful behavior, and worked to interact and connect with as many different types of people in as many different groups as possible, we would all be much happier and have much more productive discussions, and maybe even work toward REAL LIFE SOLUTIONS to issues within the community

***i will have a post on this topic soon... i have things to say

[ottoillustrates]

today i just (remembers to maintain privacy online) did something really cool. you have to trust me

[trying-trying2lyk]

i love writing out numbers and then putting them in parentheses like "one (1)" even when i dont need to i think its funny