Just me, plain and simple

- Joannah - 30 - Jewish by Blood - Christian by Faith - Paramedic - Registered Nurse -

[magpie-trove]

Oh! So I maybe haven’t been actually surrendering to the will of the Lord so much as just preparing myself to be disappointed which! Is decidedly not the same thing.

[kosmogrl]

[manwhorewednesdays]

This is actually such a crucial part of healing from neglect and abuse and I have to add to this.

Because indeed, people who like you will not roll their eyes and sigh at the idea of accommodating your needs, they will value your voice and be upset with you about injustice done to you, not at you for "being difficult". They will be happy when you find a way to live a better life, and help you to get there. If you are struggling, someone who loves you wants to see you smile, not tell you to smile because "you have it so good".

[spring-ephemeral]

it doesn't matter which country we're talking about here, if someone from any country in the world says "oh where i am from there is simply no racism", you not only shouldn't believe them, but you should actually never take them seriously about anything ever again.

[pointnclick]

"we live in an uncaring universe." sorry the special planet full of beauty and animals and food literally growing out of the ground isnt good enough for you. i guess

[acatholicrose]

[supreme-leader-stoat]

[elgringo300-deactivated20260512]

[nihilisticlinguistics]

adulthood notes:

The Rodeo Rule: you only have to do it for the first time once.

The Rohan Rule: if you are at a social function full of new people and you want to be liked, find someone doing important work like setup or food prep and offer to help.

The Tutorial Mode Rule: to navigate an unfamiliar situation where you fear you will mess up an interaction, preface the interaction by mentioning that you've never done this before, and let them know if you have a specific concern or question.

The Rocket Science Rule: most new things you want to try seem very complicated but are simple when taken step by step.

The [X] Will Remember That Rule: if you need to make small talk with the same person on a regular basis, try to save one fact or current event in their life from a given conversation and bring it up next time you talk.

The Cool Binder Rule: by wearing clothes and accessories that are to your taste instead of trying to blend in, people will be more likely to compliment you and show interest in you as a person.

[butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway]

"Just because I'm right, doesn't mean I'm being helpful" is a vastly underrated thought process that I strongly encourage others to get comfortable with

[whatbigotspost]

Hey op thanks for fundamentally rearranging my molecules in some helpful way this fine evening

[calicofae]

“being kind takes zero effort” Lies.

Being kind takes enormous effort. Being kind means humbling yourself- it means saying no to your pride- it means forgiving someone instantly- it means putting someone convenience over your own for some time- it means acting as if the universe doesn’t revolve around you. Being kind is hard. Being kind is not butterflies and sickly sweet, half-witted compliments. It’s work. It’s serving others. It’s being silent when you don’t want to. It’s being honest. It’s being gentle. It’s being true even if the other person disagrees. Being kind is one of the hardest things a person can do and we need more of it.

[daughter-of-an-almighty-king]

For anyone who argues "how can I trust the Bible? It has too many authors." Warrior cats has one main author and at least 5 co-authors all working together and still can't stay consistent. The Bible had about 40 authors in the span of about 1500 years and still manages to be consistent. Calling out the Bible for how many authors it has is not the gotcha you think it is

[daughter-of-an-almighty-king]

Excellent additions and corrections! Thank you

[handweavers]

a lot of loving and being loved by people is recognizing when they're sincerely trying to help or comfort you even if their words are clunky and unhelpful at best and holding onto the sentiment that they are trying to reach for you at all. and a lot of the time that has to be enough because it's all you're going to get

[draconym]

Sure, you know how to self-flagellate, but do you know how to apologize? Saying "I'm a stupid idiot" is not the same thing as saying "I did something wrong."

[draconym]

People who want an apology pretty much never want to hear "I'm a stupid idiot." If someone is actually trying to get you to say you're a stupid idiot, it's not because it will make up for a mistake you made or harm you caused. It's because they want you to feel like a stupid idiot. People who care about you do not want you to feel like a stupid idiot and it hurts them when they see you putting yourself down in their name.

[scorpionlafemme]

[myjusticecake]

You can begin this process at any time, regardless of how old you have become.

[animentality]

[dragon-in-a-fez]

"you don't know what you have until you lose it" works for things that suck too btw. sometimes you need to experience life without something for a while to realise oh damn that was some bullshit

[what-even-is-thiss]

You shouldn’t date or become serious friends/partners with someone if you can’t stomach the thought of being stuck in a car or train with them for 16 hours.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Here’s my logic:

You should be able to work together to solve unexpected problems like fixing a flat tire or getting lost in an unfamiliar station

You should feel comfortable and safe enough around this person that you can sit in comfortable silence

You should be able to keep each other interested and deal with each others boredom in a healthy way

If you’re gonna form a long term partnership with someone you should probably be able to tolerate each other while locked in a small box for a few hours

[what-even-is-thiss]

These tags are hilarious even though I don’t think you intended them to be.

[rosesforwildwitches]

*pulls European closer* The most populous countries in the world are China, India, the United States, Indonesia, Pakistan, Nigeria, and Brazil in that order, with these seven nations alone making up 48.16% of the world population. You may note with the aid of a map that many of these nations are quite large, and would take several days of travel to go across either in cars or on boats. Almost half of the world's population lives in places where you can travel in a cramped vehicle for days and still be within the country. Your worldview is limited and Europe is a tiny outlier in travel time and standards for international relations.

[creative-anchorage]

[dumbpuppyfag]

you can and will become the opposite of your parents. i believe in you

[dumbpuppyfag]

the other day i was discussing films with a fairly new friend and he remarked that even when i dislike something, i take the time to understand and explain why. this is something i spent years trying to deliberately cultivate, specifically because i inherited an insufferable sense of assertive superiority from my dad. i hated it in him and i eventually realised that i hated it in myself as well. my friend didn't know any of this when he commented on it. the more i think about it, the more i realise how much it meant to me that i could be described like that. i won.

[esters-notepad]

Do you know why God decided snakes should have no arms and no legs? To remind us the enemy has been dis-armed and de-feeted!