Old-school Tumblr veteran (from as far back as the pre-🌽 days), INFP for the MBTI nerds, shy, introverted, serial re-blogger and lurker mostly just here for fandoms, memes, and art, and potentially making new friends if we click. Neurospicy - most prominent is ADHD-PI, but I come in other flavours too like C-PTSD, GAD, DSPD, etc (not gonna list them all here, just ask if curious), mental health warrior & disability advocate, autodidact nerd, melophile with a dash of audiophile, intersectional inclusive feminist, anti-hate and bigotry, deconstructionist, and aspiring writer (working on it, only aspiring to publishing nonfiction stuff for now).
I'm friendly and easy-going, so feel free to say hi or something even if we've never interacted.
Queer-o-metre:
Angled AroAce (greyromantic demisexual, but also fictoromantic & slightly fictosexual because fictional characters are just better than real people 95% of the time). 🏳️🌈🧡💛🤍🩵💙🏳️🌈
Top fandoms:
LOTR/Tolkien, SPN, Sherlock, Stranger Things, TUA, Dr. Who, Narnia, Star Wars, Star Trek (most of them), Hunger Games, TMNT, MCU & DCU, OUAT, Disney, Kingdom Hearts, Transformers, and HOHH.
This is a fandom hate free blog and 99.99% fandom wank free because I prefer to celebrate what I love instead of bashing what I hate.
Sometimes personal non-fandom interests, issues, and ramblings will also make appearances here. Not a discourse blog, but occasional discourse for different issues might make the occasional appearance because I also advocate for being a Decent Human Being. Mostly I'm just here for fandoms, memes, and art and I usually just reblog.
On a side note: this isn't a nsfw blog, but an occasional nsfw post might potentially be reblogged if it centres some kind of issue, such as a feminist one (example: I've reblogged semi-n00d feminist photography that had misogynist words written on their bodies, which was meant to highlight a specific issue). I've locked my likes because the occasional nsfw art/issue/text post finds it's way into my likes, just incase minors stumble across my blog and go looking through it. I strive to keep my blog sfw 99% of the time if not 100% of the time, just because I prefer to be mindful of minors stumbling across my blog or anything in the tags and whatnot. If you're a minor, I won't block you on the basis of age alone, but I prefer that you DNI beyond anything basic like reblogs/likes, thanks. I also won't block if you ask a genuine question, but choosing whether or not to respond and answer will be at my discretion based on the question.
And lastly, the DNIs:
Darkshippers, ableists, misogynists, racists, fat-phobes, anti-semites and pro-zionist/IOF/genocide haters alike (there's many anti-Zionist/anti-genocide Jewish voices speaking out on behalf of Palestine, stop conflating all Jews and Judaism with Zionism bs), TERFs and other transphobes, acephobes, arophobes, biphobes, panphobes, etc. All phobic oppressive exclusionists of the LGBTQIA+ (side-eyeing the LGB Alliance folks with a heeping amount of judgment) are Not Welcome in LGBTQIA+ safe spaces and can cry more, sorry I don't make the rules. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Any other types of haters, bigots, paedos, zoophiles, necrophiles, & any other types of sexual predators who prey on non-consenting beings of any species, radqueers, stalkers (squinting at a certain Cult loser who loves stalking this blog), bullies (and yes that includes all you antis MFers), and any other type of Not Decent Humans can fuck off, DNI, or block me - it would be my pleasure to be blocked by toxic trash, so feel free to see yourselves out just as trash should. Bye.
I don't really engage in syscourse on this blog since it's more or less for fandoms, art, media, and the occasional political discourse, but as someone with enough experience and knowledge on plurality who has met many extremely diverse systems, this account is a safe space for all types of systems, period. Let's get one thing straight - endogenic does not mean that the system doesn't have any trauma, nor does it mean the system formed without trauma. It's simply an umbrella term for systems who may not remember their origins and trauma (have you antis forgotten trauma amnesia is a thing?), systems who don't feel or don't know if their origin was strictly caused by a traumatic experience, or those who have a mainly mixed origin system, or are even primarily traumagenic while having mixed origin alters/sysmates.
I do not put up with any ableism (bc yes endos can have trauma too, and yes they do not have to remember their trauma for it to be legitimate and valid) and hateful exlusionist bigots who invalidate other's lived experiences and identities, who spread harmful medical misinformation and disinformation, who gatekeep and fakeclaim, period. If you're too much of a hateful ableist bigot to even accept the fact that many traumagenic systems actually accept and support other types of systems, or understand there's extremely legitimate reasons why a system might actually need to create alters at will who aren't traumagenic in origin (and yes I've met those people, their lived experiences are valid), DNI. Educate yourself and do better before you come at me waving your pitchforks for wanting to be an actually decent human being by being an inclusive safe space.
I am strictly anti-harassment, anti-bullying, period. DNI if you condone harassment and bullying of any kind but especially actual fucking criminal activity such as premeditated murder (like putting literal fucking NEEDLES in cookies to try and get a fan artist murdered that way - and everyone who condones that shit is extremely disgusting, unhinged, and can fuck all the way right off a cliff). And with that in mind, I'm gonna digress for a hot minute to dispel serious harmful misinformation on a contentious issue that has caused untold harm to innocent people, from someone who actually knows wtf they're talking about. Long overdue rant under the cut:
First off, idgaf what excuse you think you have for harassing and bullying people who are just trying to exist in peace without actually doing illegal shit and hurting others. I freely block all accounts that I see bullying, harassing, stalking, or doxxing others who just want to live in peace and aren't condoning committing any crimes. I block all who indicate/act like they believe that is acceptable behaviour. So by that very definition, that would make me (and you if you're anti-crime and anti-harassment too) pro-ship in the real sense and meaning of the word, not the fake meaning that bigoted toxic antis have misinformed people of and brainwashed tumblrinas with. But since the original antis insisted on lying about the definition of pro-ship, no matter how many times over and over ad nauseam of the past 2 decades we've been around this tired old exhausting block with and they've been corrected and called out for their lies, smears, and harmful misinformation about the term and about actual decent human beings, if that term has actually become a trigger for some of you and you have a hard time unlearning all of the toxic misinformation and disinformation garbage you've been spoonfed by antis, but you're also anti-harassment/bullying just like me (just like actual pro-shippers are), then call the both of us whatever makes you feel comfortable since we're exactly the same - anti-bullies, anti-toxicity, pro-leaving actual innocent people alone, pro-Ship And Let Ship, anti antis, or whatever neo term fits the current new standard term for being anti-harassment/bullying that reminds you that I and others like me are simply anti-harassment/bullying, no more or less. Pro-ship literally is the original, correct term (and still is no matter what toxic gaslighters claim) for that but thanks to toxic pitchfork-waving abusers who insisted on spreading their smear campaign of harmful disinformation & misinformation, we apparently need an unending revolving-door of new terms to describe the exact same concept of non-violence coexistence now, thanks to the unending campaigns of smearing actual decent humans who refuse to engage in their hateful social abuse, cult-like mind games, and mob tactics. No, pro-ship does not mean supporting/endorsing/condoning real life abuse and problematic ships - it never has so sybau before you argue it does. It was only coined as a simple term for everyone who practices "Ship And Let Ship" (instead of using SALS as an acronym) and doesn't go out of their way to harasss people over ships because guess what? "Thoughtcrime" doesn't exist, except in dystopian fascist society horror stories. But hey, advocating for a fascist culture of abusive control and coercion is in line with bullies and abusers anyway, so I guess that checks out. 🤷🏻♀️
For everyone else who doesn't condone abuse such as mental and emotional manipulation, and bullying, who want innocent people to be left alone even when you dislike/hate problematic ships? Stop arguing with and talking over the voices of those of us who were actually there at the beginning of the fandom shipping wars circa late 90s/early 2000s. My lived experiences are not up for debate, especially not from puritannical zoomers under 30. Yes, I'm old enough to remember when the shipping wars blew up on internet forums, I was literally there when they started. Sit down and listen to those who were actually there during the origin of the term in the early shipping wars about why that term was coined and it's real meaning. Educate yourselves and do better by not spreading harmful misinformation for abusers. Like I literally speak from experiential knowledge here so it's always hilarious to me whenever some zoomer anti tries to argue with me on this lmao. The disinfo was originally started as part of a smear campaign by extremist antis who wanted an excuse to be toxic abusive shitheads to everyone who couldn't be coerced/manipulated into joining them on their targeted mob harassment, to spread their hate and grow a puritanical mob of flying monkeys to help them harass, stalk, and bring real harm to innocent people for having the "audacity" to not support their harassment and bullying, because they couldn't stand how we were the actual voice of reason during the first shipping wars and advocated against abuses like harassment and bullying of people who were not committing any crimes. I've never and will never accept those tired old lies and smear campaigns to manipulate and change the definition of pro-ship for antis manipulative agenda, that was literally invented by extremist hateful bigot antis 20+ years ago.
If you're not an abuser and can accept this fact then cool, this DNI is not for you then. If you refuse to accept the fact that you've been grossly misinformed and manipulated by abusers arguing in bad faith for over 20 years against the overwhelming majority of innocent people all for a smear campaign, that you unintentionally helped to spread toxic harmful misinformation against innocent people, and you refuse to accept that we do not endorse/support actual abuse and problematic ships any more than we endorse/support harassment and bullying, then DNI. No, the correct definition of a term that's been around for 20+ years that I've been using correctly for that same amount of time is not up for debate, period. Nobody has the right to speak over me to invalidate my life experiences. If you weren't there to see how and why it was coined, you do not get to argue with someone who was actually there at the time.
Either accept the real definition and do better or DNI. Idm if you prefer a neo term for pro-ship if that term bothers you too much (thanks to widespread and internalised misinfo), but now that you've been educated by a voice that was there and who actually knows what they're talking about, you don't get to continue ignoring and disregarding facts in favour of having an asinine excuse to be toxic towards me or other innocent people, spreading slander/libel about my character, or painting us all with the same broad misinformed brush stroke, and generally falsely accusing me of gross illegal bs that literally goes against my morals and everything I stand for (especially as someone who actually works with certain organisations to help bring down actual s3xual offenders such as offending paedos, traffickers, and other extreme criminal scum), for merely using a term correctly. You do not get to gaslight me or others about the definition of a term people like me started before you were even fucking born, period. Use any other terminology for the exact same concept you feel comfortable with if you choose to follow and interact with me, Idc. This DNI is only for those who refuse to accept the truth and would rather remain obstinate. Every account listing "pro-ship/anti-anti" as a DNI I'll assume is either pro-abuse/harassment/bullying/stalking/doxxing (unless they have a disclaimer that they don't condone those abuses) and block immediately on sight if I see evidence of abuse or in the case of those with disclaimers, just another brainwashed zillennial/zoomer who doesn’t know what they're talking about and just follows trends with zero critical thinking skills and nuance. Every account who lists "pro-ship/anti antis" in their DNI while also claiming to be anti-harassment/bullying is clearly misinformed and is exactly the same person they're listing in their DNI and it's fucking cringe at best if they're simply misinformed, or toxic at worst if they have been informed and refuse to grow up and do better. I won't block anyone for being simply being misinformed and unintentionally ignorant so long as you're not an invalidating asshole, but if any of you attempt to argue and speak over me regarding this issue that I actually know way more about than you, don't be surprised if I block you for doing anything other than just stfu and listening to actual voices like mine who know more/have more experience than you. As an abuse survivor who was also old enough to have been around the block on the internet by the time the term pro-ship was coined, I don't have to listen to your toxic pro-harassment, pro-abuse arguments when I've literally heard them all before and you're still wrong. And I sure as shit don't have to be polite to antis and their harassment. I refuse to allow bullies and gaslighters to gaslight me into disusing an innocuous term by accepting the widespread toxic disinformation/misinformation about it.
I have no patience for obtuse shits incapable of nuance, who believe it's perfectly ok and acceptable to be abusive themselves by spreading harmful misinformation and lies about someone or a whole group, and support bullying, stalking and harassment. Especially when you're actually re-traumatising survivors with your abuse, period.
If these beliefs bother and offend you, I cordially invite you to unfollow/block. If you're immature and uncomfortable with nuance and acknowledging that while yes some predators, groomers, and offenders do lurk in online fandoms (as they do literally everywhere), at the same time the majority are genuinely innocent people who shouldn't be harassed/bullied/stalked or worse for merely being reasonable decent humans, for being anti-harassment ourselves (literally what pro-ship/anti anti means, or whatever neo term for the same fucking actually moral standard of not being abusive assholes and not supporting abusers), or for being actual survivors themselves who use writing fanfic as a healthy coping/processing/cathartic mechanism for their own abuse, because you're incapable of understanding how actual abuse victims themselves may be drawn to writing fiction as a normal way of dealing with their own trauma and reclaiming agency that's literally backed up by psychology, DNI.
And ftr I'm not a comshipper and I despise darkships. I just won't bully those who are because unlike antis I have a real life outside the internet, and unless I see actual evidence of anyone being abusers/groomers or anything illegal, I'll ignore them and move on. Any evidence of actual abuse gets reported to the right people/orgs whenever I see it. I simply don't engage with darkship material and their authors and am more likely to just block them and move tf on rather than having a tantrum over them because I know how to be a fucking mature and responsible adult and follow the long-established and actually sane fandom principle of minding/avoiding your own business, and minding the DDDNE ("Dead Dove, Do Not Eat") tags like everyone else who knows how to take responsibility for themselves by curating our own online experiences, instead of expecting and even demanding everyone else to do it for me.
And it should go without saying that catching someone participating in actual crimes of any kind (s3xual/grooming yes, but also stalking and doxxing) should be reported to the actual authorities, with the evidence/proof you've managed to collect (screenshots or anything else). Do NOT confront and harass/bully them, just quietly collect the evidence needed and make an official report to those who can actually legally do something about them, such as investigating and arresting them. As someone who has actually dealt with the worst offenders like p3d0s & traffickers, going out of your way to confront and antagonise them is not going to work out well or win you any culture points. You'll only end up making the situation worse and causing real harm to their victims/targets because confronting them will only make them act out, retaliate, and drive them further into hiding, which is 100% counterproductive and make potential targets even more vulnerable to them. If you actually care about victims of abuse, you want them to get complacent and feel "safe" enough to let their masks slip. You want them to out themselves by making mistakes, because 99% of the time that's how they're caught red-handed. Pelicot would've likely never been caught had he not become complacent enough to make a mistake in public. Confronting them pushes them to become more vigilant in hiding and blending in better. So those of you who are trying to be vigilantes, thanks for caring but learn how to do it properly without bringing harm to others, or you're most likely gonna make it harder for justice based organisations to find and bring them to justice.
*One last thing as a fair warning:
I won't put up with any kind of abuses directed at me anywhere on this or any other website/app, but I especially won't put up with criminal activities directed at me/my loved ones such as threats to safety, stalking, and doxxing, which are all actual unhinged fucking crimes. I will document and report any and all criminal activities against me/my loved ones to authorities if any abusers have the stupidity and audacity to engage in stalking, doxxing, or other crimes aimed at me. And let me make one thing very clear to potential stalkers and doxxers - due to my actual experiences and connections working with anti-trafficking agents/orgs and certain IC agencies, I have access to resources and connections you wouldn't even imagine possible for some Random Nobody on the internet who isn't rich or famous, so I'm more than capable of protecting myself and my loved ones from literally all kinds of threats and crimes, from all types of clowns. If you don't want to find yourself in deep shit that goes way beyond your capabilities to handle or avoid, nor find yourself under criminal investigation for committing illegal bs against my rights, you'd be smart to not test me. If you think you're hot shit enough to play stupid games without consequence, then consider this your only warning before you win stupid prizes. FAFO.
I like the idea in fantasy that humans are better at maintaining things long term because they set up societies or professions to do it whereas dwarves and elves and stuff are like “just get bob to do it he’s got a good few hundred years left” and then bob doesn’t teach anyone else how to do it
Human: Wait that’s why there’s ruins of elven cities even though you live for so long? You just keep not asking people how to do things? How do you learn anything?
Elf: There’s a lot of “you’ve got time to figure it out on your own” attitudes floating around in our society that I’m starting to question somewhat.
Babygirl, I need to hold your hands as I say this. You’re running around in here fake claiming someone because they have a factive of a well-loved internet celebrity. Because two of their headmates are dating and you think of it like cringe fanfiction. You tell people they should be ashamed of their headmate who has a problematic source, or who has done deeply problematic things in their source.
We personally have experienced issues. Why? Because we’re a white body with a few non-white headmates, two of whom are black. The way people have *assumed* that we use them to infiltrate black spaces (we don’t) or use AAVE or words that would be problematic for a white body to use (AGAIN, WE DON’T).
You crucify systems *just for existing* and tell headmates they basically shouldn’t exist, firmly believing plurality is built from trauma and see no issue with attacking people you believe to be traumatized in this way. You yourself are incapable of seeing you are a deeply traumatized person who is taking out every bit of how you feel on others, not staying in your lane, and taking no accountability.
It also creates an environment where people discount themselves because they don’t think they’re traumatized enough to be a system. That, in turn, creates a space where everyone feels they have to compare trauma. Maybe lie to themselves a little. All out of fear that if they’re too un-traumatized, they’ll be dragged out and, with how so many young people live on the internet, have their lives ruined. Maybe even lose close friends.
That. Is. Ableism. And remember that ableism is one of the core beliefs of fascism. You are on the beginnings of a slippery slope.
Stay caring of others. Stay open to learning. Support your fellow man, listen to his plea. Stay. Fucking. Punk.
i find destiel sincerely hard to explain to the uninitiated bc it’s like. it’s an accident it’s on purpose they didn’t want it to happen they made it happen it’s a cruel joke it’s essential to the canon it’s queerbait it’s a sincere love story it’s homophobic it’s written by a gay writer it’s subtext it’s text it’s an offhanded dig it’s the centre of the universe you’re crazy you’re not crazy. and all of that is true at once
