[the-bar-sinister]

So there's gossip about some version of kinktober over on twitter adding a bunch of nonsensical rules this year, and I am fascinated. Studying this like a bug.

Like, what the hell.

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[pro-sipper]

Why bother at that point

[mastercalkestis]

The requirements for CNC kink on its own is fucking wild, like… it’s fucking kinktober, bruh

[sillygooselocatedhere]

this is a good way to show the difference between people who have kinks vs kinksters involved with kink spaces

CNC is consenting, any kinkster in a kink space knows that since you're usually very quickly told about it when new to a kink space and all the ways to participate safely, different ways to consent, how to plan consent etc. It's just tedious to show / say because everyone already knows how it works and those who participate in it (should) know the precautions, safety and risks until its second nature.

people who have kinks but aren't in the scene need to make these explicit in fiction because they genuinely dont know it or they cannot phantom why you wouldn't depict it because they dont participate in those kinks irl and dont assume it happened off screen.

Nitpick: what about the doms aftercare? there's doms who participate in intense scenes that also need aftercare and reassurance that they did good, the sub did enjoy it, that they didnt hurt their sub to the point of it being less enjoyable etc I know that some people who do need reassurances while being a dom in a cnc scene because they overthink a lot afterwards and need something. it irritates me so much when aftercare focuses only on the sub (i am a sub btw) because its just so neglectful of doms. if they are willing to be so restrictive why is there no consideration of the dom for aftercare?

[cowdogpaws]

Children please stop calling the slightest hint of sexual desire “gooning” I’m going to strangle all of you

[cowdogpaws]

🫵stop directly contributing to the growing anti sex sentiment

[cowdogpaws]

Have u considered that sexual activity is a natural part of the human experience rather than some invading wild animal which must be staved off and hidden in shame?

Source: genitals are a part of the human body

[atan-orofarne]

Also, I'm not usually a linguistic prescriptivist, but…

This fella picking up Popeye is a goon.

Or more commonly…these guys in the back? Goons.

[cowdogpaws]

We gotta give goons back their word

[dungeonmastersconsortium]

[anniegalla]

Good evening everyone.

[sangohigurashi20]

This!!!!! Just this!!!!!

[sillygooselocatedhere]

Kink at pride

Time - Sex Workers Are an Important Part of the Stonewall Story, But Their Role Has Been Forgotten

Them - Why Kink, BDSM, and Leather Should Be Included at Pride

Business Insider - The kink community has been part of queer protest and celebration since Stonewall

Out - What "no kink at Pride" leaves out regarding LGBTQ+ History

[shock]

completely serious, tumblr should’ve been 16+ to begin with anyway. tumblr was incredibly detrimental to my mental health before i was an adult long enough to navigate it much differently. if you’re under 16 i would take this chance to engage with your interests & peers in a different and more constructive, positive way. 

[rose-in-a-fisted-glove]

The comments in this post are fascinating.

Mostly because it really does show how the US vilifies sex. So many of the comments aren’t talking about the glorofication of being mentally ill or the ‘call out culture’ but instead are complaining about the presence of porn.

[pansexual-crow-deactivated20190]

Shut up

[rose-in-a-fisted-glove]

No really, it’s a cultural thing pretty specific to the US in large part because of the role religion plays in our society.

Violence, A-Okay. But sex? That will ruin the children! It’s absurd. Especially considering that the second is most often done in consensual relationships and the first is almost always an attack.

Young people don’t have to participate in sex until they’re comfortable and ready for it, of course. But this treating of it like its somehow inherintly harmful is a sign of how unhealthy we, as a society, interact with sex.

And also the hiding and mystifying of it makes it harder for young people to engage in safe properly consensual sex when they are ready.

[pansexual-crow-deactivated20190]

Because onlt adults should do it????? You fucking pedophile freak

[rose-in-a-fisted-glove]

Adults absolutely should not be having relationships with young people. But its a fact of life that young people have sex with eachother. And there’s nothing wrong with that, as long as all parties are willing.

But this villification and shaming of sex means that young people don’t have the knowledge they need to do so safely. Or they feel its somehow shameful, or a bigger deal than it is. And then that causes more emotional distress purely by how we as a culture interact with sex.

And the way that we as a culture view sex also allows for things like shaming women for becoming pregnant or people for being assaulted. As well as providing yet another avenue for cis straight people to dump on queer people.

If we didn’t put so much idealogical and moral importance on sex itself, the United States would be a lot healthier.

[pansexual-crow-deactivated20190]

Whatever you say, kinkster! You just wanna watch two twelve year olds fuck each other, huh?

[rose-in-a-fisted-glove]

Thank you for being a perfect example of the problem with US villification of sex. Because you lack the knowledge and familiarity with the topic, all you can do is respond with outlandish outrage hoping to spark anger.

I can see that this conversation is causing you great emotional distress (of the sort I talked about before), so I am going to end this here.

[lucifers-salty-dickholder]

FULL offense:

No sex ed might even be worse than abstinence-only sex ed.

Because we need to face the truth: minors have sex. Minors are also sexually abused and assaulted, sometimes by other minors.

Teaching minors about safe sex (which should include at least basic kink information [safe, sane, consensual, do your research]) makes them more capable of having safe sex and being aware of risks!

[corpus--delicti]

"Anti kink this" "Anti kink that" my brother in Christ you are so obsessed with what people are doing in the bedroom it comes off as voyeurism

[cuntnikida]

Hate it when a post is like "having weird kinky sex is okay so long as it's happening between two consenting people or when it's happening in fiction and therefore causing no harm. I love it when people find weird kinky stuff fun even if i think it's gross." and then all the comments are like yeah i totally agree except when *insert kink they think is gross* because that's creepy/illegal/gross etc like wdym you agree? The post is specifically contradicting your opinion. Why are you saying you agree when you do not in fact agree at all.

[cuntnikida]

Also I'd just like to say that people who make comments like that and agree with such opinions remind me alot of bigots who are apart of a minority.

Like so often you'll hear religious people of colour be like oh racism and bigotry is so bad except when it's happening to gay people who deserve the bigotry. Or when poc men say stuff about discriminated against and not being treated like humans then say the most sexist, discriminatory and dehumanising stuff about women.

Like if you say stuff like that then you're not against the core concept (in this example bigotry but also applies to being pro kink), you're just against it when it's happening to people who you don't think deserve it. It means you think there's people who deserve such treatment, which in the end makes you the exact same as the people who you oppose, and often who opress you.

When a poc man says that women don't deserve rights, he's no better than the white racists who say he doesn't deserve rights. When a gay person says kinks are gross and people who like certain kinks should be put on a watchlist, they're no better than a homophobic person who says that being gay is gross and people who are gay should be put on a government register.

It also means you're extremely susceptable to propaganda. Because, for example if you think prisoners shouldn't be tortured by the state (except sex criminals) or if you think everyone deserves to live (except child abusers) or that all people deserve the right to vote (except homophobes) than all it takes to make you think a minority deserves to be tortured by the state or killed off or not vote is for propaganda to say that said minority are mainly people who do such things.

That's why so many transphobic people say stuff like "oh i only hate the ones who are violent criminals and sex offenders (which is all of them). Only they deserve to be misgendered." Or why anti palestine people say stuff "oh i only hate the ones who are homophobic (which is all of them). Only they deserve to get blown up." Or racists say stuff like "oh i only hate the immigrants who're illegal(which is all of them). Only they deserve to get locked up."

Bigoted and oppressive rhetoric works by giving people who already feel anger and hate and disgust towards a group of people a good, rational sounding reason to hate those very people. So remember that just because the oppressor's rhetoric is being used against people you think "deserve it", it's still the oppressor's rhetoric. And if you're spewing the oppressors rhetoric, then what does that make you?

[cuntnikida]

Keep seeing people reblog this post but no one's reblogging it with this addition.

[pro-fiction-jellicle]

Writing porn just for the sake of porn is super valid actually.

Smut and PWPs aren’t a fandom problem that needs to be solved. They belong here. They’re basically the backbone of fandom. Stop with your scarily casual purification talk.

[scifi-guy]

"x ship is normalizing incest-"

Buddy

If game of thrones hasn't normalized incest by now (pulling over 10 million views in the 7th season alone) then a small fandom ship most certainly won't

[lentilswitheverything]

Spn ran for fifteen fucking seasons, it ran for over a decade, and wincest was consistently one of the two or three most popular ships. And it had no measurable impact on real world abuse. Maybe you think fandom is uniquely dangerous (why, idk, but this tumblr after all) but a pretty good rule of fandom is that if Spn couldn't do it, fucking no one else is going to manage it.

[silentstep]

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[malfiora]

The Tudor and Windsor-Mountbatten family tree is a giant venn diagram and I don't see the British all marrying their siblings and cousins.

[allshipsareok]

[zykamiliah-temporal]

i think we should bring this back (with some amendments ofc) if we ever needed an "internet etiquette" for the younger generations, now is the moment to remind them. purity culture kills fandom

as well as the three laws of fandom:

Don't Like, Don't Read (DL;DR), Your Kink is not My Kink And That's OK (YKINMKATO) and Ship and Let Ship

[sorcererofsolitude]

📣 Purity culture kills fandom! 📣

[atlinmerrick]

NO ONE LIVING hasn't been squicked out by something. There's over 7 billion of us, my delights and disgusts aren't universal. So I move on. Don't like the ship? Move on. Don't like____? Move on.

I am not an exception. Neither are you. I don't like it I move on and shut my gob about it because everyone everywhere is squicked out by something and they need to put the thing down and just…motor.

[rewordthis]

This but also:

Frames this entire post and hangs it over the fireplace.

[ms-windows-97]

All of the user profile images from Windows XP

[roachswallower]

i need an app like tinder just to find people to smoke wit

[roachswallower]

i’m patenting this shit and calling it “buds”

[roachswallower]

fellow weedheads, who will kickstart this

[crimewave420]

“Ahh yes brothere let us meet up and toke together mayhaps you can point me in the direction of your ‘plug’ as they put it roflmao”

[burdmom-deactivated20170312]

[bisexualbaker]

So it seems like some of you might be interested in learning more about Dreamwidth.

Listen, here's the thing: Dreamwidth is not slick. It is not fancy. Its base code was originally put together some two decades ago or more, and it looks like it. It can't do much with images and definitely not with video—like, I think there's some way to embed video, but I have no idea how to do it, and hosting it on Dreamwidth is, uh...

The point is! Dreamwidth is a lot different from Tumblr. It's closer to Tumblr than it is to Facebook or Instagram, but it's a lot more old-school internet than Tumblr is. And that means that, for anyone who wasn't on the internet some ten, fifteen years ago, there's probably going to be a steep learning curve. It can take more effort to post things there, and more effort to find your people, its image hosting capacity can charitably be described as both "limited" and "poorly organized", and overall it may still never be the kind of website where you, personally, will want to spend a lot of time or do a lot of things. Dreamwidth does not and will never have an app, for pretty much the same reasons as AO3.

But there is one thing I can guarantee, and that is that Dreamwidth is willing to fight for us and our rights. They're already doing so.

[bisexualbaker]

If you've ever thought to yourself, "I wish AO3 were an actual social media site," consider checking out Dreamwidth; it's not too far off from that as an idea.

[aetherograph]

You can host media on squidge.org, which is specifically for hosting fandom media.

While we're on the topic, Proboards is still around, and still free, and still customisable, and still WORKS. Neocities has replaced geocities and is also pretty great (and you can host things from there too if you want).

The old infrastructure is there. We don't have to rely on for-profit social media companies that censor everything all to hell. The tradeoff is YOU can't be a for-profit social media company either. There's no 'reach' there's not 'like and subscribe' there's no 'i want my socialising space to also be my job' nope. It's just socialising.

[allthingswhumpyandangsty]

Hi! Do you have any advice on how to stop caring about likes and kudos? Even though I primarily write out of love and I've been writing for just myself long before I'd posted anything publicly, now that I have I find it really difficult not to let likes and kudos influence me, whether it's feeling discouraged from writing when fics don't do well or finding myself focusing more on what people want to read than what I want to write

some tricks I personally use. I can't guarantee that it will work for everybody, but I hope at least some of them helps.

try posting before you go to bed at night. this way, you don't constantly check for kudos or comments throughout the day, until the next morning. and if you find it hard to sleep because your mind keeps thinking about whether or not people have been giving kudos to your works, try and trick your mind into thinking that "it's done. I posted it. it's out of my hands now, now it's time for me to get some rest".

this can also apply to when you're not trying to sleep. personally, I find it helping when I tell myself "I did it. it's out of my hands. it's not my responsibility anymore. if people love it, that's great. but if they don't, well, I did it for me anyway."

try looking at the numbers of hits, kudos and comments as actual people and not just "digital numbers" — five kudos may not be a lot to some people if you're looking at those kudos as "just a number", but the truth is that those five kudos are actually five human beings.

personally, I would feel pretty proud of myself if my work had five different people walking up to me in real life and saying to my face that "I did well" and that they "enjoyed my work".

because that's actually the case for your fic. it may look like "just a number" when you're looking at your screen, but the truth is that that's actually human beings who read and appreciate your work.

30 hits may not be a lot to some writers when they're only seeing "digital number" on their screen. but it's actually quite impressive when you imagine a room with 30 people in there, and all of them are reading your work.

or if your work doesn't get hits / kudos or likes, that still doesn't mean "it's bad" either. maybe the right people who will love it just haven't had the chance to find it yet, and that's okay, that's fine.

think of your work as a treasure, a hidden gem. just because only few people find it doesn't mean it's not valuable.

[animesharks]

i think anyone who’s every used the internet has seen this picture at least once

[grantairefanclub-remade]

 #should have done the blonde anime girl in the red plaid

you mean

[necromantism]

yes that one exactly

[dumb-of-ass-pure-of-heart]

wake me up inside

[fifth-dimensional]

That first image is an edit of HUGZzz by Irene Strychalski. She’s improved tremendously in the past nine years, and you can see her current work on her tumblr, reniedraws! She has done backgrounds for Archer and Unsupervised, backgrounds and character designs for Chozen, and pencils and inks for issue #1 of Deadpool Family. She’s currently making a webcomic called Shaman Child. Here’s some of her current art:

[girl with scarf] [deadpool] [wedding commission] [hair and water]

As for the anime girl in the plaid skirt, I braved the hellscape that is early ‘00s anime websites, exploring endless gif-covered Gaia pages and vampire-filled roleplay forums, traveling across seas of unsourced DeviantArt edits and low-res hentai, to discover that she is an original character by Hiro Suzuhira. She has done work for Shuffle!, Ef: A Tale of Melodies, Akikan!, Phantom Breaker, and We Without Wings, among many others, and she is also a prolific freelance illustrator. Here are some examples of her art:

[chronicle cover] [misa] [soul eater] [higurashi] [phantom breaker] [leo]

[maniacalmagician]

tumblr VH1 presents “Where are they now? Early 2000′s internet artists”

[luntica]

Fuck yeah! Show those sources! Knowing after all this time of that stolen art being everywhere, seeing the artist named is really great!

[inkiblot-deactivated20260404]

Philosophy Regarding Antiship Logic

( !! PLEASE READ !! This is my person belief and idea that I wanted to share. Please respect it! I'm always up to have a friendly chat but please don't be rude. Thank you!) I've been reflecting on modern philosophy and its influence on contemporary fandom culture, particularly the discourse between "proship" and "antiship" communities. I believe I have reached a compelling conclusion regarding the moral foundations of this debate.

To begin, let us define "antiship." The term generally refers to fans who disapprove of certain fictional ships and their supporters on the grounds that these relationships are problematic or morally objectionable. However, this raises a fundamental question: What constitutes moral wrongdoing?

This is where the antiship argument begins to unravel. The phenomenon of antishipping is primarily observed in Western society or within fandom spaces heavily influenced by Western social norms, whereas Eastern fandom cultures exhibit a relative lack of such discourse. This discrepancy suggests that the moral framework underlying antishipping is not universal but rather culturally contingent.

Drawing from the work of Friedrich Nietzsche, we can further deconstruct this issue. Nietzsche critiqued the origins of morality, particularly its foundation in Judeo-Christian teachings. If we accept his argument that morality is not an absolute truth but a construct shaped by historical and religious influences, then the moral objections posed by antishippers become questionable. How can one claim that a particular ship is "immoral" if the very concept of morality is rooted in millennia-old doctrines that are not universally accepted?

Furthermore, within the antiship community itself, there exists ongoing contention over which beliefs or ethical stances are "more morally right." This internal conflict highlights a broader philosophical issue: If morality is not an objective truth but a subjective construct, then no single moral stance can be definitively proven superior to another.

Additionally, one could argue that antishippers’ beliefs regarding the morality of certain ships could, in some cases, be interpreted as racially or culturally insensitive, if not outright xenophobic. There have been instances in which antishippers have engaged in such behavior, particularly when moral judgments about shipping are imposed upon works from cultures with different ethical and historical backgrounds. By applying a Western moral framework to media originating from non-Western cultures, antishippers risk reinforcing ethnocentric biases and disregarding cultural contexts that do not conform to their own moral perspectives.

Ultimately, the purpose of this argument is to illustrate that the antiship perspective lacks a stable foundation. Concepts of "right" and "good" are not objective realities but rather socially and historically contingent ideas. Thus, moral condemnation within fandom spaces is inherently flawed, as it relies on a framework that is neither universal nor absolute.

[kuramirocket]

Yes, hello, this is what proshippers have been saying from the start. I always see people say the "proship vs antis discourse" lack nuance, but those who say that is because they haven't actually dug deeper and only see 'above the surface' points, so to say, being made. It's necessary to swim deeper beyond the surface; this is where the explanations come in where you really get that nuance. Proshippers have gone deeper into history, psychology, etc to talk about this before to support their views and claims. Those that say this "discourse" lacks naunse just make themselves look like someone who hasn't actually taken the time to look deeper nor dissect the topics being discussed or have yet to use any critical thinking on the matter and on why these issues persist.