That one time when Sam told Dean that he’s getting married.
dean’s reaction to sam getting roofied is “this didn’t go through me!”
At this point no one actually knows what’s going on tho. It’s really weird and unlike Sam but it’s not like Dean knows someone is actively drugging Sam
He’s still angry with Sam for doing something outside of his control, rather than concerned about what might have happened to him. That’s not concern, that’s anger. I mean yeah, he doesn’t know Sam’s being drugged though.
I disagree. In the djin episode when Sam and Jess telling the family they are getting married Dean is truly happy for Sam. You can see how he treats Jess and how happy he is that she is alive and with Sam. I can agree on many things Dean does wrong in regards to Sam. But taking that example is just twisting this to something that it’s not.
We were all shocked. Sam is getting married in a matter of days, to an obsessive fangirl he never showed interest in before, even the healthiest brother will react like that.
A healthy brother will react with concern - “what’s wrong, how is this happening, I need to figure out what caused this to happen because there is no freaking way that creepy Becky “no-I-won’t-stop-touching-you” Rosen is the one you actually want to be with. Not “shouldn’t she ask for my permission or something?,” anger, and “I think I’m going to be sick.”
He wasn’t enraged at Becky, he was angry at Sam. And he blamed Sam after the fact for getting away from him, for going with Becky even though he’d been drugged to do it.
1. Dean is not a healthy brother, sadly so. But in that case he wasn’t as wrong as (I feel) you are trying to color him. Dean in S7 is broken after losing his only friend who betrayed him, he is not in the healthy place of taking a step back and actually think why and what brought Sam to that place.
2. He didn’t know Sam was dragged at that time.
3. I really think this is important to remember that Dean does see Sam as part of himself, and as such, whenever Sam is doing something wrong, Dean is blaming him, as he is blaming himself, and as he is blaming himself for not being there to stop it. He feels responsible for Sam to the point of controlling out of fear for Sam. I am not justifying him, but shading a different light on the ‘control’ situation.
This may come off as a personal attack, it’s not meant to but I haven’t had any coffee yet and just can’t find delicate phrasing right now. I apologize if I come off as harsh toward you; it isn’t intended personally.
1) In response to your first issue, with Dean’s “brokenness,” um… have you forgotten about the breaking of Sam’s wall? That he was suffering flashbacks to his time in the Cage that were expected to destroy him when the assault was committed, and that would come very close to killing him not long after? That’s constant reminders of torture that even Dean admitted made his tour in Hell look like a cake walk (“Swan Song.”) I have literally no patience for anyone who wants to cite Dean’s “brokenness” as an excuse for his treatment of Sam, either in season 7 or at any other time. Sam is equally damaged if not more so and he doesn’t decide that anyone needs to ask him for permission to marry his brother.
2) He didn’t know that Sam was drugged, but there was ample reason to suspect that something was not right (see earlier statements.) He did not react with concern, he reacted with anger. He’d been pissed off that Sam preferred to get time to himself than to go on their Vegas trip and then he was angry that Sam married Becky without pausing to consider that there had to be another cause, never mind that Sam had memories of Lucifer screaming in his ear that had already caused him to come dangerously close to taking his own life once. Dean may not have known that Sam had been drugged and bespelled, but there was no reason for him to not be concerned.
3) Dean’s reasons for needing to control Sam don’t matter. They don’t. The fact is that Dean here is angry at Sam for acting outside of his control, and that in the end of the episode he blamed Sam for getting roofied, for getting sexually assaulted and almost raped. It doesn’t matter why Dean felt that way, that’s never okay.
The problem with saying “Dean didn’t know what happened!!” is this: that regardless of what happened, his response was wrong. If, as he strongly suspected, there was indeed supernatural fuckery causing this wedding, then the first response should not have been “I didn’t clear this!” it should have been concern for Sam. If he didn’t see any evil afoot - if he thought there was no reason to be concerned for Sam - then that’s fine, but the first response still should not have been “wtf I have dibs on Sam!” because he doesn’t. Either way, Dean’s initial response is inappropriate - either Sam is being victimized, or it’s really none of Dean’s business - and highly telling, in that either way he is prioritizing his perceived right to control Sam over Sam’s well-being.
