i donât think we acknowledge enough that when children want to be treated âlike adultsâ what they really mean is âlike peopleâ
this is just my own observations of course but 90% of the time when a kid tries to get people to treat them like an adult, what they really want is the respect and acknowledgement that they associate with adulthood - because thatâs what they must give the adults. they have to give that to the adults in their lives, but the adults never give that same respect back, and so they see that difference and decide that they want to be treated âlike an adultâ
and sometimes i see parents who are like fine you want to be treated like an adult then you can work and pay rent but thatâs the exact OPPOSITE of what the kid is actually asking for. youâre just belittling them, clearly intending to punish them for daring ask for your respect, clearly intending for them to break down and beg to be âtreated like a childâ again because you purposefully twisted their wants. they ask for respect, and you give them abuse.
never, ever, ever, treat a child like a full grown adult. itâs our responsibility as adults NOT to, because they ARENT adults no matter how much they think they want to be, and itâs our job as adults to take care of them.
that said, ALWAYS treat children like people. because they ARE that. theyâre real people with real agency acting as best as they know to with what knowledge they have
itâs not a matter of kids trying to grow up too fast, itâs a matter of kids wanting to be treated like people instead of objects or pets.
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