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Perpetually exhausted and eternally bitter. Clinical Research worker who's job is imperiled by funding cuts. Opera enthusiast. Trekkie. Jewish autistic dyke who is also physically disabled. These things come up a lot on my blog. #cripplepunk She/ hers/they/them/etc. This blog is a clusterfuck of whatever strikes my fancy but has lately been devolving into me bitching about my deteriorating health. You have been warned.

[sopranoentravesti]

Reminder to all women applying for jobs: don’t just apply to things you are overqualified for

[movementnudge]

Movement nudge!

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[the-twitchy-life]

I LOVE THIS GUY.

All those "spend just 35 minutes doing a bunch of really hard exercises and you'll feel great forever!" videos are really discouraging. I usually end up doing like, 2 minutes of some of his while waiting for my shower to heat up, and ykw?

That's 2 minutes more than I would have done otherwise.

[nonbinary-octopus]

oh hey I have a thing like that last one that I like to do sometimes, but I do it lying down in bed. it's a very satisfying pop/shift in my hips/lower back, but doesn't always work. maybe I will try his version and see if it is more effective for me

[gilgameshhimself]

(Getting swindled by a genie) it’s like talking to a fucking tumblr user with you

[higglety]

the genie: how dare you say I'm fucking a tumblr user

[sightofsea]

love when cats hear that you've woken up even just a little bit and they're like hiiiiiii oh my god oh my god!!!!! i wrote some poems in the night let me recite them for you. this one is called: screaming and knocking your water bottle off your nightstand

[meangirlnurse]

Serious question , if “you cannot force your oppressors to stop seeing you as a subhuman” then what’s the point of passing any anti bigotry law?

you cannot stop someone from seeing you as subhuman. you can try to legally prevent them from acting on it.

[koshercosplay]

history is a circle etc etc

[ballwizard]

meows loud as fuck shattering all glass within 3 miles no survivors

[napoleononthebellerophon]

the amount of lawsuits these exploited children are going to be filing 20 years from now is going to be crazy and im all for it

[machine-unlearning]

[marlinspirkhall]

[torracat]

this is the money garf. reblog for untold pasta and riches to come your way

[butch-bara]

when people talk bad about cargo shorts i feel so unsafe

[butch-bara]

like sorry you hate my boxy silhouette and practical pockets

[lastoneout]

"I am not a vessel for your good intent" goes hard as a line from a disabled perspective. Abled people care so much more about being their idea of a good ally than they do actually being a good ally. They shove their good intent right down your throat and then act surprised when you tell them they're suffocating you.

[lastoneout]

[faggotvampires]

[ID: An image of a sign with a blue background and with a graphic of a stick figure in a wheelchair at the beginning, resembling disabled parking space signs. The text below the stick figure reads "I am not a vessel for your good intent." /ID]

[lastoneout]

This.

[enki2]

[thebdelliumlady]

For anyone wondering, the PhD student's name is Myra Cheng.

Here's a link to an article about the study from the Stanford Report: link.

[chapscher]

Across three preregistered studies, participants interacting with sycophantic AI became more convinced of their own rightness and less willing to repair relationships. Yet at the same time, participants rated sycophantic AI models as higher quality, more trustworthy, and more desirable for future use, which may explain why this behavior has persisted despite its harmful impacts.

Myra Cheng et al. "Sycophantic AI decreases prosocial intentions and promotes dependence." Science 391, eaec8352 (2026).

[meangirlnurse]

mean girl nurse meme had everything to do with degrading the workers who were literally on the front lines of the pandemic but this site's demographic ate it up and still regurgitates it word for word like they've done something clever

[meangirlnurse]

i do love when people still sneer about nurses posting tiktoks of themselves dancing during the pandemic, as though those weren't like. 21 year-olds suddenly thrust into an emergency situation where they were watching people die on a daily basis

like i'm sooooo fucking sorry they found five seconds of joy somewhere instead of shuffling along in a line and ritually beating themselves like the monks in Monty Python and the Holy Grail

[meangirlnurse]

sometimes people make it really obvious that they think nurses are supposed to be an irreproachable class of self-sacrificing secular nuns as opposed to like. a group of regular human beings doing a job

[mockiatoh]

I remember someone saying that they’d beat a nurse if they took their grandmother in for dialysis and saw a nurse in the empty lobby TikTok dancing. Routine care, and in an empty lobby specifically. No one challenged him.

There will also be this weird rage about things like, We haven’t heard back from the doctor and the nurses are at the desk laughing! There’s no other profession where people think that of you’re ever on break or being a person is a huge issue. People will recognize that a manager who invents work to fill any spite moment between rushes (“you’ve got time to lean, you’ve got time to clean”) is a complete asshole. But nurses aren’t allowed to breathe in between tasks. Never mind that it’s a job that requires more compartmentalization and decompression than most!

[meangirlnurse]

the frequency with which tumblr users will make it clear that they are 100% onboard with violence toward healthcare workers is truly wild

[bbutterguns]

thinking about the Very Popular Post by a Very Popular User that basically said nurses deserved it because patients are overcharged (not nurses’ faults) and often in frustrating situations/don’t feel satisfied with their pain management (neither of which is likely to be entirely or at all nurses’ faults), and OP was like “actually I’ve been chronically ill for 10 years I’m ALLOWED to think nurses deserve to get beat up” no actually you’re not!! You’re not. there isn’t an amount of sick you can be where it’s suddenly okay to snicker at and encourage violence against a group of people who are overwhelmingly female and underpaid, extremely often (in the us) woc, and who are not the fucking reason healthcare sucks! it’s really uhhh troubling frankly

[larkandkatydid]

A funny, bordering on charming example of people knowing about Octavia Butler but not actually reading her is that I saw a picture of a book display labeled, “they saw it coming” with several of her books on it, including the one where earth is taken over by tentacled aliens who make humans be in polycules with them. And friends, either we were, in creating this display, working off of a vague sense of what black ladies write about or there’s something I’ve missed about modern family structure since I have noticed zero tentacled throuples in my day to day life.

[unfuckyourhabitat]

Emergency cleaning: Unfuck your whole house in the shortest time possible

So, your landlord/parents/home inspector/favorite movie star is dropping by, and your place is a disaster. You don’t have much time to clean it up. You’re in emergency mode. Let’s get started.

Don’t panic. Panic leads to fear, fear leads to procrastination, procrastination leads to the dark side. You can do this, but you have to stay calm.

Unlike maintenance cleaning, we’re not looking to completely unfuck one space at a time. Instead, we want to decrease the overall mess in stages, spread evenly across the whole area that we’re concerned about. If you think your home is at Level 10 filth, we want to bring the whole thing down to a Level 9, and then down from there. One really clean spot in an otherwise messy home is not going to be helpful here.

Get prepared. You’ll want to shut the computer down (or turn the modem off if you need your computer to play music). Trust me. Get your music going. Gather up trash bags, your vacuum and mop, some rags or paper towel, sponges, and other cleaning supplies. Use what you have on hand. Don’t get distracted running to the store and spending an hour browsing cleaning supplies. A multi-purpose cleaning concentrate or a jug of vinegar will be just fine.

Breaks are very important. Depending on your time constraints, work in 20/10s (20 minutes working, 10-minute break) or 45/15s. But take breaks because otherwise you’re marathoning, and marathon cleaning is no one’s friend. Keep hydrated, don’t forget to eat, and check in with yourself frequently to make sure you’re physically doing OK.

Make your bed. This will be your home base if you get overwhelmed or need somewhere clear to take a break.

Start with the garbage. Going from room to room, throw out anything that is obvious trash. Once you fill a bag, take it out. Repeat as many times as necessary.

Move on to dishes. Gather the dishes from all over your house and bring them to the kitchen. If you can, start them soaking in a sink of hot, soapy water or start loading the dishwasher. After the dishes are all in one place, spend one 20/10 getting started getting them under control.

Now it’s time for your flat surfaces. Countertops, tables, dresser tops, etc. Clear them off and wipe them down. Don’t get distracted in too much sorting and organizing. We’re in crisis mode here. There will be time to get in-depth once this is all done. The same applies to cabinets and closets. Unless you have reason to believe people will be opening closed doors, leave these alone for now.

Attack the floordrobe and shoe pile. Get your clothes either put away or in the hamper. Start a load of laundry if you need to, but keep in mind that laundry and dishes have three steps: wash, dry, and put it away, goddammit!

Get random stuff up off the floors. If something is trash-worthy, throw it away now rather than just move it around a bunch of times. Otherwise, put stuff where it belongs.

Take another 20/10 or 45/15 to catch up on more dishes, if needed.

Head into the bathroom. Pour some cleaner in the toilet bowl, fill the sink with hot water and cleaner, and either spray the tub and shower with cleaner, or fill the tub up with some hot water and add cleaner and let it soak. Put everything away that’s out and shouldn’t be, clean the mirror, counters, and toilet seat. Sweep or dry mop the floor. Wipe down the sink and tub/shower, and give the toilet bowl a scrub. Mop the floor.

Sweep and mop the kitchen floor.

Vacuum everything you can, and sweep everything you can’t.

Walk outside of your house (don’t lock yourself out, please). Walk back in and see what catches your eye first. Go and deal with that.

If you’re being inspected or your landlord is coming in for repairs, spend time on whatever area they’ll be focusing on.

Give the whole place one more once-over and pay attention to anything you’ve missed so far.

It’s an old trick, but if your place is a little funky-smelling, put a pan of water on the stove on low heat and add some citrus or cinnamon or vanilla. Don’t leave it unattended or forget about it.

Take a shower, put on something clean, and eat something.

You can do this. It’s overwhelming, yes, but it is not impossible. You just need to do it. You have a list. You have directions. You have a whole bunch of Internet strangers who have been there before and who are cheering you on. You can do this, but you need to get started.

Why are you still here? GO. START. NOW.

[river-b]

the number of times in my past that I desperately wanted/needed someone to sit me down and tell me this stuff. I will never get back the hours and hours lost to headless-chicken mode, but it’s nice to know that in the last year I’ve learned so many coping mechanisms :D

[rush-the-stars]

am always obsessed when someone says to a character “call off your dog” about another character.