SoulzSuffer4Me

Here to share my passion for Domination and rope,and to share and connect with my pet @asubsoul . This is a NSFW blog and no one under 18 should be here. Open to questions and submissions.

[malone-or-mag]

[unclefather]

[soulzsuffer4me]

Lmao

[asubsoul]

Mouth rope slut here R: @soulzsuffer4me B:me P: @blondie567

[asubsoul]

Dat ass tho!

[colormebeautifultmblr]

“You’ll never be suspended, you’re to big.”

I saw a post on IG yesterday from a beautiful woman. She was in tights and a set of perfectly symettrical double futos. The rope work was clean. Her shape was sexy. It was geneuinely an all around pleasing photo of her in her own rope work. Then I made it down to the caption. To summarize, the caption stated that she was having trouble finding inspiration to tie lately. That she kept telling herself that her body was beautiful in rope even after being rejected by so many riggers. This gorgeous girl, was plus sized.

Now let me start by saying I don’t actually know this girl. But as I read her post I felt absolutely devastated, shocked and apalled that a rigger would even say that. Like, I’m sorry who the hell made you the bondage police? But, I digress. So then later, during a break from a lab session with some friends, I start telling them about this post and how I wrong I felt it was. Then one of them says to me, “it’s happened to me too.” Shocked for the second time that day I ask very eloquently, “What the fuck? Why?” He proceeded to tell me that he had been rejected by 2 riggers. Both told him, “you’ll never be suspended. Your’re to big.”

My response:

FUCK. THAT.

I am 5 feet 1 and approximately 190 lbs. Most of the people I tie with on a regular basis are over 6ft. Tall and between 250-275lbs. I have been rigging at a suspension level for less than a year. If I can do it, then surely YOU, Mr. Domly McRiggerson can. I guess my point is: FIGURE IT OUT!!

Are there challenges to overcome when tying someone heavier than the 120lb rope models you see plastered all over the internet? Absolutely. Does that make those people any less willing or capable of bottoming in rope? HELL NO! As a rigger, YOU learn new ties that work with your bottoms body. YOU figure out what style of hanger is safest. YOU adapt. Can’t lift past a certain point in a level change? Put yourself underneath them, grab the upline and freaking PULL.

It is hard to lift someone larger than you? YES. Am I a sweaty mess that is just as sore as they are by the end? YES. Do I occassionally require the spotter to help with a little extra muscle? YES. Does it ruin our scene? NO. Does it effect any part of thier experience in a negative way? NO.

So to any rigger out there reading this that has ever told anyone they are “too big” for suspension: SHAME ON YOU!!!

How dare you make someone feel as if THEIR body isnt good enough simply because YOUR to weak and scared to try? The problem is NOT that a tall/curvy/thick/plus sized person is to much to lift. The problem IS that YOUR ego is so much larger than the bodies to whom you deny the pleasure of rope.

[soulzsuffer4me]

AMEN! !!!!!!!!!!!! can't rig a larger woman? Grow some and try again. . Js

[big-kahuno]

[soulzsuffer4me]

What you don't need depressed and lonely

Just a psa

[the-faculty]

I am a submissive in a LDR with my Sir. Lately he has been experiencing stress from work and other personal relationships outside of our D/s relationship. I would like to be able to help/comfort him in some way, but am struggling on how to do so, as the way I, as a submissive, find comfort is different than how he needs comfort. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

144 here. As counterintuitive as it will seem, instead of backing off and giving him space (which is almost always a bad move), give him more opportunities to be your Dom. We’re not talking about big-ticket items here; I tend to use the catchphrase “Let him lead.”Do this by finding many small ways to keep him mindful that you belong to him and “he’s in charge.”  D/s isn’t about kink, it’s about those million and one little ways in which the Dom exerts leadership. Some examples:

“I can’t decide which of these two tops to wear today. Which should i wear?”

“Please let me know what color panties today. I have green, grey, and pink.”

“I’m at the restaurant, should I have the Cobb salad or the Pad Thai?”

And the money shot: “I’m horny. May I have an orgasm?”

It is an oddly stress-relieving thing for a Dom when their submissive defers to them and lets them lead. We need that. It’s oxygen for us.

[stonervent]

I always forget doms need aftercare lmao

[daddy-teacher-mentor-deactivate]

🐘 Very true words. I think that goes even more in a long distance relationship. 🐘

[just-a-shopchick-deactivated202]

[ampervadasz]

Akar valamit

[soulzsuffer4me]

Lmao too true

[theropegeek]

rope and photo by me; model @stoneyslavegirl

[octopuscato]

tumblr mirrors on ‘photosugar’

So idk if others have noticed this before - but it’s the first time I’m seeing this, hence the post.

There’s a website, https://www.photosugar.com, which apparently mirrors all pictures, gifsets etc. people post on their tumblrs (and also other social media sites like twitter and instagram, if I understand it correctly). An eample for a tumblr user, with my name: https://www.photosugar.com/tu/lordhellebore

Now it won‘t turn up anything but a 404 error in my case, because I sent an e-mail to the contact address, which is [email protected] with the title “My content on your website”:

Hello, it’s come to my attention that you are mirroring all of the posts containing pictures/gifs that I post on my tumblr. I am asking you to stop pulling the content from my tumblr and to delete me from your website. tumblr username is „lordhellebore“ Thank you.

I got a reply consisting of the single word “removed” after just one day, and as you can see, it worked perfectly fine with the informal mail I sent. So if you want them to stop mirroring your tumblr, it seems all you really need to to is this.  

I can’t test the site for all of my mutuals, but I’m tagging a few whom I found on there by random trial & error, and I suggest you look yourself up if you see this post and dislike tumblr mirrors (even if this one is only for pictures, not text).

@janiedean, @ladytp, @vaysh11, @lunavagantt, @einemelodieimwind, @robb-greyjoy, @youbuggingme, @ysilme, @rex-luscus, @bai-xue, @viendiletto, @electricalice, @contessa-de-leusse, @memetic-mutism, @bluecichlid, @mrs-storm-andrews, @ladymothwing, @prismatic-bell, @kittykatknits, @tinkili

….basically, whomever I’m trying at random, it seems that you’re on there.

 Please reblog so others can know and ask for removal if they want to.

[torchmlp]

Yeah my blog was on here. Here’s who else I found on it: 

@linesofreturninggeese @airilymusing @godspeed-little-taters @fiction-central @sufferinggayvoid @wolfie180g @neonthebright @neonthewrite @alittleblogoftrust @creatorofuniverses @bonkalore @jennilah @my-wayward-son-carry-on @inferno0w0 @maroonian @keroluversakura @kleenex-box @wowiepow @singinglithium @feshnie @jove-bluh @peekingtitan @nekosora-chan @vanilla–weekend @mandichu @plz-save-me-from-the-monsters @mutsuml

Every blog I tried was on it.

[feshnie]

Thank you for letting me know. I’ll contact them about my blogs soon

and I hope this will help anyone who also don’t wish for their content to be mirrorred elsewhere.

Here’s also a possible alternate way to remove if you’re not into emailing. https://www.photosugar.com/remove

[thechesterfield]

Using this link works great, thanks.

[my-wanton-self-deactivated20191]

I was on here, but removed myself using the link that feshnie kindly mentioned above:

https://www.photosugar.com/remove

[retrokarrots-deactivated2021072]

Not a joke!

[a-submissive-life]

I was on there too…..I also found others including @instructor144

[instructor144]

Can confirm. What the actual fuck?? I got it removed using:

https://www.photosugar.com/remove

I am encouraging all of my Follower to go to this web link:

https://www.photosugar.com/tu/[insert your tumblr blog name here]

If you see your blog’s photos there – and I did, all of them, even the personal “slice of life” ones – then use the “remove” option above. Jesus fucking Christ.

[asoftwrongness]

[iamdrdominant]

D/s vs Vanilla

A collection of observations from My personal experience in having been involved in both D/s and vanilla relationships or having observed the behavior of others. As a disclaimer, I am in no way “defining” right or wrong behavior. All relationships are unique. All Dominants and submissives are different. Your experience(s) and observation(s) may be different from Mine.

Leaves for work in the morning…

Vanilla: (Light peck on the cheek) “Have a nice day, Hon.”

D/s: (Passionate embrace, perhaps even tongue exploring) “Meet you back here at 6pm, Babe!”

Walking down the sidewalk…

Vanilla: Anyone’s guess who takes the curb side.

D/s: Dominant takes the curb; submissive takes the wall. Always!

Walking together anywhere…

Vanilla: Maybe hand holding… but not likely.

D/s: Dominant holds submissive’s hand (with his on top and hers underneath), or places hand in the small of her back or on the nape of her neck. Alternatively, submissive locks arms at the elbow. Or dual arm around waist embrace.

Getting things done…

Vanilla: “I’ll get around to it.”

D/s: “It will be done today.”

Working though an issue…

Vanilla : “What’s wrong with you?”

D/s: “Have I made you upset?”

Deciding where to go for dinner…

Vanilla: “Where would you like to go?”

D/s: “We are going (here) tonight.”

Having dinner in a restaurant…

Vanilla: Your phone has your undivided attention.

D/s: Your partner has your undivided attention.

Clearing the dinner table of stacked dirty dishes…

Vanilla: Everyone fends for himself or herself.

D/s: Stacked dishes are heavy. Dominant carries dirty dishes from table to kitchen.  

Expressing disappointment…

Vanilla: … … … … (withdraw with silent treatment).

D/s: “I am unhappy with you and here is why.”

Giving a compliment…

Vanilla: “You look nice tonight.”

D/s: (Grabs her ass and pulls her in close). “You are so Mine!”

Walking up stairs…

Vanilla: Parties walk side by side or random determination who leads.

D/s: Dominant walks behind submissive so that He can help her if she trips and stumbles.

Walking down stairs…

Vanilla: Parties walk side by side  or random determination who leads.

D/s: Dominant walks in front of submissive so that she can brace herself on Him if she trips and falls.

Approaching a building door…

Vanilla: Whoever gets there first opens the door.

D/s: submissive waits for Dominant to open all doors. Always!

Entering of exiting a vehicle…

Vanilla: Everyone fends for himself or herself

D/s: submissive sits patiently in vehicle and waits for Dominant to exit vehicle and walk around to open her door.

Investment in the relationship…

Vanilla : Both partners give 50-50, at best.  More likely it is 75-25.

D/s: Both partners give 100-100; otherwise D/s doesn’t work.

Sex…

Vanilla : “Honey, can we have sex tonight?”

D/s: “I want you now. Get undressed and go wait for me. Now!”

Orgasms…

Vanilla: She fakes them half the time.

D/s: She climaxes at Dominant’s discretion.

Falling asleep…

Vanilla: “Good night, Hon.” (rolls over and goes to sleep)

D/s: “I am so in love with you. Come here; I want to feel you next to me as I sleep.”

Saturday mornings…

Vanilla: Get out of bed immediately upon waking.

D/s: Take in your partner as they sleep. Plan your day while in bed together. 

Accountability for personal behavior…

Vanilla: Little to none, particularly over time.

D/s: An absolutely requisite all the time.

-IADD🌪 (© May 10, 2018)

[asubsoul]

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