Things to show Tom

A page where I reblog all the things I want to show my he/him wife.

[crippy-tangerine]

So we attended a protest yesterday as part of our local mask bloc to hand out free respirator masks to attendees. The people who engaged with us mostly had positive responses (although often expressing uneducated beliefs about COVID).

But there were also a lot of people who walked by and just gawked, glared, shook their heads and gave pitying looks etc. Some people also made passing comments about us (which we expected, but it was still irritating).

Still processing. Coz ultimately it was a lot of sensory input. But it was pretty terrifying attending an "antifascist" protest with thousands of people totally unmasked. I'm dreading COVID testing today and tomorrow honestly.

Trying not to be too bitter about it, but it's really hard watching people willingly partake in eugenics. Like it's pretty gutting. I know we did our bit and spent hours in direct sun to hand out masks, water, plasters, suncream, ear buds and food. But it still feels like it's not enough? But I don't know what more I, a disabled person, could have done. That's been my one outing for the month and I'm shattered.

Please mask. You can help to protect yourself and everyone around you just by wearing a well fitting respirator.

[covid-safer-hotties]

I had a similar experience at last year's pride and sadly I just don't have the will or supplies or energy this time around to do a similar thing this year... eerily similar to early AIDS organizing struggles: people want to act like it's a fringe issue pushed by crazies or just ignore it and it's so frustrating.

[wheelie-sick]

sometimes people experiencing psychosis and/or mania will come up to you on the street and talk in confusing or upsetting ways. your job is to either have a regular human-to-human conversation with that person or politely leave. your job is not to call 911. do not call 911. you might kill that person if you call 911.

[wheelie-sick]

I don't even have the energy to screenshot and respond to your tags- what the actual fuck is wrong with you? "the cops are scared and rightfully so" "mental health calls are the scariest for cops" OH so this isn't about the safety of psychotic & manic people this is about piggy feelings?

and no, actually, this is not USA specific and no, actually, people from other countries should not ignore this post. police violence and sanism weren't invented in the US and they are certainly not unique to here. if you (or anyone) thinks that this bullshit doesn't happen elsewhere then you are not listening.

[headspace-hotel]

cops r Some Guy with a Gun

do we want Some Guy with a Gun in this situation? answer is usually "NO"

[uncivilliberties]

This is legitimately useful reframing. A while ago I started replacing the word "cop" in my vocabulary with "a man with a gun." It really puts things into perspective.

This homeless person is making me uncomfortable. Should I call [a man with a gun]?

My neighbor is having a loud party. Should I get [a man with a gun] involved?

There are some teenagers skateboarding. Do you think [a man with a gun] would get rid of them for me?

It makes it very clear what you're saying. I can call a man with a gun to threaten or hurt someone mildly inconveniencing me. You're not calling the cops, you're calling A MAN WITH A GUN into a situation that does not warrant a firearm handled by a volatile lunatic who will not be held accountable for his actions.

[headspace-hotel]

^ ^ ^

[moveslikekeithrichards]

working with little kids is so dangerous. you get one kid who has a unique way of speaking & then spend the rest of your life with an internal monologue like “me’s go bathroom?”

[moveslikekeithrichards]

other thrilling destructions of my vocabulary:

the kid who replaced his hard G sounds with soft ones, leaving me incapable of thinking of glasses as anything other than jlasses

kid who would holler "DID" any time she finished her work no matter how many times we told her to just raise her hand

kid who began her scary stories with "once a time" and her friend who began his with "paw time"

middle schooler i had during student teaching who pronounced magritte as "mah-gritty"

the kid who said "i got boogies comin out my nose" while sobbing and the kid who said "theres his puddle of cry" while describing a drawing, both of whom i think of when im crying

kid who said that if he was 80 he would get big and turn grandpa

kid who, for no reason in particular, would just say "like a little feet" as a standalone phrase in relation to nothing

edit how could i forget. the kid who got sneezed on and angrily said "whyd you blessyou on me"

[hollowedskin]

My niece who asks people with dogs "are him big or him little?"

And every person without fail answers "uh.. him big"

[draconym]

Years later my vocabulary is still influenced by:

kid who called snakes "nakes"

kid who called calculators "cockulators"

my little cousin who referred to anything he didn't have an immediate answer to as "vewy mystewious"

"I don't yike heem"

[heywriters]

tiny neighbor who couldn't grasp the names of nouns, just the noises they made. Rocket ship was "wheesh!" Water was "wadleladdleaddle"

[foldingfittedsheets]

My girlfriend and I are laying quietly in the pitch black bedroom. In a soft whisper with no inflection, I said, “Someone is here.”

My girlfriend’s whole body stiffens and they go, “What the FUCK!”

They didn’t feel the little kitty feet I felt or have the context so instead of understanding a cat was joining us in bed they thought I was signaling the start of a horror movie.

[fairycosmos]

you actually don't have to go on dating apps to find girlfriends. many beautiful women are waiting for you on rocks out at sea

[doing-90mph-in-central-london]

ⓘ This user is a malicious entity made of seafoam.

[eccentricecologist]

Out of my way, bothersome footnote, I'm about to get it

[cursedtrekedits]

hear me out... jadzia with lisa frank style rainbow leopard spots instead of her regular trill spots. please?

feels appropriate for pride month!

[grootficguy]

it must feel good as hell when you’re a horse and you take a big bite out of an apple like ttshoke

[rubensmuse]

your command over onomatopoeia is unmatched bestie

[huariqueje]

Blue Plum Branch - Adriana van Zoest

Dutch , b. 1966 -

Pastel on cardboard , 21,5 x 28,5 cm

[victusinveritas]

[onedirectionforever]

“you support gay rights so you must be gay”

i support animal rights do i look like a fucking alpaca to you

[onedirectionforever]

turns out i am gay

[monsieurenjlolras]

holy shit how’d this alpaca learn how to type

[mywitchcultblr]

Diversity win! The alpaca is gay!

[adreamthatsworthkeeping]

[thebirdkiwi]

he was a llama

[fritextramole]

a llama?! he’s supposed to be dead!

[lilysaus-reblogs]

@hellsite-hall-of-fame i think this deserves to be here

[catchymemes]

[wumbreon]

May we all know decadence such as this

[worstgirleva]

Male socialization is such an evil rhetoric. Yeah I guess not transitioning at the age of 5 is my fault and I'm evil for it. Yeah I guess not having the childhood I wish I did means I'm a danger and I should perpetually apologize for it

[zedogica]

"The fact that socialization is a specious argument became obvious to me during an exchange I had with a trans-woman-exclusionist who insisted that my being raised male was the sole reason in her mind for me to be disqualified from entering women-only spaces. So I asked her if she was open to allowing trans women who are anatomically male but who have been socialized female — something that’s not all that uncommon for MTF children these days. She admitted to having concerns about their attending. Then, I asked how she would feel about a person who was born female yet raised male against her will, and who, after a lifetime of pretending to be male in order to survive, finally reclaimed her female identity upon reaching adulthood. After being confronted with this scenario, the woman conceded that she would be inclined to let this person enter women-only space, thus demonstrating that her argument about male socialization was really an argument about biology after all. In fact, after being pressed a bit further, she admitted that the scenario of a young girl who was forced against her will into boyhood made her realize how traumatic and dehumanizing male socialization could be for someone who was female-identified. This, of course, is exactly how many trans women experience their own childhoods."

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Julia Serano, "Whipping Girl"

pg. 184

[dreamquestofunknownkadath]

One of my favorite genres of post

[dreamquestofunknownkadath]

[vanilla-kitty]

[daughter-of-sapph0]

[maple-syrup-drinker]

I have these saved in a folder called "wrong picture, Kronk"

[diserbillyti]

Honestly man I kind of love telling able people I used to be a support worker. The response is always ableist but sometimes it's in a surreal and fascinating way.

Once I had someone do the whole "that seems so hard, you must be so patient" standard routine. I ask her, "why's that?" You know, why do I need to be some kind of virtuous martyr to watch 90s cartoons with other disabled people for $30 an hour?

And she says to me, with full seriousness and a look of utter dread on her face,

"All the biting."

OK mate. What do you mean. What biting. What are you on about.

"The biting," she repeats, as if it's obvious and I ought to intuitively know what she means. Then she kind of snaps her teeth to demonstrate. "You know?"

No I don't know. What do you mean biting.

"They bite," she says. Eyes wide, dead serious. "The, um, the Slow People. They bite."

Melany, I says to her I says, they're not damn draculas.

[konoko]

[thysannia]

[holy-leapin-splits-batman]

[javascrypt]

this guy’s awesome fujoshi wife…