I want to make it clear Iâm not just speaking to underage/teen girls. Any younger girl, and this can happen to not that young women as well.
Just because the guy isnât technically a pedophile, doesnât make him any less predatory. When youâre in your 20s you may not be a kid anymore, but youâre not fully developed as an adult either. Youâre still vulnerable to predators who have the advantage of more experience and thus tools you donât yet have, in addition to the other advantage of power imbalance due to gendered relations.
A man who wants to be your mentor, especially if he says he wants to âshapeâ you or anything similar, is a man whoâs trying to turn you into his puppet, to make you âdevelopâ (be molded) into the girl/woman that serves his pleasure, even if not directly sexual.
Thereâs predators who get off on the intellectual performance of the younger female objects of their obsessions. Thereâs predators who get off on your social development fitting their not-necessarily sexual fantasies. Thereâs predators who get off on the idea of taking a depressed girl and becoming her âsaviorâ.
Thereâs people who get off to feet and fucking statues, you best believe thereâs predators who get immense satisfaction from mental games against vulnerable girls/women even if theyâre not (directly) sexual. And even if those things arenât sexual at all to you, it will fuck you up. Because youâll know or feel that youâre being used against your will, that youâre not being treated as a human, youâll feel trapped, youâll feel controlled, youâll feel hopeless and disgusted with what heâs turning you into.
Itâs about control, itâs about possession, itâs about ownership of who you are, itâs about having the perfect doll to play with.
Itâs about you becoming mentally, emotionally, intellectually, socially dependent on them. Itâs about a boost of their egos.
Regardless of your age, but especially if youâre considerably younger than him, and you see signs of him being fixated on this, RUN AS SOON AS YOU CAN.