It is so interesting how often guys who try to manipulate their spouse (or long term partner) into an open relationship against their will try to use the justification/guilt trip of “I didn’t get many dates in high school/college and I want to make up for lost time.” or whatever. Which is essentially saying ‘You are pretty much the only woman on earth charitable enough to fuck me and love me and I don’t think you’re enough.’ and then she is coerced into the open relationship and women still find him repulsive, even more so now that he is a grown man with a wife trying to hit the clubs. I can’t imagine having something good with somebody for YEARS and deciding to ruin it because I did not get laid in high school.
This was kinda healing for me, imo, because I was lost with what I wanted in dating and secretly dreamed of a romance as lovely as the ones in my books when I was a little girl but was too scared of wanting that because of the commitment bit. It's nice of course, but it was sobering to remember that if I get that and I'm ruining a healthy and loving relationship because no one wanted to shag me in high school ... Well, that's just idiocy.
