save me bob hoskins wolverine...

Casey, adult, ei/em/eir or bre/bry/brim. my gender is salmon

[stars-below]

The important thing is that we as a community need to love trans men and mascs as much as we love trans women and femmes

this should not be a controversial statement

[selene1311-f]

Being bi and just recently figuring it out, I'm really starting to realize how much it pisses me off that it's somehow accepted in a lot of queer spaces to just write men off as unlovable. It's done to both cis and trans men, and tbh it's really fucking bothering me. Why do we put up with that? Why do we just let people write off almost half the fucking population? It's shit. Just cause it isn't a form of institutional bigotry like misogyny or homophobia doesn't make it right, doesn't mean there's a good reason to hurt people like that.

idk, I just think it's innately wrong to call anybody unlovable for their gender; didn't realize that'd be controversial. At the same time though, treating people as less worthy of care and compassion for something so simple seems to be depressingly normalized, so much so that I didn't always bat an eye at it.

It ain't right, yall deserve love too, and care, and tenderness, and affection. Don't for a second feel that you don't.

Anyhow, rant over I guess; just fucking treat people well.

[jamjarblues]

deeply frustrating how the biggest voices in transandrophobia theory and pro-trans masculinity theory have said time and time again how they view trans feminine people as equals, how the biggest proponents of transandrophobia are always cisgender people, how transmisogyny is wrong and harmful, and have loudly condemned those who blame trans femmes for transandrophobia…but one fuckass troll starts being transmisogynistic in the transandrophobia tag and suddenly THATS who represents the community? not the people who have been talking about this for years, one dipshit can make a blog and theyre the authority even if they aren’t a trans man themselves. cool. cool. that’s totally not proving the point that trans men and mascs are never ever ever authorities on our own experiences. cool.

anyway if you actually wanna listen to people who have been talking about this for years and know what the fuck theyre talking about @nothorses @st-dionysus (the actual coiner of the term btw) @doberbutts @ftmtftm @genderkoolaid are just a few i can think of off the top of my head, if anyone has any additions pls tag!!

[carriesthewind]

oh no

(link for the curious: https://storage.courtlistener.com/recap/gov.uscourts.flmd.442907/gov.uscourts.flmd.442907.50.2.pdf)

[kisnin]

i am continously suprised and concerned these numbskulls manage to be a credible threat. 6,000 supposed members and not one of them knows jack shit about computers

[johannestevans]

Watched a documentary about abuse and advice one guy said to give children was, "Tell them that if someone is hurting them, to tell someone - and don't just tell one person. Tell as many people as possible, and keep telling as many people as possible until the abuse stops." and i really liked that

Bc so many ppl focus on the idea of telling A Trusted Adult, but even a well-meaning individual can fuck up and let abuse fall through the cracks or not know what to do

Whereas if a child tells LOADS of adults AND other kids, there's far less opportunity for an abuser to do damage control

Consistently telling their story and spreading it around disempowers the abuser to control and coerce the flow of information, or to utilise gaps and weaknesses in systems of reporting or welfare to isolate the child

Just really good advice. Not suprised I don't hear it more often.

[flowercrowncrip]

This is really good advice and, in the UK at least, also applies to “adults at risk” as well. It’s what I did when I had problems with my social care provider that amounted to a safeguarding concern earlier this year.

If your school safeguarding lead, youth worker, scout leader, neighbour, doctors surgery, local citizens advice office etc. all make referrals and follow up on them to make sure they’ve been received and taken seriously then it’s more likely that it will be taken seriously and that action will happen.

[pettycentral]

[dogboysora]

The Tattoo Post™️ is so revealing of the current state of trans discourse online. Really it’s quite a fascinating case study. Right from the jump we have the weirdly paternalistic framing that trans men should run tattoo ideas by their friends, insinuating that trans men innately have poor judgment. By singling out trans men as a demographic rather than just advising people get feedback on their tattoo ideas or stating that they think the tattoo in question is bad, OP implies that it is trans men specifically and no other demographic that deserve to be held to this level of scrutiny. And even if you stripped the weird gender wars bullshit away from the whole thing, there remains the fact that putting a stranger on blast over an innocuous tattoo is deeply weird and uhhh bullying? Just straight up middle school bully behavior? What the hell is wrong with you?

Anyway here are my favorite notes

Exhibit A: The very feminist take that people socially/medically/legally classed as female aren’t oppressed on the basis of being socially/medically/legally classed as female.

Exhibit B: Seeing a non-sexual image of a trans man and immediately thinking about him bottoming. Because sexually objectifying random people for no reason is, again, very feminist. 🙄

Exhibi— okay I don’t have anything to say, I’m just enamored by this one. What does it even mean. What if a cis guy was a trans guy. What if the world was made of pudding. What if words meant nothing.

[skyzygy]

"TMRA"? Uh, yeah, I sure do think trans men should have rights. Do you not?

[gaystation4]

[a-sentient-cup]

[revryebread]

[unicorn-jpg-archive]

hey nonbinary parents u kno how there’s shortened terms for mother and father but no good shortened terms for parent?? well i have the solution for you!!! instead of “parent” u can call urself “guardian” which can be shortened to “guard” and then when ur kid says things like “sorry i can’t go my guard says no” they sound rich and mysteriously important and u dont get misgendered and everyone wins

[beesdontexist]

Additionally, when your kid has a bad influence trying to get them to do something they know you would be against they could say “Sorry, I don’t want to let my guard down” which is both mysterious AND a pun

[alteredpanel]

[proudpoe]

Howl?? From Howl’s Moving Castle??

[emomemolemoemo]

[titsay]

orange

[were--ralph]

Oh no Strep thrussy has my threstical so sore and sensitive how will ever swallow anything with this big swollen thrussy 🥺 I sure hope senpai doesn't stick his meat thermometer in there it's so tight and wet how will it ever fit in that tiny hole 🥺

[were--ralph]

when did i post this

[pointlessprism]

[were--ralph]

yeah that tracks

[unique-ones-enlightened]

[thesylverlining]

I wish more people got this because some ‘low-empathy’ people are the most compassionate and sympathetic in the universe, and I hate it when that’s taken to mean ‘unfeeling and probably hostile’ when nothing could be further from the truth

[quantum-jump]

Or, as my dad put it,

Sympathy: I know how you feel Empathy: I feel how you feel Compassion: is there anything I can do to help?

[paramourblessings]

Sympathy: that sucks bro empathy: I feel that compassion: want me to send you some puppy and kitten pictures to make you feel better?

[autisticcaleb]

Posts like this make me feel so much better. It always seems like society treat responses to others pain as though empathy is the most important kind. I am around 85% compassionate and this post helped me not feel like I am a monster because of that for once.

[furattic]

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[furbasement]

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