let me clear some things up for you:
-amab people commit the majority of violent crime to the majority of violent to mostly afab people. Women have a right to single sex spaces because they objectively prevent this. Are trans people allowed to be t4t? Are black people allowed to gather with just black people? Apply that logic to women
-no man is oppressed for being asexual. Women are oppressed by men when they say no to sex. Women are forced to have sex they don't want to because of patriachy
-people can reliably identify a person's sex just by sight. No genitals involved
-lying about your biological sex on a legal document is not a human right
-why can't an afab person be a trans woman?
⚠️TW: Discussion of rape and sexual assault.
Hi anon, let’s dig a little deeper on the topics you brought up and go point by point to clear up the misunderstandings that seems to be occurring.
- “AMAB people commit most violent crime.”
This is true. Most violence against women is committed by cisgender men, and within that, the violence you seem to fear is statistically more likely to occur within and after domestic heterosexual relationships (this has been proven repeatedly throughout countless studies). I agree with you that this is disgusting and wrong, but we are talking about trans women, who are not cis men.
Trans women are actually far more likely to be the victims of violence, not the perpetrators. This, too, can be shown statistically, scientifically, and in a way that is separate from bias and deeply rooted fears. Excluding trans women will not stop patriarchal bias or sexual assault, and if anything, it undermines the real depth of these very real issues.
- “Are trans people allowed to be t4t? / Are black people allowed to gather with just black people?”
Yes. LGBTQ-only spaces are created so that people with shared and similar identities have a sanctuary from systemic oppression, exclusion, and unfortunately, a very present and real threat of violence. Spaces for people of colour are made for this same reason, but that is another discussion that deserves its own post. Fortunately, for your logic, we also have women-only spaces with the exact same intent of promoting unity, allow women’s voices to be heard, provide sanctuary, and to push back against the sick patriarchy that DOES exist in the world.
To exclude trans women from women spaces is a waste of the fight that you could be using to speak up against domestic violence, rape, and patriarchy. You are fighting against the women who are trying to fight alongside you.
- “No man is oppressed for being asexual.”
I think the point you are trying to make here is something along the lines of ‘men are rapists, so asexual men ‘can’t’ be oppressed.’ Asexuals (of any gender and orientation) can be and are victims of oppression, but oppression and rape are two entirely different topics. If your concern is truly within the treatment of asexuals, (though this is doubtful) I would love to talk more about this, but I think the root of this comment is, again, the mistreatment of cis women by cis men.
There is not a singular cause that can be placed upon every instance of rape. Sexual assault occurring at all is awful, immoral, illegal, and should never happen, but it is ignorant to claim that it only happens because of the ‘patriarchy.’ As a victim of sexual assault, and as a feminist, I find it offensive that these very different topics are even comparable to you.
- “You can tell sex on sight.”
Incorrect. Fortunately, you followed this by saying, “no genitals involved,” in which we agree! My question for you is: if you can identify a persons biological sex on sight, and genitals truly aren’t relevant, then why is so much of your argument against trans women and not against rapists / cis men?
- “Lying about sex on legal docs…”
Circling back to your argument that a person’s sex is obvious by physical appearance: if this is the case, then do you really need a gender marker on a legal document to say so? If it’s so easy to tell, let’s just do away with this kind of identification altogether, shall we?
These gender markers are put in place to affirm, not deceive. I promise, you would be more horrified to find that my passport is marked ‘F’ after you’ve met me in person, than to find it marked ‘M.’
- “Why can’t an AFAB person be a trans woman?”
Great question! The term AFAB (assigned female at birth) is a description, not an identity. The term you are looking for is ‘cis-woman,’ describing a woman who was in fact assigned female at birth, and a woman who’s gender is in alignment with the biological body she was born into.
At the end of the day, the world is facing hundreds of problems that cannot be solved overnight, and they cannot all be solved at once. Sexual assault, patriarchy, and the unfair treatment of women in comparison to men are each VERY big problems, but they are not the only problems.
I get the sense that there is a lot of anger and fear living inside your chest. Me too. But I, a trans person, will stand beside you and hold your hand, even if both our hands are shaking, because I really think that this passion you have can be used for something more meaningful than leaving anonymous and hateful notes online.
If we use that fight inside of us to quarrel against each other, then we lose sight of why it is we are fighting in the first place. Imagine how much more we could do if we only stood together, instead of apart.
hope this helps to ‘clear things up,’ if you will, and i truly hope that one day, you won’t be so afraid of the things you don’t yet understand.
