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I love you ao3, I love you dead dove, I love you dark and fucked up ships, I love you weird and unusual kinks, I love you porn without plot, I love you unapologetic violent fiction, I love you horror, I love you splatterpunk, I love you unreliable narrators, I love you morally gray characters, I love you characters with no morals whatsoever, I love you authors that write whatever you want, I love you authors who don't stop others from writing whatever they want, I love you readers with critical thinking skills, I love you media literacy
ngl hearing plenty of paraphiles can use fantasy as a proper outlet is pneat
I've been recently having some conversations with a friend about darkfics and dark romance books. And every time those are mentioned she complains about how darkfics and dark romance books romanticize dark topics. I'm not sure if it's a typical trait of all dark romance books to romanticize those topics, but as I understand from the definition of darkfic in your post about terminology, romanticizing those topics is a trait of darkfics. So I don't really understand why she complains about it if it is literally a trait of darkfics. Also, those conversations made me just confused. and make me wonder if my thinking is morally bad or not. As someone who reads smuts and noncon (and probably some of those I've read could have been darkfics as well), I kinda don't understand her hate for darkfics. I understand that darkfics might make her uncomfortable and from what she has been saying I think she might be scared that darkfics will normalise abuse. But I still don't get her hate for darkfics. Like, I tried telling her that some people use darkfics to cope with trauma or as healthy outlet for paraphilias, but she didn't seem to listen to that. After those she was also saying that dark topics shouldn't be romanticized. And Idk, I'm just confused and thinking: am I bad for thinking that darkfics are not something generally bad? (I'm aware that some people can feel worse after reading those. And I also think that darkfics should be tagged properly so people won't get triggered by them if they don't wish to see them). Sorry if it's worded poorly or written in a messy way. I'm not the best into putting my thoughts into words.
This is paramisia on your friends part.
As you understood, the entire point of darkfics is to romanticize problematic topics, primarily as an outlet for people with paraphilias, so they can indulge in their fantasies. More people are paraphiles than society would like to admit, its by no means an uncommon experience. (BDSM, foot fetishes, literally every fetish/kink is a paraphilia. And the severe prevalence of things like fauxcest porn shows how more people have "forbidden" paraphilias then is said aloud.)
The genre itself is aware of how problematic such things would be if explored in reality. But the genre's existence allows for paraphiles to find something that doesn't bring them shame, while not harming anyone.
Good therapists for paraphiles (as in, ones who don't believe in conversion therapy) often recommend for paraphiles to indulge through fantasy, because it's far healthier than repression.
Darkfics don't normalize abuse. People who point at them as "evidence" for why certain things are "okay" are the ones who normalize abuse.
Censorship of darkfics is a gateway into allowing the government to censor anyone they don't like as an excuse to "protect people." You cannot just have *some* censorship.
That's just roachification...
roachification is masculinizing. this is specifically abt the concept of a girl
Well that's no fun at all. What's the point if you're not gonna get them on T?
Because its fun both ways! :3
For you perhaps. But for me? It's like half as fun.
incredibly valid my friend! Both are good :> I personally have no preference I just love my sloppy freaksss
making a girl into a loser roach man and a boy into a loser roach girlfailure
Feel free to just ignore this but I was also banned from soapuppies for proshipping 😜
AYYYY SQUAD. Look up oerbow on toyhou.se btw
i like the concept of soapuppies and i like that they're semi-open but it's a huge turnoff that they can ban u for "proshipping" even if it's not on their site. like it's one thing to not want certain types of content on your site, but trying to police what ppl do on other sites? who tf do they think they are
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i'm going to say something insane. i think the overall pronounced fandom cultural slide away from complex plotty violent work and towards kidfic and coffee shops AUs and cozy domestic romcoms is a symptom of fascism.
It's annoying me that people are saying 'well of course, people living under fascist conditions write about peace because they crave escapism' when no
These people aren't writing these neutered fics because they're escaping fascism, they're propping up fascism.
These are people who believe in thought crimes, who can't differentiate between fiction and real life, who afford more compassion to things that don't exist than people who do.
When you genuinely believe that writing about anything 'Bad' without a big obvious 'This Behaviour is Bad and Wrong!' first means you support it, it's really easy to write 1 dimensional docs where everyone uses therapy speak and acknowledges their privilege and lives idyllic lives and then think you're a good person because of that
It's not just fiction, now it's a vehicle of moral standing, now it's activism, and now they think they're good people, better than you, because they write morally pure healthy fiction and no amount of harassment, ableism, racism, hate campaigns, etc etc, they do in the real world counts because look, they write PG kidfics
Writing dark fic is on thin ice, especially if you torture the protagonist, but when you write about sex it's only about your secret sexual desires, it's only and must be what turns you on
You can't write about rape unless you support getting or being raped, you can't write about incest unless you support incest and want to fuck your family members, you can't write a 3 year age gap because that's practically pedophilia,
what you write is a reflection of who you are, and your secret desires and look at my fic, look how pure and good and clean I am
I am good and pure and not hiding anything and therefore you can trust me to be the righteous accusing hand, passing judgement and making call put posts
I control nothing in my life, but I can tell someone who writes fiction in a way I think is wrong to kill themselves and feel like I'm part of a movement, that I'm raising awareness and have done something good
Also for the people claiming that the "normies" ruined our beautiful fandom - bullshit with a capital B. This crap was already proliferating through fandom spaces (especially Tumblr) by 2016. The Steven Universe moral panics, Voltron do not interact lists, pro Vs anti shipper discourse etc.
The call started from inside the house and there were many reasons for that, but one big one was more kids from conservative backgrounds joining progressive and fandom spaces. And as an older gay friend told me back when I was young: "These people grew up with an 'us versus them' mentality, and while who counts as 'us' and 'them' may change, the mentality rarely does."
Don't believe me? Here's someone ranting about it almost 10 years ago:
💬 177 🔁 72303 ❤️ 77044 · oh, man, speaking as a queer Christian who gets regular tumblr flashbacks to my childhood in the Bible Belt, YES
Hell, this stuff was something I first encountered in writing circles at uni (‘06-7) was finding a footing in the late 00s, and (imo) started as part of the Twilight backlash on writers’ forums.
(Which, importantly, was part of condescending adult users making a meme of ridiculing the romantic desires of teenage girls. Beware anyone who hates on teenage girls, or attempts to police their desires.)
It really gained force, however, when the word ‘problematic’ escaped academic circles, and after 50 Shades was released, when it became possible to gain kudos on the internet by decrying stuff you didn’t like as ‘problematic’ and ‘harmful’.
Certainly the proliferation of kids raised in conservative Christian households finding freedom in progressive spaces on the internet didn’t help, but we can’t pin it all on them. It started as a reactionary attempt to control and shame people who were having ‘deviant’ thoughts and desires, through the lens of “protecting the children” and, most tellingly, “protecting women” from their own sexual fantasies.
Actually you SHOULD make problematic content. You SHOULD explore dark or taboo topics. You SHOULD have a space where you can cope with your traumas or explore sensitive topics in a way that doesn't hurt anyone.
Also you should make problematic content for funsies. You don't need to have had trauma or need to be coping in order to explore dark creativity. You can just be a human who wants to explore dark and taboo topics because you want to. That's completely normal, btw.
Every single person on this planet thinks about dark and taboo things. It's literally the most normal thing in the world.
Go draw the horror porn and be free.
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HYPNOVEMBER 2025 (by asher stedcest) (also you dont have to make it about siffrin i just thought itd be funny)
posting my hypnovember list on this blog. FUCK i yapped so much here back in the day
also i need to make a bunnymon sometime lmao
i feel like something that's missing from some people's understanding of kink fiction and fantasy is, like... in fiction and fantasy, everything is in-scene.
when real people do kink in real life, you gotta do all that good out-of-scene stuff like discuss boundaries, set limits and expectations, check in with each other, do aftercare, et cetera et cetera et cetera... but in fiction, everything can be in-scene!
the people in that fanfic don't exist any more than, like, the make-believe sexy football star and make-believe sexy cheerleader in a couple's roleplay exist. that couple doesn't need to get into character and then pretend to be a sexy football star having an important consent conversation with a sexy cheerleader, because that's a conversation that's already happened out-of-scene and out-of-character. (i mean, if you're into in-character negotiations, chase your bliss.) when they're in that scene, they can just pretend to be a sexy football star having sex with a sexy cheerleader. that's okay.
so like. when fiction does kink in a way that would be unsafe or harmful irl... just keep in mind that you're not watching actual people neglecting check-ins or ignoring their set contract or genuinely harming each other. you're watching a scene without the behind-the-scenes bits, and that's okay.
this has gotten a couple replies along the lines of "yeah, you can just assume the characters worked all the important consent stuff out when you weren't looking!" which is true in some cases, but not the point i was trying to make, so please bear with me while i try to rephrase myself.
when i say in fiction, everything is in-scene, i mean that the fiction IS the scene.
if someone went up to their partner and said "hey, wouldn't it be sexy if we pretended you were manipulating and controlling me in an unethical way for sex reasons?", and then they talked through all the good and necessary consent and risk-awareness things, and then they played that scene out - that's a made-up scenario where pretend bad things happen, but no real-world people come to real-world harm, right?
now, if someone writes a story where one character manipulates and controls another in an unethical way for sex reasons... that, too, is a made-up scenario where pretend bad things happen, but no real-world people come to real-world harm.
kink fiction doesn't have to be about characters consciously and conscientiously Doing Kink. kink fiction can be stories where the kinky things people fantasize about or roleplay (but wouldn't want to happen in real life) do happen in the universe of that story. because the story is a scene.
The doujinshi I ordered via proxy has arrived!!
Shown are the front and back covers!!
It, overall, looks so nice! Very crisp and clear! The doujinshi is pretty large and just very beautiful! Around 300 pages according to the author/artist which looking at this book does seem to be the case!
It also came with a few extra pages that have not been posted online, which was part of the reason why I wanted to buy this.
Here are first pages (please ignore my fingers lol):
It also came with these ^^
Here it is on my shelf, so you can see the spine.
The artist of this beautiful doujinshi is @K_setowest on Twitter/X.
You can read the full doujinshi on their pixiv account too.
Buy the doujinshi here on booth.pm. Please note is is an 18+ work!
Definitley support the artist! ^^
14 year olds shipping discourse is inbreeding with itself to make the discourse equivalent of a brachycephalic bulldog at this point. They're inventing new extremely vague moral purity categories at a rate nearly equivalent to the Mormon church
* For the record btw a paraphilia by definition is just any sexual desire classed as "unusual" by the dsm, which can include anything from apparently getting horny about imagining yourself as a vampire (?) to being attracted to fictional characters, to being attracted to trans people. It's not an issue unless it has the capacity to cause real harm to yourself or others, at which point it becomes a paraphilic disorder
#this has gotta be like. really bad for your brain i think. like if this were about anything other than shipping i'd think it was undx ocd
It is indeed literally just a form of OCD!! I used to have these kinds of thoughts where I'd read a fic and immediately after have long depression spirals thinking that I would be arrested and everyone would hate me for being a terrible person! Now I am on medication! Please seek help if you're a teenager and deep into this way of thinking for real
by Zachary Appenzeller, Psy.D. & Patrick McGrath, PhD If you think about it long enough, it should not come as a surprise to you that some p
It's very important not to underestimate concerning behavior and thought processes just because it's presenting itself in fandom discourse. Fandom/shipping continues to be looked at as a lesser hobby, something unserious, and therefore not worth worrying about. I believe that line of thinking is exactly why it's gotten as bad as it is, at least in part.
People have been pointing out fandoms rapid decline into an obsessive (and often times destructive) purity cult for years, but it was repeatedly dismissed - because fandom is seen as petty, childish, or inconsequential. It underplays entirely how, to a lot of these younger people, fandom is a huge part of their life. It's their main form of entertainment or socialization. Their line of thinking doesn't cease to exist the moment they log off. It bleeds into other things. Being hyperaware and paranoid about what you like in fiction, because it's a 1:1 reflection of your morality, doesn't seem healthy in the slightest. It's no surprise that it's common to see these same people also having a moral panic about a 4 year age difference in real life.
Yes, fandom is fringe culture, though not as much as it used to be. At it's core it will still be a bizzaro level of passion for fictional characters. It's inherently goofy, and it's very easy to shrug off obsessive levels of puritanism in a large portion of youth when its about cartoon characters. But, however fringe fandom is, it's still a part of our culture. These are still real people thinking and behaving this way, even if it's over fictional characters. It's not something we can take lightly, especially not nowadays.
got too horny about this one buckos (@febuwhump day 3: pinned down) so its going on the sideblog
IRT fiction vs reality; I’ve thought the same thing regarding glips art depicting abusive sexual situations. Art where a character is verbally or physically abusing and manipulating another character wouldn’t be an issue, if they didn’t irl verbally abuse and manipulate people all the time. And if they acknowledged that art as what it was, depicting rape or abuse or whatever, instead of denying it the way they’ve denied irl allegations (until they’re proven true, then they go into victim mode and shirk all responsibility of their actions and words and blame everyone else..)
Like. Having a rape kink is fine. and even somewhat normal! It can be a brains way of getting control back over their autonomy in fantasy. Bdsm works IF it is safe, sane, and consensual! It’s okay to have fetishes concerning degradation etc. But, like, instead of those things just being a fantasy kink with a safe difference from reality, or being part of a Safe, Sane, Consensual BDSM situation, which isn’t my business and totally valid, its now become clear that art was a reflection of their real life harmful behavior actions and words. When someone tells you who they are, and shows they are bringing the harmful fiction into reality, you shouldn’t just look the other way.
As it has been proven from their own words, their beast art was a reflection of their real life interactions, and not just ‘fantasy’ like they claimed for so long. Denying that mismatched depicts rape - despite describing it that way previously - shows that they don’t take rape seriously and will twist it to fit their current narrative. Which they’ve done, before, multiple times to actual people. It’s right in line with their gaslighting the real victims of marl, Iz, opa, etc.
I mean I think people should curate their own fandom experience and whatnot and it's perfectly fair to just avoid things one is uncomfortable with...
That being said. From personal experience? Immunizing myself to all my discomforts by browsing through pixiv and kink memes with raised eyebrows while searching for things I am interested in back when tagging was non-existent has really made my fandom experience much more pleasant nowadays.
I have preferences, for sure. But I have no fear. I have no cringe. The filthiest, grossest fanwork holds no powers over me. I am a god.
Like honestly dl;dr and block on sight is respectable and all but I genuinely think everyone could just benefit from purposefully exposing yourself to your nOTP and non-triggering squicks sometimes? (And obviously don't go bother the creators for it.) If only so that it makes it easier/safer to search for content you like without living in fear of accidentally glimpsing something you hate and having that ruin your day.
Training oneself to be comfortable with mild discomfort is a highly under-rated skill in this day and age
I think its interesting that "desensitized" is a dirty word now. Like...when I did my therapy, being desensitized was the GOAL. It was the fucking dream.
But also, desensitization essentially gives you the agency to say, "okay so that felt bad, now I can either put it away, really explore and understand what that discomfort is trying to tell me, or discard it." Idk...some of yall are so fucking distressed all the time and you call it "being normal" or "being a decent human being" but...it isn't normal to be distressed all the time. It isn't decent to be distressed all the time. And like...I have disords and chemical shit going on in my brain but if you don't have all that....I think you need to look at your distress and ask why it is actually enduring and who benefits from you being distressed (lessons from a pre-bush era american).
There’s a difference between being desensitised to actual horrible shit (like, ignoring actual harm bc it’s Normal) and being desensitised to just like. People Being Weird. Going “huh okay” and ignoring some weird kink is different to doing the same to someone doing something actually harmful, and I think the two have been conflated. Being distressed by someone in your friend group turning out to be an abuser or something is normal, being distressed they have a CNC kink or something is not healthy.