✨Live & Let ship✨

Discourse blog. Read my pinned post for more info. Gif by @/foreverfandom50-50

[sals-sonic]

Hello, welcome to my discourse blog!

You can call me Blue, B, Blur, whatever you like! I'm an adult and they/them pronouns will do just fine for me, thank you.

I finally decided to stop lurking the proship tag and actually make a blog to dump my thoughts and reblog proship positivity and various discourse. I'm not a native English speaker so please excuse me if I word things weirdly.

My ask box is open, but anon will never be on. Some antis take advantage of anonymity to send death threats and insults, and I'm not willing to put up with that. Also, please don't come into my inbox if you expect me to tell you how to solve your personal drama or internet squabbles. And on this note, please, do not treat me as an authority figure on anything. I am not here to tell you what you should think or do. Just to offer an opinion at best.

This blog is:

- proship/profic (for antis with no reading comprehension: the "pro" does not stand for "problematic", but for "in favour of". Proship is a stance that has to do with refusing to harass people for what they ship, not with the nature of the ship itself. Profiction applies this same line of thinking to fiction is general. Therefore, you aren't obligated to like problematic content to be proship or profic, it's all about whether you harass people over fiction or not)

- pro sex workers

- pro kink

- pro paraphilia (as for paraphilias that are non-consensual in regards to real people or animals, this blog is okay with them on the basis that they remain strictly no contact and fictional/imaginary)

- pro AO3

- anti censorship

- anti harassment

I'm uncomfortable with minors following this blog. If by any chance a minor does follow me, I'll block them as soon as I notice. If the blog is ageless I'll assume the user is not a minor and that they've read my pinned post, though I kindly invite minors to unfollow. This is unrelated to whether they are proshippers or not, it's just a personal boundary.

Antis, exclusionists, racists, radfems/terfs/tirfs/swerfs, radqueers and tradfems/prolife will be blocked. To prevent harassment, hate will be ignored and deleted, at best pointed and laughed at.

[proship-froggo]

We don't need to talk about how overall ewww this post is, but it made me think about something...

Can we take a moment to talk about the constant double standards antis demand?

It's either "Keep you disgusting sicko fantasies safely tucked away, you pred!!" but when we take our fics to Ao3, where everything can be beautifully labelled with appropriate tags so the incredible filter system can be put to work, it's: "What are you expecting?? It's your own fault when antis follow you since you have your perverted shit so well hidden away that people can't find it!!"

What is it now? Pick a struggle.

Something something almost as if it's not about avoiding possibly triggering content at all but much rather harassment being a game to play for you....

[malmuses]

I love writing active scenes that provoke human feelings and yes that includes sex scenes because horniness is also a human feeling

[proshippers-against-censorship]

if theres anything i hate the most from antis (aside from the harassment, of course), it's the concept of characters being "childcoded".

characters being coded as lgbt etc. originally came about because of marginalized identities often being censored- so creators wanting to include such characters in their works pretty much had to be less obvious to the average non-marginalized person, but more obvious to those within those communities.

children are... marginalized in a way in that they tend to be treated as less than human by many adults, but not in the way where they get censored out of everyday media. there is no need to code a character as being a child because, most of the time, you will not be prevented from just making a character a child.

"Child-coding", more often than not, also actively infantilizes neurodivergent adult, both in media and (by extension) in real life, by pointing out traits in adult characters that are common in those who are neurodivergent, and painting them as a child. There is no need to " child code" things, all you're doing is performing far more harm than good.

[stifledcreativity]

Guyssss!!!!! This person is a proshipper so that means they're bad and evil for enjoying something in fiction!!!!!!! Not me though, I just harass people off the internet in real life!!!!!! I'm such a good person for bullying people online!!! Unlike this degenerate who likes shipping fictional characters!!!!!!!!!

[damnfandomproblems]

Fandom Problem #15,035:

How "asshole reacts to unsuspecting artist's works" has become the favorite pastime of people in fandom now. You have all become SO incredibly mean. In what world can you justify combing blogs to make fun of shit and putting on a show of it for your followers okay?

[genderqueerpositivity]

Minnesota’s Giant Rainbow and Leather Pride Flags

June 28, 1998. Both flags measured approximately 50 feet wide and 75 feet long.

[ryuutchi]

Friendly reminder that the leather flag predates almost every other flag. We owe this community to leather daddies and kinksters

[nightmarechamillian]

In the era of corporate sanitization never forget it was leather daddies and S&M folks who protected some of the earliest pride parades.

[vaspider]

“Almost every other flag” is not an exaggeration. There is literally only one Pride flag older than the Leather Pride flag, and that’s the original 8-stripe (and then 6-stripe) rainbow flag.

A quick timeline:

1978: Gilbert Baker (z’‘l) creates the 8-stripe Rainbow pride flag.

1979: For production reasons, the flag is reduced to the 6-stripe version most people know.

1989: Leather Pride flag created by Tony DeBlase & presented at the International Mr. Leather event on 5/28/89.

1995: International Bear Brotherhood Flag designed by Craig Byrnes. Introduced at the Chesapeake Bay “Bears of Summer” events in July 1995.

1995: Red/black/blue polyamory flag with yellow pi symbol debuted by Jim Evans.

1998: Bi Pride flag created by Michael Page. He introduces it at BiCafe’s first anniversary party on 12/5/98.

1999: Monica Helms creates the Transgender Pride flag. She debuts it the next year at a Pride parade in Arizona.

2010: AVEN creates a flag to represent the organization. It is later used as the ace pride flag for the community as a whole.

2010: Jasper V. creates the pan pride flag. This Pride flag debuted on Tumblr!

2011: Marilyn Roxie designs the genderqueer flag.

2012: JJ Poole debuts the Genderfluid flag.

2013: The Intersex Pride flag is created by Morgan Carpenter of Intersex Human Rights Australia.

2014: Kye Rowan introduces their creation, the non-binary flag.

And on from there.

So it’s pretty clear that the Leather flag has been an accepted symbol within the queer community for years - and in some cases decades - before more recently-designed flags. This isn’t a case of the flag being “better” or whatever, but it’s kind of undeniable that yes - the Leather community and the queer community have always been undeniably entangled.

[fierceawakening]

The attempts the community is making to distance itself from leatherfolk continue to REALLY bother me.

“Leatherfolk do not belong at Pride” boggles my mind every time I see it. We’ve been here from the beginning!

[proship-shuujuu]

You can ship every character ever, actually.

Yes, even an asexual character.

Yes, even an aromantic character.

Yes, even an underage character.

Yes, even a nonhuman character.

Yes, even a character in a canon relationship.

Yes, even a character uninterested in dating.

Yes, even a canonically dead character.

Yes, even an "evil" character.

You can ship every character ever, there are no exceptions. If you don't like that — scroll and block the people who do! Or, if you can't manage the very simple act of blocking/scrolling, just gracefully stop participating in fandom spaces.

[proship-shuujuu]

this is a dumbass comment for two (2) reasons, which i will now tell you.

1: no one is arguing that fiction doesn't affect reality. no one. in fact, the only people i've seen argue that "fiction doesn't affect reality" are proship bait blogs (blogs made by antis to "bait" proship people), so maybe you want to redirect this energy towards your fellow antis.

fiction does affect reality, but not to the extent that most antis argue. fiction can make you happy, sad, angry, etc. if you're not careful with what you're consuming, it can potentially trigger you, but it can also help you heal from trauma(s). what fiction cannot do is make you abuse or assault someone on a whim. if you have a good grasp on fiction and reality, if you know the difference between the two (which most people do), you don't have to worry about fiction turning you into an abuser. if fiction somehow makes you do things you'd never consider doing, then clearly your moral backbone is comprised entirely of wet spaghetti, which is a problem with you, not the fiction you're consuming.

2: if you're aware that certain things in fiction may have a negative impact on you (such as causing psychosis, as the comment claims), then it is your responsibility to safely manage what you consume in fiction to avoid being negatively affected. no one else's. you being stupid enough to consume fictional content that you know negatively affects you (multiple times, apparently!) does not suddenly make fiction bad and dangerous, it just makes you irresponsible.

"fiction caused x negative affect on me" will never mean "fiction is inherently harmful".

all it means is that you need to curate your damn internet experience and stop reading shit that you know you don't like! which is what the proship community has been saying!! fucking listen!!!

[statisticalcats2]

You're not "pro-kink" if you're against some of literally THE most popular kinks and support the increasing censorship and banning of them in online spaces.

[roboj0e]

idc what y'all say but villains of teenage superheroes will always be weirdos. Like why are u obsessed with someone whose clearly underaged? Plotting and scheming all day about kidnapping and putting ur filthy hands on them. Oooo u wanna kiss them so bad. Take them to ur lair to have ur nasty way with them u weirdo. Just a disgusting lil freak.

[this-is-antikink]

Sometimes I genuinely wonder if antis think all the people on pornhub and other places that all those step sibligns are fucking lol 😭

Of course not, it’s roleplay. It’s not real. I do not care what you roleplay as long as you consent.

I like roleplaying I’m an omega in heat. I am neither an omega, nor can I go into heat. Kill me I guess

this is antikink!

[allthingswhumpyandangsty]

"proship just means anti censorship and anti harassment" and i agree with those ideals but honestly that's literally the bare fucking minimum. i don't get why we need to have a special label to identify with just for following said bare minimum. it's kinda giving "look at me! i'm a good person! aren't i such a good person?!"

because whether or not you like it, there are people who harass others over fiction. in an ideal world where no one harassed people over fiction, the label wouldn’t have existed at all.

so instead of “hey, look at me I’m a good person”, what the label says is “actually I do not agree with all of you who think it’s okay to harass real people over fiction”.

[velvetvexations]

I saw a TERF complaining about how people ship canon lesbians with men by headcanoning the latter as transfem, so here's your weekly reminder that you can actually ship anyone with anyone for any reason. It's all made-up. Those people aren't real. Their sexuality doesn't exist and you are as free to define it according to your whims as any other part of the fictional construct you're engaging with. People constraining your art with their desires and demanding you only make that which pleases them is fascist bullshit.

[problemnyatic]

it's really telling how much of puritanical fearmongering lives and dies on the presumption that the mere representation of harm is enough to hijack the viewer's brain entitely into internalizing whatever's being shown as Godly And Inevitable or whatever. Which really just paints a horribly sad picture about their own relationship with independant thought.

[damnfandomproblems]

Fandom Problem #14,558:

People who will ignore proshippers telling them what proship means and listen to antis about what it means?

Like why wouldn't you listen to people who are proship about what proship means?

[the-bar-sinister]

the sub fantasy: "imagine if I didn't have to make decisions. Imagine if someone gave me what I wanted without me having to admit I wanted it."

the dom fantasy: "imagine if there was a situation I could actually be in control of. Imagine there was a person who actually did things that I wanted when I asked them to."