Gender, Kink, Disability, Neurodivergence, and Gaming

"critter". it/its. adult. disabled. gendervoid. bi ace. audhd.

[stellar-jellyfish]

Pokémon GO code is 200202932043 (referral code is G4X9GT9G2)

Pikmin Bloom code is 385966832909 (invite code is HHWPLHAHO)

[stellar-jellyfish]

when did transfemme become exclusive to "amab" people and transmasc to "afab" people? until recently, i always heard about them as terms for nonbinary people regardless of "agab" (i don't think agab was even a thing back then).

[intersexcat-tboy]

One thing that always bothers me is the idea that in a post gender (such as if sex weren't assigned or imposed) world, trans people wouldn't exist. Dysphoria would still exist. Having phantom feelings and having the need for your body to be shaped or function differently would still exist

[stellar-jellyfish]

...asexual hate decimated the ace community and then the people responsible just laughed like "wasn't i silly?" and moved on... now the same thing is happening to the transmasc community...

...it's been a decade and the ace community still hasn't recovered...

[life-gives-you-lemons]

I think people need to understand that everyone has to unlearn misogynistic behaviors and thinking patterns. Cis women and trans women and cis men and trans men and anyone who doesn’t fall under those categories are all completely capable of being misogynistic and actively hurtful to women. Trans men are included in this, obviously, but when you only call for trans men to unlearn this mindset, you are no longer being progressive and fair. You are singling out a minority.

[chekhovs-raygun]

it pisses me off to see cis women saying 'trans women are misogynistic because they were raised as men' and trans women replying 'no we aren't because no we weren't!' and i'm sitting there staring at the camera like it's the office. because like women are ALL raised to be just as misogynistic as men. it's a notable goddamn feature of the patriarchy.

like if you are marginalized it is in your own self-interest to interrogate and deconstruct the cultural narratives that position you as subnormal. this is what starts a lot of queer people on wanting to reform the world into something more compassionate and egalitarian.

but it's not the marginalization that makes you any more or less ethical than anyone else. it's the work. you gotta do the actual work.

[hareofhrair]

I feel like part of the problem is a really popular misunderstanding of bigotry.

Misogyny is not just prejudice experienced by a woman. It is not simply something that happens TO a woman. It has nothing to do with the woman. It’s about the misogynist.

Bigotry is not determined or defined by the target of that bigotry. The bigotry is stored in the bigot.

Misogynists will be misogynistic towards any person they associate with femininity, including cisgender men.

When a misogynist cis man tears another man down for liking something he thinks is girly, he is still being misogynistic.

A cis male coach telling his cis male student he runs like a girl is being misogynistic.

A cis woman punishing her son for wanting a “girl” toy or policing her boyfriend’s hygiene habits and interests for anything she considers emasculating, is being misogynistic!

When a woman gets in a car accident and is injured more severely because the safety testing on that car was only done using crash test dummies and models based on men, she’s experiencing misogyny.

When the medication she takes for her injuries doesn’t work right or has unexpected side effects because it was only tested on men, she’s experiencing misogyny.

When the tools she uses at work that are the wrong shape for her hands, and the jumpsuit that’s part of her uniform which she has to take off completely to use the bathroom, and all the spaces she moves through and everything within them are designed with the assumption that an average male body is the only body that matters— she is experiencing misogyny.

Misogyny is the belief that women are inherently inferior, and the systems and institutions built around that belief. It can be experienced by anyone, and anyone is capable of having misogynistic beliefs and doing misogynistic things.

Bigotry is not about the target. It’s about the bigot, and what the bigot believes, and the way those bigoted beliefs have shaped our world.

I don’t care what race gender or sexuality you are, you were raised with racist, sexist, homophobic beliefs. Because it’s literally impossible not to be.

And the harder you try to cling to the idea that misogyny is something that happens TO women, rather than something coming FROM misogynists, the more blind you’ll be to your own misogynistic beliefs, and all the ways everything in our society is a product of or directly reinforces those beliefs.

[anarchistmemedistro]

[beckitty]

I have gotten into the habit of when interacting with a patient, interrogating myself about what traits I am assigning them, and how its affecting my care. It doesn't matter that I'm a woman, the world has taught me to believe a woman is over emotional and exaggerates her pain. On the flip side, a lifetime of jokes about "manflu" make cause me to underestimate a man's experience of illness. Its not about either gender, its about me and my own expectations. I have caught myself on occasions dismissing what my patients are telling me as "not that bad" and it is always linked to some trait they have. Men are whiny about illness, women exaggerate pain (to be believed), old people are confused, people whose first language isn't English are too hard to understand, whatever. I know full well that all of these things are wrong, but kneejerk responses are built from assumptions, and the assumptions we have most commonly been exposed to are the easiest thing to base those responses on.

I dont think I have ever let it affect my care. I hope I never have, and its my responsibility to keep interrogating my judgements and decisions towards my patients to make sure I never do.

I dont think I'm sexist or racist or ageist or homophobic or any other-ist, but the potential to be exists within me, so its my responsibility to keep checking myself, to interrogate my thoughts. The thoughts come from me. Having those thoughts doesn't make me a bigot, not recognising those thoughts as incorrect and working to dismantle them, or acting on them would do.

[genderkoolaid]

Bigotry is not determined or defined by the target of that bigotry. The bigotry is stored in the bigot.

[stellar-jellyfish]

...you ever like a character so much you want to stabstabstab and rip their flesh apart with your teeth?

[stellar-jellyfish]

i want a tape measure keychain... looking online lowe's seems to have one.. maybe i should buy one next time i'm there..

[stellar-jellyfish]

i wanna play pokopia, but i can afford neither the game nor the switch 2...

[de-activated-offical]

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[stellar-jellyfish]

it’s wonderful to be a trans man, i know seeing all the hate is awful but the world is better with transmasc in it

thank you for this. the kind words mean a lot. it just seems like every time i find a part of my identity, large swaths of tumblr decide they really hate that identity in particular... and i know i shouldn't go looking for hate because it will only hurt, but... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[stellar-jellyfish]

self-harming by searching for posts by people who hate trans men and transmascs, but lying to myself and calling it self-care because i'm blocking them...

[fuckyeahchinesefashion]

Heart and a ring-toss water game made of glowing seaweed (cr发光生物实验室

[creekfiend]

gender essentialism is soooo funny bc it's like "this is what women are like" and you're like "I've met women and many of them, if not the majority, have not been like that" and it's like "well women SHOULD be like that" and you're like "why should women be like that" and its like "because that's what women are like"

[imperfectangelcollectorblog]

[mrm9]

There is something so incredibly grounding about watching jellyfish.

[bebsi-cola]

when you're disabled people also just assume you have no preferences. if you do have preferences then you're expected to put them aside for everyone else and keep them to yourself. because all disability assistance is being treated as a favour that is granted to you by the kind abled person. even if it's their job to help you. if you have to have a follow up appointment with your GP and the only available day is when you wanted to do something else, tough luck. if the appointment is at 7am and you wanted to sleep in? set an alarm. you're lucky to get an appointment anyway. if you need to have someone with you to go outside or go to events, their schedule always comes first. if they cancel you both have to cancel. if you can't go you have to make it up to them and to anyone else if there was an event you organised. if the only food available that caters to your dietary requirements are chips then you should be glad they have anything. asking for something that doesn't have all those ingredients is an imposition and you should be glad they had anything. it doesn't matter what cuisine you were feeling or if you actually like the offered food. like if you show up to an event and everyone else is having fresh cream cake from the bakery and you have some cake bar from the supermarket because that's the first free-from food they had you have to appreciate it. and like you can appreciate the fact that people go to the effort to get you food you can eat or go places with you that you can't go yourself. even if there are accommodations for you, the feasibility of those accommodations always always comes before your wants and preferences. and a disabled person has the same capacity to like and dislike things and want or not want certain things as anyone else. they just have to suck it up in order to have basic needs met, and that does get pretty exhausting

[autistic-answers]

Non-disabled people are expected to have tastes, preferences, and opinions. Disabled people are expected to simply be grateful to be allowed to participate.

[escuerzoresucitado]

Testosterone promotes ‘cuddling,’ not just aggression, animal study finds | Emory University | Atlanta GA

Testosterone can foster friendly, prosocial behavior in males, a new animal study conducted by Emory neuroscientists finds. The Proceedings

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[pyrekite]

There are a lot of really important statements here to be made about releasing the learned (and inaccurate!!) fear that testosterone makes/will make you dangerous, and how the reality is that it’s an important, complex, mood-and-body regulating hormone, because there’s almost nothing in your body that only has one singular function - you’re a system, none of your parts exist in isolation.

The less important observation to be made here is:

[untitledgoosegay]

Really interesting: reading the article, their results seem to suggest that testosterone serves as a social + emotional regulator, rather than promoting any one set of behaviors. A surge of testosterone in a prosocial context (cuddling with mate) amplified and extended those prosocial behaviors, even into a context where the test subjects would normally behave aggressively (approaching an intruder). A second surge of testosterone allowed the test subjects' behavior to pivot to the expected aggressive behaviors.

The researchers theorize that because the male subjects experienced a surge in testosterone while they were with their partners, it not only rapidly increased positive social responses toward them but also primed the males to act more prosocially in the future, even when the context changed and they were in the presence of another male. However, the second testosterone injection then rapidly prompted them to switch their behavior to become more aggressive, as appropriate to the context of a male intruder. “It appears that testosterone enhances context-appropriate behavior,” Kelly says. “It seems to play a role in amplifying the tendency to be cuddly and protective or aggressive.”

[stellar-jellyfish]

have foods started using different stabilizers? because foods i used to not be allergic i'm starting to get an allergic reaction to. the number of foods i can't eat is slowly increasing. the only thing these foods have in common is whatever stabilizer (i'm assuming, could be mistaken. maybe it's the emulsifier or other additives) is being used..