quick dismantle for those who are starting to feel like itâs not worth speaking against narcissistic abuse:
children are being abused by narcissists right now, with no way to find out if thereâs no resources being written about it
narcissistic abuse has been found to be so specifically devastating on the human body that even if itâs not physical, it causes long-term physical symptoms (chronic pain, chronic fatigue, inability to sleep regularly, over-active cortisol, over-responsive brain chemicals that give you ptsd symptoms)
there are people organizing forums, writing books, articles, posts, people making videos, checklists and all possible resources for dealing with narcissistic abuse. all of those people are survivors and victims of it. theyâre not all making it up. theyâre not all doing it for something that doesnât exist.
dynamics of the narcissistic abuse are so pervasive, a person will usually feel theyâre going insane and doubt themselves so hard until they finally find resources on narcissistic abuse, which is going to help them regain their sanity and find sense in what has been happening to them
narcissistic abuse has left millions of people feeling theyâre not worthy of attention, care, resources, community, support or trust, and theyâre accepting abuse as their normal. we canât abandon them. we canât say this is okay and look the other way in order to protect the narcissists.
if youâre worried that speaking out against narcissistic abuse is creating stigma against narcissists, remember that our writings and resources are being spread only among victims and survivors. narcissists are still controlling the mainstream narrative and all articles you look up as a non-survivor will convince you that narcissists are the âsame as normal peopleâ
for survivors of narcissistic abuse, itâs absolutely vital to avoid future narcissists and to be aware of their tactics. this is not limiting their access to public resources or public people in general, itâs only limiting their success among victims and survivors. ask yourself why would they want access to survivors and victims specifically. why is it so important that to this particular demographic, they look appealing.
narcissists claiming that if we donât want them to have and abuse children, itâs âgenocideâ, genocide against who? narcissists most often donât make other narcissists, theyâre mostly creating abused kids. so the apparent genocide is against the abused children. theyâre accusing us of genocide against ourselves.
narcissists finding abused people taking about abuse and attacking them for âsmearing their reputationâ is a cover-up and darvo tactics. Only an abuser could turn against an abuse victim to act hurt and police their language instead of feeling rage towards the abuser. Anyone non-abusive would immediately have a problem with a narcissist who did the abuse, not with the victim who speaks out about it.
saying ânot-all-narcissistsâ is still admitting that a lot of them do abuse, and for the sake of their reputation, we have to shut up about it all. shut up. about abusers. to protect reputations. who except an abuser would need that to happen.
other times when theyâre claiming no narcissist is abusive, theyâre accusing millions of victims to be liars. openly denying experiences of abuse victims only to make themselves look good. weâre going to stand around and allow this?
making one narcissist feel like they donât belong into safe spaces of victims is not more important than protecting the vulnerable part of the population from narcissistic abuse
abuse victims donât have to be exposed to anyone who has anything in common with their abuser. we have the right to feel safe at the expense of anyoneâs feelings.
Speaking against narcissistic abuse is NOT futile. Theyâre fighting to shut it off precisely because itâs limiting their access to victims. Every day a victim of narcissistic abuse finds their way to their freedom because there are people who spoke out about it.
