#911 4x04

[angels-all-sin]

9-1-1 4x04 “9-1-1, What’s Your Grievance?” 9x14 “D.I.Y.”

[xofemeraldstars]

about to go through it lads 😢

[xofemeraldstars]

a lot if happening here 👀🧐

[that-gay-mf]

relating to Evan Buck Buckley is not for the weak

[gday-gecko]

hen: what do you think they're like? the parents, i mean.

hen: I mean I look at maddie..... and then I look at buck. and I'm like "there's a story there".

chimney: you have no idea

hen: 👀👀👀👀👀

chimney: ....none of us has any idea. just too bad coz you know... if we all knew, we could talk about what we know, and then we'd all know it.

hen & eddie: 🤨🤨

chimney: ...no one would be stuck trying to keep anything to themselves, alone, with no one to talk to about some potentially explosive information they really wish they didn't know.

hen & eddie & bobby: 🤨🤨🤨

chimney: ......i gotta go

chimney: *runs off*

eddie: do we even wanna know what that was about???

bobby: no

hen: definitely not

[fandom-hoarder]

Once more lamenting the lack of a Buck/Maddie moments compilation vid 😔

Especially when Buck says shit like, "you barely knew what was going on with your own kids when we were under the same roof." 👀👀👀👀

[aspecbuddie]

LOVE ME ANYWAY 😭😭😭

[allthoseskeletons]

The thing is. the depiction of Buck and Maddie’s parents as emotionally neglectful is FRIGHTENINGLY good. Every single word they say manages to be a criticism. They are wrapped up entirely in themselves and in their eyes their children are a disappointing wayward extension of their insular life. They are cowardly. They are arrogant. They are so sosososo defensive. They can only be right and can never be wrong, even if these things contradict each other. Maddie shouldn’t have married Doug because we knew he was bad all along but of course we didn’t know he was that bad! And we had to process the fact you didn’t want to talk to us about the way he almost killed you! They made it so Maddie had nowhere stable to return to if she ever wanted to leave Doug because it was more important that they were right than it was to be a safety net. They cut her off before Doug could even try. They made it easy for him.

They took no responsibility for the fact everyone side-eyed them for having Buck for the sole purpose of harvesting his marrow. They believed they were saving Daniel’s life (in the sort of desperate ways people do things to save the ones they love) and were clearly unwilling to consider the consequences of that not happening, because if they had they probably wouldn’t have done it. Instead of going hey we should love our son and stop treating him like spare parts, they move away to a new town where nobody knows them. They cut themselves off from any kind of support. Instead of facing their grief, they take it out on their kids for 28 years. But not only that - they know the pain of having someone judge you or dismiss you and carry that into every interaction in completely the wrong way.

It’s just very…adultchildrenofemotionallyimmatureparents who can’t handle a shred of pushback and Buck and Maddie having to do an uncomfortable dance. It is a miracle that Buck and Maddie turned out the way they did – kind and loving and trying their best to keep connected to each other across the years until they were able to find their own family and their own place to settle down - but they let Maddie be the one who patches everyone up. They let her be someone who is completely selfless and giving. They let her perpetuate the family secret because she was trying to keep the peace (and I hate that she did that, and that she told them about Buck’s therapy, but I think I understand, too – that kind of family dynamic, it’s hard to not carry relics of it with you that you have to actively work to unpick. It’s a dynamic that requires betrayal by design and you have to actively choose not to engage in it) and then it was her fault when the secret came out – not theirs for keeping it. They paid attention to Buck when he was hurt (like they never stopped thinking of him as spare parts and only saw him when those parts were bloodied and broken in front of them) but it was Maddie who did the meaningful work of patching him up every single time. Maddie who actually parented him and helped him learn how to ride a bike and gave him a means of escape and believed he was going to figure out who he was.

And then they’re living in the middle of their pain - they go to therapy to talk about Maddie not turning to them when they thought she should’ve needed them (and probably got validation for their feelings but did nothing else) instead of Talking About Their Dead Child That Haunts the Narrative. And part of it is if you let some of that pain go, you have to confront the pain you’ve caused as a result. And some - so many - people can’t do that. They can’t see anything other than their own pain and they can’t accept that they’ve fucked up and they’d rather live in screaming agony instead of realising that when you’re not in that much emotional pain, taking responsibility doesn’t hurt as much. It isn’t a soul-destroying anguish.

Idk I just think it’s really good and nuanced