#alter communication

[unwelcome-ozian]

[sora-woozy]

A really funny conversation between alters

(I wanted to sketch this into a comic but it looked like shit. please don't let this flop.)

*tw, a little suggestive, blood mentioned.*

Stan ; Sora ; Adam /mentioned

*Me and Stan, chuckling*

"Hey Adam! We got a question."

*Adam, poked his head out from behind the headspace wall, curious.*

"Uh, yeah? what's up?"

*Stan trying not to burst out laughing, visibly wheezing*

"So, if your eating someone out, and they get their period, is that like a double snack for you because your a vampire?"

*Adam pales, Stan starts dying laughing, I'm struggling not to wheeze*

"WHAT- WHAT KIND OF QUESTION IS THAT?? WHAT- WHY WOULD YOU ASK THAT?!" /ns /flustered

*Sora and Stan dying on the floor, struggling to catch our breath.*

"In that case, are blood clots like boba for you?"

"FUCK YOU GUYS, I'M NOT ANSWERING THAT."

(Dw guys, all of this was in good fun and Adam was a good sport about it. We wouldn't post this without his permission and wouldn't make a joke like this if we knew he would be offended.)

[the-fox-collective]

for context i've spent over 2 months writing this on and off and it talks about multiple different aspects within identity

my essay on alter identities is getting long what should i do?

grow up, write till it's done and post it

section it into topics and post separate mini essays spread out

Voting ended onApr 3, 2025

[moonjay-the-forest-spirit]

Why is the only time alters leave notes for me is when they want hurl insults and just say super cruel things to me?

[our-static-soc]

From awhile ago, but felt it might be good to share one of the processes we do

[system-of-a-feather]

Hi I'm sorry if you don't take asks like this but I really need some advice. I think I'm a system, it's becoming more and more clear to me and I think we're a system of four girls. I (I guess as the "host") am trying to communicate but I can only really hear certain things at certain times which makes communication really hard. Do you have any suggestions to help with that?

(As a disclaimer, I am going to respond to this on the assumption that you are correct that you are a system as we don't really like to assume people are or are not past what they say for themselves and from reading this I think that assumption is fitting for this anon; sorting out if you are a system is a whole headache of a thing that we can't comment much on, but I do want to put out best wishes on that cause damn that shit be rough)

Oh it's fun days of early system-hood and what not.

I wanna be upfront, its been a while since we've had to actively work with communication and high dissociative barriers so any suggestions and advice I might give here might be a bit "dusty" in the sense I haven't really been in your position for a while and thus I have to think back some to how it used to be for us so I wanted to apologize if any of this comes off as out of touch with the stress of being new to it.

Largely in earlier periods of identifying, getting to know, and communicating with parts that have higher dissociative barriers, I typically used to approach it in a few ways. I often try all of them and some parts and some situations work better with one approach than the other and what not.

Try to find out patterns and me mindful of what is going on and what sort of things seem to be correlated and related to the times when you do hear those parts.

It can be very helpful to have an idea of what parts (or if you are struggling to identify parts vs mood swings vs etc; what states of emotional regulations that feels incongruent with your sense of self) seem to occur relating to certain things going on in life and/or stimuli and/or experiences.

Often - at least in our experience - parts are prone to being near the front, prone to being closer in communication, easier to internally communicate with when something in life / in the environment is activating "their part of the brain" (which is our way of saying something that is connected / meaningful to that part).

If you can identify some of those patterns in life / the environment with the parts that are up and around, it can help you mentally prime yourself to notice opportunities where you might have an easier time reaching a part.

Additionally, later on as I suggest having a less direct approach early on as some parts can find it uncomfortable and "too forward" in my experience so take it slowly and respectfully, setting up the environment to have things associated with them and setting some mental space aside to actively try to reach them. It's always this kind of silly thing - especially when it doesn't work cause it doesn't always work - because it feels like some summoning ritual, but I like to think of it a lot more like a moderated meditation that is more internally focused on trying to talk to your parts than it is trying to be "present in your body" which can be extremely triggering for people with C-PTSD / DID that haven't gone through a lot of trauma processing.

If internal communication is still hard and/or you have a trusted person that you can talk to and reliably trust with venting, personal issues, etc - ask if they could help.

Having an external person can really help in the early periods of trying to mediate and communicate messages to other parts in a more natural manner. It does require that the person be someone you know you can trust and someone that is cool with doing this and so I suggest you ask if they are willing to first cause... ya know, boundaries are important, especially with your trusted confidants.

But if you have someone who is safe, trusted, and willing to do so, it can be helpful to ask them "hey if I suddenly change my mind on this can you remind me (insert thing)" (<- good for when you don't know any part in specific but have noticed this is something that isn't coordinated), "if I start doing XYZ or claim I am XYZ can you let them know / pass on the message that (XYZ)", and for parts that aren't the host and/or have information that the "host can't know but might be helpful to someone wanting to support them" you can also tell that person "hey Host doesn't need to know the specifics but here is some context so please be kind about this" (<- helpful when you have a trusted person who is willing and wanting to help you as a whole heal as their knowledge of it can help slowly ease hard concepts to parts that were otherwise unaware)

Having an external person help facilitate can be helpful in priming yourself to be aware and cognicent of other parts and help get important messages through.

Use writing, maps, and journals.

And if neither of those work OR you just want to try another method along side them, a thing I found that was immensely helpful early on was to just have a journal, notepad, or something to write on. Setting a habit and precedent of writing notes and leaving them in the open, putting annoying commentary on notes that were taken at school (may that be hi or playful jabs or whatever your communication style is) - it sets a good will and good foundation for being open to conversation and a good intent to want to get to know the others that share the life

A thing that I found that was helpful later in life for really complex conversations was to kind of just do a brainstorming web with colored pens, assigning / claiming one color to a part then - with whoever is out - looking at it, filling out all the main lines of thought to the topic as they have and literally writing down every thought that may be even the slightest relevant in a kind of "brainstorm web" style that makes sense

Then you can set that aside in a place you know the body frequents a lot with other pen colors (maybe put an instruction on the top to "just add your commentary and thoughts" if the dissociative barriers are high) and hope that the next time someone else is out (or if you do the "summoning ritual" thing from the top you may be able to get someone out, but again, don't do that unless you have permission from the part) they will add to the web. And the time it takes to get a full image of what multiple parts think and feel on a topic will vary depending on the parts, topic, and your experience of doing this and what not, but overtime youll get a more collected and cohesive summary of what multiple parts are thinking and which parts think that and which parts disagree. Then when you have a lot of information, you can look at the whole brain storming web and kind of try to understand the overall picture before making a decision.

[theglitchclub]

i am fairly certain we have an alter that is making us go to sleep at inopportune times, does anyone else have a part like this?