found this post in my drafts and it was supposed to follow a reblog about aroace characters having their orientations completely ignored and disrespected in the shipping community. I forgot to post it and I lost the reblog but I still wanna share my thoughts.
As an aro, I think it’s fine to ship or write smut about aro and ace characters. I like Alastor x Lucifer! I have been a lapidot shipper since they were revealed as characters!!
But that also applies to literally everything else. If I think this canon gay male character would work together with a female character then I am going to ship it. I think streetsmarts (Jayce x vi) is way better than Caitvi (even if we’re not talking about my transfem Jayce x vi idea even tho that’s my fav). If someone decides that they want that transfem character to be transmasc, or that transmasc character to be transfem-- or hell even if they want the trans character to be cis-- then that is in their right and they can do whatever they want with the fictional characters. Do whatever you want with the characters, write or draw or make any headcanons you want. It is your experience with the fictional character no one should dictate what you do with it as long as you aren't actively harming people.
Moral of the story ship what you want to ship. But I’m going to be weirded out if your ‘respect’ for a characters canon sexuality stops at aro and ace characters. If I see you fighting for a gay character to never be shipped with non males, then you write x reader smut about a canon aroace, I’m gonna be uncomfortable with you.
My problem isn’t with people changing characters canon sexuality or relationships— it’s shipping, it’s fictional characters, they’re meant to be played with like dress up dolls. Your meant to project your own thoughts and ideas and identity onto them. You shouldn't go and use that to say the canon is bad/wrong and use it to hurt ppl ofc but that's just being a decent person and also isn't what I am talking about.
my problem is with people ignoring asexuality and aromanticism, and erasing it in favor of 'better' or 'more appealing' representation. it shows me you don't believe us to be queer, that you don't respect our identities and that you refuse to respect us. It tells me that you are not to be trusted, and you are not a safe person.
