#aromantic rants

[neptune-scythe]

shout out to repulsed aces and aros who have no safe spaces in fandom because it's just everywhere you turn and it's in all the fanarts and all the fanfics and all the posts except for like ... 5% TOPS.

shout out for enduring the horrors every day for the few rare posts that have nothing to do with sex or romance

[luminalunii97]

I need the safe aro space to turn into every time I feel a severe disconnection from alloromantic society. I just spent half an hour soothing my single allo friend about how they're not going to die single and it's ok if they're not in love right now. I don't know how successful I was (probably not at all).

I feel so out of place when people talk about romance, yearning, and the fact that dying single is many's greatest fear.

When your literal life goal, peace of mind, and orientation is your best friend's biggest fear and greatest heartache. That hurts. It's alienating. This makes me feel so out of place. Like I don't belong. And I know this isn't any of our faults, it still stings and sucks badly.

[i-am-church-the-cat]

YOU’VE KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR THREE DAYS, A WEEK AT MOST, STOP ACTING LIKE YOU’RE IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER AAAAAAAAA

[chronically-online-enby]

I just hate it when people ask about my romantic status. Like there isn't one!! Like i don't do romance. I don't want to indulge in your boyfriend talk. It's not funny to me. It's not a way of bonding for me. It's just simply annoying.

Which is why I decided to include an aromantic flag or colour in the pfps of all my social media handles because people literally need a hint right in their face to not bother you with such talk. Pls take a hint!! I don't want to talk about your boyfriend. Leave me alone.

Pls I've been shielding myself against relationship talks for so long. I've done it so successfully so far. I don't want to break the streak.

[unicornmitteneater]

OK SO OUAT I LOVED HOW THEY HADN'T GIVEN HENRY A ROMANTIC INTEREST BC HE HAS MORE IMPORTANT SHIT TO DO BUT NOW I HEAR HE HAS A CRUSH (I didn't see tonight's episode) FML YOU DON'T HAVE TO SHOVE ROMANCE INTO EVERY FUCKING CREVICE OF A SHOW JFC

[jauntylittlefrillyboy]

idk but saying stuff like “look how much they clearly care for each other, they must be in love” is kind of not cool? but because we live in such a romantic-centric world where e v e r y t h i n g is about romance and one true loves, I can’t really avoid it. i’m literally shouting at the sea when i get upset about it. and i don’t know what’s more frustrating, the fact that people can’t seem to grasp intense and close loving relationships that re not romantic, or that no one else seems to care or notice.

[jauntylittlefrillyboy]

Realistically though, anon friend, about coming out as aromantic? Be sure you can define aromantic in a clear, concise way, on the spot. Try to have examples or sources. Because even people who understand and accept aromantics will have questions. About what it is, what it means to you, and how you know you are. 

Some people will not accept it. They won't understand or they'll think you're being a 'special snowflake.' Forget those people. Put their names on a registry in your head of People Never To Talk To About The Thing, and then move on. You're too rad and awesome to spend your time thinking about people who are being deliberately obtuse. 

I don't think you need to have a big coming out party. For me it's never been like that. But rather it's been being out about it, being upfront and confident about it. About being firm in your belief in it, not letting people try to convince you out of it. 

I've never once been bullied about it, and frankly I doubt I ever will. Aromantics don't really deal with that behavior in my experience and observation. But we do deal with disbelief, confusion, and disappointment. And that will suck. A lot. But educate people. Don't get upset when people don't know. (most people don't even recognize bisexuality as a thing, they've never even heard of aromanticism.) Just explain, explain a different way, find another way to explain, and be an example that aromantic doesn't mean 'devoid of feelings' or 'boring.'

But most of all, this isn't a sad thing, it's just a thing. And it's your thing. Okay?

Have a good day, and be good to yourself.

[jauntylittlefrillyboy]

The stigma of being single needs to be tossed in the fucking garbage where it belongs.