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are you truly a queer ally if you exclude or don't support the following?

queer people of color

queer women / feminine queers

queer men / masculine queers

amab queers

afab queers

intersex individuals

transgender individuals

non-binary indidviduals

any kind of non-conformity (pronoun, gender, label, etc.)

queer alterhumans

neopronominal / varipronominal / multipronominal / apapronominal / alterpronominal / nullpronominal / crosspronoun individuals

xenogenders

aro- / ace- / aroace-spec individuals

disabled queers

queer people who don't confirm with certain stereotypes of their identities or of queer people in general

the answer is, no, you really aren't. you're an exclusionist.

I didn't survive through the bullshit aphobia discourse of 2016 and 2018 for y'all to try and pull this shit literally 3 days before 2024.

Clown fucking behavior.

#dreamer talks #asexual #aromantic #aspec #arospec #aromantics are valid #get your clown shit out of here #i'm so fucking tired

can we talk about how aroallo cishet men are being excluded from queer spaces? can we also talk about how aroallo cishet women are being excluded from queer spaces but not being talked about? can we talk about how my identity as a queer person is everything else that makes me queer before it's about me being aromantic, and yet that's the only specific label i actively use? can we talk about how women and fem aligned aroallos are treated inside the community but also outside of it especially? can we talk about how all of my aro posts are tagged with ace and aroace? can we talk about how all of the ace specific posts i see are tagged as aromantic and aroace? can we talk about how arophobia is always talked about from an aroace or even alloace perspective?

#aroallo #alloaro #aromantic allosexual #arophobia #aromanticism #aromantics are valid #aromantic #aro #arospec #do not tag this as ace or aroace!!#this is specifically about aroallos!!#i will smite you!!

Queerphobe: a community based on sexuality and sexualization (SEX) doesn’t like to be oversexualized. How “ironic.”

Me: defends the other labels in the queer community because identities like trans (gender) and aromantic (romantic orientation) have nothing to do with sexuality but queerphobes believe queer=sexuality/sex ONLY which actively invalidates/erases those labels

Other person in the forums: WhY aRe YoU LuMpiNg Aromanticism and Asexuality togEtHer.

*They also added aromantics don’t experience the same struggles as asexuals while i’m actively explaining to this queerphobe that their statement erases other labels. So Aromantics aren’t facing erasure, invalidation and discrimination? Aros don’t experience oppression in an allonormative world either? I had no idea (obvious sarcasm) 💀

I can’t make this shit up😂🤣💀

#lgbtqia+#queer community #queer #trans #asexuality #aromantic #aromanticism #wtf moment #funny asf #i can’t make this shit up #lgbtqia+ community #lgbtqia #aromantics are valid #arospec

Really funny how not even during asexual visibility week we can't have shit. That character that is canonically asexual in media? Nope, he's allo now! That character that you, aro/ace/aroace person relate so much that you cannot help but hcing them as ace/aro/aroace? Nope, that character is allo and you are a bigot who lacks media literacy! That you see some characters vibing more in a qpr? Nope, qprs aren't "real" only friendships and amatonormative relationships are valid!

And while I have accepted defeat with many fandoms like the funny lawyer one for example, that in more niche and smaller fandoms like the emblem of flames srpg one me and many other aspecs have to face aphobia on the daily is exhausting. Doesn't matter how many years have passed, Tumblr will always have an aphobia problem.

Hc what you want and ship what you will, but your hcs aren't what's canon and you cannot impose your views onto others. Aspec/arospec hcs are valid and also contribute to the representation of the queer community. Not everything revolves around romantic relationships, friendships and sex.

#vent #my musings #fandom #fandom drama #headcanons #aroace #ace #aro #actually asexual #actually aspec #aces are valid #aplatonics are valid #aromantics are valid #ace week #asexual pride

Watching a video on aphobic memes reminded me of something...

It was basically like "Asexual and aromantic people don't face systemic oppression!"

And... we do. Take a look around at how much value society places on sex and romance. Many systems rely on the expectation you will fall in love and get married. We've all heard the meme about getting married for tax reasons. Romance is even used as a measure of happiness. I'm in therapy, and my therapist will sometimes have to use certain charts and templates with me. A good chunk of them always involve discussing romantic life. I'm blessed that she is perfectly accepting of me being aroace, and we've even discussed how harmful it is that there's so much pressure. I've heard of other people in the community who had their asexuality/aromanticism treated like a problem in therapy.

Or, in the medical industry: I was having severe abdominal pains and went to the ER. The nurses were absolutely convinced it was an STD, despite me swearing I'm not sexually active. They only focused on the idea of an STD. It later ended up being an intestinal issue. They pressured me into doing a pelvic exam, then used the wrong size instrument so I was screaming in pain the whole time. All because they couldn't believe there was a patient who did NOT have sex. Who was NOT in a relationship. The expectation was that teenager = sex.

We are continuously taught this idea that everyone has sex and falls in love. All of our systems are built around it. Our whole society expects it. If you are not in any relationship, you are stereotyped as lonely and/or crazy. If you are in a purely sexual relationship, you are stereotyped as being vain and sex-crazed. If you are in a purely romantic relationship, you are stereotyped as leading your partner on and incompatible with others.

I'm fortunate enough to have grown up surrounded by people who loved and supported me for my identity. I love myself for my identity. But even I have still faced discrimination and harm as a result of it. I still get anxious when a doctor touches me. I still feel left behind when I see my friends getting into relationships. But I don't want to change myself.

I want to change the world around me. We deserve better.

#asexual #asexuals are valid #asexuality #aspec mafia #aspec #aromantic #aromantism #aroace #aromantics are valid #aroaces are valid

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH

I’m you local aroace genderqueer Autism Spectrum Resident, and would like to say we aces and/or aros are perfectly valid and belong in the Lgbtq+ community! If anyone disagrees, kindly leave 🥰

And if you like Ghost and crocheting/digital art, stick around!