#avoidant problems

[that-cluster-b-bitch]

I overshare, but everything I'm oversharing about is a lie

[entropyfindsall]

Does anyone have any social anxiety hacks for responding to unnecessary emails? I force myself to respond to one's that have to do with me and actually require a response, but lately, my supervisor has been taking it personally if I don't immediately respond to everything he sends.

This is now making me doubly anxious and idk what to do

[sorasorakodoku]

Maybe I'm terrible at conversating or something. But being someone who is usually socially averse. It makes me feel weird to respond to those who push conversation by prompting you to ask "Why" "Who" "What" in response is low key frustrating. Because it feels like I'm prying or fishing for info that you wasn't already inclined to be disclosed.

[infpisme]

[imma-miu]

Anyone else constantly terrified they might be a toxic person to other people, hence not knowing if it’s ok for you to get close to others due to all the insecurities and negativity in your own head since you’re afraid you might drain other people’s energy with those? 

[disorganised-ocd]

not to sound ungrateful at xmas time but the thought of having to be around people for three days straight is making me feel sick rn

[faithhopeloveandtherapy]

When we were in the middle of our talk about ‘endings’ in therapy yesterday, we got to talking about how therapy was when we were face to face, for the year before T moved away.

T said “That first year, therapy was very challenging for both of us - uh, for you, I mean. It was so hard, wasn’t it? Every week, I wasn’t sure if you were even going to turn up.”

Before she has commented that I always looked like I was having a hard time just staying in the room with her.

That’s the horrid thing about avoidant attachment. I wanted the relationship but I was simultaneously terrified of letting her get close to me. Parts of me were screaming out for someone to look after me, but bigger parts were telling me to keep safe and stay away.

[twentystateofmind]

My favorite part about avpd is when you finally feel safe/comfortable enough to open up to someone and tell them about your avpd just to have them to go on about how you could’ve talked to them about it sooner... like avpd doesn’t make it nearly imposssible to actually do that ??