Not strictly abortion-related. Recently I needed to go back onto contraception after a long period of not using any. I don't feel comfortable with the idea of chemicals messing with my hormones so said I'll be using condoms as I always have. Which is fine. Except the nurse didn't like that answer & pressured me into getting the injection which caused me to bleed for 4 months. Although I'm thankful for the free contraception & shouldn't complain, do you think she should have respected my choice?
She should’ve respected your choice. It is a medication that you put into your body, synthetic hormones that we can react to in different ways. I’ve chosen the same as you, I don’t want hormonal birth control because of my experiences with it, and feel like people don’t accept that.
I definitely think that you should complain because she pressured you into something that wasn’t good for you. I know how hard it can be to turn something down that is pushed at you as the “best choice”. I know that when I was on my implanon nxt I looked up all possible side effects I could have with it, and went to the midwife and told her all of them, because I knew that they’d act as if I didn’t know my own good otherwise, and I had the list memorized (from the official medication site in Sweden), but the midwife just went “those are not side effects caused by this”… yeah it is, 1 in 1000 get it.
The unfortunate thing is that birth control is seen as such an obvious thing today that in order to make people respect your choice is to be very, very, very educated about it. This means that you have to know your options, what is available to you, the side effects that are associated with it, the risks, and so on. It will come across as you are anti-BC because you have to cite so many negative things, but if that’s the only way to protect your body against what you don’t want in it and at the same time being looked upon as someone capable of making your own chocies… that’s what you’ve got to do.
Which reminds me… I have to look up the NuvaRing. My midwife wants to put me on it, despite me saying I don’t want any.
The best suggestion I have for all of this is that if you’re weary, don’t take any long-term birth control like depo provera, implanon, and the IUD, because it’s so so so much easier to stop when you have a pill, a ring, a plaster and so on. Depo is probably the worst when you’re not sure about it. Once you get the shot there is no going back.
Also, I’d suggest looking up other barrier methods that can be used along with condoms, if you want to. Like the cervical cap, and the diaphragm. I know I’m looking at those two as alternatives, because I’m not a fan of condoms at all… (in comitted relationships).