i’ve already said some of this in reblogs of other posts but i think i’ve finally figured out what i’m trying to say, so here it is:
why both transmascs and binary trans men can be lesbians
(from a transmasc trans man who does not identify as a lesbian but who, clearly, supports transmascs/binary trans men identifying as lesbians)
in a video i watched recently, being a lesbian was redefined from "a non man loving a non men" to "someone who isn't a cis man loving people who arent cis men" and i agree with this + want to add on
in my opinion, anyone who experiences queer attraction to women is a lesbian, and the only people who can't experience queer attraction to women are cis men (regardless of their sexuality).
when discussing binary trans men, think about it this way: every binary trans man has, at some point (unless they began socially transitioning when they were like 2, which is quite rare), been socialized as a woman/been viewed as a woman/been treated as a woman/identified as a woman/etc. usually multiple of those. sometimes binary trans men have identified as women and/or been viewed & socialized as women for the majority of their lives. before transitioning, any attraction to women is very obviously queer. after transitioning this queerness might still be a part of a binary trans man's attraction to women, it's just less obvious.
take me, for example. i'm not a lesbian, but i do experience attraction to women and it is queer. this queerness is not AT ALL in a "im not fully a man (im transmasc) so it's not opposite gender attraction" way, it's more in a "i have spent the majority of my life so far identifying as a woman and i have been attracted to women this entire time, even before i transitioned, when it was very obviously queer of me to like women, and so i have only ever known queer attraction to women" way. i don't really know how to explain it, exactly, i just know when i think about my attraction to women/experience attraction to women that there's something queer about it. and, sure, some of that has to do with the fact that my gender is very queer and for me sexuality and gender are very linked, but it's different than that too. it's just a feeling.
anyway, the point is that trans men can be lesbians bc they can experience queer attraction to women. some trans men who are exclusively attracted to women will still identify as straight. it's a matter of personal preference and what label each individual thinks fits their sexuality best. it's not up to other people to tell them who they are.
if any of this is confusing, i'm happy to answer questions!
